Daddy

>>18391609
Brush it off really. Probably just some fetish thing that he can let go if you tell him you aren't comfortable.

>>18391614
I did tell him, and he is fine with not bringing it up again, but I feel gross. Dirty inside.
I find the whole thing disturbing as hell.

>>18391609
I think I understand how your bf feels a little bit, it's not this specific fetish for me though. I am extremely turned on when my gf is grossed out or in pain.

>I am so grossed out I cannot even touch him
>I feel gross. Dirty inside. I find the whole thing disturbing as hell.
yes, exactly, this is when I would love to lift her skirt up and fuck her brains out.
But back to the real world, it never happened, I always have to make her wet first, slowly build up, touching her lower back, eating her pussy, stop when she's hurt, I repressed this urge for so long...

>>18391618
Im not trying to be insulting or anything but that's your problem. Nothing you can do but suck it up or decide its too much and ditch. We can't do that for you.

>>18391628
Ok my dude dial the creep factor down from a 30 to a 3 plz

>>18391633
How do I suck it up?
Why do people like age play? What's the sexy part of it?

I feel bad even when he tries to take care of me because now all those cute things he did for me seem sexual as hell.

I felt less grossed out when he asked me if he could piss on me. Really. This thing is just beyond my comprehension.

>>18391609
>daddy
fucking nope lmao. why did this ever become a thing? why'd he go with the most disturbing dom title in existence instead of a simple "sir" or something?

well if you want to stop it, explain that you don't want to call him daddy and why.

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>>18391628
>>18391634
omfg

>>18391636
>I felt less grossed out when he asked me if he could piss on me
oh it's just bait.

>>18391609
you sound annoying
is this you?
>>18391634
I have had girls ask me to do strange and gross stuff, but I always got the hell over it

>>18391636
Can't tell you how to get over it. If he's okay with you not doing that then it shows it isn't a dominant part of the way he thinks about sex. I'd say just realize hes still your boyfriend and still loves you and not everything he does is some subliminal fetish play. That's kinda stupid and paranoid on your part.

>>18391641
>oh it's just bait.
No, really. I understand the point of the piss thing. I don't like it, but I get why he was curious about it. It's humiliating, and I get that he likes some humiliating aspects of sex. Simple as that.

Just... what the fuck are you getting off to when you have a girl calling you daddy? What's the point?

>>18391638
I don't mind the sir thing, I usually call him like that. I don't understand what the fuck happened.

I did tell him, but it freaked me out.

>>18391618
This is literally one of the most common forms of dirty talk, calm your prude ass down. He doesn't literally want to fuck his daughter, nor does it imply you want to fuck your father. He wants to fuck his girlfriend and talk dirty. This is normal.

OP, this is a very normal and popular thing. It's not like he's pretending to be your father, it's like a dominance and power thing. Like you are his and he will provide and care for and if need punish. I was never really into that shit but my last girl was always calling me daddy and desu kinda got into it. She liked it real rough and thats not me, but it was easy to get into desu.
If it bothers you that much just say naw bro fuck that shit and try to forget about it. It's not as creepy as it sounds.

I recently had a girl tell me she doesn't wanna mess around anymore because I actually reminded her of her dad. Really fucked me up for like a week.

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>>18391609
so creepy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CxVDnpsGTZY

>>18391609
Call him papi instead.

>>18391658
no dude. "daddy" is weird. I don't know what you're getting from it that you couldn't get from "sir" but the fact that you are getting something from the use of that specific word tells me it's something weird.

>>18391660
why is this shit so common? just use "sir" like normal people.

>>18391609
You tell him you don't like that but you can call him____

>>18391651
>That's kinda stupid and paranoid on your part.
I understand, I know it's probably just inside my head.

I guess the added creepiness is that
>we have a 8 years age gap
>I look even younger than I am
>I am much tinier than him
>he is a very caring, loving boyfriend
So now things that I loved like him reading for me when I am tired or playing with my hair make me cringe.

