Am I the only girl who finds guys disgusting, who watch a lot

>>18389141
You are not are not the only one. That doesn't make you right, but you aren't alone.

>>18389141
>Am i wrong or is this normal?
No, this is normal. In truth, any interest in sexual things outside of your relationship is considered a betrayal of sorts as this external entity becomes a part of the relationship.
>i cannot tell him and make him change he is not the guy who really likes working on himself
This relationship is not going to end well if he is not open to compromise and growing with you.

I am one of these guys (or used to be).
I think that you gotta understand it's out of habit/boredom more than anything else.

>>18389151
yes thats how it feels.
>This relationship is not going to end well if he is not open to compromise and growing with you.
no i know it sounds pretty shitty to me too sometimes.
>>18389152
why did you 'stop'?

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>>18389163
Erectile Dysfunction

>>18389151
Ever think that compromising goes both ways?

I feel like this question needs to be asked at some point.
>Do you "satisfy" each other
>How often do you "satisfy" each other
For some guys it impedes their day to day life if they don't get off.

>>18389141
I think its disrespectful while in a relationship. I understand they'll watch but hide it at least. Its been a long time since I'll use a guys computer since I know what they use it for.

But OP I had an ex that would watch even if I was over and we were hanging out so I downloaded a bunch of big dicks and he flipped the fuck out when he saw what I was looking at. Fucker

>>18389141
Why would he watch so much porn if he has a girlfriend? Fuck him more.

>>18389169
It does go both ways. Both sides need to balance and satisfy one another and if there are problems, they need to talk and compromise.
>For some guys it impedes their day to day life if they don't get off
Then masturbate or go to counseling to learn some self control. I believe thats generally accepted by both genders with little issue. If your girlfriend doesn't like that you watch porn, talk about it and consider other alternatives. Stop thinking like a child believing his toys are getting taken away.

>>18389141
How often do you try to do sexual things with him?

It's normal. However it's not unreasonable for you not to like it. Is it a deal breaker? If so, have you tried making him not want to look at porn? I look at it strictly when I'm bored and alone.

>>18389165
Yeah thats prettz much what my boyfriend has sometimes. I told him i think its because of porn but he denies it.

>>18389170
Exactly what i think. If i told him that i thought big dicks were good looking he would get really fucking insecure. But when I get insecure because of all of these hot chicks thats not his problem

>>18389191
You should talk to him and tell him all of this, but again if he is unwilling to compromise or hear you out I doubt this relationship will remain strong.

>>18389187
Does he death grip? If so, tell him to relax because no vagina can naturally grip like his fist. Does he ejaculate a lot or right before putting in your stink cavern? If so, tell him to stop it so you guys can enjoy sex. Is he desensitized to whatever you can make your fuck holes do? If so, tell him to get good and stop because Jesus in like a year he's going to be on /b/ debating the merits of a feminine penis.

For real though if it bothers you, tell him. He has the obligation to see if its a deal breaker or not.

>>18389183
the more insecure i get the less sex iwant, so at the moment i prefer him a blow job or what ever. We have sex about 2-3 times a week but its not very passionat

>>18389191
And exactly why I downloaded all those big dicks. I had pale ones, brown and black ones, straight and bent at all angles, fat and skinny oozing cum or hanging low. I put together one group of what I labeled yummy dicks. He flipped out.

>>18389202
Sad erectile dysfunction guy here and I feel I may be able to offer genuine advice.

It's been an issue with me ever since I started going out with girls (2 fucking years ago) and it's just something I put up with and detest. Just to be clear what you've described is literally me, I can just about get hard via hand/blowjob but as soon as we try to get down and jiggy with it shit breaks/even if we do have sex I don't feel anything. The passion thing sorta goes like this:

>not feeling anything during sex so semi hard but trying my best by trying to think about how hot it is/how beautiful she is or whatever
>in an attempt to get things passionate my gf starts moaning and moaning "harder" and all this shit with loads of eye rolling n shit
>it just feels so fake I get all pathetic and what little enthusiasm I had is lost

My advice is keep sex genuine, go slooooow, if he's a nice guy you can probably be like "Maybe you jacked off too recently?" after it doesn't work and then he might make the link.
Be kind though, ED is one of the most emasculating things that can happen to a guy.

