Why Do I Always Feel Compelled to Defer To Others ?

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Why Do I Always Feel Compelled to Defer To Others ? 2017-06-24 06:51:44 Post No. 18451187
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Why Do I Always Feel Compelled to Defer To Others ? Anonymous 2017-06-24 06:51:44 Post No. 18451187 [Report]

When they want something I can't say no. When my friends drag me around to print stuff for them (I do it for free even though it costs me money) I walk up and down the hall 10 times in a row but can never say no.

Is it because I was mercilessly beaten as a child and forced to walk on egg shells to prevent setting my drunken father off ?

This always ends terrible. It's gotten to the point where I can't do my own stuff because they keep using me. I've noticed that people don't think twice about exploiting this flaw in me. It hurts me too. I feel terrible but whenever they instruct I feel compelled to agree.

Why am I so fucking stupid ???

PLEASE HELP ME !!!

Anonymous 2017-06-24 08:37:16 Post No.18451370
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Anonymous 2017-06-24 08:37:16 Post No.18451370 [Report]

>>18451187
>Read thread topic only
>Recall my day at work
>walking with John towards work, Andy asks "hey anon how's your day?"
>Anon replies:"I'm not sure about that one Andy, thats more of a John question"

I feel you brother.

Anonymous 2017-06-24 01:07:13 Post No.18451814
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Anonymous 2017-06-24 01:07:13 Post No.18451814 [Report]

Practice saying no to them OP. You can say it like: sorry, I'm actually busy right now. Sorry, I'm actually broke right now. Don't lie, just explain yourself. Maybe make arrangements that are more convenient for you. Ie. They need to come to you when they want stuff printed, not makes you walk all over the place. Or they can chip in for the cost of ink and paper. But if they start being mad/mean about it maybe they're not your friend and with anyone who acts that way you can stop explaining yourself and just say no.

It's still okay to say yes to things. But just practice it, saying no when you want to. Even indirectly. It'll help you learn how. And, if they're you're friends, they'll understand if you give them the reason: you're too busy.

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