I know it's dumb but right now I'm just disgusted.

>>18391674
I'm too white to pull it off.

>>18391678
I do call him "sir" already when he wants to roleplay like that.

>>18391658
I don't think I am a prude just because I dislike something?

>>18391660
There are other things to show dominance. I like rough sex, I enjoy the whole him-being-dominant shit but daddy is just fucking creepy for me.
I also call my dad "daddy".

>>18391680

It sounds like he chose you because you're very childlike. People are right in saying that it's just a fetish, but you have to wonder about the reasons behind this fetish.

What's going to happen when you get older? When you no longer look like a little girl?

I think if you didn't possess the traits of a young girl/child (being tiny, etc) I could kind of understand the "daddy" request. I bet if you looked on his computer you'd find some very questionable content.

>>18391675
>>18391680
This is so dumb. You're not actually his daughter. There's no abuse of authority or blood-relative ickiness going on here, which is the stuff that makes incest creepy. I'm assuming you're of legal age. So it's just a word. If you really don't like what's going on, you can just leave him. Don't go running to the Internet about how "WEIRD" and "CREEPY" it is that he wanted to engage in consensual role-play. I actually understand where it comes from completely, because you really are acting like a stupid little girl.

>>18391692
yeah don't do it. everyone needs to collectively say no to the "daddy" thing. I don't know exactly when it started, but i know it wasn't an organic thing, it was pushed by porn companies, and it's fucking weird. it's time to stop.

>>18391692
The phrase comes from Spain, a white country, not Latin America.

You'll be fine just drag it out:

"aaaayyyyy papiiiii que rico"

>>18391658
The very fact that the dirty talk you use needs a disclaimer to ensure that it's clear you don't want to have sex with your father/daughter is weird and off putting as fuck to me.

Sure daddy/little girl stuff is common and a common trope but there's plenty of people who would instantly be done having sex if they hard this. You aren't a prude just for strongly disliking a singular thing that some others do like.

>>18391701
>t. guy that likes to be called "daddy"
mate, you're talking to two different people here. I am not OP and trust me I understand the s/D thing, but words have actual meanings and connotations and saying it's just a word is being disingenuous.
t. Sir.

>>18391699
I NEVER felt like he picked me solely because of the way I look or my age - we have everything in common, share hobbies, we get along well. He never dated younger and he didn't even know how I looked like when we started talking.


>>18391701
I know I am not his daughter, and I am sure he wouldn't fuck his daughter if he had one.
I don't understand why he wants to roleplay this. I don't understand why he likes this at all. It's really beyond my comprehension why someone would want to do things such as age play.
The whole situation is very offputting to me.

>>18391707
>Spain
>white country
Kek :^)

>>18391609
Look, you have every right to know your comfort zone and not step out of it, but you really need to respect others' as well. It's not your thing, but it is his and there really isn't anything wrong it on it's own. You're just overreacting and freaking yourself out by projecting your imaginings onto it by playing amateur psychologist or whatever.

The spectrum of sexuality is extremely broad. People are into all kinds of different stuff and, frankly, you don't really have that much control over what does it for you and what doesn't.

Either respectfully let him know that it's not something you're into but that it's fine if he is, or respectfully break up with him if you know you simply can't be comfortable with him because of this. But DEFINITELY do not go around wearing some holier than thou aura of disgust with your significant other. It's hurtful, disrespectful, and totally uncalled for in this case.

>>18391722


It sounds like a bit of a coincidence...thats all I was saying.

Don't worry about him being a closet pedo then I guess. Just tell him you don't feel comfortable calling him daddy and he should understand. Hopefully he can get his "daddy" fill online and will be happy fucking you without that addition.

>>18391675
Sir is weird and formal and impersonal. Daddy is way more personal and implies a closeness and a more tender form of dominance. Yes it comes from the relationship of father to daughter. It's a borrowed concept. But it's not actually an incestuous fantasy.

