My boyfriend overheard my best friend saying that I could do

>>18399060
reconsider friendship with your cunt friend?
I assume she's a tryhard like Phoebe

>>18399068
She's like a sister to me. We grew up together and I've known her since I was 3.
She was really a cunt, in this case, but she says shit like that a lot. She is just jealous of every guy I date in a stupid way.

She's more like a Rachel.

Ah the jealousy type, he's a keeper. Play your cards right and you can even make him rob a bank.

Your 'best' friend wanted to make a wedge in your relationship since you're probably paying less attention to her now. She won't stop unless you do something about it.

The answer is obvious. You should have a threesome with them both and then just fake it with your boyfriend more than your ex. Lie about how your current boyfriend is better and how he fills you up more.

>>18399076
>She was really a cunt, in this case, but she says shit like that a lot
Let your boyfriend go. He deserves better and you and your shit friend deserve each other.

I expect this behaviour from men, not women.

You tell him he has a bigger dick. Then you pull it out and start sucking on it while explaining that your friend is just a jealous bitch and wants him for herself

Calm him down?! You obviously don't care. Fuck that sister of yours.

>>18399090
I've known her since I was 3. Her parents died when we were in elementary school and she grew up with an aunt who was 65 when she "adopted" her. She died before we graduated high school, then she lived with me and my parents.

She is not great emotionally. She does this kind of shit since we were 13 because she's scared I'll leave her for a boyfriend.
She tried to force my first boyfriend into cheating on me to prove me he was an asshole. She talked shit of each and every person I've ever dated, all of my friends, even my parents when they told me to move to another city to study.

She's in therapy and she's trying to get over these jealousies and shit. But I can't do much right now, other than ignore her and point out that she's being a bitch.

>>18399079
>play cards right
Can you share a little more about this please?

>>18399060
Make sure she's not just putting salt on him so that you two break up and give her an opportunity to bang him.

What kind of friend says that about another friends SO?

>>18399100
Help her to find her own boyfriend.

Easy.

"Friend"

>>18399100
You're a bitch too and your bf deserves better.

>tfw a friend has fucked up relationship
You are not the first, nor are you the last by a long shot.

>>18399111
How am I a bitch?

>>18399106
She has her own, and spends a lot of time with him.

>>18399076
Maybe tell your boyfriend this? Or tell him how hanging out with her less would nullify what she said.

>>18399091
This. It would calm me down even though I'd know it's bullshit.

>>18399079
>Your 'best' friend wanted to make a wedge in your relationship since you're probably paying less attention to her now.
It is a bit more complicated than that.

>>18399091
He actually has a bigger dick.

>>18399097
I do care, but still.

>>18399103
She has issues, as I explained above.

>>18399060
Tell your boyfriend that was a cunty thing of your dumb bitch friend to say.
>>18399076
she's like a sister to you but yet she cares so little for your feelings and is so emotionally immature that she actively tries to sabotage your relationship? Fuck her.

>>18399060
lol its too late, once a dude hears this, its like implanting a small nuke in his brain that'll go off at the wrong moment.

>>18399125
>has her own
Lol then what is her problem? Talk with her amd give her clear ultimatum: she will apologize to your boyfrined and promise to never talk shit about him or you drop her like a bitch she is.

Grow some balls woman and force your dominance. Or prepare for your bf leaving you.

>>18399142
I already pointed out she was being a bitch and told her she needs to stop saying shit like this because it's harmful for everyone.
She is working on this with her therapist but it will take time to grow out of this.

She has been doing this with all of my friends and boyfriends since we were kids, fear of abandonment and shit.

>>18399132
Yup. She has a myriad of emotional issues. She has been a bitch this time, definitely.

>>18399125
>How am I a bitch?
Because you're not standing up for you boyfriend.

>calm him down

If my boyfriend's best friend said anything like that about me, I would expect him to tell the bff to fuck off. That is really hurtful, ''your ex was more attractive, you can do better than you current girlfriend''.

You should tell her to fuck off, even if he never heard it. How doesn't this make you upset even without him knowing?

