Friendzone

>impossible
you + her = relationship

>>18414675

>she knows im into her and said nothing

have you asked her to say anything? if you want closure you will likely have to insist upon getting it. unless she straight up ignores you and walks away, but that is an answer its self, really.

girls are not video games. there is not some special buttons you can press to guarantee an outcome. there isn't going to be this epihphany moment where all these feelings for you suddenly surface. if they existed they'd already be there.

the only way to escape the friendzone is to stop being her friend.

You can't go straight from friendzone to a romantic relationship, unless you're fine with the possibility of breaking the entire friendship all together. It requires a transition, and its not easy.

>>18414691
I think I might try to insist. But I don't want to ruin our friendship in the case she rejects me either. She is really important for me.

And I was just being humorous with the videogames reference.

>>18414700
Yes, I'm allready into that "transition phase", I think. We've gotten much closer recently. That's why I have hope. But maybe I'm mistaken and I'm just getting deeper and deeper into my role of "big brother" figure. This worries me greatly.

>>18414675
Beat your insecurity out of a tree. I had a similar occasion with a friend of mine for four years, she knew I liked her but I never really told her openly. She is married now and I don't talk to her anymore. Sometimes I wonder what really attracted me do much ab her. But you should tell her openly or move on. Don't be sentimental about it. Be forward. But I know it will be really hard to do cuz you have kept asking for this situation yourself. Dude open your eyes. She is using you and you are acting as a douche. Fuck her man, or literally fuck her.

>>18414675
Why is no one man enough to ever cut contact with these people. You go to the casino, lose $300, and think if you keep playing you will win back your $300? Wrong. Odds are you will end up 1 grand in the hole because you didn't walk away.

Let me give you some advice OP, Chad is smart enough to walk away from the table

>>18414675
You need to disassociate the projections of your ideal girl that you've made on her before you can make any real progress.

You're doing it wrong OP, you must be willing to sacrifice your friendship for a relationship that might not even happen at all.

Ask her out and explain, directly, that you have romatic interests in her and procceed according to her reaction, 99.9% sure she will suggest staying as friends, you must reject this and make a stand, I think you might have a better shot by stating that friendship does not only not get in the way of a relationship but it actually enhances it... I don't know, do what your gut tells you but remember you got one shot you better make it count.

>>18414675

>She knows I'm into her and said nothing.

This should tell you all you need to know about the outcome.

>>18414725
>Yes, I'm allready into that "transition phase", I think.
No you got it wrong. You're still the same person from her perspective.

First breaks off all contact entirely, its time to reinvent yourself. You'll need to add physical attributes that she looks for in a partner, Hit the gym buy expensive clothes whatever, you probably knows about her taste more than anyone else.
At around 3 weeks or more she'll start missing you in her daily life, (which is a very important step to break friendzone). And hopefully by this time you have transformed yourself to look like an ideal candidate. Then just ask her out and pray.

>>18414675
Another advisor here,

If I were in your situation, I would ask her to come with me to a quite place where I'm alone with her and ask if she likes me.

You bringing her to a place to ask somethig makes everything much more serious looking. That helps because you want to seriously know if she likes you or not.

Well here it comes, the stuff most men hate:

If she doesnt like you, you have 2 options, very hard options:

Option 1: stop being friends and move on, ofcourse you will find another girl you'll like and maybe even easier to get!

Option 2: she says she doesnt like you, but you stay friends, control your emotions you have to do it like a pro, act like the friend you always was, she will get new boyfriends in the future and it might hurt you, she might choose boyfriends that do stupid things you would never do, they maybe even hurt her, insult her. And thats where uou come in, when she falls you help her stand up again, this time you try to act less friendly but very, very slowly act more like a boyfriend and not like a friend, you do boyfriendish things like ask her to walk with her outside for fun, or ask if you could help with something that only 2 people could accomplish, but let me say this again! Do this very slowly, too fast and she thinks your being silly.

Thats my peice of mind, I wish you luck.