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List of things you are very clearly a prude for finding highly objectionable in sex:

-common fetishes like foot, spanking, or roleplay
-common dirty talk and nicknames like "daddy" (or its variations, "papi", etc.)
-normal blemishes and body hair

OP you're a prude and I hope your bf thinks you're worth the shit sex.

>>18391745
>Sir is weird and formal and impersonal.
That's your opinion, just like some find daddy incestuous.

>>18391734
I don't want to shame him over what he likes. I am not going to freak out with him or anything, or insult him, or be an asshole about any of this.
I don't hate him either for wanting this.
I told him I wasn't into it as calmly as I could and he wasn't an ass about it either.

I also know I am overreacting and projecting, but right now that's how I feel. I feel disgusted and anything he ever did for me makes me cringe.
I want to get over it, honestly.

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NEWS FLASH: woman blows something unimportant out of proportion, forever ruining her relationship!

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>>18391751
There is nothing weird about not wanting to hear a term you have 100% associated with your father for more than a literal decade during sex.

>>18391760
so stop dwelling on it you idiot

what, you think you're going to stop this negative ideation by asking strangers and continually talking about it with someone who isn't your boyfriend?

You beat a spiral of negative or irrational thoughts by focusing elsewhere, not going further down the rabbit hole.

>>18391751
>the shit sex
We have a pretty amazing sex life to be honest.
Daddy is a fucking shitty nickname. Papi is as well (and adds that sprinkle of trashy porn to the mix).

>>18391765
Not wanting to call your partner daddy is fine.

Freaking the fuck out about everything your partner has ever said and done because he asked you to call him daddy? That's grade-A puritanical prudeness right there.

epic thread bro xDD

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>>18391771
>We have a pretty amazing sex life to be honest
Considering how hard you flipped your shit over a simple dirty talk request? Pic related.

I remember an ex and I swapping sexual fantasies and her losing her shit over me telling her I had once seen vid of a woman and a horse and had thought it was actually kinda hot. Mind you, this was after she had gone into extreme detail about rape fantasies. She started accusing me of being an animal fucker and shit like that. Totally blew an innocent, passing fetish out of proportion.

You sound like her, OP.

>>18391761
This

>>18391774
I can concede to that, but that's a different statement.

>>18391770
/thread

Seriously. Our feelings are often very strong, but you really need to learn when they're just our feelings and not what's actually happening. Don't conflate the two. You're feeding the beast.

>>18391779
>enjoying horse fucking
haha serves you right

>>18391770
Yes. I spent the last 3 hours obsessing over it and feeling disgusted by everything he ever did.
I went to the gym, I tried studying, but I couldn't focus on anything.

I prefer being called an idiot and rationalise this than sit there thinking of something cute he did for me and feeling like throwing up.

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>>18391799
Then you've ruined what you've characterized as a great relationship over one of the most common and meaningless kinks in human history.

Shit, and I thought the bitch freaking out over foot worship was bad.

Get a fucking grip

>>18391799
Well you are an idiot and if this immediately makes you think he's a pedophile and everything hes ever done for you is some buildup to a child rape fantasy then break up with him and find an Amish settlement.

>>18391776
>Considering how hard you flipped your shit over a simple dirty talk request? Pic related.
I never refused to do anything he had a fantasy about beside this daddy thing and getting pissed on, and I didn't flip my shit at the getting pissed on thing.

>>18391792
Not him, but what's the big deal? It's not like telling someone you like CP or something.

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Wanting to be called "daddy" indicates that your boyfriend is a pedophile or incest maniac the same way liking this costume indicates that you want to fuck cats.

That is to say, not at all.

>>18391816
This. By that logic a piss fetish means he wants to fuck toilets.

>>18391808
I haven't ruined anything. And it's a fucking shit kink.

>>18391810
I don't think he is a pedophile, I never thought so.

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>>18391833
>I haven't ruined anything.
You can't think about your boyfriend doing nice things for you without "wanting to vomit"

Yeah somehow I don't see the relationship lasting like that.