>>18399149
It doesn't make me upset because I know her - she has emotional issues, tons of them. I understand the reason why she does this, I know she doesn't do it to be harmful intentionally.

I pointed out she was being a bitch, that the comment was mean and very disrespectful.
I'm basically the only family she has left and telling her to "fuck off" would cause more harm than good.

>>18399060

I've known enough men in shitty situations like this to know that you and your boyfriend should just break it off.

You're going to anyway.
The fact is, literally every man ever has known a really nice, sweet, caring girl who meant the world to them.

They watched her die and get replaced by a purple haired turbo-cunt megabitch replicant, and stupidly held out hoping the girl they fell for would one day come back (she never).

And this all starts with one just the right amount of bitchiness "friend", or the one magazine that tell her all about what men are really like, or a couple of old embittered hags who's best years are more than half their life down the drain by now away.

That's how it starts, and it is starting.
I know it, your boyfriend knows it, half the people in this thread know it (the men).

Shit, even some of the women probably know it (but good luck getting them to admit to it).

Break up with him now, save some of the heartache and don't make him invest any more time or emotional attachment into this relationship.

Then you can dye your hair purple and let your "friend" have her way with you or whatever the fuck she's getting out of this.

>>18399131
None of her issues matter. Your boyfriend is your lifelong partner. He will be there for you in crucial moments where she, honestly, has no right to be. Tell her to quit being a goddamned bitch, accept that your boyfriend is a human being with feelings, and imagine if one of friends said that about you and what you would feel lile, if you would feel at all comfortable with that person ever again. Don't give me any bullshit either because you would never honestly be comfortable with your SO having a best friend that's trying to sabotage your relationship. The entire concept, and more importantly your reaponse, is completely unacceptable. Get over yourself. Your boyfriend needs you here and you're ignoring his feelings.

>>18399091
Why do women think that they can just blow the guy instead of taking responsibility? Imagine a guy saying "just eat her cunt and say that she has nice tits".

>feminism

>>18399149
fucking this

If you arent hurt by your "friend" actively encouraging you to leave a healthy relationship then your boyfriend deserves SO much better than you.
If you are, just tell him that you arent happy she said it either. Tell him you're still with him for a reason and that your friend doesnt control you relationship. Trust me, all you have to do is let him know you're on his side clearly and he will be ok.
Ya know, basic shit about supporting each other.

>>18399162
Just let him go, already.

Real advice. If you care about both of them, ask her to apologize to your bf. Otherwise you're going to have to cut one off. Don't try to play both sides, you cant have your cake and eat it too.

>>18399164
I'm not going to turn against my boyfriend in any way, definitely not because of what she said.
She says this kind of shit about every single person who ever mattered to me either as a friend or as a partner. My past relationship was pretty good and I have other friends and family.
I really always ignored her, it doesn't matter to me.

>>18399181
>implying it wont follow him through the rest of the relationship
>you are not good enough
>her I am, despite saying sorry, you know how I feel about you

>>18399181
>Real advice. If you care about both of them, ask her to apologize to your bf. Otherwise you're going to have to cut one off. Don't try to play both sides, you cant have your cake and eat it too.
I already told her she needs to apologise with him and she was completely in the wrong. She agreed.
If I have to take a side, I am going to take my boyfriend's side. I don't want to leave her because she's family.

>>18399185
oh my fucking god stop this. seriously I want to strangle myself, why are you friends with this person. say "you have crossed a line with what you said and it isn't the first time you've done this, I'm sorry but I don't want to be friends with you anymore." how are you friends with her after all the shit shes done?

>>18399169
She ALWAYS does this. The only reason why she does this is because she is jealous that someone else is getting my attention and she tries to break me off.
I didn't give a shit about her opinions on my relationships when I was 12, I don't do it now that I'm in my 20s.
I know she probably doesn't even think that. I obviously do not agree with her.
I told her to apologise and I told him I am sorry she said such things and much more that he had to hear it, but he's reasonably furious.

>>18399199
And again "she ALWAYS does this." stop being friends with this person!!!!!!!!!!

If he is smart, he leaves. Send him my way.

