Spending too much money on my GF

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Hey /adv/, I recently got my first girlfriend at 23 years old, was a KV-HHL virgin up until then. Since then, I've been taking her out on dates every week. Some of these dates have been quite lavish, and I pay for absolutely everything. In a little over a month, I did the math on my checking account and I've spent over $610 dollars on this girl our dates. How did it get this bad? Let me run through my last weekend--I took her to the fair on Friday, bought tickets ($40), withdrew $100 from my bank account, spent it all on rides and fair food, spent the night at her place, had breakfast ($40), dropped her off, came back and had dinner ($40), spent the night again, had breakfast ($45), and finally dropped her off today on Sunday. So, in the span of a few days, I spent well over $200 dollars on us.

Here's the thing though--she has offered to pay and shoulder the weight, but for some reason I can't let her do that. She comes from a poor background. Her father is a Lyft driver and her mother lives in another country. She doesn't even really have a home to go home to. Meanwhile, I'm quite upper middle-class and have a full-time job that pays decently. All of my friends and family have told me that the guy pays for the girl on dates, as they are from traditional societies where these gender roles are well-established. However, in these traditional societies, dating is seen as a stepping stone for marriage... and well, I am trying keeping this relationship casual (we've only been going out for a month!). But I cannot spend over half a grand on this girl every month and expect to keep things casual. And by far my greatest fear is that the minute I change my tune with our finances she will respect me less and see me as a cheapskate, or a charlatan who dropped his generous facade the minute he scored some pink.

Any advice?