Alright. I think we're done here.

OP doesn't want advice, she just wants validation and fuel for her rampant anxiety. Nothing to see here. Keep it moving, folks.

>>18391833
Its a stupid kink. You're going batshit over A KINK. CALM THINE MAMMARIES.

Say no and get it over with. If you wanted a relationship wit him, an actual serious one, think of how much you're fucking up because "ew daddy kink gross"

Nut up dumbass

>>18391851
I've been with him for 3 years and I'm very happy about us. We live together and I'm pretty sure he's going to propose soon.
I surely don't want to break up because of this and I am trying to get over it and forget about this.

I associate the term "daddy" with my dad so strongly that it feels like trying to push sex into the most non-sexual relationship that I can think of.
I don't understand the appeal of age play. I really cannot wrap my head around it.
It is disgusting in every way I try to rationalise it.

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>>18391871
>I don't understand the appeal of age play
wanting to be called daddy isn't age play

This is age play

>>18391871
I want you to go back and reread that post, and really think about how much of what you're saying is based entirely on emotions and speculation, and how selfish you sound by giving so much credence to your own wild thoughts that you think it's sound justification for judging someone else.

>>18391871
Then S T O P. Youre being irrational and stupid. Sounds like hes moved on over and done with this won't be an issue but you're hanging on for dear life screaming that youre grossed out over something that won't ever happen again. Chill the fuck out seriously youre gonna end up ruining your relationship.

>>18391871
Would you be interested in combining it with rape play? Perhaps you can explore the idea of role-playing nonconsensual sex with your father?

I make every bitch call me daddy you are being ridiculous and probably ugly af grow up

>>18391885
Also if it bothers you so much ur probably repressing the time your dad molested you when you were 3, see a shrink

>>18391876
Then why "daddy"? What's the purpose of me calling him daddy beside implicating a daddy/little girl kind of shit?

>>18391878
It isn't about his kinks, it is about the way I feel about them. I don't understand what else I should be talking about beside by own emotions about this.
I don't think he is a horrible person for having a kink, and I surely don't want to ruin our relationship but I feel this way and I don't know what to do about this.

>>18391885
>>18391891
>implying you would get off on calling a girl mommy

Probably just a hypocrite.

>>18391893
>It isn't about his kinks, it is about the way I FEEL about them. I don't understand what else I should be talking about beside by own EMOTIONS about this.
>I don't think he is a horrible person for having a kink, and I surely don't want to ruin our relationship but I FEEL this way and I don't know what to do about this.

What did I just say about feelings? Either you're dense, or this is bait. I think the latter.

>>18391893
>Then why "daddy"? What's the purpose of me calling him daddy beside implicating a daddy/little girl kind of shit?
It's more about power/dominance. The most powerful member of a family unit is the patriarch.

>>18391883
I laughed.

>>18391885
>>18391891
I'm reasonably pretty and was not molested as a child, thanks for your concern.

>>18391881
I don't know how to stop. I've been feeling bad about this for hours.
I want to stop. I don't want to be validated in my thoughts.
I don't want to feel this way and I don't think less of him because of this thing. I'm sure he'll never do it again.

>>18391904
A more apt comparison would be calling a girl "mistress"

>>18391911
No, it wouldn't. Mommy is the literal equivalent to daddy. You obey or serve your mistress. Your mommy and daddy take care of you.

>>18391910
>I want to stop
see >>18391770

I happen to get violent or sexual intrusive thoughts. I acknowledge them, dismiss them, and move on, because that's the healthy thing to do.

The unhealthy thing to do is dwell on them, rationalize them, use them to make judgements about yourself or others, etc.

>>18391905
Yes, dude. Holy shit. I made a thread to get advice on how to rationalise this and stop feeling this way.
3/4 of the advice I got this far is "lol stop idiot". I would gladly do it if I knew how to stop. I don't want to feel this way and I don't want to get validated in my feelings.