>>18399185

Oh she's definitely one of those embittered man-hating lesbians pissed off because she keeps falling for straight girls and blames evil horrible men for it.

OP, your "friend" wants to eat your pussy.

>She has a boyfriend.
I believe they call them "beards".

She's the lesbian equivalent of a "nice guy", holy shit, if she were a man you'd be calling her creepy while she stroked her neckbeard.

>>18399207
She is very much not lesbian, trust me. She really loves dick.

>>18399213
She probably want his dick.

>>18399213
why are you friends with her?

>>18399196
>>18399203
Because we went through all sorts of shit together and she stayed by my side. We have a super unhealthy bond and I realise it, but she is probably the only person who ever was there for me whenever I needed her.
Beside her issues and her huge personality flaws, she's one of the most loyal people I've ever met and she did anything in her power to be by my side and truly loved me.

Again, if my boyfriend asks me to choose, I'll choose him over her obviously.
But I hope I can calm him down and just get over this shit because she means the world to me.

>>18399213

And the red power ranger loved pussy to, before he came out of the closet and did gay as porn, bitch!

She wants to rub flaps with you.
She wants to take a nibble of a roast beef sandwich.
She wants to make like Kermit and get your hands all up in her.

>>18399224
Cucumber salad.

>>18399222
but she is incredibly toxic. imo you need to ditch her or at least disconnect a bit. this is the same as the over protective boyfriend meme which of course he loves you but is still terrible for you. just think about it OP srsly

>>18399187
If his ego is too big to accept a sincere apology, then that's his problem. People are gonna have shitty thoughts about you and some of them may be unfounded, some of them may not be. Trying to control someone's perception over you isn't a worthwhile endeavor. I could save a busload of orphans and some people will still hate me for whatever reason. I hear girls say shitty things like OPs friend all the time and when I ask why they would say that, half the time they don't even know. Girls just talk a lot of bullshit.

>>18399090
>>18399111
XD

>>18399227
She is toxic, I know it and probably she knows it too.
She's going to therapy and trying to get over it.
We're not as close as we used to be, but obviously it's hard to say "well, fuck off bitch" to a person who was there when you were doing chemotherapy, spent her nights cleaning your face from vomit, took days off to take care of your grandma while she was dying and always went out of her way to make you were happy.
I understand she isn't a good person, but I also know she doesn't do it purposely. She tries. And fails dramatically.

>>18399229
But her apology isn't fucking sincere you nob.

>>18399240
God damn crazies

>>18399243
Well OP needs to demand a sincere apology.

>>18399248
You can't demand a sincere apology.

>>18399199
frankly it doesnt really matter if you care, because your boyfriend does.
He hasnt been around this woman his whole life like you have, so he doesnt have the same tolerance for this shit.
Just have some fucking empathy for your boyfriend and realize that he has feelings just like your friend and its not fair of you to just wave his concerns off by saying "oh yeah well I dont really care"

>>18399229
What difference does an apology make?

''I'm sorry I raped you, let's be friends''.

>>18399248
And by demand a sincere apology, I mean OPs friend has to understand why what she said was wrong and how harmful it was and be prepared to make reparations. There's a part in OPs friend that believes she's justified in her comment and perhaps even doing OP a favor and OP has to convince her that she is not.

>>18399249
>>18399255
You can demand a sincere apology. Defining and expressing your boundaries is a healthy practice.

>>18399252
Of course I have empathy for him. He has every fucking reason to be mad and to feel like shit for what she said, she was an absolute cunt. I am very sorry he got hurt. To me these comments are irrelevant because I understand why she does them and I am used to them, but I understand how much it hurt him and he didn't deserve to get hurt.
I don't want him to suck it up and get over it, but I want to know if there's something I can do to calm him down.
I know she was a cunt, she will apologise tomorrow. If there's any need to pick sides, I'll pick his and I have no doubt.

>>18399248
I really dont think so.
Literally all she has to do is tell her boyfriend that she doesnt believe a word of what her friend says, and then she has to go a bit further and say her relationship with him is more important.
The friend doesnt need to apologize to him directly but i think it would be fair of her boyfriend to ask her to tell her friend that she made a bitch move. Even though OP has said a million times already that she doesnt care about that, it would probably be a huge relief to her boyfriend if she did.

