hey /adv/ my life is kind of in shambles to outsiders it seems

ok, answer me this.

if you woke up tomorrow and all your problems have magically dissapeared, how would you notice?

>>18411779
Get your shit togather. Help your parents, and try working. Then you'll see why college is better than work with no degree :)

>>18411797
my bank account would be loaded

my back wouldn't hurt

i wouldn't be diabetic

i'd feel normal while sober i guess

kind of an odd question to be quite honest familia

>>18411802
i'm trying anon, trust me

>>18411854
yeah, ,it´s an odd question. but important.

i have another one.

if you had a red button that would take away all your problems RIGHT NOW, would you push it?

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>>18411860
>if you had a red button that would take away all your problems RIGHT NOW, would you push it?
absogoddamnlutely I would...wouldn't everyone?

>>18411854
and to solve the odd question, you now have a clear idea on what you need to tackle.

firstly, go to a doc and tel him tat you´re not coping well with the back pain and diabetes and that you need solutions on how to handle this differently so it doesn´t cut back your life quality that much.

then you also ask him to get you an appointment with a psychiatrist because you need to adress your drinking habits.

after you´ve sorted your physical and mental health out, you focus all your new found energy on learning about economics and how to get disgustingly wealthy. don´t underestimate what you can achieve if you allow yourself to dream big and then work towards that goal dilligently and one step at a time. also, know WHY you want to get wealthy. if you don´t have a strong value backing up your goal, you won´t have enough drive to pursue it.

>>18411863
no, some poeple like to wallow in self pitty. but that´s actually good. it means you´re not suffering from a victime complex.

in this case, refer to this post:
>>18411868

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>>18411868
>firstly, go to a doc and tel him tat you´re not coping well with the back pain and diabetes and that you need solutions on how to handle this differently so it doesn´t cut back your life quality that much.
I've been seeing specialists about this stuff for a while, they don't really seem to take my complaints seriously though, you know? I live in Canada which is great because free healthcare, but that also means that the volume of clients doctors see means their idea of treating me seems to be "he's a diabetic so he's got a shortened lifespan regardless, might as well just treat the symptoms instead of the actual root of the problem until he dies", you know?

I've been through several shrinks and therapists but it's sort of similar to the docs; it doesn't feel like they take me seriously. They give me a piece of paper with a bunch of fucking "coping strategies" written on it & tell me "it's okay to have a few drinks at night to relax but don't overdo it!" as if that's helpful to me in any fucking way.

Mate, let me tell you something.

Life sucks. A lot of it does, at least. I'm not saying this in an edgy way, it's just the truth. Everybody experiences suffering, anxiety, boredom, lack of motivation, regret, shame and so on. But now society will tell us that it's not OK for life to suck. You have all those self-help gurus and motivational speakers and whatnot who will tell you to always be positive and look at the full half of the glass and smile and tell yourself in the mirror that you're happy and handsome and smart and all that. That's a load of crap. Like anybody who's happy has to tell himself in front of a mirror that he's happy.

Some time ago people didn't have this mentality. If something was wrong they would just sigh, tell to themselves "man, that sucks. Well that's just life I guess" and move on with their business. But not anymore. Now you get bombarded with all those ads about perfect, happy people, with tons of facebook posts and whatnot of people showing how great their lives are, with information about great people who achieved amazing feats. But as you probably realize those ads are fake. Those happy people have shitty moments too. A lot of them. Those great people who achieved amazing things are very rare and most likely went through a lot of struggle and suffering to reach that point. You realize that, but your subconsciousness doesn't really care. All it sees is a bunch of happy, perfect examples. And it yells at you for not living up, for not being great and for not being happy. So a loop is created. You feel shitty, because... that's life. But then you feel shitty for feeling shitty. And that makes you feel even shittier. And so on.

And there's another thing. Now you have SO MANY choices. SO MUCH FREEDOM! It's great, isn't it? Well not really. There's this thing some people call the paradox of choice.

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Basically the more choices you have the shittier, more anxious and more regretful you will feel, no matter what choice you make. If you're born in a 7th century town in a line of blacksmiths and you're taught how to be a blacksmith by your father and this is what you do all your life without even considering any other jobs you'll most likely feel content with that. It will feel like it's part of who you are, like you're doing what you've been meant to do. It would almost feel like a purpose. But if instead you have to chose your profession from so many options in todays world you will feel lost. You will always see what you could've had. You will always think how much better that other choice could've been. When you chose something you feel like you lost all the other things. This goes for everything, not only careers. The place you live in, the friends you have, the car you drive, the food you eat, the toilet paper you wipe your ass with. There's never a perfect choice.

So yeah, life sucks. Well, not really, but there's a lot about life that sucks. And now you're told to run away from that. Run away from suffering, from problems, from hardship. They tell you that happiness is the absence of problems. Which is not true, your mind will always create problems. Rich and poor people have problems. Healthy and ill people have problems. Handsome and ugly people have problems. Different kind of problems, but they affect them in almost the same way. They tell you that happiness is about having something, or being something. But it's not. Whatever you have or are you will always want something else, or something more.

Being happy is not the absence of problems. Happiness is created by the work you put in to resolve your problems. And when the problems can't be resolved happiness comes from the acceptance of those problems. Without problems you can't have happiness.

Your life is not in shambles. Not any more than anyone elses. It's just your perspective that's fucked up.

>>18411885
yeah, that doesn´t sound like it´s going to help. so you would need to help yourself.

get to really know yourself. find out what causes your drinking issues and then fix that.

maybe get wealthy first. if you´re wealthy, the docs suddenly take you extrmely serious...