Female perspectives on open relationships

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>>18448228
>They get a boyfriend who buys them gifts and provides emotional support ( and occasionally sex) whilst getting to fuck plenty of hot guys.

>>18448228
I don't find it appealing at all. But I'm naive enough to believe in true love.

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somewhat looked down upon by society, but this is changing these days.

the one thing that matters most to girls is what everyone else thinks of them

Are you getting cucked mate?

>>18448238
>>18448241

The male in an open relationship is not really a cuck, but unless he's very attractive he's probably getting far less sex than his spouse.

I'm just wondering if most women, deep down, desire open relationships.

>>18448228
(You)

>>18448243
>The male in an open relationship is not really a cuck
That's enough mobgan for today.

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>>18448241
>The male in an open relationship is not really a cuck

My last gf tried to open our relationship with my best friend. He now has 10 stitches in his head and the girl is not allowed back into my life.

>>18448248
ayyylmao

That's fine for the couple, good for them. That being said, I would never relationship a chick with a previous open relationship.

>>18448228
I'd never have an open relationship.
I don't enjoy having sex with random dudes. I don't even get horny looking at porn, I need my boyfriend to be involved to get horny. When I masturbate, I look at his videos.
I also love being faithful to one man and dedicating myself to him. I love making my man happy. I find it deeply rewarding.

Sharing your gf is safest route to not have anyone respect you.

Disgusting.

1. It's like "sharing" your gf. You lose the possessiveness of your relationship - You're not hers, and she's not yours anymore. You're not exclusive anymore. It's like "if you love something, let it go" NO. DONT BE A FUCKING RETARD.

2. It's actually disgusting. Would you want to fuck a girl with a looooooong sexual history? Especially if it's still being written despite being in a relationship with her?

3. Indication of issues. She goes around, fucks a lot, getting emotional support from strangers etc etc. Either you're not enough, or she doesn't take you seriously enough. You turn it into a game this way.


**These reasons are for both genders, not just the male perspective. Either way - degeneracy.

>>18448228
I'm not into it. Taking on more than one person is exhuasting. I put a lot of emotional effort and genuine love into my relationships because I am a "giver" in said relationships. Being giving and emotionally attentive to one man can be exhuasting as it is. I can't imagine being with multiple men and being happy. I'm also happy with just fucking one person.

I'm sure there are lots of selfish ladies out there that would love that arrangement though. Remember that there are givers and takers in life but there are waaaay more takers than givers. Both men and women can be takers or givers it's not a female or male only thing.

>>18448228
I love my gf BUT have never learned how to share my toys. No fucking way!

>>18448228
You are very naive OP. The vast majority of women already fuck whomever they want relationship or not but their partner doesn't know. Why put your stable relationship in jeopardy by telling and why go through the drama of convincing someone to open the relationship. However, I concede many men today are powerless and will take a woman back when they fuck someone else and they find out.

>>18448535
this

>>18448228
I never like more than one guy at the same time. An open relationship would feel like cheating. And I'd hate if my boyfriend had sex with someone else.

>>18448228
I personally would never do it.

Some couples have more casual feelings towards sex, so if they've evaluated that having an open relationship is right for them and not a substitute for deeper, internal problems in their relationship, then they should go ahead. But it's not for me.

I think it's unfair to say being casual about sex/relationships is something "receivers" do. I'm a "receiver", but only want (and able) to receive when I really love and trust someone. Ideally, I only want to have had one sexual partner in my life.

>>18448576
I have to agree with you. Fucking and emotional support are still coming regardless of the status being an 'open' relationship or not, so no need for changing the status quo.

>>18448535
>You lose the possessiveness of your relationship - You're not hers, and she's not yours anymore.

No one actually belongs to you to and you don't belong to any one. That's not actually a healthy attitude to hold.

>It's actually disgusting.

Guess that depends on your definition of disgusting.

>Indication of issues.

Honestly, it probably is. Every woman I've slept with that was in an open relationship had some deep underlying issues. But fuck it, who doesn't?

>Either way - degeneracy.

Is this actually supposed to mean something? Or is that just your go to catch phrase to try and make someone feel bad because they do something you don't like?

>>18448924
>No one actually belongs to you to and you don't belong to any one.
Yeah, fuck right off with your relationship communism and brave new world dystopian view of human interaction. That's not how biology has programmed us. Propagating this "open relationship" nonsense is only another way to build the perfect working drone wich knows no loyalty and blood. Congrats to supporting an ideology of death just to get some pussy pit/ cock carousel.

OR are degenerate as fuck. There is a reason why such "relationships" don't last, because any other guy can give your gf just the same things and see doesn't even need to break up witzh you to monkey branch to a better male, still having her beta as a safety net.

OR are only there so that whores can claim to be in an LTR while catching all the STIs on the market. But I guess if you're pathetic enough you could also fall in love with a cumbucket.

I'm a female in an open relationship.

I don't particularly enjoy sex.

But I've been socialized to crave attention, of course.

Actually opened up the relationship because I missed women, but men are much more romantically/sexually available.

Although sometimes in the infatuation phase I want physical intimacy, mostly I dread it and just enjoy having people to talk to. I'm not great at making friends, likely because I had 0 social capital until I grew boobs. So I learned to leverage sexual desire to create orbiters as a (sadly inadequate) replacement for real friendship. People I'm essentially sexually manipulating tend to listen to my bullshit more attentively than people who are more emotionally free to leave.

Obviously I realize my way of being open is sad and shitty. So my discomfort is really kinda hating myself for it. I think humans are possessive by nature, even all the "poly" couples I know...people seem to have a bit of a double standard. Intellectually they may be at peace with it, compersion may turn them on a bit, but the root of it is visceral dislike.

Anyway. I'm trying to make actual friends so my social needs are a little more managed without me feeling sexual obligation or being so manipulative.

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because other women are whores, isn't the answer obvious?

I personally prefer open relationships. I'm not a possessive person, so any of my girls can do what they want and I'm free to have different flavors when I feel like it.

>>18448228
No, but I'm cynical enough at this point to believe that literally no man would actually ever remain loyal or faithful to a woman so might as well not even put it on the table in the first place. I can't be that disappointed if there's no expectation in the first place.

I'm a guy in a few open relationships. It seems to suit me better. People who post threads like this and whine about cucking always forget that open relationship means open both ways.

>>18448996

Except I've seen it happen so many times that the relationship is open both ways, the dude remains chill while the woman fucks a ton, but as soon as the dude finds someone, the woman flips the fuck out.

>>18449002
Have you now? Are you sure you're just not making this up? Open relationships are not common, and people don't exactly advertise them. Were these people you knew personally or are you just regurgitating /r9k/ memes?

>>18449007

I spend a lot of time in the admittedly small local kink community and there are a lot of shitty "poly" people here. So trainwrecks do make up the majority of open relationships I've seen.

>>18449002
Storytime? Always intrigued to hear about it.

Since I think an advertised open relationship are not something common, and I'd eager to hear more from couples who's running it.

>>18449014

I mean, that's the whole story. There are people in open relationships and poly relationships that work.

But you don't have to go too far to find "Male gets to fuck other girl, girl gets to fuck only girls and only in front of male" bullshit. OR "Female does whatever she wants and gets insecure when male does the same."

Those tend to be people just trying it out who aren't really prepared, as opposed to more serious lifestylers. But that just means it's more common/visible.