>>18399265
have you already told him you feel upset too? Because that should be enough. Even if he is still upset after he will at least know you're standing by him.

>>18399264
This is some female bullshit.

If I do the horrible act of hitting my gf, what kind of difference does an apology make?

>>18399283
at the very least it demonstrates that you care.
She cant sincerely forgive you and have it be beneficial if you dont apologize at all

>>18399278
Sort of. We didn't get a chance to talk yet, he was mad and he's kind of hard to talk to when he's mad.

I told him that I am very sorry and that I am by his side, but of course he doesn't want to hear any reason right now.

>>18399296
well, he's going to want to talk to you about it later for sure. say what you need to then.
If for some reason that doesnt help at all then maybe he's got an issue of his own.

>>18399291
She should fucking leave if I did that. Fuck my apology.

>>18399060
no matter how uncomfortable a situation becomes, you are not responsible for your boyfriend's insecurity

sometimes a request will make sense, like he won't want you to go to a guy's house unaccompanied. there's a logical argument for that.

there really is no logical argument for telling you not to hang around a friend who doesn't like him. why doesn't he just imprison her like Putin?

he's being irrational, and he may not be the dominant type but in this scenario he is trying to dominate you, whether he recognizes it or not

>>18399301
Yeah you're right.
People should never make mistakes and admitting you were wrong or being sorry is always completely worthless.
Showing you care by apologizing doesnt actually mean you care at all because every little offense is worthy of a break up.

You have to cut one loose.
Im not sure if your relationship is salvagable.

Girls resist at first but they always end up caving to their friends judgments. With that and his childish way of dealing with this it may be time to reconsider the relationship

>>18399322

TL;DR: OP is trying to tell people that sometimes you want to help someone even if they seem like a piece of shit to everyone else because there have been more than a few times that person has been a great help, and they have their own issues they're working through - and incidents like these are ways for her to work on her issues, to understand that being so blatantly disrespectful and hurtful does nothing but cause pain - especially to herself.

OP, I don't know if there's a good way to calm down your boyfriend other than to reassure him that you don't believe her opinion for a second - you love him regardless. Calm him down with some physical affection. Why do people suggest sex as a way to patch things over? Because it's what most of us want anyway - and you can prove you care about him by taking care of some of his sexual needs and frustration. Or not even sexual needs - simply spending time being close to one another is enough for some of us. Depends on your boy, you know him better than we do.

>>18399351
>Im not sure if your relationship is salvagable.
Why wouldn't it be?

>>18399355
I sincerely do not give a fuck about what she thinks. If it was a reasonable concern, maybe I'd care. But this shit is pointless.

>>18399356
You said it better than I could, thank you.

When he's back I'll try to talk to him. He's probably just really hurt right now, later he'll calm down a bit and I'll try to talk. He's really hard to approach when he's mad.
He said he's not mad at me tho, so that's something.

>>18399369

If it were me, and I had you as a girlfriend, a hug before you even started talking to me would start soothing my nerves. Talking to me while holding me would continue to help. I don't know if that'd work on him.

>>18399091
This. Make him feel like a king. And have a heart to heart where you tell him how attractive he is, how amazing in bed he is, and buy him a steak.
>>18399100
Is this bait? Tell your friend to not be such a bitch to your man. Tell her to grow the fuck up. I don't care if her parents died. If you don't defend your boyfriend then you're a piece of shit too.

>op is a pussy who's going to live a lonely life with just her "best friend" because she's too much of a fuck to drop her

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Who gives a fuck if you've known her for a long time? She's a cunt that you've said always does this shit. She's toxic and is ruining things out of jealously and you're only excuse is "she's had it rough so I get it". You're enabling this bullshit and letting your boyfriend feel like shit because you're friend is a piece of shit.

Break up with him and let him find someone that isn't friends with selfish cunts.

