I have this one girl I am absolutely in love with. She is not

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I have this one girl I am absolutely in love with. She is not yet available, what should I do?

We are both the same age (27) and best friends since several years. Until I told her about my feelings she was in a long-term relationship (eight years) she was keeping up even though they had large problems. She feels the same about me.

Her breakup is not yet fully done, but it is final. She needs time afterwards until she is fully over it and I want to give her enough space for that. But we cannot be "more than friends" until then and it will take more months. I've waited for about three months now. They live together (but he sleeps on the couch) and almost no one knows about the breakup yet, they even still go out in the public together if they have to. The problem is that the ex has serious psychological problems and she wants to help him.

We had lots of date-like meetings in the last months after I told her. Nothing "more" ever happened, but she occasionally told me she "wasn't that happy for a long time as she is with me". Last night I kissed her (very briefly, but twice) and we had an intense hug that would have lead to sex if she didn't stop after her first moan and told me that she cannot do this in her situation.

She will not give in to my advances. She really is not mad about that last one on the other hand. Told me she only fantasizes about me for several months and didn't even have sex for a long time.

I am not a 100% sure that it actually ends in a relationship with her, because she won't give any promises (she would feel too pressured then) and even if it would take at the very least three to four more months, maybe even half a year or more.

The thing is that I feel very lonely and want someone in a relationship very badly. I am finally ready to have my first relationship (had long therapy for that) and I feel that I should not waste that time if this didn't work out. But if this works out it feels like she could be the love of my life.