How ot help my boyfriend get over my slutty past

you can't do anything. either he gets over it and stays or he won't and leaves. either way, it's a win. so don't beat yourself up for wanting closure.

an hero

>>18445693
So you really wouldn't be interested in having a 3some with him and another girl?

Why did you feel like you needed to tell him this? It was pretty selfish of you to do so. While it made you feel good it made him feel less valued. You basically told him that you were willing to give random strangers sexual pleasure that you don't intend to give him, someone you supposedly value more. How is he supposed to not feel like shit? Next time keep it to yourself, you may have ruined this one. Every dude dreams of having a threesome just once, and you just dangled it in front of him and said but not for you.

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God damn it there are like five threads right now on this, fucking stop. We get it.

>>18445728
only immature people think like that. mature people realize that being a depressed teen makes you do things you don't actually can stand behind and that you now know were a mistake you don't intend to repeat. if he values living out his horny teen boy porn induced fantasies higher than his gf opening up about her past then she should celebrate having avoided wasting more time on this manchild who's main influencer is his cock.

>>18445702
He's the main reason I was able to get over my depression, so i can't accept that. I want to get through this with him. Please help.

>>18445746

Unless he still has the fantasy, which is not immature.

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>>18445693
Lol you dumb shit, what is te benefit to him or you of putting that out there. I doubt that i could look at my gf in the same way if i knew she got railed by 2 guys at the same time.

whats his sexual life like? lackluster in comparison? he probably feels insecure.

>>18445762
ofc it is. it places sexual satisfaction over the stability of the relationship. it's one of the most damaging and immature things one could want.

>>18445753
you will have to. you can not make people behave the way you want them to behave. he's either mature enough to deal with it or he isn't and this is the beginning of the end.

>>18445765
the benefit is that it is a part of her past that bothers her and relationships are also there to help people deal with their past. for some poeple that might be a bad childhood or getting bullied in school. for others it's promiscuosity. if he takes this personal then he isn't ready for a real relationship.

>>18445728

it's pretty selfish for you to harbor this sexual fantasy and want to hold it over an entire relationship. you really value getting your dick wet over an open and honest relationship? you're not ready to date at all.

>>18445780
Some things are better to deal with on your own, shit like this 90% of the time will hurt the relationship drasticly. This doens't mean whatever happened makes someone damaged good, but confessing some things just can break stuff that can't be fixed.

This is something i would discuss with a best friend not a significant other.

>>18445753

i don't mean to freak you out, but honestly, if he can't handle your past, it may be better for you to move past him. it's not safe to be so dependent on another person because there's always the chance they can leave or be taken away.

>>18445787
>This is something i would discuss with a best friend not a significant other.
What kind of ass backward logic is this. So you would tell your darkest secrets to a friend and not a person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

>>18445768
TIL that sexual desires and fantasy is a non factor in relationships if your a mature individual. If your partner never wants to fuck or accommodate your desires and fantasies you should accept it even though they were willing to do it for others. Because you are mature.

>>18445796
Like a best friend you've known since childhood or something. There just are situations from the past which better are not to be brought up in a relationship no matter how much they haunt you, certain stuff that will just make the other person feel like shit jus so you can get some relief from guilt.

>>18445693
when you two are having a quiet intimate moment, whisper to him that he makes you very happy, and that he is a great partner and he's kind, etc. Say things about only him, don't compare or even mention past sexual experiences. in the bedroom, say you want to try something new/different together. If he asks if you'd done it with someone else before, say "no i chose this for you and me." make sure you let him know you are thinking about him when you are together and that you think of his wants and needs and want to please him. once he knows you only think of him, he will open up to you again.

>>18445693
>>18445786
>You

You act like he's the guy from OP lol.

>>18445693
The important question is what is he asking you to do? If it's threesomes and shit I totally understand not wanting to engage in those, especially in the context of a relationship

>>18445808
Oops Ignore that first

"18445693 (OP)"

I like this attitude here "he either accept you're a whore or he's immature".
Like sexuality is just a woman's prerogative, wake the fuck up.

>>18445693
Maybe he's open minded enough to accept that, but even then it'll take some time to push that shit under the rug.
You'll have to work pretty fucking hard (and I don't mean sexually) if you want to keep the relationship going.

>>18445807
Thank you so much. I think this may help.

>>18445787
if i had something like that to tell to a partner, then that would be a good way for me to see if they are actually worth my time. people who freak out over such things are just not going to make it in the long run.

>>18445801
exactly. sex isn't all there is. if it's so important to you then you might be stuck in the stone age.
there are boundaries to what sexual fantasies can be considered mature. sex should be a fun way to spend free time, it should't treaten your relationship or your mental/physical health. if it reached that point it's degeneracy and not "sexual needs".

>>18445808

what? he's going against op and i'm just saying there's nothing wrong with what op did. it's not op's fault her boyfriend is insecure about the past.

>>18445728
Speak for yourself whore. I may not agree with what she's done or even like it but I'd rather know than live with someone who's something other than what I thought they were. That's a major bomb just waiting to explode and fuck everything up. This is the kind of shit you get out of the way before the deal is sealed so everyone knows what they're getting into and is happy with it.

>>18445796
>So you would tell your darkest secrets to a friend and not a person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
You don't shit were you eat, anon.

>>18445816
Please, tell me what I should do. We have already agreed to talk about this and the main issue seems to be his inability to understand how I could lower myself to doing those things out of depression. I wish I had something better to tell him, but it's just how it was when I didn't care about anything. Is there perhaps a better way to help him understand?

>>18445834
you will never have a relationship that has reached it's potential if you don't change that mindset.

>>18445838
>Is there perhaps a better way to help him understand?
Highly doubt that.

Worst thing you can do is focus on the past and try to "explain",
he probably understands why you did it, but still irks him inside that you did.
And honestly I don't know what to tell you, I guess your best option is be the best person you can be, for him and for yourself.

>>18445840
I'm already in a 5+LTR, and had many before. Thinking that you have to share everything in a relationship is childish and explains why most young people can't actually handle a LTR anymore.

There is also a difference between being honest and bringing up old and hopefully irrelevant stuff. Don't ask, don't tell.

>>18445822
>>18445822
>Sex isn't all there is. If it's so important you then you might be stuck in the stone age.

LITERALLY

CURRENT

YEAR

To some, sex is a incredibly important thing, spiritual even, and what OP did would be considered very wanton or as OP herself put it "slutty"

Some people desire a partner who doesn't have a past like this. Does that make them a bad person? I think not.

>>18445848
the length of your relationship is NO indicator of it's quality.

>>18445693
You just aren't what he thought you were. He is mourning the image of you that he had.

Either he will eventually come to terms with who you actually are or he will leave you. (Or he'll be a petty bitch and bring it up constantly to make you feel like shit, in which case you should leave him.) Either of those first two options are his right. The only thing you can do right now to help the first to happen is maximize your actual legitimate good qualities while minimizing your bad ones. (IMHO, you fucked it up by coming on to him after telling him and without letting him grieve, but you can try anyway.) Focus on things that really make you unique like maybe your shared interests that you had before dating him and your hopes for the future. That might be enough to help him fall in love with the real you.

In all honesty, it's probably how you portrayed yourself during the confession that is causing this delayed rage. I would much rather hear my gf was a huge whore because she was a fucking idiot than hear how she was a little victim who was super sad. Because you know what? I get sad too. And every time I go to the gym, I would be thinking about how if my girl were feeling how I feel at that moment, she'd be fucking a chad instead of bettering herself.

>>18445693
You're a dumb whore, and if he leaves you he's made the right choice

>>18445856
it doesn't make them a bad person, just an immature one. definitely not someone to have a serious relationship with.
those are the ones who bind their love on conditions, those who would kock their son out if they found out he's gay.

i agree that sex is important. but if it's about the bonding part as you suggested, then you don't need to invite other people. stop trying to validate sexual degeneracy by comparing it to the emotional aspects that make sexuality important for a relationship.

>>18445728
I agree. It's rare to find someone who would be able to take this very graphic confession in without some response positive or negative. There was no need to talk about threesomes let alone the genders of the people involved. The only information a partner needs to know is a number, any prior risky behaviors, and any persisting consequences (STDS/kids). Anything beyond that is fucking cruel and entirely selfish.

