No sex?

>>18390996
Try to understand why their sex drive changed and what can I do to help them.
If there's nothing I can do, either deal with it or leave.

>>18390999

I've been trying to help for so long now. I've tried backing off, asking what I can do to help, being dominant, being submissive, being romantic, compliments, etc. Nothing changes and I'm just told "it'll get better", despite them not being able to tell me what the problem is.

Twist - I'm female

I assume your partner is a dude. Sounds like either he's depressed, or you really let yourself go.

>>18391014

The opposite. I workout five times a week and eat healthily. I'm probably fitter than I was when we met.

>>18391006
Don't you communicate with him?
Try to understand what's wrong. Tell him that you need to work on what changed for him. Don't just nag him, try to be there, love him, be kind to him.
Ask him if his sex drive is a problem for him. Ask him if he wants to see a doctor about it. Ask him if there's something you can do to help him feel better.

>>18391018

I've done all these things, several times. The response is always the same - it'll get better. It isn't though, and I'm starting to resent it.

The rest of our relationship is 10/10. I wouldn't have thought a drop in sex drive could create so much unhappiness.

>>18391026
But "it gets betters" is not a reason. You need to ask him to explain to you why you're not fucking anymore, not just giving you shit excuses.
Again, it is a communication problem.

How old are you? How long have you been together? Since when did the sex life drop?

>>18390996
Since he's a guy and so I'm I, I'm going to take a guess. It's probably an issue with erectile dysfunction or something similar. It's extremely embarrassing and guys don't want to talk about it, not even with their gf's or wives. I know because I've had it and I did the same thing. I got so freaked I wouldn't be able to perform I wouldn't want to have sex. Finally, my worst fear came true. I actually couldn't during sex and had to come clean. I couldn't explain why someone I had become comfortable with I had become so nervous with. I think I was afraid it wasn't fun or exciting anymore and was becoming routine. I was so worried about being good in bed I just couldn't do it anymore. Talking and having a patient partner relives the anxiety and I also took viagra to boost my confidence. Eventually everything went back to normal. As a guy, it was so humiliating but my gf was so cool about it. Please don't be a cunt. Help him through this.

>>18391006
He either got depression, got into very tight life situation, cheated on you or simply got erectile disfunction.

Until you found out what is wrong, we can type long paragraphs and nothing will change.

What is his problem? Try to pinpoint it.

>pro tip
Boys arent allowed to show weaknesses, emotions, problems or even ask for help. So you hate to BEAT HIM to admit what is wrong. Emotional blackmailing, invading his privacy anything goes in war and love.

Until he trusts you and tell you what is wrong, you have to fight it or break up.

So what will you do?

>>18391035

Probably just try and be as supportive as possible until he feels better or decides to tell me, I suppose. I don't know what I expected advice to tell me, but thank you so much for your replies so far.

>>18391044
Wrong answer. Waiting for happines to cone on its own is the worst possible action to make.

Try again.
The longer you will go sexless / without intimacy, the higher chance you will have dead bedroom forever.
>hint
Even guys with broken dick can satisfy girl just to show her they till care about her.

>>18390996
I'm a male and I've gone through stages like this. Probably the last thing he wants is you to pressure him. Just leave it be if you wanna keep dating him. If not dump him.

>>18391017
Is it possible that he might feel theres a divide between you guys?
Perhaps he's feeling selfconscious or having problems with his image and doesnt know how to communicate it.
Not even wakeup blowjobs can cure them feels.

If the roles were recvrsed, every guy in this thread would be saying "dump the bitch".

Let's face it... a fulfilling, intimate sexual relationship is part of the overall relationship and if it isn't happening, one of two things must happen.

1 - you break up.
2 - you talk to him, find out what the issue is and resolve it.

Waiting isn't an option. Unless there is honest and open communication, relationships won't work. If he has a mental or physical problem then it's up to him to say what it is and get help for it. Otherwise, she shouldn't wait around for him.

He has asked me to add that he gave up valium 9 months ago after being a habitual user for several years. He feels this is a result of coming off them (although as I said, the frequency has become less in the past six months).

This may affect your answers.