I can orgasm but it's not very strong, basically any pleasure

The same thing happens to me. I don't know what else to try.

>>18455225
Good luck.

I wonder why our problem doesn't get spoken about much, it's always women who can't orgasm but never women who have crappy orgasms.

I don't think there is something you can do about it. Scientists say that the female orgasm has not evolutionary relevance. So it just developed in some way, leaving some women with a crippling inability to experience orgasms or at least good orgasms.

>>18455215
Everyone has different capacities for pleasure, and being depressed or stressed can play a huge role on the capacity to feel pleasure.

Women with smaller clits feel more than ones with bigger clits, because of proximity of sensor nerves.

Have you tried to edge for a prolonged time? Usually that helps to intensify an orgasm.

>>18455279
I don't have a small clit, it's not significantly big either

Yeah I've tried edging, only helps a little bit.

>>18455215
Dude, same. But I also haven't had sex, used a vibrator or dildo, or put a finger in, so maybe it'll be different then.

I'd always heard that "I'll just know" when I came, and for a long time, figured I never did until I learned the vagina spasms when women orgasm. And I was like, "Oh, that's what that is. Huh."

I could probably hold a phone conversation while masturbating/orgasming without anyone knowing. Not that I would want to test that, but that's how lackluster they are.

>>18455284
Good to know I'm not alone, gives me hope.

>>18455215
You need a man who will finger your pussy fast with one hand and use two fingers to do a wave motion on the inside bottom of your pussy at the same time while licking your clit. I do this every time to my wife and former girlfriends and it never fails to produce bed soaking orgasms.

>>18455215
Some women need the emotional attachment and excitement of a new partner So a bf may help (provided you train him properly).

You can also try anal, some women absolutely love it, gives them a more full feeling.
Also, some women like it when they are very full and press gently up against the cervix (i mean GENTLY)

Also, when women contract, I have noticed that they have stronger orgasms if they can really contract hard. So if you have a wide dildo in when you cum, you won't be able to contract hard, so either pull it out or get one that is thin at the bottom.

Mental state really seems to affect womens level of orgasims strongly too. Try not touching yourself for a week, then edge by playing with your clit. Don't cum, just keep edging for a long time. Then when you want to cum, go for it, g-spot, clit, anal, and deep penetration (remove those you don't like)

If all else fails, go buy some poppers, but be careful with them

>>18455215
> I want to have the kind of orgasms that women have where they get dizzy and it's fully body pleasure and they moan
Not everyone is equally sensitive. This may not be possible.

But for starters, make sure you're normal weight, libido suffers otherwise.

And well, while it may easily be that you already tried this, try prolonged foreplay and maybe a slight bit of pain for further epinephrine release.

>>18455215
Pain maybe you need pain to enhance your orgasam

>>18455215
Not going by personal experience here, but I've read that being relaxed can really enhance the experience. Extended massage sessions before where every knot and stiff muscle is worked out can apparently work wonders in some cases.

>>18455215
Don't play with yourself for 2 weeks. Watch some porn to get you going with some clit rubbing, insert dildo so you feel "full" then go for the grand finale.

>>18455566
>and former girlfriends

Which implies you're still seeing them. Is your wife OK with this?

>>18456619
Not OP and I have the same problem. I've even gone over a year without anything and still no less boring than before. Porn sucks, too.

>>18455261
That's where you're wrong, /f/am
I'm a dude, but whenever i finish, it only feels like a quarter of the pleasure that i expected leading up to it. Kinda upsetting, but i have to feel for you on that sorta thing

>>18456645
Good lord. Do you even find things sexy? Do you have any libido or sex drive at all?

>>18456645
You too make sure you're normal weight or not otherwise sick. It's one common reason why your libido might be low.

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>>18456674
>Do you even find things sexy?
Not really, no. I mean, I guess there are some things and people and I think, "oh, I guess that could be nice," but it's kind of like, I don't know, window-shopping? You like whatever it is that you see, but you're not so invested in it that you'd actually want to buy it. And then you forget about it once you leave because it was that inconsequential to you. It's like that.

>Do you have any libido or sex drive at all?
No lmao. I've tried fantasizing about and looking at porn of men and women both to pretty much no effect. Different common fetishes, including anthro porn. Nothing.