>>18389223
Thats really good advice there thanks.
But it only happened a few times and it made me think was that i wasnt good enough and really made me feel bad about myself. We had to whats porn so he could get a boner which made me even more insecure.
I didnt really think about how he must have felt. He didnt seem like he was embarrassed but he might have just tried hiding his feelings.

>>18389223
yeah I kinda had his, I could only cum in doggy position... never anyway else

>>18389141
Most of us, if not all of us, feel this way. We just accept it because there's no other choice.

>>18389191
Fucking exactly.

>>18389248
Okay that's just insensitive.
He shouldn't do that jesus christ imagine if you did that to him.
Fucking talk to him and tell him that it's hurtful.

>>18389273
I did at that time but he didnt understand. Yes he can be a real dick sometimes

>>18389272
>Most of us, if not all of us, feel this way. We just accept it because there's no other choice
There is always a choice. Can't you talk to your significant other and have a compromise so that you are not simply bending over and allowing something that clearly bothers you in your relationship? How can your significant other be ok with this knowing you aren't happy with it?

>>18389288
Thats the question.

This used to be an issue with me as a guy but that was only because every girl I had been with before didn't have as high of a sex drive. I wanted consistent sex and none of them could provide it so I had to turn elsewhere to satisfy my urges. That shit is incredibly frustrating to deal with as a man and can't be ignored as easily as it can with some women.

That all changed with my current gf. Her drive is insane and on the same level as mine so it's been a solid year and a half since I've even thought of looking at porn. Straight up sex doesn't always have to be an answer, sometimes a quick handjob or blowjob is all I fucking want so I can move on with the day, same goes for her. A quick oral sex session to get her off and we can do other stuff. Sometimes sex is just too much of a hassle and time commitment.

Clearly just do what other people here say and just talk to him. Doing all this passive aggressive bullshit like downloading dick pics and hoping he sees them and makes the connection is just fucking retarded. Speak like adults to each other and communicate your wants and needs.

>>18389309
No i wouldnt do that. Its just the same if i did it and he would flip. Its just unfair and this is the best example for it. I would really talk to him about it and we have many times but it doenst seem like he understands any of it

>>18389141
this is your opinion. opinions cannot be wrong, and you cannot force someone to change theirs.
sounds like you need someone who shares your opinion.

>>18389222
awesome. fucking awesome. OP should definetly do that. fuck. this is genius. i wish myself dubs so OP has to do it.

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>>18389222

>>18389141
No, you're not the only one. My ex-girlfriend was exactly like that. She was mature enough to know she was wrong though, so she just didn't care as long as I didn't say anything about it. She turned out to be more toxic than that - she was absurdly possessive and didn't even like it when I went out to a male friend house to watch films, TV shows and play video games. I had to end our relationship.

Anyway, masturbation is just as natural as eating chocolate. See, chocolate is not something that nature gives us spontaneously. It is man-made but it is pleasurable. Likewise, masturbation is a way for us to achieve orgasm, which is pleasurable, if not exactly functional in this case. Watching porn is just like adding sugar to your chocolate. Eating chocolate without any sugar is horrible because it has a strong bitter taste. Add some sugar and it becomes something delicious, as you may know it. Men are NOT like women. We need visual cues to get 100% off. You can't change that, that's just an evolutionary trait. Sure, we can use our imagination sometimes but it gets tiresome after a while. We need that extra sugar to get completely satisfied. If that bothers you, ok, but it's not something you will be able to change at all. You need to treat those obsessive thoughts. I never cheated on my ex-girlfriend. She was the only one I wanted to have sex with. But she had her own life, her own studies and work, so we weren't 24/7 together. Porn was just a thing for me to get off when she wasn't here and that's all. No big fucking deal. Just like eating chocolate when you don't have pizza.

>>18389222
/adv/ is really fucking good today

>>18389309
No i wouldnt do that. Its just the same if i did it and he would flip. Its just unfair and this is the best example for it. I would really talk to him about it and we have many times but it doenst seem like he understands any of it

I'm >>18389409
Just wanted to answer this:

>>18389222
If a girlfriend of mine did that, I wouldn't mind at all. She could do anything with her life, as long as she doesn't cheat on me. I'm not a control freak, nor a possessive moron. If she genuinely loves me, she won't cheat on me with a "bigger dick". If she did that, then she wasn't the right girl for me and it would be a pleasure to dump her. So, as long as it's not for real, she can watch as many dicks on the internet as she wants. It's just an aesthetic taste, not a sentimental one.

