Fell in love with my therapist

>>18459710
lol

>>18459720
thanks for the advice, definitely appreciate it

>>18459710
Dude, you aren't the first to fall in love with your therapist. Just keep in mind that she went to school for 4-10 yrs just to learn how to listen to and understand you. Most of the time the don't really even understand you though, she's probably thinking of the black cock she just had last night and if her husband would think the baby is his. Don't fall in love with someone you're paying. Bad news

My last shrink told me she wanted to fuck. Was married too. Never went through with it but it's probably a no go in your case because it's a one way ticket to losing her license.

>>18459733
I've had many therapists though and they've never understood me. She's the first one I've ever had that I can feel like she does and legit hears what I'm saying. She's incredible.
>>18459736
I don't really want to try to make it a thing either, I wouldn't want her to get in trouble. I just don't really know how to like..."manage" it though

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I wanted to fuck my high school teacher.

>>18459710
>Drink until I forget about it
Why would drinking make you forget about it?

>I want to fuck my therapist, and I might love her
This is extremely common.

>Should I get a new therapist?
I don't know. Therapists who are helpful and caring don't grow on trees. I'd stick with it.

I had a crush on a therapist, where I was falling in love with her. The worst thing to come out of that was some awkwardness.

I think most loving relationships would end easily and nicely if people weren't so destructive during the relationships and on the way out. I don't think that finishing with a therapist you love would not necessarily be difficult or bad, at least not if you were in good psychological condition.

A traditionally romantic breakup is usually devastating because a.) either one or both of you didn't know how to act, and b.) the extremely high expectations were never met. On the other hand, a therapist will most likely a.) be kind to you, and b.) meet many of your expectations, so there is not so much to be upset about.

I cried a bit, but it didn't last long. Mainly, I was happy to have known her.

>transference
Ignore anything by Freud and Jung. It's not science.

I'm gonna be honest I didn't realize this was a common thing

>>18459764
It's only common among people seeking therapy for personal psychological issues. Most people don't have therapists to fall in love with.

It's just naturally what would happen in that situation, if the therapist is the desired sex and of the right age.

Lel, if she is that good half of her customers might be enamored with her.

You can only hope she is an extremely hard worker and this is just a front for her prostitution business.

>>18459773
Yeah, I meant even within therapy

Well. At least I don't feel as ashamed now...

>>18459776
The feelings are often mutual, so to speak. Sometimes therapists get in trouble for banging clients.

>>18459779
>ashamed
It's just natural.

>>18459784
Should I...tell her about it?

>>18459824
You probably should mention that you know it's silly but you've got a crush on her because she's so good at making you feel comfortable and validated or whatever. It's something she's gonna have to take into account to do her job properly. I'd lay good odds that it's hardly the first time it's happened with a client of hers. Just be an adult about it.

Don't try and declare everlasting love or some shit and expect her to reciprocate. That's just dumb, embarrassing and will make it damn near impossible to continue the professional relationship

>>18459824
>should I tell her about it?
do you think any good would come of that?

>>18459879
don't listen to this guy. why should someone be telling you how to interact with your therapist over 4chan?

>>18459879
Yeah I don't really feel that or expect her to feel that way about me, it's just kind of something that's weighing on me heavily kinda

She's also kind of new at her job I think, she's in the process of getting her masters still. Which is really impressive to me that she's as good as she is, more than therapists I've had that have been doing it for literal decades.

>>18459895
>weighing on me heavily kinda
so what?

>which is really impressive to me that she's as good as she is, considering she doesn't even have her masters
If she had her PhD., you'd be commending her for being one of the elites who have PhD.'s.


At least complete your therapy before trying to get her to fuck you.

>>18459784
Surely the case for some, but I can almost guarantee you a *young beautiful* therapist has more admirers among her clients than she needs. And then probably more from her private time, maybe even from her studies amd school.

Good luck being the best option for her if she's not just seeing the business opportunity two of doing some prostitution.

>>18459824
You won't be able to get over it if you don't tell her anyhow, just do it.