I try masturbating every so often, thinking "oh, maybe this time will be different", but it never is. Still, I can't help but think I'm missing out and will inevitably try it a few months later. I even time it to be while I'm ovulating and have several hours alone to pamper myself and try to edge in hopes that will do something. It's mildly enjoyable, but the whole time, I'm thinking I'd rather be listening to music or playing fetch with my dog or something.

>>18456680
When I was 15, I didn't eat anything for a month and only barely drank water due to anxiety (and the months prior, I was eating and drinking less and less, would go many days between meals, etc.), and then spent some time on Zoloft and then Prozac after that. I've been off it for a while, but I think I have a chronic, low-grade depression. My dad has it. Depression is known to put a damper on libido.

I have a BMI of 19.5 or so. A lot more of that is fat and less is muscle than in the average woman of that BMI, even skinnyfats, because I haven't gotten my body composition adjusted after I cannibalized my muscle and nearly everything I put on was fat while recovering.

So any of that could have fucked me up.

But even before then, in middle school, I thought I might have been asexual.

I could talk to a doctor, but it's expensive and I don't think it's that big of a deal.

>>18456738
So going further, how do relationships pan out for you then? With little to no drive at all, I'd be more nervous that relationships might be unstable.

There's a thing called performance anxiety that is talked a lot about men losing boners, but not as much about women not orgasming or not hard enough.

I know I'll sound like I'm bragging, but my current gf had never cum by being masturbatee by someone else until we started at 21yo, and never had multiple orgasms. And I wasn't even experienced back than, having just one previous partner who was a lazy frigid landwhale unwilling to tey anything. It took us nearly two months to even make her has an orgasm, but after that the pandora's box was open and holy shit...

We recently had sex with another girl who could cum more than once, but tought everyone needed a break every time a single one happened. I made her cum 3x in a row non stop. She never did that, and she was 28 with multiple previous partners.

And what do I do differently? Absolutely nothing. Sorry to disappoint you girls. I don't have a secret technique or move that I learned from tantric sex instructors or anything. If you never tried that, just a really wet finger rubbing directly on the clit and a dildo on the gspot, but preferably two fingers in, and that's all, which is bean flicking 101 imo

What I did make differently I guess is just trick them in believing they could do that. Maybe you can't convince yourself on your own that you can, idk, but just reassuring them that they could do it and not rushing was enough to bypass any mental lock they had on orgasms. That's whant you need to work on somehow imo, because unless you have hormonal imbalance it sure is possible to have a mind blowing big O

are you on birth control? they can make your orgasm shit or even impossible to achieve

>>18456801
I had middle school "boyfriends" and have kissed a few dudes and one chick, but I've never initiated anything after that and politely have turned everyone down since. I'm not interested, even in the romance, and even if I was, the sex thing alone means I shouldn't be dating 99% of the population or more.

I don't want to waste anyone's time either. I'm a virgin and I still really, really do not want my hypothetical first time to be with someone I don't care about or will never see again, but at the same time, that requires a relatively large investment from my partner, and they shouldn't have to jump through all those hoops of getting to know me for something I probably won't enjoy and they'll just feel bad about.

To an extent, I want to try it because I like experiencing new things. They make me grow as a person. But, you know, the other stuff. I don't think it would be worth it.

>>18456738
Try getting on an NRI

do you smoke weed? if you do you should stop. it fucks with your hormones. no I'm not joking.

>>18457238
explain

>>18457250
weed messes with your reproductive system, in women it can permanently mess things up, in dudes it can fuck your hormones and sperm count.

there's not many studies because the doctors that wanted to do them would end them before they completed due to "concerns about the permanent affects to the women involved in the study". like everyone wants to spout this nonsense about weed being harmless but as it's been legalized and people have done more and more studies it's been found to be really fucked up as far as what it can do to your body and the permanent effects it can have.

http://www.health.gov.au/internet/main/publishing.nsf/content/health-pubs-drug-cannab2-ch65.htm

this mainly concerns male reproductive problems related to weed, but from what I've seen the only reason there's less data for women is literally because it causes worse, more permanent effects.

t. former weed smoker, wish I never had.

>>18457271
been looking for a reason to stop. ty

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Here's what works for me OP

>Lay on your back,
>have your man penetrate you all the way in and all the way out at a 45 degree angle, feels best if he has a large manhood
>rub your clit with one hand
> rube your nipple with the other

>>18457301
>feels best if he has a large manhood
I KNEW it. Time to kill myself because of my small dick.

>>18457314
:(
It's ok even if you are smaller

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>>18457369
we both know it's not true