I posted a thread awhile ago related to this, my boyfriend watches so much porn, it really upsets me (neglect and "why the fuck are you watching this garbage") and I don't know how to bring it up, the past few times I've worked up the guts to talk to him about it something comes up like he invited friends over earlier without telling me.

I don't hate porn or masturbation, it's just the quality and quality of his addiction is disappointing and honestly a little disturbing, the intimacy is really lacking and I fucked myself over by playing along with his fantasies which I have to act through because I don't actually enjoy them.

And how I'm caught in this vicious cycle of not wanting to have sex as often because I know it's gonna suck until I say something, and don't know how to say it without being a huge bitch. I want to be calm and for us both to have had okay days at work or whatever before getting into that conversation, but the past month has been a never-ending shit sandwich, and he's amped up the porn intake which doesn't exactly make me calm about this.

>>18389428
this

I'm >>18389428

>>18389436
Now this is a little bit different than OP. Maybe I was a little edgy earlier but that's because I don't like this "porn-hating" mentality WHEN it's not explicitly messing with the relationship. Porn addiction is a thing. If he's neglecting you because of porn, now that's something completely different and he's in the wrong there.

Basically, if you're not happy about it, you should tell him. Communication is very important. If he really loves you, he will try to change that. If he doesn't, I think you would be better off without him, even if this sounds cold. A partner should respect his significant other's feelings, as long as the significant other's feelings are not interfering with theirs to begin with. That's why I was complaining before about not respecting a private porn session that doesn't interfere at all with the relationship. But if it is EXPLICITLY interfering, like you said there, then it is indeed a problem. Like I said, you should totally speak to him about it. He's probably going to bitch if he's indeed addicted, just like any addicted person thinks he's not. But that would be in his mind forever now: the fact that you are not happy and he could lose you. Maybe he's not going to change much at the beginning but as time passes by and he sees you're still not happy, maybe he's going to start changing for fear of losing you. Anyway, that's just it: communicate and act cold.

>>18389477
Thanks man. This has been bugging me for awhile now, I know I just need to get it over with and tell him how I feel. He's probably going to get upset with himself and be a little melodramatic, no denial about his addiction, I think deep down he knows it's a problem too.

Any advice on how to break it to him that some of his kinks actually turn me off after pretending to be into it for so long? Like I said, he's probably going to get upset with himself, I don't want him to feel like / complete / shit... Ideally this conversation would end with us having some awesome sex.

>>18389441
But what if she really gets off by big dicks and you dont have a one? What if you often see her looking at them and getting off by it or talks about it. Isnt that the same? You would get really insecure about your cock after a while wouldnt you?
Of course its ok to look at porn its just the amount of it that bothers me and obviously other girls too. Actually i sometimes watch it myself but only when i'm alone and i keep it for myself. And also in porn mostly what you see is a women and a mans belly and dick. Its hard to find porn where the male is attractive and gets me off by looking at him, so you probably dont get to know what it feels like to see a more attractive man than yourself very often.

>>18389141
>>18389436

I feel this way about girls and shoes (or other insert stupid shit that's unnecessary/time could be better spent elsewhere)
but then I get over it

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The problem every here has isn't insecurity.
It's misunderstanding and lack of appreciation for your significant other's interests. Imagine you getting pissed because your partner likes reading a particular genre of book. How silly does that sound?

Both parties collect, watch and enjoy the porn they like because they know it works and it gets them off. Each party know exactly how to touch themselves to either edge for hours or to quickly rub one out when they know they gotta leave and catch a bus in 10 minutes.

Getting insecure about what excites the other on a screen is no different than being insecure about the other wanting to try something outside of your tastes between the sheets. If you aren't completely opposed to the idea, encourage a watered-down version of such play; start small. If you or they are completely opposed to it, discuss exactly what it is that worries you. Infidelity? Ridicule? Orientation?