If your guilt is not coming from liking her, but wanting to propose going on a date with her or something, then maybe there is some shred of value to feeling guilty. If you really respect her, you'll at least allow her to do her job without reproductive urges getting in the way.

>>18459907
I don't want her to fuck me.

>>18459935
you do though. touch yourself tonight when you're thinking about her. put her in place of someone from a porno, and touch yourself.

after you ejaculate several feet into the air, you won't be able to deny your feelings anymore

>>18459945
I mean yeah I like to think about fucking her, because in my head, it's just sex, and if sex was just that and there were no personal relationships or interactions involved, yeah great.

But it's not, I like seeing her as a therapist. I've told her really deeply personal embarrassing things about myself. I don't know if I could have sex with her even if I wanted to.

>>18459951
Of course you could have sex. Spouses and GF/BF usually know a lot of embarrassing stuff and they still fuck.

Your chances of getting there are just low cause you had to go and like a beautiful young one rather than a very mediocre looking one.

>>18459951
Just tell her as this anon said:>>18459879


Obviously tell her you don't want to try to pursue anything, but you have to acknowledge and share the feelings. And tell her you want to continue the professional relationship you have as doctor/client.

>>18459966
yeah if only he found a bitch with a lower price tag

>>18459970
no you don't need to have a conversation with your therapist about the fact that on top of how much you appreciate her as a person you want to bone her.

don't be an idiot and listen to these idiots. be smart.

>>18459710
You should tell her. If she is good at her job she will help you establish boundaries and work through your feelings in a healthy way. I've been there, Anon. It helped me relate to all women in a better way eventually. I learned not to be overwhelmed by obsessive love feelings.

>>18459894
now answer my question

and if you're going to make an advance on her, at least wait until the therapy is over. don't listen to these tards telling you to sabatoge your therapy that is working.

just because you are feeling a thing about someone doesn't mean you have to talk about it with them immediately. a child thinks this way.

>>18459980
Oh shit yeah that feels like me, when it comes to boundaries and overwhelming feelings of love...

She is good at her job too.

I think I'm gonna talk to her about it.

>>18460000
I hope she's good enough to handle your indirect outpouring of sexual energy without becoming too uncomfortable or fucking you before the therapy is concluded.

I should really stop pissing people off so that I don't have to sit alone on /adv/ with the dumbasses.

>>18460000
and maybe get slightly sloshed so that it's easier to express yourself

>>18460024
I mean I kind of would hope so too, she is my therapist after all, I feel like I should be able to tell her anything I need to.

>>18460031
ideally, yes. good luck.

Really not related at all but I got something for you to think about: I have a coworker who is not a gorgeous but isn't bad looking. She's nice and all and a decent worker and person but at first glance she is not someone I'd see myself with. Honestly I still couldn't see myself with her. Anyway, after working with her for a couple years and getting to know her I noticed that I actually am attracted to her. She's probably 10 years older than me. But with all things considered; personally, common interest, work ethic, extremely easy to talk to. I find her more attractive even though she is by no means anything I am looking for. Point being at first meet I thought nothing about her. After knowing her I consider her attractive. But really I don't know her, I know the "at work" her. Kinda like your shrink if you think about it. You know her on a professional level but not social. After "working" with her you find her attractive.

No good will come with telling her your feelings. Realize this will never work out romantically. If you think she is a good shrink than keep going. If you want more than see a different one.

>>18460035
Yeah I mean I've thought about that a lot, I think that's part of it. I mean I don't really truly know her, that's how therapy is supposed to work, it's not about her.

But it's still there

>>18460110
>it's there
be mature and at least wait for an opportune time to mention you want to have her babies, instead of in the middle of your therapy progress with her

I absolutely do not understand why you can't just wait. One day your therapy with her will be over, and you let her know you want to have her babies then. Isn't that the wisest thing? You get your response from her, and you don't lose many benefits of the therapy.

