Nervous and dick wont' get hard

I should probably add that after the first time we tried and that happened, I'm even more scared and nervous and severely insecure and it makes it worse.

We're going to try again in a few days, and short of having to get a Viagra script or some bullshit, what can I do? Surely I'm not the only person going through this?

>>18395713
Hello old man. I find it hard you werent able to google the solution, but here you are:

>1. Chill out.
You have to destress yourself. Cuddle her, close eyes, think of nothing, lay in bed with her for a while while doing foreplay things like feeling up her boobs. In a while you will realize you are laying in bed with sexy female and should get hard.

>2. Backup plan
Even if you are flaccid, you can massage her, spank her, eat her out, finger her. Basically you have so many other options to make her cum besides your dick. This should allow you to relax more as in 1.

>3. Stop fapping and looking at porn.
Fapping lowers your want and libido. You want to be horny with her. It helps.

Porn desentizes your brain and asociates orgasm with your hand. It can make you unable to cum without your hand stimulation or without seeing degenerate porn.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>4. Boost your cardiovascular system
Do cardio. Swimming, running, walking. Dont be fat and you will have boners to your 60ties.

>5. Boost your testosterone
Basically hit gym, read /fit/ do some bodyweight excercises to keep some muscles on.

>6. Kegel excercises
It increases blood flow to your dick and works on people way older than you with cardio.
http://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/exercises

If you do all step at once, you should eventually solve your problems. Even if your dick fails, dont be embarrased and whip that pussy anyway. Dont leave lady unsatisfied.

Good luck!

>>18395843
Thanks m8, I appreciate that. And I am also googling articles, but there are so many angles to it, and I really want to solve this without drugs that I want to explore everyone's ideas on it. I've just been alone so long it's literally something that just came up so I didn't even know I would have trouble. I do blame porn a lot. Porn was my sex life for the past like 12 years. Daily masturbation, so I think, man I'll fuck like a stallion, and I can't even get my fucking dick inside her. It would have shattered all my self-esteem except she was super nice about it.

>>18395861
Eat her pussy until she wont be able to breathe straight. Girls cums from piv rarely anyway.

And now tell me what have you fucked up in your life when you went 12 years without girls touch.
>so maybe i can prevent doing it myself

>>18395713
OP this is literally biology trying to remove you from the gene pool. Now ask yourself OP, are you biology's bitch?

>>18395870
I met someone that nobody could compare to, lost her, and just quit trying after a while. Simple. It was a better cost to benefit just going to work and coming home sitting around playing video games and watching anime that spending all my money and time on someone I didn't like that much and inevitably resented. Maybe you could say I was too picky or antisocial. Who knows Life happens.

>>18395874
Nah, m8, I'm a fucking man, and I'm going run my dick so deep inside her she won't be able to breath, and then I'm going cum inside the woman I love and keep doing it as often as I can until she gets pregnant. Just arming myself with knowledge, here, not anyone's bitch.

Thanks, I needed that.

>>18395892
>cost to benefit
>wants kids at 40 probably with same old woman

Your life is like dark prediction of my own future. I hope your babies wont have autism and other defects (the do at that age).

Good luck!

>>18395892
You glorious bastard, I know you'll do well. Good luck OP, I honestly believe that you got this!

25 here, I usually have that happen to me when I wear a condom. In the case of getting hard again, you should take your dick like you're going to jack off, and start rubbing your head between her clit and labia. The warmth and wetness usually gets me rock hard in 10 seconds, plus you can tug on your dick to get the blood flowing. And she gets stimulation too. Just relax, maybe close your eyes while she sucks your dick

>>18395843
Do all of this and then be patient.

I had the same issue as you. I took me almost a full year to be able to cum inside of her. Be patient with yourself. Focus on having fun, not finishing.