Not to mention the fact that he now has to digest that he's dating a majorly depressed person and will have to deal with a suicidal spouse at some time in the future. TBQH you fucked up bad and you need to give him some space to think about whether he wants to be with you. Anything he says or does until he gets some space will be entirely emotional and will probably not come out in your favor in the long run.

>>18445838
tell him again that you were in a dark place and you truly hated life/yourself. say when you look back on it, it scares you, it disgusts you, and it saddens you to have that be a part of your past that you cant erase. but that you want to move on because that person is dead and only you remain, the you that loves him and wants to be there for him and no one else, he who makes you happy and from whom you didnt want to keep secrets from, even if you knew it was a filthy secret that you wish you could keep burried forever. say you never want to be that person again and that right now, all you want is to love him and make him happy because he makes you more happy than anything you've ever known.

>>18445753
No. That is selfish as fuck. A person cannot help you get over your depression. You used him for 2 1/2 years for free therapy. What, pray tell, does he get out of your relationship?

>>18445861
>I would much rather hear my gf was a huge whore because she was a fucking idiot than hear how she was a little victim who was super sad. Because you know what? I get sad too. And every time I go to the gym, I would be thinking about how if my girl were feeling how I feel at that moment, she'd be fucking a chad instead of bettering herself
This, this, this. Its because most people don't stoop to fucking random people to feel better when they see sad that he is having this issue. I get you were depressed, but is this a common occurrence for those suffering from depression? Alcoholism sure, cutting yea but having wild sex with random people?

On the first week of our relationship, I told my boyfriend about my past orgies, all my sick fetishes, my drug problem, my clinginess, and all my other crazies.

I also told him that if he ends up being rich, I'm gonna take a lot of his money for hair care, makeup, drugs, teddy bears, plastic surgeries, and counterfeit designer clothes, shoes, and bags.

We're married now. Because we love each other!
Honesty is good, so just tell him what's on your mind. You can get through this, OP!

>>18445886
This.

Sorry OP for having to put up with all this obvious bullshit

>>18445891
Kill yourself whiteknigt of my ass

>>18445886
I didn't use him. I went to therapy and got on proper medication and his support is what helped all of that get me to this point.

>>18445859
We've been friends for an additional decade and will robably marry. We're happy and open about everything relevant for both of us.

As I said, your relationship will be much more happy and fulfilled if you don't pester your SO about every little thing about your past or thoughts. It also helps to get another view from friends which your SO can't deliver. If relevant you can still share it.

That's actually maturity not this childish idea of having to share everything without respecting your SOs feelings enough to deal with it as an individual, not like a borg.

>>18445787
As someone who has btdt, I 100% concur. You need to work shit out in therapy, not dump your past on your partner. Anyone over 35 knows this. Ask any preist or marriage counselor and they will ask you to think long and hard about discussing past demons with a current mate.

The whole point of new relationships is because you grow and hopefully are better than what you were and deserve a fresh start. Why would you open the door to that part of your life unless you either want to be able to be that person around him or are hoping he will leave you?

>>18445793
This is also true but isn't about what he is able to "handle." It's about what he is willing to tolerate. Boundaries are vital to healthy relationships.

>>18445877
Alright. I will keep telling him how much he means to me for as long as it takes. He's worth that.

>>18445871
No, it doesn't.

Immaturity isn't defined by your parameters. People have different sets of standards. Some want a skinny partner, some want a fat one. Some want a slutty partner, some want a prude. To call someone "immature" for having their own opinion proves your immaturity in that you think the world should share yours and you are the only correct one.

>Those who would kock (sic) their son out if they found out he's gay

Nice appeal to emotion, but nope. Sorry.

Some guys don't want girls with a lot of sexual history. Some girls don't want guys with a lot of sexual history. This is not a sign of immaturity.

>Stop trying to validate degeneracy

I'm not in the slightest lol.

>>18445899
>Why would you open the door to that part of your life unless you either want to be able to be that person around him or are hoping he will leave you?
Are you mentally retarded? It's about feeling comfortable and confident that the person you are planning on spending your life with knows who you were and who you are and can hopefully distinguish the two and love you the same for it. Otherwise they only know one part of you.

>>18445833
Choosing to close the door on a chapter of your life and never look back is vital to getting healthy after what sounds like a horrible addiction. You're only as sick as your secrets but that doesn't mean you have to "confess" all of them. She should absolutely answer truthfully if he asks but a full detailed confession is just cruel.

>be separated from wife for 6 months years ago
>date other people
>we now have open access to phones and emails as a way to rebuild trust
>she asked for my password to a certain email I now only use for spam
>have her the email but told her that she would not like what she found there even though we had both agreed that dating was okay
>afaik, she still hasn't checked it 3 years later

People would rather not have to battle the mental images. It's enough for her to know that we are together now. It would torture her to know that the woman I dated is currently someone I see every day.

>>18445916
>Otherwise they only know one part of you.
Others always know only parts of view which you want to share. Nobody gives up certain skeletons in his closet. Nobody. We all have them, some smaller, some bigger. Therefore everything you do tell, is said with a certain intention. Nobody is going around after years telling their mates about how much dick they could take without wanting certain results.

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>>18445693
I really love how when someone else does something disgusting in the past, you act like it's on the other partner not being able to "handle" it. No nigga, its called not liking certain fucking actions. They don't need to handle anything. You kept something gross to yourself because you KNEW they wouldn't like it. You decided to wait 2 1/2 years to tell him because you felt comfortable enough now thinking that he wouldn't care. Of course he does. Who wouldn't? It's disgusting. I hope that he leaves you, and that you learn that actions have consequences.

>>18445838
It's not about understanding. Change the words.

"I just don't understand why you would eat a plate of dog shit."

"Wellllll, first you get a fork..."

"No, I mean. How could you *want* to eat a plate of dog shit?"

"Well.... I was really really hungry because I was stuck in the cave after the Avalanche and I had already eaten Bingo soo...."

"Still.."

Yeah, he's disgusted with you. Most guys would be. This is the price you pay for the relief you felt in the moment. That bill finally came due.

>>18445848
This guy knows what's up.
>>18445856

>>18445939
This. You either spill the beans before they invest emotions in you or take it into your grave.

>>18445859
I'm curious about this magical indicator. What says a relationship is quality?

>>18445871
A lot of people actually view sex as a merging of two souls. It's easy to get over a LTR as long as they don't seem to still have a spark but someone who treats sex as a drug is not someone I want to be sexing, considering eventually I will not be enough.

>>18445897
You still haven't answered my question.

>>18445916
If she is truly done with that part of her life then it shouldn't be "part of her." If she doesn't see that person she was as an entirely separate individual who disgusts her, she WILL revert to those behaviors in future times of stress.

And I'd bet both he and OP know this and it is why OP told him in the first place.

>>18445897
>I didn't use him.
>and his support is what helped all of that get me to this point.
You used him as a safety net and emotional tampon and now that you're on your way you subconsciously thought to be "honest", probably because your libido has come back and sex gets boring after so many years. Face it, you're still using him.

>>18445932
She waited TWO+ years to tell him. You bet your ass she said it with intention. My wife knew all my secrets that I ever intended to share within a month of dating. The rest are not applicable because they happened when I was a child and I don't foresee ever being that vulnerable again.

>>18445887
>but having wild sex with random people?
Yes, this is a common occurance in women with depression and other self-image ruining disorders that make them feel like shit.
So they go and sleep around, thinking it makes them feel better.

>>18445992
Yeah, I bet this is pretty accurate.

>>18445987
>And I'd bet both he and OP know this and it is why OP told him in the first place.
This. She probably wanted to get another ride and thought he would be into it. seeing his reaction she quickly blamed her depression - which is retarded as your libido is more or less death on actual depression.

>>18445997
Yes. And it isn't a behavior that usually stops. The next time she gets depressed (and it WILL happen again) she will use sex as an outlet and probably cheat on him.

>>18446001
>libido is more or less death on depression

You're not wrong, but women can choose to have sex without wanting to have sex.

IMO, that makes it worse. She CHOSE to debase herself to "feel better." And possibly got addicted to the attention.

ssshhhiiieeettt OP, you did a mistake. You should have sugar-coated it or never bring it up.
I guess he'll get over it as time passes on, or you could talk to him about how he digests it.
Open (and healthy) communication is key sometimes.

