She said they never hooked up, but they did

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Okay guys, I feel my shit is complicated. Maybe I won't meet many people here who feel they can weigh in with something.

Anyways.....

So I am seeing this girl, I work abroad for a living, and she works and lives in her home country.
We go from having met on exotic holiday to talk alot, to start dating (LDR). My work life causes me to have lots of braintime (=concoct all the stupid ideas), and so some time after we started "dating" the idiot gear kicks in (quote!). Now she tells me about past lovers and all that, it's okay. There is though one which was just a fling when she was young 10years ago.
No sex just oral and intimacy, fine I feel insecure compared to him, and she gives me shit for giving a fuss about her past. Fine we move, she still talks with him from time to time, we share it and in short I feel he is still trying to get with her.
Cut past alot of drama where I bring him up, she says he is nothing but a fling from 9y ago and I'm stupid for thinking anything more.
She told him recently she has a bf and she won't meet with him.
I accept their friendship, because sure why not. He seems like a standup guy and all that.

So just very recently she told me in a night of alcohol and 110%honesty that after our exotic meet but before we made commitment she had naked video chat with him - okay okay I knew she liked to voyeur, no biggie.
And then she told me oh no, she also ran into him a few years ago and they had sex a few times and it was good, no mistake.

Okay, this collide with all the time she explicitly told she never traded pictures with him, she never had sex with him. Shit I sensed and asked about many times....
She told she only had sex with someone she is love with etc...

So tell me please, how am I supposed to react. I hate how she gave me hell for focusing on him, even though I was technically right, but at the same time I know she means it when she says she wants to be with me, forever...

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