>>18399100
>letting a bitchy cunt control your entire live because you've always known her
>letting this cunt fuck up your relationships and then blaming the guy you're with
>never even considering ending your friendship with said cunt

maybe she isn't the only cunt here

>>18399356
Fuck that shit. If I heard my gf's bestie saying shit like this then I'd be insulted that she'd use sex as a patch up since it solves nothing at all. Honestly it'd be a her or me situation, especially since OP has said she has tried to coax boyfriends into cheating and constantly tries to break up all her friendships and relationships.

>>18399100
>She tried to force my first boyfriend into cheating on me to prove me he was an asshole.
>She talked shit of each and every person I've ever dated, all of my friends, even my parents when they told me to move to another city to study.
She's not a good person.
Having "issues" can give you a fucked up day, or make you do things you regret, but systematic bullshit like that only comes from deep down being a really shitty person.

Why are you friends with them?

>>18399222
>she's one of the most loyal people I've ever met and she did anything in her power to be by my side and truly loved me.
Who knew being loyal was talking shit about everyone and trying to forcibly break up all your relationships. If only everyone had this kind of loyalty!

Tell your friend you are cutting her out unless she has a 3some with your boyfriend.

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>OP doesnt get the echo chamber she wants
>ditches the thread after the overwhelming consensus of her and her friend being cunts

>>18399240
>Doesn't do it purposely.
This is why you can't move on. All you people do is ask for help and we give you the simple answer of cut them from your life. My current gf had a friend just like the one you're describing but she didn't really trash talk me. My gf complained about stuff she did, would make my gf feel like shit ect... I told her to stop talking to her but she's known her since pre school so it was extremely hard for her. People really don't change they just change how other people see them. Keeping this person in your life is only going to make it worse and if you don't believe it enjoy ruining your boyfriends life. Do him a favor and leave him alone

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>>18400131
Tell me about it

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just take the advice we give you and move on you faggot

>>18399060
My ex girlfriend had a similar friend who was a guy.

He ended up ruining the relationship over the course of nine years. You need to drop your "friend" if you actually value your relationship.

>>18399060
your best friend is going to fuck you and your relationship up.

>>18399100
>She tried to force my first boyfriend into cheating on me to prove me he was an asshole
case in point. WHAT. THE. FUCK.

this tsundere bitch is going to axe murder you in your sleep if anything in your life takes you too far away for too long.

>>18399166
this. THIS. /THREAD. THIS. I would just about tilt if a buddy talked shit about a gf of mine like that. in fact I have had those confrontations in the past.

>>18399060
Your boyfriend is a cuck and you should dump him. If he was a man he woulda told that bitch everything bad about her looks and then made her flinch like he would hit her.

>>18400479
Grow up.

>>18400479
what is wrong with you

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>>18399265
>So i keep this dog, this loyal loving dog, around but it keeps biting the people I have in my life. It bit my boyfriend.
>PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO CALM HIM DOWN. HE SAYS WE SHOULD GET RID OF HER. I DON"T REALLY CARE ABOUT HOW SHE BITES PEOPLE I LOVE.

>>18400492
>>18400501
LOW TEST

>>18399060
You don't, your friend now killed your relationship. Either with him or her. You'll have to get rid of one.

Hoped the thread would die.
I went to sleep last night, was busy today.

I talked to my boyfriend. Explained to him the situation with my best friend a little bit. I told him I felt really sorry. I explained to him that I don't think she is in any way right about him and I love him. He was still pissed off and hurt, but understands things a bit better.
She apologised. They talked for nearly an hour. She cried a whole lot.

Things seem pretty calm right now, I'll hang out with him again later.

Thanks for all the advice.

>>18401160
>They talked for nearly an hour. She cried a whole lot.

Were you in the room?
They might have fucked. All those tensions

>>18401167
Yeah. No fucking.

>>18401172
oh, behind your back then.

>>18401202
If that makes you happy.

>>18401206
It does. Thanks.

>>18401160
I just hope it worked out permanently and didn't left a tumor in your relationship that will grow with time and kill it.

I am happy that you could find a solution

Holy hell this thread is toxic.
Diffuse these problems with love. Everyone involved is adding to the fire of negativity out of a subconscious affinity for drama. Ask her to apologize, and tell your boyfriend that leaving her is not an option because she's your "Day 1". Have a moment with your best friend and tell her what she did, how it compromised your happiness and why it's an important relationship to you...if she's your best friend she should be happy that you're happy. She should love your love; that is, unless he's actually a piece of trash and she's trying to tell you something.

