ending a relationship , starting another one...

>>18461314
How do You know You could live with the other Girl?

>>18461314
>Realise you act like a children that someone takes his toy away
>Remember that you actually haven't played with that toy in hours .
Solved?

>>18461314
I was forced out of a relationship with a girl I was absolutely crazy about, planned on spending the rest of my life with, and she legitimately made me happier than I have ever been in my life. But she left me for another guy out of the blue, and I was forced to figure out how to move on with my life. It took me about a year before I really truly had 100% moved on, but I did, and I am so fucking glad she left me. I see now for the first time all the bullshit that I dealt with being with her, all the ways in which we were wrong for each other, all the incompatibilities we had, and I know we would have just kept being more and more miserable had we stayed together. Our relationship was wonderful until the very end though, it's not like it was all shit, but once it goes downhill there's not really any way to go back, you just have to move forward.
Now I don't give a shit who she fucks, I can look back on our happy memories and instead of feeling sad and shitty and missing them, I feel happy and thankful that they happened, but realize that that's the past and we're both different people now, they people in those memories no longer exist.
You need to move on, and you are very lucky that you have another girl to move on to. I have yet to find somebody else after my gf dumped me, I had to get through all the bullshit while also dealing with general loneliness and affection withdrawal.
You'll be fine, OP. In fact you'll be great. You just need to realize that you and your life are constantly changing, and trying to keep things the same for too long is like trying to make a river stand still.

>>18461351
I agree, same situation, still need to fully move on though.

OP Here

>>18461318
i've known her for years, we have everything in common, talk a lot, agree a lot, feel connected.

>>18461319
nice

>>18461351
thanks for sharing. it helps. i actually know those things, but once i'm about to leave her, seems like those things don't show up in my mind. a big thank you. best post i could have read.

>>18461319
btw i hope u realize its fun as an analogy, but you don't develop the same kind of feelings & attachment to an object, i'm talking about a 10 year relationship with a loved one. I know you're pointing out some immaturity in my behaviour, but i'm actually curious if you have dealt with something similar in your life...

grow some balls and stop wasting the time of 2 ppl plus yourselfs

the problem is you are a huge coward