I want to get over this and move forward in my relationship.

>>18391914
>No, it wouldn't
Yes it would.

>Mommy is the literal equivalent to daddy
We're talking about connotation in-context, not textbook denotation. It's about power, not incest.

>>18391910
Then just drop it. All youre doing is cycling what ifs in your head. If its that bad talk to him.

>>18391904
>

>>18391918
Is this the first time you've fixated on an intrusive thought?

>>18391920
It is also the psychological equivalent. Both are a figure of authority who loves you a lot and takes both a stern and a nurturing role. Yes you can argue that a father is slightly different in emotional associations but either way the difference is less big than with mistress (formal, distant).

>>18391906
Why the family dynamic tho? And why does it have to be specifically the dad and no, say, the husband or something like that?

Genuinely trying to understand. Not bullying.

>>18391933
>Why the family dynamic though
because that's how our brains are wired, for familial tribes. The leader of that tribe is the patriarch. The father.

>>18391930
>daddy means nurturing but mistress means formal and distant
Funny you should say that, because I think most girls into calling their man daddy would say that they see patriarchs as formal and distant.

>>18391933
It's family dynamic because the father is stern for you within a context of love. He watches out for you and adores you, but he also makes the rules, he's older, he knows what's good for you.

A husband does not have the same level of safety because it's less unconditional than a parent-child bond. Also husband and wife are equal.

For the record I intellectually understand this but it still turns me off to no end.

>>18391929
I used to fixate on intrusive thoughts when I was younger, but growing up most things became easy to rationalise or suppress.

>>18391910
Maybe it's some kind of insecurity? Like you're trying to pretend the 8-year age gap doesn't mean anything at all, while he acknowledges it, enjoys it and wants to play it up a bit in the bedroom.

Not saying you have to go along with the "daddy" thing if it turns you off, but it sounds like he's not being pushy about it at all, and you're just freaking out that he even suggested it. So maybe you're just really insecure about the nature/power dynamic of your relationship, how other people might perceive it, etc.

>>18391940
If you want to have a formal and distant relationship with your Dom you can call him master, sir, professor etc. The very reason to call him daddy instead is because it's more emotionally charged and close.

>>18391933
Because it's hotter that way prude

>>18391947
If you say so, I've only been told this shit by a girl who called me daddy so what do I know

>>18391943
Well this is a reminder back to those times.

>>18391953
This is the most common way that people explain wanting to use the term daddy despite plenty of alternatives and despite not being into ageplay/incest. See >>18391745 (and no that's not me)

>>18391958
>This is the most common way that people explain wanting to use the term daddy despite plenty of alternatives and despite not being into ageplay/incest.
Link to study please

>>18391948
Am I a prude for not wanting to fuck family members? Kek.

>>18391940
>>18391942
Thanks for this. Makes some sense now.
Still a complete turn off, but I can sort of see the point. Mildly gross, but less.

>>18391946
I was very scared about getting in a relationship with a big age gap because I dislike feeling "fetishised" for my appearance. I had guys trying to fuck me because of specific physical traits and it felt really awful.

>>18391964
No study but see for yourself, read the top comments. I've been lurking sex related internet for a long time...

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/z471i/am_i_the_only_one_who_finds_the_whole_daddy_thing/

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/3ojcm2/discussion_i_think_i_like_being_called_daddy/

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/3lkp4m/questionkink_women_who_call_their_so_daddy_in_bed/

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/2nj9vt/ask_sex_those_of_you_who_are_into_daddy/

>>18391910
You sound fucking retarded holy fucking shit

>>18391969
>Am I a prude for not wanting to fuck family members? Kek.
Calling your boyfriend "daddy" doesn't turn him into your father. It's role-play. People have all sorts of kinks that they enjoy as fantasy, but wouldn't actually want to do in real life. That's pretty much the whole foundation of sexuality and arousal. Some things are fun specifically because they're "wrong." Sharing those fantasies with a partner is an act of trust

>>18391979
You're kinda bringing that train of thought on yourself. Its clear that isnt what he's thinking but you jumped right into that conclusion. That shows a massive lack of trust and respect on your part.