>>18446005
Then work on her depression, that's the problem.
Find her other ways to cope.

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>>18445939
>>18445948

honestly I kind of have to agree with this.

>>18445693
Here's the thing about promiscuous behavior OP; most guys don't find it an attractive trait in a person that they plan to have a long term relationship with. They will have sex with you, but they typically won't want to marry someone with a promiscuous past. And I know that you were in a really shitty spot mentally and that people tend to make poor decisions when depressed, but the fact is OP, you did it, and you need to take responsibility for your actions. It's not really his fault, nor is he immature, if he can't get over your past actions that he views as morally reprehensible. Because the fact is OP, that is part of who you are now. Now, in all fairness, you can't judge a persons entire being by a period of weakness in their past, but that absolutely weighs in when summing up your actions.

And the real issue here is that you've shown first and foremost that you're capable of this behavior. Who's to say that this is your only moment of weakness? If you and your bf have a fight and you feel depressed are you going to start sleeping with random dudes again? And you can say no all you want, but your past actions have proven otherwise.

To be honest, things may not work out with him at this point. My advice to you is the same that a lot of others are saying in this thread. Either bring it up earlier next time or don't bring it up at all. I'd recommend the latter honestly.

And let me make something very fucking clear. If he overcomes how he feels about your past and can accept you in the present, he really, REALLY fucking loves you, and if you fuck up and relapse and engage in your old behavior again you should feel bad, because you are effectively trash at that point.

>>18446005
People at that age don't change anymore. She should face her own flaws instead of blaming her depression for learned behaviour and thinking that she will get away with it. No, bitch. Just like hormonla changes aren't an excuse, because you'Re still an rational human bean, your depression doesn't give you a blankcheque to behave like a degenerate.

>>18445768

You can't help having sexual fantasies, moron.

>>18446010
>You're not wrong, but women can choose to have sex without wanting to have sex.
Nah, while depressed you wont get hot, no matter how hart you try. Let's be honest. She was in puberty, and depressed (not having a Depression in capital letters) and used it to whore around. People fighting depression don't go out and stuff their holes with dicks.

>>18445871

You're just judgemental.

>>18445693
>younger years. I suffered chronic depression and my outlet was sex and alchohol, to the extent that I engaged in two threesomes, one with a girl and guy, and another with two guys.


How young are we talking? How old are you now? Something tells me you did this shit not too long ago

>>18446016
No. SHE needs to find other ways to cope. NOT him. The fact that she doesn't have those other ways is an issue. If she had another way she would have brought it up during the confession "Crossfit is why I don't fuck sheep anymore" or something.

Desu

>>18445693

Find a guy who is less insecure. There is nothing wrong with having sex, you're just fine.

>>18446018
Thank you for giving it to me straight. I know that my actions can never be taken back. I honestly hated myself and regretted having sex numerous times after, but I know that no amount or regret for my past will change what I did. I wanted him to see who I was and how far I've come to being who I am now. We've had 2 1/2 years together and I have been thankful for ever bit of it and want to be with him for the rest of my life. I want to prove myself to him and me. That I'm not that kind of person anymore. In no other period have I felt so sound of mind and decision making than I do now. I won't make those decisions ever again. I have no reason to.

>>18446053
Actually if you want wife material there is much wrong with fucking around. The more dick a woman takes, the more lickely a divorce it. And that doesn't even account for double dicking desu.

>>18446030
I'm curious, does this line of logic work for guys as well? If a guy was OP, and said he was depressed and drank and fucked around would you still give the same comment?

>>18446053
t. roastie

>>18446057
how old are you, and how old were you when you had the threesomes

>>18446067
>I'm curious, does this line of logic work for guys as well?
Depression has different results in both genders and the female libido is more coupled with feeling (the hippocampus) then the male one which will result in higher male depressive masturbation than female one.

>would you still give the same comment?
Obviously no, as men and women aren't the same.

>>18446033
I am 29 now. From ages 21-25 I drank, partied and had sex. Then when I was 26 I found a therapist that actually helped me, medicine that worked and got introduced to my now bf.

>>18446030
Yeah, I agree for the most part. My wife's Depression was part of the reason we split. She went totally numb after the death of someone close to her and was using sex to "feel something." Super flattering. Made me feel like a 6' dildo. I left after putting up with it for a year. She had a massive breakdown within a month of me leaving. She got actual help and worked through her shit with a therapist and we are ridiculously happy and back to life as usual.

Tl;dr leaving is the loving thing to do sometimes.

>>18446076
>29
You know, it'S hard not to believe in the whole dick carousel methapher when women act like that and suddenly after getting into their less fertile years learn that they now want a cuck provider after having had their way with half of the town.

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>>18446076
>29
>literally hitting the wall now
>using bf as an emotional tampon now because she's done with her partying days

Into the trash it goes, I hope your boyfriend leaves you and finds someone better. Preferably younger too.

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>>18446084
Jipp. Every. Single. Time.

>>18446067
Yes. An addictive personality is an addictive personality is an addictive personality. Having a good life will require constant vigilance from her every day for the rest of her life. The only way he could get over this is if she is so laughably self-disciplined that the idea of her drinking and sleeping around is actually unbelievable. The fact that he believed her means it was believable which means her character was already flawed.

If someone claimed OP was Mother Theresa would you believe them?

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>>18445693
Hope he breaks up with you, roastie

>>18446076
>29
>implying 21-25 is "young and childish"

Desu, I'd already sold my first company by 22. You were not "immature." You ARE an immature human being. I can't imagine being 29 and getting relationship advice from 4Chan. The fact that you are here at all means you have no friends and a woman incapable of female friendships is that way for a reason.

I really hope he leaves you and you learn from this. You should just practice being a really good stepmom.

>>18446092
Ok honest question, what is your image trying to say? That people who were wild in their hayday should never grow up? Never open their eyes to the true value that is a meaningful relationship? People aren't static, we grow we learn we change. Someone wanting to be away from the crazy and empty life of partying should be commended, not mocked.

>>18446098
That women take their fertile and best years and use them for easy sex and after been used up try to catch a beta male shortly before hitting the wall so he can play the provider, without getting any of that juicy virgin cunt she sold for drinks.

Roasties trying to have the cake and eat it too.

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>>18446093
>You ARE an immature human being. I can't imagine being 29 and getting relationship advice from 4Chan. The fact that you are here at all means you have no friends and a woman incapable of female friendships is that way for a reason.

Jesus Christ, I just realized she's actually a fucking 29 year old getting advice on 4chan. Fuck me. I'm 20 and I come here for the shits, and this bitch is literally getting advice here. Wow.

>>18445693
4chan is useless for a girl since the public here is overwhemingly butthurt virgin males.

OP, dump him and get a better boyfriend.

>>18446107
>t. fellow roastie

>>18446105
Found mine at 17. All I can say is... Delightful.

>>18446106
>>18446093
>wow why the fuck are you guys using an advice board to get advice?
>wow lol on 4chan wtfff

Get off this site if you don't like it, redditards.

>>18446098
Women like in the pic deserve to become bag/cat ladies in their old age.

>>18446116
Good for you anon. The less men fall for "now I want to be a traditional housewife"-roasties the less women will act like that.

>>18446105
All women whore themselves from 20-25.

Good women convince themselves every fuck will turn into marriage and therefore at least confine their whoring to LTRs.

Superior women have fucking self-control.

Excellent women realize they should get married before fucking up their market value with multiple partners, STDs, kids and age.

Women and men are valued for different things but the concept applies quite well for males too.

>>18445693
>he has asked in indirect ways if I would engage in any of my slutty past with him in the present. I know it's coming from insecurity about my past experience, but I never wanted to do those things and am happy with what we have now
>I was depressed and suicidal and looking for any outlet to keep me from ending my life. I want him to understand that, but it just seems so hard to convince him.

Because to him, it feels like you only wanted to do those things for whoever you were with.
Also fucking around wasn't to stop yourself from ending your life, it was to feel some semblance of being desired.

Enjoy either doing it for him and seeing him lose respect for you, or watching him drift away from you knowing about your poor decision making.

