How Do I Stop Watching Porn?

>>18428946
It's not hard dude just don't be a bitch, if I can quit the H cold turkey anybody can quit anything

shouldn't have married the first landwhale who crossed your path
classic turbovirgin mistake

>>18428946
You can wank without watching porn you fucking degenerate.

>my wife is rarely in the mood (she was sexually abused and raped as a child).

Bullshit excuses to avoid giving you what you deserve. Go and hook up with some chicks in a club or something.

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>>18428948
this anon knows what's up

>>18428947
Grats and thanks
>>18428948
>>18428969
4th woman I've been with.
>>18428966
>sexual trauma is an excuse and not a psychological obstacle
Thank you doctor
>>18428949
Tried it, it always leads to fantasizing and eventually porn

Close your eyes when you fap.
Problem solved.

You have a fucking family to take care of. They need you and love you and look up to you. You have a reponsibility to them that can't be put off or neglected, because that's what you're doing everytime you look at porn.
That's you admitting you're not fucking capable of being there for your family, unless you find a way to change that.

>>18428946
I stop watching porn when I have a gf. otherwise I'm too visual of a person and can't hold together an imaginary scenario before I start thinking about some stupid shit like how an angle would work while I'm fucking this girl and start doing what essentially would be like collision detection between our bodies in my head, or suddenly I just lose control of the construct and now there's like a trex or some shit there or we're suddenly in the middle of a crowded freeway. I can't fap to my imagination I just end up lost in my head, so porn it is. but I tend to not even think about porn when I have a gf though. actual sex is actually satisfying and it's right there so why would I need porn?

>>18429028
Thanks for the gut check. I need a way to constantly remind myself of this.

>>18428946
You have to get rid of your smartphone and computer is the only real way.

My husband has the same issue as you do and I honestly resent him so much for it because he is deaensitized from real sex because of his addiction.

You are awesome for wanting to cut your habit. Porn is something that can destroy a marriage and family if you let it, so don't let it. Get rid of your devices and get some hobbies that don't include going on the Internet. You'll feel a lot better.

>>18428946
Read comics, watch tv shows, try to learn to play an instrument, a musical instrument, you always wanted to play.
Just fill your porn time with other activities, negative reinforcements are good when you feel the urge to watch porn.

>>18428946
gross maybe your wife is ugly as fuck

>>18428946
Fix your wife, like with a therapist, fuck sakes you had a kid with her, that's enough trusting for her to understand you love her and wouldn't want to hurt her while having sex.

>>18428949
This, its harder but at teh same time its better to see what your brain can come up with without an instant stimulus. You'd be surprised how much harder you think when you jack without porn.

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Some ideas off the top of my head:

When I went through boot camp I didn't once have even the slightest desire to think or do anything sexual. Being in a rigorous and stressful environment where you constantly are required to be at your absolute best has a way of focusing the mind. Is there anything you can do to set up a similar environment/mindset in your life?

Remember back when you were a kid and you didn't want anything to do with romantic things because it was icky, "girls have cooties", etc.? Maybe try to get in touch with your inner child and tap into that lack of wonder/straight disdain of these kinds of things. What piqued your interest in those days? Focus on that and why you were so obsessed with it.

As a last resort you can try to imagine what a close male friend/family member would look like if they were female, as a sort of "cognitive therapy" way of logically convincing yourself that sexual attraction is irrational because there's no reason to be attracted to one or the other aside from the fact that we're hardwired to be so. Although this could backfire depending on how unorthodox your fetishes are.

I'm in a similar position as you OP. It's taken me awhile to acknowledge and my addiction, though sexual in nature, has a different fixation (mutual masturbation over Snapchat lul)

1. Recognize the stress and shame. It's important.

2. Recognize what you like about porn. It's likely that in doing this you'll realize what the deeper fixation is.

3. Realize that both of the above are just reflections. They are not concrete strategies to change your behaviour. Rather, speculation and theory of the above sort is useful in explaining and charting the recovery from a dismal behaviour.

~So here are the practical tips~

4. Realize what your triggers are (what situations tend to draw you to porn, what 'state-of-mind' are you most likely to fap in? Recognition is key)

5. Come up with a concrete strategy to fight these urges. I'm personally a big believer in meditation; I've found that whenever I'm tormented with a particular thought I can meditate my way out of it. What's meditation? For me, it just means focusing on my breath. It's actually really difficult to do when your dicks hard thinking about Asa Akira or something, but the point is to realize that thoughts are ethereal, and that no thought has any superiority over another; The effect of a thought reduces to what our brain does with it

6. Be objective with yourself: Imagine what sort of advice you'd give to someone in your situation. Because you have a desire to change and have a sense of resilience and willpower (in every domain but this one, apparently), you'll be able to give yourself advice. It's about developing conscientiousness

Also: Try talking to your pastor about what lust means. I'm Muslim (lul) so obviously I don't think this sort of strategy depends on your specific religion. Nevertheless, situating thoughts in a conceptual framework is a major key to success (what's the relationship between porn and lust, and the state of the soul?).

>>18429799
Oh, and you'll probably have to hit rockbottom at some point and be confronted with the fear of God at your actions. For me, this took the form of a 17 year old adding me on Snapchat, sending me nudes, and then not telling me her age until it was already too late. Thankfully, I'm 19 so I'm not legally fucked (not sure if I would be if I was 22+, anyways; She was the one to initiate contact and didn't tell me her age until after. Furthermore, I had good reason to assume she was 18+. Any advice on this? I have felt very stressed about having so narrowly dodged the v&-bullet.)

>>18429711
>Read comics
>Watch TV shows

You're a fan of the Big (N*gger) Bang Theory aren't you??

>You Slåmpa. He wants help for a none issue not turned into a retard.

>>18428946
>Try not to feel shame afterwards, I am too reliant on porn. I've read that shame self enforces the need for it.
>Ignore the dried up roastie who talked of porn like it was meth or heroin. Try masturbating per day or every two days, obviously when your sun is either asleep or not home.

Dog is your wife okay? Is she super needy, which I guess is understandable considering what she has been through...

>You seem stressed out. Maybe start going to the gym?