Question for Men About Oral

Which way?

>>18456038

this. do you mean woman sucking the dick or man eating the puss

>>18456038
>>18456039
Getting.

I mean, you can answer giving too, but I meant getting.

>>18456053

ultimately no matter what our survey says the answer is almost always 'depends'.

some people get emotional. for some its purely physical. for some it can be both depending on the context.

some people feel dominant. some feel submissive. some can feel both depending on what the woman does.

does see it as degrading, some don't some see it as degrading when they feel like being kinky.

>how often do you expect it

expect is a poor choice here. it really depends on the realtionship. men dont go into a relationship saying 'i expect bi weekly blowjobs or were breaking up'. really its juat a matter of how often shes willing. some guys never get sucked off and only have vaginal intercourse.

>how much is too often

again depends, i dont like oral much so if shes only into that its awful. oral is generally just used as a sort of foreplay these days.

>>18456053
There is literally no greater feeling than having a chick suck your dick. It's the ultimate submission. It's not the same with guys going down on girls, because we're not sucking cocks.

yea

>>18456036
I don't see it as degrading unless I'm fucking her face. If it's just a normal blowjob then it's just her trying to make me feel good the way that I do when I eat her out.

>>18456036

I just like the feeling. I don't wanna finish though, I wanna finish in the pussy. Some people might like the domination aspect.

It's like the difference between a woman getting eaten out, or literally sitting on a face. I think one of them is about sexual domination.

>>18456036

Forget about the degrading part, it's a gift, your partner sacrifices their pleasure for the sake of yours so be grateful (and so should your partner if that's what you're asking).

Just be loving with it, there's no real secret. Don't go crazy fast, don't spit all over it like a porno, don't deep throat to the point of coughing - all of these things can be asked for but it's a good idea to wait for the request.

Treat the penis like you would ask your partner to treat your clitoris, just as a base, as you get more comfortable and open up more dialogue he will have no issue giving you exact instructions and you should do the same.

Forget the idea of dominance, submission, control or shame or anything like that, forget it all. Oral sex is just an intimate favour.

Getting:
1&2: it depends on the mood and situation. Sometimes it was very heartwarming and passionate to see how eager the girl was to please me. Sometimes it was more wild on her side and then it was more of a dominant thing. Recently got sucked off by a dominant woman though, the way she handled me definitely shown me that i was the one on the bottom.

3: it's not humiliating unless gagging is happening,.

4: every third time or so? I don't know. I really like giving oral, and sometimes just oral for oral would do for me instead of a regular intercourse. My ex didn't like it that much, so I never had the chance to get enough or too much

Giving:
1: it's very emotional for me. Without bragging I think I'm decent at it, women are definitely pleased, and the whole ordeal of meticulously bringing a woman to a climax with just my tongue is something special for me. Because of how it's apparently not common for men to like it I feel like I'm treating my partner extra special and show how I love them and want their pleasure in a special way.

2. it's neutral, then the girl starts twitching, then I cling to her and don't let go and suddenly there's this slight vibe of me dominating her and not letting her catch a breather between moans. Even if I'm partially suffocating myself (the only downside of fatter girls, they block your nose with their bellies) it's still more dominant in my head.

3. No humiliation there, though I had few times when my ex was embarrassed about how she moaned and it was beyond cute

4.I could give it as foreplay every time, given that she does not get bored of it. The moment she stops reacting to it and it becomes just another thing to do - the magic is gone. I had a time where the girl was assuring me she felt good but she didn't react in any physical way. Which was a bit of a turnoff. Maybe she just didn't want to be rude, maybe she really was just silent in her pleasure - either way I wasn't as satisfied as usual.

>>18456036
I never understood oral I don't find it "appealing" I never did it I find it disgusting and don't plan on doing it.

>>18456036
>Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
Both, but most of the time it's the latter. First one due to the next question

>Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Obviously dominant lol.

>Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
Although I see myself as the dominant one when it happens, I wouldn't go as far to call it degrading or humiliating.

>How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
A too much doesn't exist for that. No matter what I'm doing or busy with, she could pull down my pants and start sucking any time lol. I would want it to happen at least almost as much as having full sex.

>>18456038
As far as me giving oral goes

>Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
Fully emotional here. If there is a girl I like and find cute, I love doing it just to make her feel good. If she has a good looking pussy then there is a lot of physical attraction as well. I would never do it on a one night stand though.

>Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Hard to answer. You would think the roles are reversed so this time I would have to be the submissive partner, but it doesn't feel that way to me. I think I'm always in charge, but I can't call it dominant either.

>Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
None of that, no.

>How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
Same answer as before. Almost as often as full blown sex or a bit less.

>>18456036
For me it is mostly psychological (I'm not sure I would use the word "emotional" but maybe). The physical sensation is almost never as good as vagina. But when I masturbate / fantasize, it is almost always about receiving oral because I just like the idea.

I see myself as dominant and I like facefucking and making her gag. Sometimes humiliating / degrading but not necessarily.

>>18456036
>Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
What do you mean by "emotional aspects"?
>Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Depends on the situation. Normally, on a normal blowjob, I don't see it as a Dom or sub thing. It's just a blowjob.
>Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
Not at all.
>How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
Some times per week would be nice. I don't know how much is too much. I'd like to date a succubus who sucks my dick 24/7.

As with most sex acts, my main thoughts are "try not to cum too quickly, what should I do with my hands, remember to make eye contact, how long is too long...when should I make her stop before she gets fed up?" I'm a very anxious man and perhaps care too much about the other person's pleasure which detracts from both of our experiences.