>>18446098
Girls ignore dudes who want to settle down for partying and mindless sex with dudes who only want sex, then get butt-blasted when the dudes who only wanted sex no longer want sex and say hell no to a relationship, so they have to settle for the dudes they initially ignored, but the irony in all of this is that they all would have been happier had they never gone out and partied and just found a good relationship oriented man that they actually liked

>>18446126
>Excellent women realize they should get married before fucking up their market value with multiple partners, STDs, kids and age.
That'S why men need to start and btfo roasties instead of enabling their behavior.

>>18446127
True. The only way for a slut to redeem herself is if she's "his" slut.

And you really aren't "his," are you OP?

Respect or love. Pick one.

>>18446114
My hymen is intact anon, since only anime characters and movie celebrities are attractive to me.

Still OP needs to find a better boyfriend.

>>18446139
>better boyfriend

What exactly makes him bad in this case?

>>18446139
>having a hymen means you can't be a roastie

okay roastie

>>18445746
>gf rides cock carousel for 2 1/2 years
>feels bad
>makes up excuse to bf
>bf doesn't like that she was on the speed train to pound town for 2 1/2 years

the bf is not the one thinking with his genitals here

>>18445693
sleep in the bed you made for yourself, whore

>>18446133
Agreed. Gambling on a child bride as a fellow child was the best gamble I ever made. Now as a self-made man, I can honestly say my wife loves me for me unlike my peers who seem constantly stressed that if the DOW drops they'll lose their lady as well. It's actually entertaining to have the wives interact at events as mine is utterly unaffected by wealth (seeing as it has happened fluidly). She drives a $100,000 car but complains because she can't take the doors off like we used to do with our POS Jeep. It's fucking adorable.

>>18446145
His refusal to understand her depression is what caused her behavior and nothing else, and she's not committing any slight against him by refusing to act like a depressed shit without self-esteem again. She should have dumped him yesterday.

>>18446146
lel

>>18446134
I am his. I just know he's not asking for those things because he wants to, he is just testing to see if I will do it with him. If he genuinely wanted to do that with me, I would but I know his motives come from insecurity and not a genuine want to experience that with me.

>>18446139
Lel. If you were actually a virgin you would describe yourself differently.

Seeing a dick for sexual purposes counts. Taking off your clothes for someone else counts.

Fucking hampster desu

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>>18446153
>His refusal to understand her depression is what caused her behavior and nothing else

Yea... It was her "depression" that made her go outside, force herself into parties and have sex, from ages 21 - 25, hmm.... yea... depression... right...

>>18445693
You arent supposted to tell everything to your bf you know. Sometimes we cant swallow the truth so easily as you swallowed all thouse things.

>>18446125

>>18446152
If I could make one single change in my life (and it was fucked up) I would have stayed virgin till I met my current LTR which should be the last one I will have to have. But I guess without mothers telling their daughters to not fuck around and a society promoting it, it's not surprising that women only realise that they fucked up after it's to late.

I'm thankfull that I was at least to depressed to sleep around.

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>>18446161
>Sometimes we cant swallow the truth so easily as you swallowed all thouse things.

>>18446158
>I don't understand a damn thing about depression or even how to hook up

Have you never heard of tinder? It's piss easy to get sex these days, espeically as a woman. And yes, super depressed people will often have sex with strangers in an attempt to make themselves feel better.

>>18446154
>won't say yes even though she knows he'll never follow through
Nope, you are saying this just to make sure he knows you are not his. That's literally what this conversation is. You lowered yourself to either an object or a deeply flawed or disturbed individual by your confession. Now you don't want to be objectified.

ipso slutto, you will make a terrible wife and mother and he is just realizing this now.

If you were really willing to do anything to be with him, you would submit.

>>18446154
>>18446154
Also, telling him you know what he needs better than you do is patronizing as fuck. Is he significantly younger than you?

>>18445693

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna-whore_complex

>>18446170
>I don't understand a damn thing about depression
I do, after having it for two decades and knowing more depressed people than healthy ones and OP is bullshitting. Female libido = hippocampu. And the hippocamppus will shrink into oblivion during real depression, making sex as satisfiying as washing dishes.

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>>18446161
Motherfuck that's awesome.

>>18446170
>Have you never heard of tinder?

Yea, tinder was around when OP was slutting it up yes... mnn... depression and able to get out and party... hmm... doesn't sound like a depression to me... sounds more like regret... hmmm....

>>18446163
Luckily mine had a mom from the South. She told her that people only look good once in their lifetimes and to never say no to a first date because the weird ones will often end up being billionaires. She went on 30odd first dates, had maybe 5 first kisses. Married me after 6 weeks of dating. Still not sure why she said yes but I figured she would be the best I'd ever get.

Asked the wife about her mom's "everyone looks good at one point in their lifetime" advice. Her response was "we're old a lot longer than we're young. You're actually really lucky it's taking so long."

T. Uggo who made his first million by 22

>>18446178
>implying my entire life is a complex
Fuck off. Saying it's impossible to marry a virgin sex freak is just plain lying.

>>18446205
That's really nice to hear, spread the word and make many white children.

>>18446196
Robin Williams was able to act and perform while depressed. Why do you think it's unreasonable for a person to be able to go and hook up with a random stranger via an app that makes it even easier?

>get out and party
What party? Hooking up =/= partying
And yes, people with depression do things.

>tfw molested as a child
>tfw kept my virginity until I turned 33
>tfw okay with keeping my virginity until old age if I hadn't met my husband
>tfw always satisfied myself with yaoi and fanfics and other women's porn
>tfw I knew my husband was the right one when he reacted with kindness, understanding and support at my telling him of my abuse, unlike OP's bf

I think that having sex with just about anyone is not good. I also think that it's better to be alone than to be with a man who isn't good for you.

OP's boyfriend has proved he isn't good for her.

>>18446222
>I think that having sex with just about anyone is not good.
>OP's boyfriend has proved he isn't good for her.

I think you meant to say, OP isn't good for her boyfriend.

>>18446214
But why? Wouldn't it make depression worse? You never hear about depressed people turning to sex which is why I am so confused.

>>18446214
>Robin Williams was able to act and perform while depressed. Why do you think it's unreasonable for a person to be able to go and hook up with a random stranger via an app that makes it even easier?
No, could only act normal because he had to which got him killed. No, human with actual depression will go out their way to find people to fuck. That's not depression. Depression is the death of your feelings (quite literaly). You don't feel anything and that won't change due to casual hock ups. You rather just stay in bed and sleep instead of wasting the little energy you have to fuck, when you can rub oone out.

Don't try to justify her acting like a whore and trying to blame it on depression. Thanks to people like her depression gets treated like some made up story to cover up lazynes and regrets.

>>18446213
Sadly she was treated like a total slut in HS because of her "never say no" policy, which she was pretty open about. Most girls were pretty shitty to her and she got ass slaps in the hallways when no one else was. We actually met in calculus and the only reason I asked her out was to call her bluff lol. Tried to feel her up on our first date and she told me in no uncertain terms that she was already married, she just hadn't met her husband yet.

Fucking quality m8s.

>>18446222
Abuse and random hook ups are NOT the same thing. If OP had been gang raped by 100 nogs I think this whole thread would have responded much differently.

>>18446226
Way to fucking gatekeep mental illness, asshole. Plenty of people, male and female, try to "fuck the pain away."

https://www.healthcentral.com/article/depression-and-sex-addiction

>>18446224
No, I mean OP's boyfriend isn't good for her. She needs someone who is kind and understanding to her, not someone who is butthurt at the fact he didn't get to abuse her too. She deserves better than him and he deserves to die alone.

>>18446232
Your fellow women are your biggest enemy if you don't want to be a degenerate. They will trash talk you all they can so they don't look as bad in comparison to a quality woman.

>>18446235
>*addiction
people with addiction proclivities are different than those without. Its also why you should never date an ex-smoker or a recovering alcoholic unless you can handle being with an actual smoker or alcoholic.

If she told him she used to be addicted to Meth, would any of you judge him for seriously reconsidering the relationship?

>>18446235
Fuck of to Numbler. I know more depressive people than you will ever meet in your life so fuck of with your google degree instead of white knighting a roastie or trying to justify degenerate behavior.

>>18446234
>If OP had been gang raped by 100 nogs I think this whole thread would have responded much differently

Yeah the butthurt virgins here would have started telling her it was her fault and she probably liked it so her bf is a cuck.

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>>18446239
>Sure, OP rode a bunch of dicks like a total whore, but you see, the boyfriend is the asshole for not wanting to deal with it!

