How do you get over daddy issues as an adult?

Are you a femanon? Just release your pent-up sexual frustration by fucking your father's brains out. I'm sure he won't mind.

>>18437445
I'm not and he's dead.

Congratulations on channeling all your personal insecurities of having failed as a man into blanket hatred of the entire female sex, though. 10/10 coping mechanism, I admire you as a person.

>>18437448
If you are a male with "daddy issues" you should spend more time in gay bars.

>>18437459
Okay.

So calling people gay on 4chan is the way to go about it?

>>18437496
Good work at throwing insults at anons op. Work more on your communication skills.

What do you mean by
>daddy issues
? Also stating your gender and age helps somewhat. Also why does it bother you?

>>18437501
>throwing insults at anons

If you missed it, he was the one who started it.

I'm 23, male, dad died when I was 17 and I'm glad he's dead but I still don't know how to behave around other men.

Dad solved this problem by avoiding them altogether and spending his entire life surrounded by women who'd enable and pamper him but unlike him, I'd actually like to have friends.

>>18437507
>started it
Maybe you are 23, but mentally stucked at teens levels. Try to behave more like an adult and next time dont feed trolls on the internet.

Fighting on internet is like playing paralympics. Even if you win, you are still retard.

>unlike him, I'd actually like to have friends
I am afraid you need to elaborate on this more. Do you know boys and man are also part of human race? Being polite and respectful works everytime. Just maybe learn how to take banter. The more stupid classes of "manly man" know only how to insult each other in playful manner like that anon did. But even then gentelman exist.

Still at your age you are probably out of school so instead of friends you want to look for coleagues and girlfriend to start family with.

>get a job and gf?

>>18437532
I'm afraid I have zero intention to "be the bigger person" and take shit from retards on the internet.

I already have a job (not a white collar guy but never had the interest to roll papers in an office anyway) and I have no interest of any kind of putting up with women. If I wanted sex I'd buy a prostitute, and I don't want sex.

>>18437547
>no interest in women
>I don't want sex
I am not sure where does your kind spawn or comes from, but it is getting kinda funny. Maybe the combination of estrogens, fluoride, antiperspirant silver, plastic and boom of porn is making all boys today like you. Not interested in girls. Try no porn no fap for few weeks.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

So what for do you want friends for? So far you sound just like another master baiter. What exactly is your problem? And how do you deal with males (there has to be a lot of them since you do something manual blue collar) at your job?

>>18437560
I don't watch porn and I don't masturbate. Besides, if I have the option to avoid women, why would I go out of my way to create a problem I don't have?

We don't work in teams. I've solved the problem by taking my breaks on different times than everyone else and bringing a book to the coffee room.

>>18437568
>23
>don't masturbate
I would suggest you to see doctor. There might be something wrong with you or you simply lie a little. Either hormones or your upbringing. Sure your puberty might have ended, but you shouldnt be able to function properly after 7 days of no cum. Arent you fat or something? Stress too much? Depression? Lonely?

So far you sound like very anti friendly person. The sole fact you ACTIVELY AVOID any social contact with your coworkers suggests that you lack some basic knowledge of socialization. Nobody should be this big introvert.

Do you even have somebody to talk to? And why do you think girls are problems only? How much redpill have you read so far? Do you know it is all joke right?

>>18437580
I wasn't diddled as a kid and I didn't masturbate before I started drinking and smoking, either.

I'm 135 pounds with a full stomach and perfectly healthy, save that I apparently have low bilirubin levels though neither me nor my shrink know what that means, exactly.

And not knowing how to behave was the exact goddamn reason why I made this thread. Out of work I usually just let the situation escalate and hope that going to jail for killing a manlet wasn't on that guy's to-do -list. Usually it works but it's not a way to make friends.

I don't want a girl for the same reasons I don't want a horse. I don't want to spend all my time and money on some expensive, stupid animal I want nothing to do with.

you need a male figure in your head, grandpa, uncle, friends dad, a friend, someone you look up to, do shit togather, someone you are close to
if you are an adult then you are an adult, it wont replace the lack of dad, but it will make it better

>>18437624
I'm too old to have people to look up to. I know everyone is a slimebag deep down.