>>18391969
>Am I a prude for not wanting to fuck family members?

You're a prude for not being able to do basic role play. A girl introduced me to daddy stuff and all it does is put me in a more dominant role. You're looking too deeply into things and too attached to your father apparently

>>18391979
But it sounds like you've been with this guy for a long time, and you know that he values you for many reasons other than your appearance. Would it be so bad if he ALSO enjoys and fetishizes the same traits that other guys liked? Why not just accept that you're a certain "type," with certain unique traits that make you attractive, and that's perfectly OK as long as you're with a caring, respectful partner who treats you as more than an object?

You chose an older partner yourself, so maybe on some level you're drawn to the same dynamic he is. And that's not a bad thing at all, the important thing is just that you treat each other well.

And again, if you don't like the "daddy" play, don't do it. But you're being kind of unfair to him by freaking out & judging him just because he suggested something he'd enjoy.

Hopefully this shit works out, but I'll never cease to be amazed that people take sexual kinks so seriously.

Everyone has a kink that's not kosher, everyone like crazy weird shit related to sex because we're human beings and sex is weird. Everyone's fucked up.

Haven't you ever listened to the Stranger by Billy Joel?

>>18392002
Yes, it makes me feel bad to feel like he is fetishizing me. It makes me disposable and interchangeable, it makes me attractive just because I fit into a certain type. I don't want to be attractive because I fit a "type".
I don't specifically like older men. I was drawn to him because he is a really good person and we are very intellectually compatible, other than physically.

>>18392064
Then why are you so fucking OBSESSED with the belief you're being fetishized when you clearly aren't? Go see a therapist

>>18392069
I am not?
I was just explaining that to me being attractive because I fit a specific physical type is very offputting.

>>18392074
>being attractive because I fit a specific physical type is very offputting

Everyone is a type. Maybe grow up and stop kidding yourself.

>>18391992
He is in a dominant role when we have sex, calling him daddy wouldn't make him any more dominant.

I am very attached to my father, I don't know if having a good relationship with your parents is weird.

>>18391987
It really wasn't "clear" to me.
I didn't understand the point of enjoying being called sexually unless he wanted some sort of ageplay that I'm totally not down for.
I am totally fine with the dom/sub dynamic, the age stuff is extremely offputting and is the part that creeped me out.

>>18392074
Guys (and girls for this matter) have this thing called tastes: they find women who look a certain way more attractive. Some guys prefer women to be full Cally girl with giant tits and whatnot. Some like me prefer a more demure looking women, cute over hot so to speak. Some like your bf like their gfs short and adorable, which is probably why he likes your appearance. No he doesnt want to fuck children and no he doesnt want to be your incestuous father. Its a taste thing. You happen to be the body type he's attracted to and if you don't like guys because of the type they are attracted to is yours then HOOOOO SWEETIE BETTER PREP UP THEM LITTER BOXES YOU GON BE THE CRAZY CAT LADY

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>>18392087
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>>18392104
I got it now, fuckhead. I even used the fucking past tense.

>I *didn't* understand

>>18392091
I don't really have a type, or anyway nothing specific, so what you are saying really doesn't mean much to me.

Being liked because I fit a type always made me feel... worthless and disposable.
There are tons of youthful and cute and small girls, and I won't be like this forever. I'll get old.
If he likes me because I fit a type, a type I won't even fit in 15 years, it means that he'll stop being attracted to me.
It's sad to be with a man and feel like in 15 years he'd rather be fucking some other girl, or will actually be fucking another girl.

>>18392122
Oh shut up.

You got the appearance he likes and most girls have that too but theres also P E R S O N A L I T Y.
If you are interesting and actually match with him then the appearance is a nice bonus practically. He sticks with you because he likes you emotionally not just you fit his preferred category of >5 1/2 ft female. If that was the case he'd be doing it with 90 different girls already and ghosted you on the first night.