>>18459745
If this is the only one you've found that understands you you best not screw this up. Keep your feelings to yourself and don't say you're developing feelings because she will bounce you to someone else.
You are in a vulnerable position and she is filling whatever hole opened up in your life. Odds are you don't even love her, you just love the security she brings. Keep it to yourself and try to meet other people.

>>18460115
>>18460136
I mean I kinda feel like this is a thing that is sort of relevant to the therapy

>>18460151
That's your gamble to make. Depending on how strongly you express it and how seriously she takes it she'll either say something along the lines of "That's normal but it isn't real" or she'll refer you to another therapist and lord knows how well you will get on with them. If it's such an overpowering infatuation that it gets in the way of your own progress you're probably best of telling her even if it means you get another one.

>>18460151
It's actually not. The therapy is about you and what you are receiving from her in regards to helping yourself, including compassion etc.

The fact you appreciate her as a person is maybe relevant. The fact you appreciate her as a vessel for spreading your genes is actually just interferent.

You didn't meet on OKCupid. The fact you want to eat her pussy like it's sweet and sour sauce then push your whole cock into her mouth has nothing to do with the therapeutic process.

>>18460264
uh huh.

>>18459987
Except in this case it's someone whose job it is to listen to how hes' feeling...

I was saying he should tell her because it should be on the table as it's pertinent information to his therapy's effectiveness, not to make a move on her.

>>18459980
Yeah this. He needs to say something so it's not something being bottled up, so the therapist can account for this in the process of providing therapy to him.

>>18460570
do you have anything more compelling than "she ought to know your feelings"? That isn't even a complete argument. You're just coaxing OP into doing something unwise, that he already wants to do.

Can you even give one reason why he shouldn't wait until the counseling is completely over to express his reproductive feelings? Something other than, "Oh, sometimes it huwts to keep feelings in"?

>>18460619
my guy, you are the one that brought "reproductive feelings" into this conversation.

>>18460619
I dunno what the guy is in therapy *for*, but I know enough about the process to know that deliberately holding things back from the therapist is very counterproductive.

By bottling it in, he'll be more guarded and careful with the information he gives the therapist. That will make it harder for the therapist to actually help whatever she's there to help with.

The whole point of a useful therapist-patient arrangement is the patient needs to be open and honest. This whole thing is going to fuck that up royally. If he doesn't want to tell her then he should probably find a new therapist as it'll break the working relationship going forward.

>>18460630
dumbass what to do you think traditional romantic love between a man and a woman is? completely separate from reproductive urges?

did anyone even tell this mofo how to think?

>>18460635
stop talking in over-generalizations.

1. there's absolutely nothing wrong with "bottling up" the fact that you want to fuck a female while talking to them.

2. I think that therapy can proceed productively without patients disclosing whether or not they want to fuck the therapist.

>Not telling the therapist he wants to fuck her will break the relationship.
How often does your dick slide up into your head and interfere with your thought process? Or did you watch too many romantic movies? Either way, give me that crystal ball of yours. You're not using it properly.

>>18460645
> 1. there's absolutely nothing wrong with "bottling up" the fact that you want to fuck a female while talking to them.

There can be. I'm saying this is one situation where that's the case.

> 2. I think that therapy can proceed productively without patients disclosing whether or not they want to fuck the therapist.
OP wasn't talking about fucking, they were talking about "love", or as clarified a kind of extreme crush. That's incredibly common in therapy arrangements because of the openness and vulnerability involved. And yes, divulging that helps both the patient and the therapist to proceed better than not divulging it.

> How often does your dick...
seriously what's anyone's dick got to do with this? What's romantic movies got to do with this? It's a crush resulting from the therapeutic process itself. Working through it and getting it out of the way will help everyone.

>>18460645
You are fixated on dicks and stuff dude.

I think it's pretty relevant especially when I'm in therapy for things relating to the ability to feel love or attachment or the lack of that ability, and I feel those things for her.

I'm gonna tell her.

>>18459710
>being emotional vulnerable with women.

forget it because her pussy is dry as a desert ever time she sees you. women expect you to be strong not weak for them emotionally.