I actually had sex a few days agi and tried a really rough bj for the first time (fucking her mouth, pulling on her hair really hard, holding her head down). I didn't get much out of it.

>>18456036
Yes, there are emotional aspects.

It depends on ths situation.

No more than me giving oral to them. So no.

That's up for each couple to decide for themselves.

>>18456036
I'm not the common. and fairly sure it's the opposite for most guys.

>Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
I get neither intimate feelings or much pleasure, and generally just makes me feel uncomfortable.

>Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Both

>Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
If I'm trying to dom them it can certainly be turned into a degrading and humiliating experience, but otherwise no.

>How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
Honestly even though I don't really enjoy it that much for some reason I feel like they should want to do it for a few reasons. I keep my dick clean.

>>18456036
doesn't feel dominant, but for some reason I like the girl to be kneeling before me during the act.

it's just aas emotional as all the sex is. I feel grateful and cared for and it tightens the bonds between us.
I want it basically all the time. So during every intercourse. But it's not that I can't live without it for some time either. But if the girl would be reluctant to do it, I would feel disappointed, especially since I eat pussy a lot and nobody needs to ask me to do it for them

>>18456036
Sex doesn't have to lead to some intense emotional connection, but it often does. People say there are zero emotional aspecrs to sex are kidding themselves for some reason.

>it's oral sex, not sex
contradiction

>>18456658
some people have it stronger, some have it weaker
I wouldn't be so sure of what you're saying

>>18456665
Im conpletely sure that "I feel no emotions during sex" is a thing people say to justify themselves because they are pretenders rather than true liberals or free thinkers/spirits

I agree with your post though. Sometimes people only feel the connection a bit, and other times they feel it a lot. It varies between different people and situations.

Still you can't even deny the emotional aspect of something like eating or choosing clothes. To deny the emotional aspect of sex is uniformed and absurd. The act of sex is a phisiological and emotional experience.

Ive only heard of (both partners and male friends) using it to justify fuck-and-chucks without any respect for the other's emotions. On the other hand I know extremely promiscuous people who acknowledge the emotional aspect of sex. Not everyone deludes themselves in this way. Acknowledging your own emotions and the emotions of others can be a burden.

But there is no obvious disconnect between body and mind and physiology. No experience is "more physical" than another. A truer way of expressing this would be, "I surpressed/ignored our emotions because I didn't want to indulge or carry them," which is an option in a free world.

>>18456697
Tl;dr

Having sex is an emotional impulse to satisfy a need. It's not like a robot man dumping his oil.

>>18456697
the thing is, I believe that when people claim ther to be no emotions in sex, they mean love and affection.
While I bet that nobody will ever deny that desire is still present. And it's an emotion as well

all in all, I wouldn't call all those people deluded. Just usng different definitions (that's not to say, that *nobody* is deluded. t happens of course)

>>18456708
Right I don't think it's love at first orgasm. I just think some emotions are always involved.

>>18456036
> Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
Surely also some emotional aspects. She's putting in an effort to be sexy? That's a turn-on.

> Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Depends on situation.

> Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
No. Neither do I see bondage or such as such.

> How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
I don't think I have explicit have quotas. I will want sex more or less often, but if she's not up to it, I don't really mind masturbating.

Too much can happen You're spent at some point. If she's not done yet one fun to watch solution is to just tell her to suck a dildo / vibrator instead while you pour lube on it and reward her a bit. Or other slightly mischievous "solutions".

>>18456036
I love when i feel she really wants to suck my dick. Like if she needed it to survive or something

>>18456111
>Recently got sucked off by a dominant woman though, the way she handled me definitely shown me that i was the one on the bottom.
How'd she do that?

>>18456036
It depends on the woman attitude, really.
Had an ex girlfriend that was submissive, when she did it it seems to me that she didn't liked it and was doing it to please me.
When my wife does it seems to me she does out of hornyness, and sometimes she keep sucking after I cum, just to show me isn't over with it until she had enough.


I guess it's the same the other way around, it's more about how the person does it and not the act itself.

>>18457413
It was all tease. She knew exactly when to stop to drive me crazy. She'd also sometimes flick my balls with her finger or slightly bite inner side of my thighs. Just the right amount of pain to stop me from climaxing and make me beg, both verbally and mentally. Even without the dominant aspect this was one of the best if not the best bj of my life.

Poopoo peepee

I just like my dick sucked, why does everyone thinks there's some deep meaning to the things we do in bed? Unless I'm facefucking her I don't see how it would feel dominating for me, specially when someone has her teeth on my dick.

>>18456053
It can be everything?

It feels good physically
It can be dominant to have your sexual organ in another human's mouth, pleasing you
It can be submissive, they are pretty much in control and can bite your shit off at any moment. It's your most vulnerable area
Because of vulnerability, it can feel "passionate" (wow this girl puts my sick in her mouth, she cares)
It can be degrading to the woman (wow this girl puts my sick in her mouth she's a slut )

All depends on who's receiving.

>Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
I'm super affectionate and it makes me happy to do it.
>Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Usually more submissive. Especially giving blowjobs. With girls they're kind of helpless and just squirm unable to think (if you do it right), which is great. I prefer going down on girls more than guys.
>Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
If they cum on your face it's pretty degrading but that's fine.
>How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
Never enough.

>>18456036
you don't think anything, when someones blowing you you become temporarily retarded.

No, honestly it really depends on the person your with, if you're into them its a very intimate and pleasurable experience that can really enhance a sex and the post coital bliss.

as for eating pussy, if you enjoy giving it, then its amazing. Its a huge turn for us and we really like doing it for you.