Stop being fucking stupid he likes you for your personality. Course I certainly can't see the appeal but love is fucking retarded like that.

>women in charge of maintaining a healthy relationship
i would call my bf daddy is he asked. women are legit worthless

>>18391609
If it makes you uncomfortable, let him know. These anons saying "it's not that big a deal and you should just go with it" aren't thinking about the submissive side of the spectrum. Everyone has their own comfort levels with sex and roleplay, but the side that IS uncomfortable with something should not be the one that has to "take it for the team".

>>18392135
I do not think that he likes me just because of my appearance, I never even implied that.

I am just telling you that I know that in 10 years I won't be a small, cute, youthful girl and it's shitty to feel like in 10 years your man wouldn't like you because you are not his type anymore. Which is why I don't enjoy feeling fetishized/objectified like that.
Makes me feel like in 10 years, when I don't look like this anymore, he'll just cheat on me, dump me or whatever.
It's a general thought, not anything about my relationship.

When I was asked if it would have been bad if my boyfriend fetishized me because of the way I look, I had to say yes.

>>18392148
Were not telling her to roll with it dumbass she has the right to say no. Were saying for her to dial it down a few thousand notches because shes sperging out about all of the "horrible implications" of the kink. Like chill out

>>18392156
NOT THE POINT IDIOT.
IM SAYING YOUR APPEARANCE WONT MATTER IN A FEW YEARS BECAUSE IF HES A MAN WORTH HIS SALT IT WONT MATTER TO HIM. SHUT UP AND STOP BEING PARANOID THIS CRAZY BULLSHIT DELUSIONAL THINKING IS THE QUICKEST WAY TO CONVINCE YOUR MAN TO CHEAT OR LEAVE YOUR DUMB ASS.

>>18392165
Lol, did you even read what I said?

>I do not think that he likes me just because of my appearance, I never even implied that.
>It's a general thought, not anything about my relationship.

I'm not paranoid. It was just a general consideration.

My appearance will matter. It will matter always. I want my SO to always be attracted to me which is why I work out, diet, take care of my skin and shit.

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>>18392172
I'm done youre contradicting yourself at every turn and either lying or changing your mind hot and cold every instant. Have fun killing your love life and living alone until you die. We fucking tried you autistic fucktard.

>>18392161
>>18392165
>"chill out"
>Reads the post below
Maximum kek. You anons are the one's flipping shit. Never change

>>18392104
looks like you're the dense motherfucker, retard. read the post you just quoted.

>>18392064
That's what I was trying to say, though. You're not attractive to him just because you fit a type. You're not disposable or interchangeable to him. But, from the sound of it, you ARE his type physically. Your looks are a "plus," not a "minus," for him.

It would be a bad relationship if he chose you BECAUSE you fit a type. But that's not the case, from the way you've described him. If it was, he'd get all whiny or pushy if you didn't go along with the role-play, he probably would've brought it up much earlier in the relationship. But he didn't.

so what I'm saying is that you guys are a good match emotionally and mentally, from your description. You're freaking out because you ALSO match his physical, sexual interests. Why is that bad? It sounds like an ideal relationship.

Everyone has a "type," whether you like it or not. For guys like your boyfriend, that isn't the #1 priority. But it's still there. And you'd probably be miserable in a different way if you WEREN'T his type, if you'd always catch him looking at other women who don't look like you.

tl;dr just get over it

>>18392279
Obviously I am not saying that I don't want my boyfriend to find me attractive or to enjoy fucking me. I think he's hot as hell and sex with him is great, and I really hope he feels the same.

What I am saying is that my physical appearance will change over the next few years - soon enough, I won't look like a teenage girl. And if the sole reason why he is attracted to me physically is that I look youthful and cutesy, he won't be attracted to me long term. Whatever I do, as much as I try to stay in shape, take care of my skin, be pretty for him in a few years he will inevitably stop being attracted to me and his interest in me/sexual attraction towards me will die out.