In that case, your day 1 might have a valuable perspective that you've failed to heed, though I doubt it because you said she has issues.

Either way, don't combat negativity with negativity. All of this "cutting people out" shit that these anons are advocating for is poisonous. Other people have feelings too. Everyone just wants to be loved. Love them.

>>18401160
O shit i should've read the whole thread>>18401220

Good job OP

>>18401223
happy ending?

wait one month later for more drama

people aren't here exactly once for no reason

>>18401226
Right, we'll see if it will hold for a month or two.

>>18399060
This probably wouldn't have been an issue if he had also overheard a response from you that went against what she said and that you are happy with him.

Judging from the situation you likely didn't make such a remark right when she said it which is why he might think you agree deep down.

>>18401160
>insult someones boyfriend
>cry when you get called out for it

She sounds like a really mature person

>>18401241
>which is why he might think you agree deep down

It's funny since OP probably does.

>>18401245
*deep down

>>18401220
hands down the most unrealistic and worst long term advice in this thread

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>>18401280
thank you!

>>18401220
He is a *very* good guy. Really the best person I've ever met, and the love of my life.
We are talking about getting married (which is probably why my best friend is being a turbo bitch about it).

>>18401241
I immediately told her she needed to stop being such a bitch and that it clearly isn't true.
I obviously don't agree, otherwise I would be "doing better" and not date him.

>>18399060
Tell her to be more respectful of your bf and tell him that you are with him for a reason and not with your ex.

Some jealousy is nice, but him telling you not to hang out with another girl is uncool

>>18401295
>I immediately told her she needed to stop being such a bitch and that it clearly isn't true.
Good, then I stand corrected
you did the right thing
>>18401160

Your gf sounds like an immature bitch though and she needs to stop sticking her nose into other peoples businesses, if she sees you are happy with that guy she has no business saying things like that

>>18401360
>Your gf sounds like an immature bitch though
She is. She is trying to improve herself and got a lot better, but it's a long process.
I'm trying to be patient, I know how much she struggled in the past and she genuinely doesn't mean any harm. She's just protective of me in the most idiotic way ever.
She sees I'm happy with him and I'm moving forward in life with him, and she's scared that moving forward with him means I'm leaving her.

>>18401295

You did the right thing OP. Good on you. Wishing you and your BF all the best and hoping your friend and him and you will all get along and live happily ever after

P.S. your friend really sounds like she needs some romantic affection

>>18401375
She probably has a crush on OP's bf lmao

>>18401383
I dunno. My gf's friends went through the same shit when we starting dating.

To my knowledge they never said anything negative about me, but I distinctly remember them guilt tripping her, calling her a "bad friend" etc. for spending time with me instead of them.

Jealousy is such an ugly and embarrassing thing to emote. People need to learn to express their abandonment issues frankly instead of doing this kind of passive agressive bullshit.

>>18399060

>Friends image
>that exact story

Hello Caitlin, nice to know where I stand with you.

>>18401375
>your friend really sounds like she needs some romantic affection
She needs stability. I'm literally the only person in her life that has been here for more than 2 years, other than my parents. All her family is dead, she doesn't really have long term friendships or relationships.
I know she doesn't do this kind of shit to harm me. She doesn't know any better.

>>18401383
Lol. No. She totally would have fucked my ex, but not my boyfriend.
My ex was 6'0", very big, olive skin, with super dark features. Was a bit of an asshole, super extroverted, party guy. Cheated on me.
My boyfriend is 6'4", athletic but slim, pale as fuck, with green eyes and light brown hair, and the sweetest smile I've ever seen. He's much more reserved, really a better person in general, introverted, smart.
All the guys she dated were like my ex. My boyfriend is exactly my type - he's the first guy I ever wanted to fuck because of his looks only, plus he's adorable and really a perfect match. He's much better in bed, too.

>>18401413
I'm not Caitlin, I'm sorry dude.