>>18446239
>Having a threesome is abuse...
What?

>>18446252
Any butthurt virgins care to comment one way or the other?

No?

Fuck off Roastie. Intent is everything. Responsibility is everything. OP had the first and refuses the second. It's both or neither.

>>18446255
>>18446253
>ITT: people who don't know taking advantage of a mentally ill person is abuse. Or they know, and they don't care. Red flags everywhere

>>18446251
>I lost all my arguments and was proven wrong
>better resort to >gb2ebaumsworld and personal insults

lmao

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>>18446262
Hahaha, and now she was literally raped. Good god, you roasties are so pathetic. Just grow a backbone and face your true nature instead of blaming everyone but yourself.

>>18446225

Dude, you're not a psychologist and you're acting off your own anecdotal experience.

The truth is that sex is an extremely common thing to turn to during depression. This is common knowledge in the psychology field. You need to leave.

OP, first off, get the fuck off 4chan and NEVER come back here.

Secondly, if your boyfriend can't get over this, he'll either leave you or you'll leave him. Eventually you'll find someone sexually and emotionally mature enough to realize that you can have a fucked up past and still be a good person worthy of love. He's not "wrong" for feeling the way he does, y'all just ain't as compatible as you thought you were, leave it at that.

>>18446266
I hope some gold-digger takes advantage of your depression and leaves you destitute anon, see how your medicine tastes.

>>18446265
You never brought arguments to the table. A first hit on google isn't one. I actually know how Depression works first and second hand and OP had no depression - if anything her actions might have made her depressed.

>>18446239
This.
OP's bf should be happy he gets to kiss the pussy and mouth which has been fucked by several dicks. There's nothing more honorable.

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>>18446262
>voluntarily goes to parties
>voluntarily has a threesome
>voluntarily does it a second time
>taken advantage of
>abused

>>18445693
My gf has a similar past just a little more extreme. She did fetlife and not the tame stuff. I knew going in that she had a kinky past but was shook by just how self-destructive she'd been. I love her even more now because of it. She's not that person and our pasts should not define us in the future. Sorry to say that he might not be able to man up and see you as you are today. Ask him directly - talk him through it - he'll either love you or he won't.

>>18446273

You're an idiot, not a psychologist. Stop posting as you have literally no valid reason to make the claims you're making.

>>18446271
I'm as good as married and also a female. Get fucked. Just because you have depression it doesn't mean that you become retarded - while still going to tinder and look out for a nice dick ride.

>>18446279
Bless you, anon.

>>18446282
>Stop posting as you have literally no valid reason to make the claims you're making.
I have 20 years of experience first and second hand desu. Deal with it.

>>18446262
This is an insult to people who have actually been abused. You should actually kill yourself in real life.

t. Actual rape victim

>>18446283
>I'm as good as married and also a female

"Female" in place of "woman" is how alt-righters, neonazis, redpillers and other MRA movements speak. Their belief is women need to shut up and get back to the kitchen. So what are you doing here? Shut the fuck up and get back to the kitchen, female.

>>18446291

No, you don't, and your posts are self-evident. You can't make the claim that she didn't have depression off a few posts on an internet forum, then make the wild claims you're making. I'm not defending her, but you're an idiot who isn't helping the situation.

>>18446297

What even is this type of post doing on this forum? What are you even doing here?

>>18446279
>knew going in
>>18446279
>knew going in
>>18446279
>knew going in
>>18446279
>knew going in

He is not "emotionally immature." You had the advantage of weighing the pros and cons without falling for her first.

>>18446294
>You should actually kill yourself in real life
Nah. But if you want to, hey no one's stopping you anon.

>>18446291
So you're claiming depression is identical for everyone? And anyone who differs from your norm of depression is either a fake or a liar?

Also just because someone uses sex as a coping mechanism doesn't mean it fucking helps them, it's self destructive behavior. Just like some depressed people turn to drugs or alcohol, some turn to sex with strangers, just to feel "something." Literally, it's really fucking common, no amount of your anecdotal evidence can change that. Like others said, you're not a therapist, so shut the fuck up.

>>18446303
Look at this uppity female thinking anyone cares for her opinions. Someone should put her back in her place.

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>>18446297
>how alt-righters, neonazis, redpillers and other MRA movements speak.
Although I'm a right wing cutie, the only reason I wrote the wrong vocable is due to the fact that it's 2 am and I'm not a native speaker, burger roastie.

>So what are you doing here?
Implying just because a woman is traditional means she can't shitpost after the work iis done and her husbando needs his beauty sleep to earn the shekels.
>this is what leftis actually believe

>>18446297
>/pol/ is all of 4chan
Intelligence Maximus here. Also,
>I'm a Roastie feminist until women try to talk, then it's back to the kitchen.
I, an actual white supremecist (who incidentally does get sandwhiches regularly) would never speak to a lady so disrespectfully.

BTFO

>>18446312
>blah blah blah shitpost blah

A barrel of shit excuses for herself, typical useless female.

>>18446309
>So you're claiming depression is identical for everyone? And anyone who differs from your norm of depression is either a fake or a liar?
Most which differ to such an extend tend not to _have_ Depression but _being_ depressed. A smal but significant difference.

>Just like some depressed people turn to drugs or alcohol
Addictive personalities turn to drugs, not people with Depression. They migt be both but Depression isn't the reason and being a AP is even worse.

>>18446317
>lady
lol

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>>18446328
>claims women should shut up and go back to the kitchen
>still won't shut up and go back to the kitchen

baka

>>18446332
>claims women should shut up and go back to the kitchen
[citation needed]

What is going on in this thread?

>>18446311

Damn, edgy trolls invading a help forum. Truly you kids being here more than most.

At least get my gender correct

>>18446338
The essence of 4chins.

>>18446338

Thread is invaded by butthurt, edgy tween boys. Unfortunately they won't really amount to much in life.

>>18446336
>uses 'female' in place of woman
>"[citation needed]"

>>18445693
My advice is to take responsibility for your actions. What's the deal with anyone with a promiscuous past, they have to always shift the blame from themselves? We don't care about your chronic depression, or your abuse or any other 1000s of excuses, you were a SLUT. Maybe you still are maybe you aren't but man up to your actions, fuck.

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>>18446346
>What's the deal with anyone with a promiscuous past, they have to always shift the blame from themselves?

This. Own up to being a slut. Do some nasty stuff for your man now.

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>>18446344
Lot told you to not look back.

>>18446355
Go make me a sandwich, roastie.

>>18445746
Get your depressed bullshit out of here, depression is a state of mind. Out of the many things you can do to make your self feel better, your only cure for depression is the validation of being railed by two men? Kek

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>>18446357
No snacking after dinner, we wouldn't want to get fat and unattractive with your already low market value, right darling?

It's sad these kids have nothing better to do but invade /adv/. Obviously they're utter failures at life.

>>18446351

Actually a dude who's got laid way more than you, clearly.

>>18446283
If I were a worse person I'd wish you got raped and then had your partner whine you won't re-enact your rape for him because he's butthurt someone got to mistreat you and they can't. Or your daughter got molested as a child and her partner's only reaction was whining because someone did what he wanted before he could.

>>18446366
>white supremacist roleplaying
Hahahahahaha

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>>18446374
>butthurt roastie actually want to wish healthy and happy people the worst things instead of facing up her fucked up existance
I'll pray for you, roastnon.

>>18445693

There's a phrase and it's called opening a can of worms, and that's what you did op, now lie in your worms. If you had been quiet bf would have been in ignorant bliss and wouldn't be comparing you to all the 3 some porns he's seen.

>>18446366
What's up with neonazis and market value? Putting all that emphasis on money is something nazis stereotyped jews to do. Are you a jew?

>>18446388
Just imagening my wife to take two dicks while claiming depression makes me want to puke. I hope the guy leaves and finds actual wife material instead of a used up happy sock.

>>18446384
>thinks that people who call her out for the cunt she is aren't better off than her
kek

>>18445693
>Sees girlfriend as a precious wonderful being
>Finds out girlfriends a slut (Was... What difference does it make?)

It may not break the relationship but it probably broke the delusions he had about you before you told him. New information makes everything look different. Now you can be a dick and just take the hump that he's just an immature self conscious twat but what he now knows about you is known permanently and you will have another light shined upon you into how he views you.