>>18437624
Most male figures/ role models suck. Unless they're some celebrity that you can set abstract qualities to from lack of knowledge, guys aren't even men anymore. What is "manly" without any negative connotation?

In my 25 years of living, there hasn't been a single worthy role model to base my life around; not my father(drinks, smokes, beats kids and wife), not my uncle(deadbeat drink smoker), nor any guys I've come across from school or work or selling drugs, for that matter. Lots of older guys like to doubletalk and never get to the point and it makes it disgusting that these guys who swear they're tough and have been for years are actually just holding up a mask until they die.

What is a man, other than the new wife?

>>18437614
It is amazing how you manage to type so many words and SO LITTLE about your life. Dude, i am trying to (hopefully) help you, but you are super defenzive.

My first three advices:
>stop smoking
Really, being addicted to mild poison called nicotine and getting free lung cancer and other funny health effects isnt worth it. Also it is expensive.
>stop alcohol
Alcohol is super dangerous drug. I bet you are drinking alone to curb away bad feelings. Simply dont. Got hooked on alcohol is super easy.
>read this
http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation
All of it. Go to lunch with your coworkers. Even sitting there listening to their newest memes is better than nothing. Try asking them about their lives. People love to talk about their troubles and interests. Supress any thoughts about telling them
>you are pathetic
>offering solutions for their troubles
And brush off any insults they throw at you with indeferent poker face.

>situation escalate
What do you mean? Wtf does that mean?

>i dont want horse
With your current mentality i bet nobody want to hang with you anyway. What exactly are you doing with your life (save for gaining lung cancer and waiting for death)?

What do you do for fun? And no, drugs dont count.

>>18437632
>slimebag
I start to feel you are super jaded. Why is that? How much have you been bullied at school? And why do you think you are manlet? Is this your source of mental problems?

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>>18437632
>I know everyone is a slimebag deep down.
don't cut yourself with that edge, kid

>>18437657
I started smoking to quit cutting because that shit is too childish and girly. It gives relief the same way and doesn't leave marks for other people to look at.

I know alcoholism isn't fun, it killed my dad and my granddad (in that order, too, the old motherfucker outlived two of his three kids) and it's already gotten me problems at work and life. I fully expect to die from it and I'm not seeing what else to do.

When it comes to fun, no, I don't have it. If I'm not at work or drinking, I'm wishing I was drunk. I've tried weed but I don't like what it does. I have no access to other drugs.

I read, sometimes, and I've been trying to write a book forever but to be perfectly honest I don't like that, either. It's pulling teeth.

I don't like my co-workers because they're all aggressively boring and think they're special. There are some guys there I'd honest to god like to punch in the face just to get them to shut the fuck up.

I got bullied as a kid for being unaware of my autistic traits and I guess not being as socially aware as the others. I was constantly losing my stuff and never done my homework and my parents didn't realise I wasn't apparently taking care of my personal hygiene so I got picked on for being stupid and smelling bad. To be perfectly honest if I met 9-year-old me now I'd probably kick him in the teeth.

I'm now overly self-conscious of hygiene and one of the reasons I smoke is to mask any potential other smell. If I'm going to smell like something I'd rather I know what it is.

I don't even know if "jaded" is the right word anymore. I've just settled on hating everyone equally.

By because ng your own independent person with your own goals and ideas.

>>18437507
Your dad sounds awesome.

>>18437707
Wow you really have no self-control or self-discipline. Do you?

>>18437707
Wow. Now i feel bad. But hey, your life is full of shit. You are old enough to realize what is wrong with it in order to fix it. But the sad truth is you dont care.

Why are you on /adv? Did r9k or b sent you here? Is there some piece of hope inside your broken soul? Or is your bloodline deemed to fail in dead end with you? I wish there exist some godtier advice for people like you, but sadly, there is none.

You are in bad spot and you need hard work in order to climb out from it. In 1~2 year you could be different person entirely. But you have to want it first.

Seriously dude, you made me sad. You dont even sound you want help, nor hug. Why are you here? You mentioned you would like friends, but to do so you need to stop hating yourself first.

Why are you here?

>>18437715
He was a prissy, spoiled, narcissistic cunt but you two can have that in common.

>>18437717
None. I'd probably be fat if I didn't drink.

>>18437732
I promised mom that I won't kill myself while she's alive so I have to figure out some way to make life tolerable enough to outlive her.