Jesus, if I caught my girl jilling off to huge dick porn or BDSM or something out of my range of tastes, the last thing I'd want to do is make her embarassed for it. What you must understand is that you making the other feel bad for what they like means they will forever associate you with a negative feeling.
If my girl freaked out every time I drove and insisted I drive how she wishes, I'd pretty soon find excuses for not including her on future roadtrips. This is however a two way street.

Before you make the other person change to suit you, try adjusting yourself to accept them. If nothing else, treat them with respect for what they like just as you would respect them for liking a particular music genre or book.

Join in; ask them about what is exactly they like about their kinks. Try mutual masturbation and watch & learn how your significant other brings themself to orgasm. This will make them more attractive to you.
Being this open and vulnerable and safe with a person you are meant to trust goes hand-in-hand with a healthy sexual relationship.

>>18389141
I don't find anyone watching porn digusting, but I do find people that have porn collection on their computer/phone/ whatever kinda gross.
I mean watching porn should just be a quick thing ya know ? Get off and that's it.

>>18389504
It's not really comparable. A good sexlife is part of a healthy relationship. If a girl is secretly buying excessive amounts of shoes online and neglecting you physically and emotionally, would you get over it?

>>18389519
Just compared it though.
Agree that a good sexlife is part of a healthy relationship - but reject the assumption that OP's situation (or porn in general) necessitates "neglect"
Sometimes, the person who feels neglected is a clingy bitch. Or at least, toward that side of the spectrum - few things are absolute.
Communication, as has been mentioned, is key.
>>18389506 is a pretty good post.
If I had an issue, I'd do some introspection first. Step 0 (which most people never address or even consider) is to ask "is this a problem?" And is it a problem worth giving a fuck about?
And then, if it really was, I'd say something.
But I'd probably get over it, if the issue concerned my dislike of how someone else spent their time, and my needs were met.

>>18389506
This is the most mature post in here (even though I posted here as well but I find this even better than my own advices).

This is how a relationship is supposed to work - with an open mind, knowing that the other person is a different person with different tastes and understanding that respect must be above everything else. People should try to understand and respect your significant other's tastes and - why not? - trying to join in. Deep down, a relationship is based on mutual interests because if a couple is going to spend a lot of time together, they should do things together or at least give some space to the other so they can do their things.

You will NOT try to make them feel guilty about their interests. That would invalidate them as a person.

At the same time, I still feel that porn addiction is, in fact, a thing that should be treated but only if it is, in fact, an ADDICTION (i.e., a disorder where a person starts to neglect important things in their lives so they can engage in compulsive rewarding stimuli). It's important to note, however, that your significant other have no need to spend 24/7 with you. If they're having some daily time alone watching porn and still spending a lot of time with you and with their other interests and responsibilities, that is NOT an addiction.

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>>18389222
Hot damn I should come to /adv/ more often

Why do you keep calling it an addiction? What's wrong with having a wank every now and then?

>>18389628
Nothing. I dont think OP did

>>18389141
It's pretty gross how women are expected to be ok with their boyfriends and husbands collecting mass amounts of porn. Men a few decades ago would normally only have a few nude magazines and occasionally rent dirty films. Now almost every guy is into watching extreme porn every single fucking day and has hordes of it stashed on their computers. The problem is so bad that men commonly have ED because of their constant porn use. This type of behavior is disgusting and honestly very disrespectful in a committed relationship. I don't mind porn once in awhile but guys over do it these days to the point of not being able to get it up for real sex. Your reaction to this is normal OP don't let the pervs here tell you otherwise.

>>18389141
>girl who finds guys disgusting, who watch a lot of porn
>My boyfriend is like this

Apparently not disgusted enough as you're dating one.

>>18389141
I dislike it, but I don't find it disgusting.
I don't mind if my boyfriend watches porn, as long as it doesn't influence my relationship and I am not super aware of it.

>>18390907
Men used to cheat on their wives and fuck whores till not so long ago. Till 50-60 years ago it was completely normal for men to cheat on their wives.

Stop idealising the past and shitting over the present.

>>18391571
Exactly this.

>>18391571

This is a surprisingly good point.

Anyways, I'm a single guy, but here's how I'm gonna lay down my perspective on this given my past relationship. We all fantasize about things, and we need some kind of fast release sometimes. I'm going to be honest, sometimes sex is a chore. I don't want to worry about pleasuring someone else, I don't want to worry about foreplay, I don't want to do anything besides get myself off.