>>18446391
Everything has a value.
Everything has a market.
>reee the juice

And they claim /pol/ is paranoid.

>>18445730
Slutty woman is a very common problem these days. Maybe that's why we get so many threads about it?

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>>18446398
>feeling the need to call rape and dead on women and kids
>being better off than someone in a happy marriage

You cant win. You have already shown yourself to have low morals and ethics. Don't try to >>18446241

>>18446359
This. I can't see how someone can have so little self respect that they could have unfulfilled sex just to "feel something". I'd prefer someone do drugs than whore themselves in their past.

>>18445952
>What says a relationship is quality?
Accepting that your gf fucked a huge number of guys apparently.

>>18446346
Why can't people be sympathetic and understand that people are prone to weakness? Why do you think hookup culture is at an all-time high?

>>18445693
It all boils down to moral standards. I'm a girl and I struggled with depression too, but despite that I never resorted to fucking strangers or abusing drugs. I was brought up in a decent household and my own views on risky (and frankly speaking pointless) behaviours saved me from plunging into the filth. You were not a naive teenager when decided to jump on the dick carousel either, you must have been aware that your future partner might feel uncomfortable with this part of your past. Using suicidal tendencies and depression to justify actions stemming from your poor moral background is stupid. There are many people with much worse issues than depression who don't abandon their self respect and pursue regretful and destructive patterns of behaviour.

Some people are more conservative, other less. To me it sounds like your partner is a rather conservative person, and that's his right. Your right is to find someone who will love you despite your potential shortcomings. I don't think there's a way to change the way he feels about you, unless it's just an issue of time : maybe he just needs some space and time to come to terms with this revelation. But if not, then I think you should call it quits and look for someone more understanding and open-minded.

>>18446420
>Accepting that your gf fucked a huge number of guys
...at the same time.

>>18446421

Stop replying and just report the trolls.

>>18446402
I guess my market value is higher than yours then, since I never thought about marriage and relationships as a "market" and I still got myself a husband who adores me at an age men claim is too old for women. Your obsession is weird.

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>>18446427

>>18445693

You're gonna have to ignore all the trolls, but your thread is terminal. You're gonna have to try another time when they're gone.

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>>18446434
>people call out OP on slutty behavior
>ignore the trolls!11

>>18446430
Well, settling for the bottom 80 percent isn't an accomplishment.

>>18446424
>You were not a naive teenager when decided to jump on the dick carousel either, you must have been aware that your future partner might feel uncomfortable with this part of your past. Using suicidal tendencies and depression to justify
I wasn't. At the time I just didn't see myself living this long for it to matter. I was wrong.

>>18446421
>Why do you think hookup culture is at an all-time high?
Tell me

>>18446415
But anon, claiming a bf who stays with a raped woman or a girl who was molested/abuse a cuck is something that has already plenty happened on this board. What's the difference with someone mentally ill?

>>18446421
I never said I couldn't be sympathetic, why do you say that? I said man up to your own actions, fuck. I don't "hook up" with people, much less likely if I was ever "depressed", so I can't answer that last question. Yes I understand humans are fallible I never denied this.

>>18446452
>What's the difference with someone mentally ill?
She didn't eat dick cause she was depressed. She sucked a bunch of them at the same time because she literally didn't gave a fuck about her future. So she knew that she therefore can do what she wants. She KNEW what she was doing.
>At the time I just didn't see myself living this long for it to matter

An actual victim on the other hand never had the choice.

>>18446442

I don't see anyone calling out us men for being sluts. I've fucked my share of women and had 3 threesomes. Go ahead and call me a sluts. I am. So what?

>>18446421
Personally I'm fed up with weak people. We all have our problems and woes, but it doesn't mean that you can do stupid, reckless shit and be surprised when the consequences of your actions come to bite you in the ass.

Everyone today suffers from depression, anxiety, social issues, loneliness, ect ect. Some people really do, but the majority is just weak and spineless and uses whatever mental-illness related word at hand to justify their lack of personal integrity or even common sense.

Action = reaction. Why should I be compassionate towards self-aware adults who try to bypass one of the most natural laws of the universe?

>>18446450
Because people are weak and eager to have short term pleasure instead of long term lasting happiness. People are top scared to let people in emotionally and instead sacrifice their ability to bond with a steady significant other for cheap one night stands, fwbs etc. It all boils down to the same weakness. Lack of self control, patience and foresight.

>>18446430
>stayed a virgin until marriage

You are actually the exception that proves the rule. Virgins know nothing of the sexual marketplace. And that's the point.

>>18446460
You're a slut then. Congrats. That's all there is to it. You want a prize or something?

>>18446421
You came for advice on an issue no one can advise you on. Just explain why it's out of your hands and how in hindsight what you did was absolutely stupid even if for good reasons.

Secondly you're looking for sympathy but your boyfriend is the one that comes off as needing the sympathy.

Peoples greatest strengths can only become apparent in the face of weakness. You've come to a board where most people including myself were lost in a deep suicidal self pity / depression state of mind so your points of weakness is easily rebuffed as just worthless values since many of us experienced the same stuff
>Inb4 all depression is individual
Irrelevant in the circumstances we're talking about and quite honestly your excusing lust and lack of self control while depressed will rub people who went through similar ordeals up the wrong way.

>>18446460
Go and make a thread with the same premise as OP's then. See what happens. Besides slut is a gendered term no matter how people like you try to spin it.

>>18446460
That's the difference between a key which opens many doors and a lock which will be open to many keys.

Biology isn't fair.

>>18446459
I don't think any man who would call a girl raped as a child damaged goods. Anyone who says that about adult rape victim is likely assuming she's a lying slut.

>>18446457
Because you are acting like OPs depression is an excuse when it is an illness of the mind that, when not properly treated will lead the one dealing with it to resort to anything in order to treat it, sex addiction being one. OP said she owned up to it by explaining that if not for the depression, she never would have engaged in casual sex. But that's not good enough for you, no she was just a whore and needs to accept it.

>>18446465

I get plenty of prizes, in the form of pleasure you never get.

>>18446471
Eh, no. My wife would never have married me if I had whored around. Quality expects quality.

Lucklily for me I am scary ugly.

>>18446469

Why? I don't have her issue.

>>18446478
>I get plenty of prizes

Herpes doesn't count as a participation award anon

>>18446477
>sex addiction being one.
No. Only if you're also an addictive personality. depression on itself doesn't lead to addiction of any kind. It's a question of character.

>>18446460
Because you think it's an accomplishment doesn't mean most people don't just see you as a degenerate with an inability of self control.

>>18446460
See >>18446479
Zero quality women would marry you with your past. But in all reality you probably don't care about that anyway.

>>18446462
Because we are all human, and are trying to do better for ourselves anon. Weakness is not comparable, just like pain. Weakness is just weakness. It can happen to anyone.

>>18446448
>I was wrong

You sound like a very dramatic person. But anyway, what can be done now? You can assure your boyfriend that you're not like that anymore, show him you love him and care about him a lot. But in the end it's really up to him to decide on whether his feelings towards you have changed or not.

I know it's hard, but there are many people out there who won't care about your past or understand your motivation better than I or your bf do.

>>18446444
>being this butthurt at other people's happiness
You people really have no life.

>>18446480
Because you don't fall in love with women that have standards.

This whore should similarly find someone with equilvalant values.

>>18446482

Hey, it only shows up once in a while. Sure beats the prize one gets for trolling a forum. What reward is that, again?

>>18446480
All the responses are in the context of the thread yet you waltzed in here like a complete mongoloid, telling us you're a guy who has fucked a lot of chicks like it was relevant somehow.

>>18446484
Even a sex addict doesn't have to sleep with a lot of people. There's a TON of guys who would enjoy getting freaky regularly with a girlfriend. That's essentially the whole of fetlife's clientele from what I gather.

Women have no reason to be whores.

>>18446498
I dunno, but whatever it is, it sure must be good enough that you're here too. Shouldn't you be busy getting more sexual prizes?

>>18446487

I've already been there, done that. Don't make it so clear how inexperienced you kids are. It's more painful than my crabs.

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If my gf told me she had been pig-roasted in the past, I would probably never touch her again.

