Stuck lying about attraction

>>18440952
Why do you need to confess? Just keep it quiet, it's a collaborative lie, you both obviously find other people attractive but saying you don't is shorthand for 'I'm committed to you'.

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>>18440952
Nah man that happens to literally every guy. You aren't different. That being said dont say it because while we all appreciate someone else's looks we certainly don't fucking spout our opinions on them in front of our partners.

You can look at the menu, but you just cant order. And no point in saying to your gf that someone else's meal looks good.

>>18440958
I'm not sure if she finds it as obvious that I find other people attractive, which might make her feel like she's perpetually lying non-collaboratively and we know what lies do to relationships. The atmosphere has been kind of poor lately and I think that this font of guilt and self-betrayal might be the reason for it, which is why I feel the need to talk to her.

besides, secrecy enhances passion so her attraction to some dude might grow out of proportion as a result and I really don't want that.

>>18440952
There's nothing wrong with that. I'm in a committed relationship and wouldn't leav her for anyone but I find other people attractive on a daily basis.

Do you mean you want to leave her for these people? If you think you should talk about your attraction to other people, mention it to her. Straight up. Tell her you need to talk.

>>18440952
Your relationship is built on lies anon.

Relationships work because you make them work. It doesn't matter if you're a 40/10 or a damn 2.5/10 or who throws themselves at you. We all tell white lies when we love someone, because sometimes lies just make life a little easier.
But, if you're a miserable horndog and think flings or a new relationship would cure that, do eet.

Op if the atmosphere has been poor lately it's probably best not to jump to conclusions about why but instead to ask her what's wrong, that she seems (uncomfortable/down/stressed) lately and ask if there's anything you can to help. if u lead in with finding other girls attractive and it turns out she's worried/upset about something else it's gonna be an awkward conversation for sure.
But if it is the exclusive attraction thing make sure to make it clear to her why she's the only one for you (if she is). On top of her good looks, she's kind, caring, a great partner and whatever it is that makes her your number one. Tell her about a great memory you guys have together or something specific you like about her.
It seems to me like something else might be bothering her though, op, so be prepared for that possibility too.