Like how you never stated you can't do better, nor that your current bf is better looking than your past one.

I think you agree with her, and you just lying to us. Be honest that's why he's hurt. Your a cunt and he should leave you.

>>18401463
/thread

>>18401463
Beside literally telling her that it wasn't true right after she told me, telling her that it isn't true, or stating it three or four times during the thread, including in the post right above yours.

What the fuck.

>>18401463
>>18401495

Shitty samefagging and the post above yours disproves everything you said lol. kys

>>18399060
She was an asshole for gossiping like that. He's being an asshole for thinking he can control who you hang out with.

>>18401506
>samefagging
lol

>>18399100
You have to tell her you love her but her jealousy is putting your friendship in jeopardy, and that if she doesn't change you will be forced to spend less time with her.

You have to realize her behavior is absolutely unacceptable and if she is so broken that she cannot change, you will have to either break off the friendship or accept that a jealous bitch will run your life for you.

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>>18399060
Your concern about "calming" your bf instead of reprimanding your cunt friend speaks volumes of your own cuntiness.

women should have never been allowed to not be slaves

>>18401873
Because I did that already, immediately after she said it and then later when we discussed about what happened.
I didn't know how to handle my boyfriend and make him calm down, my best friend and I already talked.

>>18401892
Why do you believe your friend said that?

>>18401895
Because my boyfriend and I started talking about getting married, and she's scared that if I move forward in life with him I leave her behind.
She is a very jealous/protective person and has a lot of emotional issues, which she is taking care of in therapy.

It has nothing to do with my boyfriend, he is objectively an amazing partner and was very kind to her as well.

>>18401905
Do you believe she's damaging your relationship with both her and your bf?

If so, then it's up to you to decide when enough if enough if she doesn't stop. If she does, great. If not, it's going to be her or your bf.

>>18401905
>was very kind to her as well.
sounds like she wants to do him

>>18401920
She doesn't. He's not her type, she has a boyfriend.
He's just a kind person in general, he is nice to literally everybody.

>>18401916
She isn't damaging my relationship with my boyfriend because I don't care about what she says about him.
I am sorry he had to hear it and he got hurt. It doesn't matter to me, but it clearly matters to him and he doesn't deserve hearing shit like this. This might definitely damage our relationship.

I am used to her doing this kind of stuff, she has done it since we were kids. It's probably the first time she does it since we were 19, she never said a bad word about my boyfriend before and went out of her way to help me stay with him (took days off for my boyfriend's birthday to take care of my grandma so we could spend a couple of days together, bought me plane tickets so I could travel with him when he moved abroad for an internship, etc).

>>18401951
>She doesn't. He's not her type, she has a boyfriend.

>OP has no idea
oh boiii

>>18402148
Really, she doesn't.
And anyway even if she wanted to fuck him he wouldn't touch her because he is loyal, against casual sex and a generally good person.

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>>18402161
Yeaah, the real question is
how hot is she?

>>18399060
>He is obviously very insecure and he doesn't want me to hang out with her anymore.
>How do I calm him down?
If your best friend is trying to break you up and you don't tell her that's completely inappropriate and she should never say anything like that ever again, you are being a bad girlfriend.
>>18399189
You should have taken his side there and then.
>>18399265
If one of his friends was telling him to break up with you and he reacted as you did, like, nothing, wouldn't you be pissed?
>>18401160
>crying
Doesn't mean she regrets what she said or what she tried to do.
>>18401951
>she does it all the time
Then how is she still your friend?

>>18402174
Pretty hot, a 8/10 when she is wearing make up and she has her hair done I'd say.
But, really - they don't want to fuck and, even if they wanted, neither of them would do it.

>>18402180
>even if they wanted, neither of them would do it
that built up sexual tension is probably why she blew up at the news of your marriage.

>>18402178
>If your best friend is trying to break you up and you don't tell her that's completely inappropriate and she should never say anything like that ever again, you are being a bad girlfriend.
I did tell her.

>You should have taken his side there and then.
I did take his side. I don't want to stop talking to her.