I hope you realize, you telling him was a HUGE insult to him. You basically told him "Hey I know you've saved my life in the past couple years and thanks for all that but I did some degrading shit to other dudes and you're not getting it. I wanted them more than I wanted you."

>>18446497

>You don't fall in love with women that have standards

Pot kettle. Don't project this hard.

>>18446504
As a female member of fetlife with my husbando dom I can confirm. Being a slut is great, if you're his personal and legal slut.

>>18446505

Now now, time and place. Some people actually make time to help people. I'd the concept so foreign to you?

>>18446491
I disagree. Sometimes weaknesses is justified and understandable, but not always.

It's a bit like a mechanism of natural selection: mentally weak people spiral into all kinds of addictions. It's sad, but it's not my place to coddle them and offer my compassion when at the same time I struggle with my own issues and manage to do well with being babied through life.

>>18446464
But anon, you people claim women over 30 have no value in this "sexual marketplace", virgins or not.

Also, even when I was a virgin I found the idea of rating people stupid, since what mattered and matters to me is that my partner only wants me and is as I want him to be. I never wanted someone who thinks like you do.

>>18446502

Oooo, looks like I hit a sensitive spot. Jealousy, is it? Because anyone that isn't entirely emotional right now can tell what it's in response to. Do calm down.

>>18446464
>>18446525
Also
>a virgin until marriage
Where did I say that? First we had sex, then we married.

>>18446519
Yeah, I guess me not agreeing with casual sex and hedonism makes me not want to help people.

You're right, I'm sorry herpes-anon, it wont happen again.

>>18446493
In premarital counseling, we were told that the fights you fight when you are dating will be the same fights you fight when you are 60, in varying degrees.

It's true. My gf and I would fight about how I was "mean." Now my wife and I fight about her ridiculous oversensitivity. Same fight more or less. I say things how I think them, and she doesn't like it. You either learn to live with it or walk away before "I do." Change happens sometimes, but fights are just glimpses into areas where you two differ. The only was around it is to try to see the positive of the issue. In mine: I'm married to someone whose major flaw is being too empathetic and delicate.

In OP's case, her bf tried to do this by thinking at least he could be with someone freaky, even though their morals and standards are fundamentally different. It was stupid because it's clearly a major area of the relationship (sex, God, money) which any therapist will tell you is likely not to change. But at least he's trying.

>>18446513
Actually read my posts. I've been fairly open about it.

>>18446530

I'm glad you understand that you can't help anyone.

>>18446515
But I'm sure you both discussed limits and expectations?

>>18446521
And who are you to determine the parameters of what justifies weakness? Everyone handles the same weaknesses differently, it's tailored to the individual. To just handwave someone's struggles off because their weakness doesn't seem that bad is apathetic and naive.

>>18446536

Yes, sweetie, I've noticed how openly you've been projecting. You don't need to point it out any further.

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>>18446525
>pic related

>>18445693
>depressend and suicidal
>"lets see how many cocks i can take!"

gg OP, you're a retard. Once a slut always a slut

You activated his disgust sensors in the nervous system. It's a visceral and primordial reaction. You can't talk him out of it any more than you could talk him out of being hungry or tired. Just settle for an alcoholic construction worker like every other slut has to.

>>18446546
>Roastie doesn't understand the meaning of projecting
>also thinks "sweetie" is somehow anything less than sexualizing a conversation with a married man
You roasties are all the same.

>>18446538
yep, only degenerates should help people; that's their goal anyway, make everyone as gross as them. Enjoy your herpes my dude

>>18446541
>not dating smokers because you hate the smell of smoke
UNFAIR UNFAIR UNFAIR

>>18446541
>Your moral standards and principles can't apply to me and shape your opinion of the person I am.
>it's tailored to the individual

Your comment is an oxymoron.

>>18446555

Why would you think I'm doing anything less than sexualizing the conversation? The inexperienced are so clueless.

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>>18446559
holy fuck, this

>>18446554
This. People with vices understand vices. People without are smart to stay away. Vice is contagious.

>>18446541
I'm free to decide whether, based on what I know, someone deserves my compassion or not. I'm not saying that my perception of a certain person and their issues is right; it's higly subjective. I have to be selective. Being understanding and supportive towards every single person with problems is not something possible for me, especially nowadays when every second person is a special snowflake.

>>18446557

So you're a degenerate like me? I appreciate all the help I can get to help others. Glad you're on my side.

>>18445693
What's in the past is in the past. He doesn't need to know about your sexual past just as you shouldn't know his. All that does is cause problems.

He needs to get over it and understand that he is all you want.

Don't let your past come back, don't be insecure. Always look forward to the future. Cheers.

>>18446569
what is sarcasm? but then again, this could be a post-ironic reply

>>18446572
Good advice for the next relationship.

If you love him, don't shatter the illusion with truth and expect it to be okay.

>>18446565

Only the most boring of people don't understand vice. They haven't experienced the world at all.

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>>18446575

Ooo! You're finally getting it! I'm so proud of you!

>>18446578
Justify your bullshit to yourself by claiming your opponents are essentially unenlightened. That's how all bullshit presents itself.

>>18446477
Yea basically, not good enough. There's a line between dealing your depression, and using it as a crutch for shitty behaviour. I can be depressed and still recognize that a certain behaviour will not help me. She could do a recreational sport, go outdoors, try a new hobby, start a project, reach new fitness goals, become a master shit poster on 4chan, all of these bring validation. But she choose to ride the cock carousel, not BECAUSE she's depressed, because was promiscuous at that time in her life and is using her depression to shift the blame from herself. She choose those actions, not her depression.

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>>18446578
>experience the world
>casual sex and threesomes

>>18446578
>Riding the cock carousel and bouncing in the pussy pit makes you an interesting person full of worldly experience
Sound advice.

>>18446594
>bouncing in the pussy pit

fuck me, that's funny, that's the first time I've heard of that one thanks anon

>>18446578
>>18446578
I understand vice. I just don't want it anywhere near me, especially not in my bed.

In general, I wouldn't recommend a virgin getting in bed with a crack dealer. People shouldn't get involved with people they don't want to turn into. People tend to merge together after 10-15 years.

t. Speaking from experience

>>18446590
That's how weak the depression made her. I don't know OP, but I know someone who has depression and it keeps him from going out of the house. He just stays inside and plays video games. That's how the depression is affecting him. Of course I wish he would do something more with his life but his depression has crippled him to the point that being a neet is all he can possibly muster to not kill himself.

>>18446601
Exactly. He could go out and be used by faggots on Craigslist. Does he?

>>18446603
this

>>18446587

Ah, but isn't that exactly what you're doing right now? Come on now, don't make a hypocrite of yourself in the same post. Rookie mistake!

>>18446593

Yes, and very enjoyable experiences, I might add.

>>18446594

Unfortunately, no. Not full.

I have a few others lined up for the next few months. I won't be full for a long time.

Then again, eating until you're full is generally not a good idea. I'll have to make sure not to fill up these girls after I eat them.

>>18446600

That's a personal choice, and I respect it. Everyone is welcomed to their preferences. However, you're no saint, my friend. Very dangerous claim.

>>18446606
>hedonism vs self-denial
/thread

>>18446603
My point is, we both want the same results from OP; that she had made smarter choices, but depression was a clear factor in her making those decisions and we can't control that. So why judge her?

>>18446613
>you're no saint
obviously as I'm not dead. But assuming my morality and experience is idiotic. I hold myself to high standards and expect the same of my mate. OP's bf sounds similar. If he had an equally shitty past, the only issue would then be that she waiting so long to tell him.

>>18446615
I'd argue it wasn't a factor and it being used as an excuse.

>>18446615
For OP's bf it's more a question of if he can accept that she's a slut.

>>18446615
>why judge her?
Because she put herself on a 4Chan board?

Is there ever need for another reason?

>>18446615
>why judge her

Why not? It's natural to judge other people.

>>18446615
Because this site is full of repulsive permavirgins who are butthurt that women aren't giving their pussies to them.

>>18446587
>>>18446606
Please present to me exactly where I claimed you're unenlightened and made an example out of myself? You're just spouting more bullshit to cover for yourself.

>>18446627
>t. salty roastie past her prime time

>>18446621
How is giving an explanation for bad actions now an excuse? Is it more acceptable to condemn a person as being slutty and simply unfit for stability and love than to be sympathetic to their plights and appeal to the same things that make us human, our weakness and ability to make mistakes and grow from it?

