BPD or just tendencies that can be worked through?

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I have often been told that I posses great empathetic abilities, I am good at caring for others. It's true that I'm sensitive and that I will worry about those I love, that I am considerate enough to get them thoughtful gifts, support them and offer good advice.

However, I have moments in which I can be cold, cruel and manipulative, for no real reason.

Examples;

I have a pet that I take adequate care of. There have been 4 or 5 instances in which I like to scare it, by throwing things at it, chasing it, threatening it, pushing it about. Nothing that would cause long-term damage but enough to make me feel in control.

I sometimes manipulate people just to see how it feels. Not for any kind of gain, in fact when people do things for me I am often overcome with gratitude, even guilt. But sometimes I like to emotionally manipulate, especially people who have romantic feelings for me, I like to play games.

When I was young I think I psychologically abused some of my partners, I would push them to the very edge just to see that I could, after making them dependent on me. One person I had a LDR with called me sociopathic.

I've endured trauma, however I have no problem inventing stories or exaggerating things that happened. I do not do this with people I consider close friends or family, I like to think this is because I don't want to betray them as opposed to fear of being caught out as a liar.

I had very little respect for my parents growing up and their attitude to me was similar. In fact I even stole things from their room, including sex toys, which I now feel ashamed of because I was caught. There was never a conversation about it.

My parents often talk of how I was awful then and I'm lovely now.