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Am I just cursed with a low social intelligence? Is there no way to improve it at all?
I'm a decently smart guy who when it comes to social situation, has a hard time knowing what to do. When I am at work I'm normal, I have something to always fall back on if it gets awkward, going to do a job. But any get together or something, I feel like I am always out of place or just overthinking literally everything.
I have tried alcohol, only makes me annoying or comically over the top and something like xanax only makes me not talk.
I am 23, have been working since I was 17 and work has not helped me improve this. Is there no way to buff up social intelligence?
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>>18450921
Hi OP! I think I've always been awkward in social situations involving people that I don't know very well.
Two books that have helped me a bit:
1. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Get a copy printed before Carnegie died, because his book's been edited by committee ever since.
2. How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes.
I'm not trying to brush off your question by pointing you to just read books, but they've helped me tremendously over the years and I think it's worthwhile.
Also, you might want to check out Rejection Therapy.
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>>18451123
I will give these a try, thank you for the advice
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>>18451123
books are fine, but what really helps is becoming better at observing human behavior it practice.
do you have a friend circle to interact with at least weekly?
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>>18451230
I try and interact with them as much as I can but over the years, it doesn't seem like I have picked up anything
I'm very poor at doing that I think, picking up through observation
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