>>18446618

Not once did I assume your morality or your experience besides denying your sainthood, Friar Tuck. Your post is, however, putting words in my mouth, and you didn't ask permission to put anything in there. It's borderline rape!

>>18446632
>t. permavirgin butthurt at the truth

>>18446632
>t. Butthurt neet approaching wizardry

>>18446633
Because it's a bullshit explanation that she uses to absolve herself of guilt.

How about "I made poor choices when I was younger and slept around alot, I later realized that I did not enjoy living this life and have since changed." Whoaaaa pretty crazy huh

>>18446641
>>18446642
I'm still female and married to my dom, roastnons.

>>18446638
Kek. I did no such thing. I've lived my life in such a way that if I were Catholic I unironically may actually be candidate for sainthood. So really, your comment is retarded.

>>18446644
This would have been an acceptable explanation.

Still doesn't change that she shouldn't have brought it up. Should have been stated when they discussed past partners - which really should have happened before they ever slept together.

>>18446631

Now sit down. Take a deep breath. And wait for it.

You claimed I was justifying bullshit to myself, yet your post was justifying that people with vices understand vices. A wholly untrue statement, brimming with bullshit, being used to fuel a bullshit argument. The statement is totally meaningless.

I hope that didn't hurt so bad. Do be more careful next time, honey. Don't make claims you can't back up.

>>18446646
>I'm still female and married
What a coincidence, so am I. You're still full of shit.

>>18446644
Did you read OPs post. It's clear that this is implied in her words. Or does it not count because she's not saying it in the way you want her to? Depression makes people act in ways they never would normally.

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>>18446654
Whatever makes you sleep at night.

>>18446652
Actually, I claimed that vice understands vice.

Until you have been with an addict you will never really understands what that entails. I would never recommend someone with no experience choose a mate with serious addictive behavior. Granted, they'll probably do it anyway, but it's a very painful road.

>>18446648

You made a false claim, get called out, and call me retarded. That's adorable. You don't need to be so afraid of me from that corner you've backed yourself into that you spew words all willy-nilly. I don't bite.

>>18446655
Um no. That wasn't clear. It was very apparent to multiple Anons that she was making excuses for herself. And if we heard that, there's a chance OP's bf did too.

>>18446656
>can't even come up with a comeback
Now you're gonna reply with how much you don't care, kek

>>18446659
You literally sound like a crazy person and are mixing up multiple Anons.
>the Internet is not all one person

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>>18446661
>Now you're gonna reply with how much you don't care, kek
Actually, I already did.

>>18446657

You did, and it's not entirely true. And I agree that someone with no experience would be best off not meddling in the affairs of the experienced. I could spin that into an insult about how that means you should stop speaking to me, but I respect your post too much.

That said, not all vice understands all vice. If it did, the world would be a far more understanding place, as there are no innocents except some children.

>>18446660
>It was very apparent to multiple Anons that she was making excuses for herself

It was also apparent to many others she wasn't.

Is it possible her bf is an insecure loser like most males on this board? Yes Virginia, of course it is.

>>18446633
>Excuse; seek to lessen the blame attaching to (a fault or offence); try to justify.
>Depression; feelings of severe despondency and dejection.

Depression does not equate promiscuity and to give depression as the cause for it is to present depression as your reason for why you were promiscuous = using it as an excuse. It's really not a difficult concept. I have no issue with whether or not the woman was or is promiscuous. I do have an issue with depression being used as a "valid" excuse to undermine ones own principles regardless as to whether I see the value in the principle or not. I, as many others have also gone through severe depression and have often turned a crutch away purely because it didn't match our moral compass. To refuse acknowledgment of the strengths of that and place value and legitimacy in the weaknesses of "Giving in" is to spit further in the face of enduring hence the arguing. The argument here for half the people is no longer really applicable to the OP as this is a point within itself which OP has just managed to get in discussion. It's almost entirely irrelevant to OP now, she just happened to be the originating factor for this argument to come forward.

>>18446650
Wether or not she should have brought it up is a whole other situation, imo the past is the past and keep it that way.

>>18446655
I did read Op's post and I'll write it again, she's using a bullshit excuse to absolve herself from her actions. Look, this is an extreme example but, if I take meth wig out and beat my wife, is that OK and I am absolved of guilt because I was on meth and meth makes people act differently? No I not, the same for her. And I know your going to say "but she didn't choose to be depressed!". That's debatable, depression is a state of mind, she could have choose many things to self help her depresssion, my first choice would have been counseling. But hey, if you want a couple dicks in your life on the reg, that's fine to. But don't say the only reason you choose dick was depression and you wouldn't have done it otherwise.

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>>18446665
>pretends he doesn't care
>keeps replying because he needs to show just how much he doesn't care

>>18446652
I'm the one you're replying to. You've got me mixed up with this guy
>>18446657

>>18446660
Please explain to me, how is stating that depression was a factor in my bad actions is not as good as saying I made bad decisions in my past. It's a given that these decisions were bad either way. Do you not believe depression caused her actions?

>>18446662

You assume we're all the same people. Don't make me use the pot/kettle analogy again. It's getting very tiresome.

>>18446674
>Do you believe depression caused her actions?

No I dont.

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>>18446672
>you said you don't care, stop posting reee even although I keep the conversation going to lure you back

>>18446306
>>18446306
I have a decent imagination but what I thought she did was not even close to what she was actually into. She wrote a letter about the most extreme stuff. It was soul crushing to read. Not because I thought less of her but because what she thought about herself to make those awful self-destructive choices. I could never in a million years pictured her with an animal but it happened. Sex is just an act that can be washed off with the right amount of soap and water. She is not that person and I'm doing my best to keep her on the right path by helping her love herself.

>>18446674
>Please explain to me, how is stating that depression was a factor in my bad actions is not as good as saying I made bad decisions in my past

Please refer to >>18446670>>18446670

>>18446680
You sure took the bait, penis-having larper anon.

>>18446279
>Sorry to say that he might not be able to man up
It's not unmanly if he decides to leave the relationship, it just means he has standards and he sticks to them.

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>>18446681
>I could never in a million years pictured her with an animal but it happened. Sex is just an act that can be washed off with the right amount of soap and water. She is not that person and I'm doing my best to keep her on the right path by helping her love herself.

>>18446673

You do realize your post achieved nothing, right?

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>>18446686
>with
>an
>animal

>>18446681

She sounds like a lot of fun.

>>18446681
Wth, you are dating someone who had sex with an animal?

Jesus fucking christ, people have no self-respect or decency left.

>>18446689
It achieved pointing out the irrelevance of your rebuttal. I actually agree with my statement prior being relevant to the "Only vice understands vice". Just letting you know you're having one argument with two separate arguments.

>>18446681
Dog? Horse? Black man?

>>18446681

She's got my kind of kink. You've got a keeper.

>>18446685
T H I S

For some fucking reason, someone does gross sexual things and the hang up is on the PARTNER to get over it. FUCK NO NIGGA. ITS CALLED HAVING STANDARDS AND THEY CAN GO BOTH WAYS. FOR FUCK SAKE

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>>18446691
>AN
>ANIMAL

We're reaching levels of cuckery and degeneracy not even though possible

>>18446697

It's a shame you don't realize it, but I'll spell it out for you. You made an anonymous post linking two anonymous posts, claiming someone is not someone. Why should I believe or care?

>>18446704
I was pointing out a fact that you were having an irrelevant argument. Whether you give a shit about it or not is not my concern.

>>18446719

So you point things out that people don't give a shit about. I believe that's called arti...auti... It's on the tip of my tongue.

This thread didn't deserve 340 replies.

>>18446741
OP's boyfriend didn't deserve to have a whore as a girlfriend, but here we are

>>18446729
I pointed it out for valuing the fact. It didn't mean I valued your opinion on the matter. Sadly though I suppose most people don't stand out as such a gigantic idiot as yourself so cannot always be sure they're replying to the same person on an anonymous board.

>>18446741
It's purely because the thread derailed into multiple arguments all loosely related to the OP.

>>18446673
This poster is confused, Anon. Trying to reason with emotional women is pointless.

>>18446741
OP didn't deserve to have a 4chan loser as a boyfriend, but here we are

>>18446760
But it's OP who is the 4chan loser, and a slut too.