>If one of his friends was telling him to break up with you and he reacted as you did, like, nothing, wouldn't you be pissed?
I did react. I didn't make a huge drama. I'm not a dramatic person anyway.

>Doesn't mean she regrets what she said or what she tried to do.
She does. She's sorry.

>Then how is she still your friend?
Read above, I already explained why she does shit like this and why I still do love her.
TL;DR - She's like a sister to me, my parents basically raised her, she has emotional issues but she's trying to improve.

>>18402185
Lol. They talked maybe 6 times over the course of several years. We're both huge introverts, we prefer spending time alone or we hang out with his friends.
We're also not getting married, just talked about it.

>>18402191
>They talked maybe 6 times over the course of several years

I see. So this is the extent of what you know about them.

>>18399135
That is totally right and the only things you can do are these:
>>18399091
>>18399126
>He actually has a bigger dick.

and talking to both honestly.
Alone and afterwards together.

>>18402222
>>He actually has a bigger dick.

dude no girl would admit her current bf is smaller than the exes unless she was trying to console some anon or make a point.

This relationship is not gonna last.

>>18402230
He actually does. He's like 6.5"-7", my ex was about 5". We're also much more compatible in bed and sex is better in general.
Not that I minded my ex's dick, but yeah. Objectively speaking.

>>18402222
> and talking to both honestly.
>Alone and afterwards together.
I did. Didn't talk about the dick tho.

>>18402195
My best friend is the epitome of a Stacy, my boyfriend is an awkward weeabo who took 2 months to find the courage to approach me (on facebook) and couldn't talk through 3/4 of our first date. Turned out to be one of the best guys I've ever met in general after he stopped being utterly autistic.

>>18402264
riiiight

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>>18402264
>my boyfriend is an awkward weeabo who took 2 months to find the courage to approach me (on facebook) and couldn't talk through 3/4 of our first date. Turned out to be one of the best guys I've ever met in general after he stopped being utterly autistic.
>Turned out to be one of the best guys I've ever met in general after he stopped being utterly autistic.
>Turned out to be one of the best guys I've ever met

>>18399060
Girls say this shit about their friends bfs all the time. Theres no getting around it, women are protective of each other.

Your bf is understandably hurt, but he should realize that your friend's opinions are not a reflection of how you feel. He should not control you seeing your girl friend just because she was bitchy.

Guys say this shit about their friends girlfriends too, it's just something significant others have to deal with.

What might make him feel better is telling your friend that what she said was not cool. Stick up for your lover and your friend probably won't say that shit anymore.

>>18399199
your friend sounds toxic.
I had a girl friend like this, she wanted to sabatoge every relationship I had because she had some weird possessive issue over me. I dropped her after being friends with her for 7 years and I feel so much better after. People like this do not change without intensive therapy and years of self improvement, do you really want to wait around that long for her to come around? I think it would be better for you to drop her so your relationships aren't fucked with.

Your happiness matters too, never forget this.

>>18402775
Ignore her. OP is a pussy who will let this girl chase away every guy in her life.

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>>18401951
>He's not her type, she has a boyfriend.

Wait wait wait, so despite all her needy bullshit for you and her not wanting others to take you away by trying to break you off from your friends and boyfriends, yet she has a boyfriend? Are you fucking kidding me?

She is a shit friend and you don't need someone like that in your life. Stop making excuses for her. People have it rough but it doesn't mean you have to stick around with them and let them drag you down too.

This whole thread is just a headache. You love some cunt friend more than you love your boyfriend or other friends (if you even have any left after her removing them from your life).

>>18399199
>she's been doing the same shit for over a decade
>"no guys you dont understand she's trying to change"
she's a cunt for life and you're an idiot for life. luckily you won't reproduce since she'll scare off all your boyfriends.

>>18399060
Tell your gf to apologize to your bf or choose one of them and let the other go.

>>18399060
You are cancer, op

tell your friend to stop being an asshole. and do it infront of your bf because i've had this similar situation. my ex did this for me once and it made me feel better.
She shortly left her friend for me so im not sure if that was part of it but it made me feel important and wanted.

And she was with that person longer than she was for me.

heavy self confidence boost in how valued i was.