How do you become happy, and stay happy

>make a goal
>achieve it
>look for another

as you fail and succeed youll learn alot about yourself, eventually ending up doing what you really like

most depressed ppl are depressed because they dont know themselfs and keep wanting what others have, they cant obtain it because they arent motivated enough to do so since its not their destiny, children and young adults are especially vulnerable to this if their parents ignored them or forced them into something they dont like

Bump for interest

>>18440713
Think better thoughts. What do you think happy people think about? Make the best out of every situation.

>>18440713
Look up tony Robbins on YouTube.

>>18440796
wishful thinking is actually bad, only ppl who dont have mental issues say that
>>18440858
youtube is trash, younglings shouldnt visit it for lifechoices

>>18440878
Wish full thinking? No, what ever you think you believe. If you think something is hopeless then you will love cecyou life that way. Change your perception and you will change your life. What I gather from your post. Is your a pessimist who thinks chamfering your out look is just "wishful thinking" how's that working for you dude? Have a great life full of enjoyment? No I wonder why.

peter singer talks about happiness a lot- he's spent decades trying to figure out how to live ethically and make the world the happiest place it can be. one thing he said that rocked my world was that there are 2 definitions of happiness. the first definition is the state of pleasure that comes and goes in response to stimuli, and this form of happiness is ethereal and unable to be attained through conscious effort. The better definition, according to singer, is how you feel about how well your life has gone so far, and how well it seems it will continue to go.

someone who is setting goals and achieving them experiences about the same amount of the first definition of happiness as any other person does, due to the homeostatic nature of neurochemistry. however, this person, having achieved the goals they have set, feels good about how well their life is going. this is the only real kind of happiness, and can only be obtained by living in a way that you feel is "good", and accords to your own set of values.

>>18441149
to elaborate, if you believe that you are living according to your own values and yet remain unhappy in an overall sense, it is likely that you have not figured out what your intrinsic values are, and are instead trying to live according to the values of others, or possibly values that you may rationally conceive but do not actually line up with the unique unconscious values that you hold.