I dislike being fetishised/objectified for my youthfulness especially because it is not something that is going to stay. It means I will be worthless in 10 years.

>>18392333
>And if the sole reason why he is attracted to me physically is that I look youthful and cutesy, he won't be attracted to me long term
Or maybe he'll get hit by a car tomorrow. Or maybe you'll have a brain aneurysm in 2 weeks and end up paralyzed from the waist down. Or maybe you'll completely lose your attraction to HIM because he suggested a sexual activity that turns you off, and that'll be the thing that ends the relationship. There's a whole lot of "maybes" that could ruin any relationship. Love is a risk. Spending your whole life alone is a lot safer.

Or maybe you could just trust him, maybe you could take into account the way he's treated you so far, and stop thinking the worst of him.

>I NEVER felt like he picked me solely because of the way I look or my age - we have everything in common, share hobbies, we get along well. He never dated younger and he didn't even know how I looked like when we started talking.

Your own words. Stop being such a baby. He brought up a kink that you don't like, you can get past this.

>>18391745
>Sir is weird and formal and impersonal
sir is respectful, but not in a weird, I'm invoking a familial relationship to pattern on you so I respect you, way. it's up to me if its formal, laid back, sensual, or impersonal; not some random on the internet.
all I know is I don't want a potential mother of my children calling me daddy.

>all the normalization of animal fucking, age play, crossing signals using the word daddy, projection, and just plain stupidity in here.
boy you can really tell when you hit on something because a dead ass board like this lights up with shills.

>>18392354
Again, I was explaining why I don't want to have my youthfulness fetishized. I never felt like he particularly cares about it before today, otherwise I wouldn't be dating him.
The question was this:
> Would it be so bad if he ALSO enjoys and fetishizes the same traits that other guys liked?
And my reply was yes, it'd be, for the reason I explained above.

I always saw the daddy thing as an inherently incestuous/age based role play, but once I've been explained that it can have no implication of that kind and just be a dom/sub thing I understood.

>>18392383
You said it's bad because you're worried he'll lose interest in you when you no longer fit his fetish. Even though, for many reasons you already mentioned, you're much more than a fetish object to him. Is it possible he'll lose interest in you over time? Of course it is. A million things are possible.

But it's also possible that he won't. He's given you every reason to believe that your relationship has a much stronger foundation than that. You'd be an idiot to throw this away because there's a CHANCE it might fizzle out in ten years. You're the one who's turning against HIM right now over something even more insignificant than that. Why should he have any faith in you? Why should he stay in this relationship if you'll be "so grossed out you can't even touch him" every time he brings up a new idea in the bedroom?

Take it or leave it, I'm done with this thread.

>>18392406
Holy shit.

I thought that the daddy thing was something inherently connected to age play/incestuous shit, I couldn't see it as something that had to do with domination itself without further implications.
To me the word "daddy" is something that immediately makes me think of my father, I couldn't see it without those connotations.
I have been told that for some people it doesn't have those implications and someone was so kind to explain me the logic behind it.
I got it, I rationalised it, I am over it.

I do not think that my boyfriend fetishises me. I was asked why it would be bad if he did, I explained why it'd bother me/scare me/turn me off.
It was a general consideration, not a pressing issue in my relationship.

I never desired to throw away our relationship over this. I never "turned against him". I never judged him or hated him or thought he was a pedophile or whatever people fucking implied.

I don't get grossed out every time he brings up a fetish, I actually never did before today.

>>18391609

dumb bitch overreacting as usual, move along

>>18391609
I asked my boyfriend to let me call him daddy lol

He didn't really like it at first either but he tried cause I like it. Now he either tells me to do it or it slips out. It's really nbd now and I don't even do it that often.

I don't really get off on the daddy/daughter fetish, my interest is more in being dominated and I think he understands that.