>>18437744
How can parents fail so spectacularly they have to force their kids to promise such a thing? And if she made you promise to have children, would you find some slut only to repeat the cycle of misery all over again or would you take note of your parents shortcomings and be better daddy?

Your reason to be here or even live is shit. Find better reason. How long do you expect her to live anyway?

>have you had sex?

>>18437759
She made me promise after the last time I failed to do it. My aunt killed herself when I was little and my grandma went thoroughly crazy (she's been like that all my life, I have no memory of her ever being sane) and mom said she'll go the same way, and I don't want her living like that.

I've had sex before and I'll be happy if I never have to do it again.

>>18437790
Ok, you have won.

Your dna is clearly defective, your whole family is crazy and almost all mental disorders are heritable.

You have my permission to kys. Train is super fast and cant fail. Just put your head on trails.

>i hope this is the advice you wanted

>>18437807
I'm sorry I'm not easy to help.

>>18437838
Dont be sorry. You dont want to recieve help. One of my generic advices are
>dont be afraid/ashamed of reaching and recieving others help
but that doesnt work when you have given up or think you dont deserve any.

I just hope you will realize you want something more from life than this before it will be too late to salvage it all.

>>18437867
Then how do I make myself want to receive help?

Well, you seem to want to get help now so that's a start.

It seems like you have a shit ton of mental scars and self esteem issues to work out, but don't think it's impossible or you're some genetic defect or whatever.

I'm no expert, but getting therapy is litteraly a better option than stewing up in self-hate and anger all day everyday.

>>18438015
I'm seeing a psychiatric nurse who's overseeing that I take my meds. I just don't know how to start with any of this, every time I open my mouth they'll find some way to make it sound like nothing at all. They think I'm fine.

>>18438034
>they
Who?

Tried getting psycholog?

>>18438273
I have. The psychologist thought I'm fine.

>>18437707

This all reads like OCD, OP.

Not a shrink, but I'd look into it.

t. OCD anon who wonderfully climbed out of the neet hole.

>>18439330
Oh, I've heard a lot about OCD and I don't think that's it. I don't have any compulsive urge to do pointless shit.

>>18437435

You're gonna have to do what I did, become your own idealized role model.

My father sucked. He was a deadbeat, tried to get back into my life when he was sick, then died last year. I didn't even hear about his death until 3 and a half months after he died. He died a loser, who didn't know how to be a father, and wasn't there when I needed someone.

Be your own father. Teach yourself the things you needed to know. Learn these things so that a younger generation doesn't have to suffer the same as you. The only one who can solve the issues in this case is you. Become the man you wanted your father to be.

>>18437653
I would guess most dudes hate your ass.

Op, it is vital as a man to learn, interact with, and have fun with other men. Having daddy issues is for women. You are a man, or a man-child with the potential to be a man. You have to learn certain things in order to be the best man you can, and your guy friends will help you in the best way possible. Not only that, you won't be a pussy around women anymore. You've got to find your man tribe. Go to places where men meet. Car shows, Kickboxing and bjj gyms, sports bars, meetup groups, etc. and get to know your gender.

Whenever I hear a man that has trouble making friends with men I also imagine that he can't fuck women either because he's so dependant on the woman for everything she doesn't become fuck buddy but bestie that you chat with about her asshole boyfriend. She secretly does this because she believes you're the gay best friend that will never fuck her.

>>18439830

There's so much projection in this post, it's mortifying.

>>18439830
I'm too terrified to go into male spaces. Just going to a public bathroom I have to brace myself for a fight just in case someone decides to pick a problem with me. Any situation where men outnumber women my anxiety goes through the roof.

I don't want to fuck women. I don't want anyone touching my genitals, at all, ever.

>>18437496
Hahahaha
>>18437532
fuck off, you're actually the one that got blown off

>>18439992
sounds more like I hit a nerve.

>>18437653
ppl are not perfect, my dad drinks and cheated on my mother, doesnt like to work and have screwed up views but his ability to fix shit, be confident and get through life with a sense of humor inspired me to be more than a raging manchild, pick the things you like, drop the ones you dislike

>>18440856
My dad's only redeeming quality was outstanding mathemathical intelligence. I didn't inherit that.