So I have a few saved videos to my computer... so what? If I had gigs and gigs of categorically sorted porn, maybe I'd have a problem. But I also have a few fetishes I'm NEVER going to burden my girlfriend or wife with, and therefore hide a few things where I can quickly get off in my own privacy and go about my day.

Porn isn't really about choosing those women over you, it's about wanting a different flavor of ice cream than your normal go-to every once in a while.

>>18389141
What disgusts other people doesn't matter in your relationship. Girls who've had sex with a lot of guys disgust me, yet there is one getting married every day. If it disgusts you talk to him. He is probably a porn addict though. I used to be one. Most guys in this day and age probably are imo.

>>18392475
It's only an addiction if you're missing school, university, work, hobbies, going out etc. for the sake of watching porn. Don't trivialize the word "addiction". It is a serious problem. If you drink alcohol every other day and you still function well in society, you're not addicted.

>>18392518
>what is high functioning addiction

addiction starts when you do it to not feel bad or be pissed off all the time

its not about having fun

>>18392543
There's no such thing as "high-functioning addiction". It's impossible to function completely well while addicted. At least some areas on your life will be impaired. My ex-gf's mother was alcoholic, she drank everyday, the whole day, starting at the morning, but she could work well. Nonetheless, she was a shitty person who would treat my ex-gf very badly and didn't have any fucking friends because no one liked her. There's no way an addicted person is going to high-function.

>>18389141
I don't give a shit what you think and the same goes for all other males.

t. male with at least 1TB worth of porn.

>>18392608

You're an idiot. An addict can hide a lot of their problems in private and not have much shown to the outside world. If they show up to work on time and produce, and don't treat people like shit, they're functional.

Your story is literally about someone who ISN'T functioning.

>>18389222
It's not ok when women do it.

When a man watches porn, it's detached and completely superficial.

When a woman does, it is indicative of bigger problems in the relationship and poses an existential crisis to your boyfriend. It touches him on a level far deeper than "insecurity". Now I know you didn't understand that and probably didn't mean to hurt him, all I'm saying is, that what you did is far worse than what he did.

Also imo, it shows a level of despair. You were unwilling to work out problems without causing problems yourself. If he's not listening to you -- and if that's the problem -- then you should've focused on that and fixed it responsibly. He's your boyfriend, of all the people in the world, he will listen to you. You probably have the most influence over him, more than anyone else in the world. If there's one person who could help him quit bad behaviors, it's his woman.

So while I understand that it's "funny". That's fine. You do whatever you feel like. I'm only saying that what you did was worse and an irresponsible solution.

You may have actually planted a seed of a breakup. Your chance of breakup is probably now 100%. Really don't underestimate how stuff like this harms men. But I think you don't mind, because it sounds like you probably don't love him all that much.

>>18392616
Alright, man, you know what? You're right, I'll give you that. No need to call me an idiot, though.

Seriously, I'm ending this debate saying I was wrong. You CAN be addicted and high-functional but it only depends on the person's tolerance. The same way you can be addicted to cigarette smoking and completely functional. I get it now.

But if you're absolutely not a problem for other people, I don't think how this is relevant. If you're watching porn every day and are still functional, don't treat others badly etc., I don't think this is a problem. Only for yourself, maybe.

>>18392665
What a faggot lol

>>18389409
Having collections of porn and letting it consume your life isn't normal though. It's mentally ill.
>>18389436
>dating American men in 2017
>>18392665
Mentally ill faggot

>>18392751
That's what I said here: >>18389477
Addiction is something different.

>>18391571
You are implying that men dont still do this. There are loyal men out there but they are rare. This doesn't change that men being obsessed with porn is disgusting.

>>18389141
As an avid fapper, do you find guys who dont keep porn on their computer disgusting.
What about if its only images of naked women solo on there. What if I... I mean he only faps to hentai manga.

>>18393307
Also I wanted to say that porn is fine in moderation but the normalization of men hoarding gigs of porn and spending hours fapping to it every day is ridiculous. Men who are in relationships often prefer porn to sleeping with their wives and girlfriends and its destroying marriages and partnerships. Relationships need intimacy to work and over indulgence in porn is messing that up.

