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I'm starting to really hate myself and want to change. I've gotten some bad thoughts recently and I don't want to end up offing myself.

I'm 18 and in university. No relationships. Never been in one or done anything with a girl.

I'm really boring. I have no hobbies or interests. I spend almost all my free time on 4chan, reddit, youtube, netflix, and pornhub. I don't even enjoy these anymore, but they've just become an addiction, especially porn and masturbating, and reddit.

I never study and procrastinate whenever I have exams.

I get stressed very easily, and anxious, and over think situations. I've been meaning to get a haircut for 2 months, but whenever I go to the barber I panic and leave.
I don't go to parties or hang out with friends often. I barely see my friends since university started and I haven't made any new ones.

I never deal with my issues. I'm changing universities because I don't really like what I study, but I'm swapping to basically the same degree so I think I'm just pushing the issue further down the road.

I never do anything interesting. I stay at home and spend my free time on my laptop doing useless things.

I work a shitty job 8 hours a week, go to university 4 days a week, and do nothing in the other time.

I hate who I am. Feelings of sadness and helplessness keep coming up and I don't want to end up depressed(if I'm not already) or some loser 40 y/o virgin. I don't want to be a creep or have no friends or spend my life alone.

I'm going to start by cutting down the porn and youtube/reddit/4chan. NoFap seems like it has brought people happiness. I'm looking into gym memberships in my area as well.

What do I do to fix this? How do I change?
What hobbies do I pick up?

I'm not looking to be rich or fuck girls. I just want to be happy with myself.
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>>18423095
I've been where you are, and let me start saying that you need to set priorities in your life

What is your main goal now?
Seems to me that university is your primary objective here. Study more, dedicate your time to it. Do good on your tests. I know it isn't easy at first to switch from 8 hours of straight porn-youtube-4chan to study and books, so you'll do it gradually.
The human mind is like a laptop. If you charge it all the time, one day the battery won't work anymore. Your brain is the battery. If you simply put information on and on 24/7 from 4chan, reddit, youtube and don't exercise it, you'll go dumb. Been there, done that.
So you are going to start by changing your habits. Tomorrow, instead of browsing 4chan all day, dedicate 1 hour to your studies. It can be at any time of the day, but it'll have to be 1 hour. It's the fist goal you need to reach.
And then, after tomorrow, you'll do the same again. Once you develop the habit of studying for an hour, make it 2 hours and so on. Train your brain.

Exercise. At least twice a week. Your body functions better, your mind works better, everything gets better when you exercise. Go to a gym or start swimming, these 2 are the best ones for you. If you don't like them, go for a competitive sport. You'll make friends and have a new healthy hobby instead of virtual thrash.


Read.
Seriously, read more. I study civil engineer and the lack of books in my course has diminished my vocabulary a lot. A well read man is an interesting man and a sharp one. Do you want to introduce yourself like "huh hey guys i'm anon" or like a real man?
Also, i'm telling you to read, not watch graphic avengers. The lowest you can go is reading the lord of the rings, which is a great piece of work, but still fantasy content. Read the art of war - sun tzu, understand the bible, read history books and try to understand the world you live in.

Follow these steps and you'll be a new man
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No porn. Just stop watching it, jerk off if you have to but don't make it a thing. And get on wellbutrin or something if you want because you are depressed and there is no reason not to treat it.
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>>18423095
occupy your time anon

the only reason you spend your time on the internet's shitholes is because you do nothing
Join a book club, start playing chess, learn a new language, study on your uni's library. Go out, talk to people. Fill your life with good content for you

You ain't addicted to these, you simply don't know anything but it. If you try NoFap at home doing nothing it'll only cause harm for you. Start playing tennis, meet new people, understand the nfl and talk to some guys about it, when you think about it you'll realise it's been a week since you last watched porn and there you go, you are one step closer to changing your life

it's easy, you can do it
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>>18423095
Changing things can take a long time. I mean you should work to change your life but don't say "If I achieve these goals I'll be happy!". Don't think them as things that you should already have. Instead see them as things that you are working towards. Be happy of small steps and don't be too harsh on yourself for not changing instantly.
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>>18423095
What I find good when not feeling like studying is to drink coffee. I find myself doing productive things when I prefer to procrastinate.
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>>18423204

Thanks for taking the time to write that man. It actually means a lot.

University seems like the main goal at the moment and studying is the big part of that.
I could also join societies once the next semester starts to try and get out more.

I'll start with exercise tomorrow, although it wont be much,I found a beginner body weight routine online.

I'll also look into reading more. I used to do it a lot, but the last few years I haven't read much. I've been wanting to read Crime and Punishment for a while now so I might actually start it tonight. I know it isn't history/religious but I don't have anything else at the moment, but I've heard it is very good.
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>>18423311

I'll make sure not to do that and try to celebrate the little victories. I know this will be a long road, but I know my current lifestyle is making me feel like crap and I desperately want to change for the better.
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>>18423226

I'll try to join societies at my new university and try to start gym as soon as I can to get outside.

I've always wanted to try learn a second language and DuoLingo seems good so I'll start there I think for that.

Thanks for the advice man, I really appreciate it.
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