>>18389141
You're just instinctively mad that your pussy doesn't have even greater control over men it would have without porn. Don't worry about it, there's always beta for a roastie.

I'm cool with my boyfriend watching porn. If he started watching a lot of porn of the same porn star, I'd get a little insecure. I wouldn't be okay with him doing camgirl stuff or getting a lapdance from a stripper. Different people have different boundaries, and that is perfectly fine. For me, I'm cool with porn because there's not an emotional attachment to them or anything. Just a hot lady or dude that gets your rocks off. Plus, porn/hentai has scenarios that I'm either unwilling to do or scenarios that would be physically impossible--can't exactly have my boyfriend turn into a tentacle monster

>>18392683

Sorry, 4chan breeds shitty hyperbole. That was a bad way for me to say it.

But, the way that I see it being a problem is that people look into your behavior and assign the behaviors they've experienced with others in their lives. My dad was a pilot, and an alcoholic, but I didn't see him risking lives when he came home and drank heavily, but stopped to make sure he'd be safe and 100% sober to fly.

I have a close friend who runs corporate development for a major company, and drinks all the time, but besides spending too much money on booze, she is the nicest person in the world, and no one is victim to anything she does. She just drinks off her long day, and goes to sleep.

But they're both addicted. A life without drinking makes no sense to them. But still they fight on. It's the same as porn, as long as you know when it's appropriate and when it isn't.

>>18392468
>I'm a single guy
>
Porn isn't really about choosing those women over you, it's about wanting a different flavor of ice cream than your normal go-to every once in a while
It's interesting how as a single guy you pointed out the contradiction that keeps women in committed relationships insecure.

A relationship is founded on trust and honesty and in your post, you state that you have sexual interests you would never disclose to a wife or girlfriend, but you would seek out with porn. This, in essence is a betrayal of intimacy and sexual honesty because you are seeking something outside of your wife or girlfriend to satisfy you, when they should triumph that. Hence, women feel insecure like they cannot obtain or satisfy a side of their lover forever stolen by porn stars, can whores, etc. Hiding it on top of all that doesn't help, only to solidify to women that it is a secret side of you reserved only for this interest.

Also, I have to disagree with the anons arguing that it's just a simple interest. Reading books is an interest, art history is an interest, watching porn is a divergence from your partner. Any sexual see satisfaction obtained outside of a relationship while in a relationship is a divergence of attention from the sexual health and well-being of your relationship.

It's just like you say, you don't want to have sex sometimes because it's too much "work" and you just want something quick and easy. Again, diverting attention from the sexual bond you have with your partner to seek something outside of the relationship. Call it what you want, but there's a reason so many women feel betrayed or lesser when they find porn on their boyfriend/husband's computers.

>>18389141
If it gets to a point where it takes up a good portion of the day and actively changes the relationship a lot negatively like with ED then it is a problem.

However from my perspective most of the porn I look at aren't even things girls are close to recreating (I don't expect you to cosplay some goo girl shit). Even then I do it every once in a while.

Sometimes I feel like masturbating, sometimes I feel like having sex. To me both are pretty unrelated.

It's because of the different ways boys and girls handle their sexuality, specifically porn growing up until adulthood.

For guys, they grow up with the pressure to score from their peers, and the fear of their interests being discovered. They watch it online, they create special folders and hide it in special places they can always go back to whenever they want. It's like their buried treasure. The interests they carry stay with them well into adulthood, where porn has just become a natural companion to their life, sexual experience or no.

For women, it is the diametric opposite. Women are taught to save their sexuality for the "one". They are usually never interested in porn, and if they are not to the same extent as men. They usually are more concerned with the social bonds of friendship and relationships. They are constantly seeking the "one" they can be with and open themselves up to entirely.

And when you bring those two sexual ideologies together, they clash. Men, because they are never fully taught the value of saving their sexuality for one person consider it an attack on themselves and their interests when a woman does not like them watching porn. As it has been with them for so long, they truly don't understand the detriment they cause women who have been taught to devote their entire sexuality to their partner.

Maybe if this was better understood between genders, we could come up with better compromises.

>>18393582

I'm the guy you're replying to, for clarification.

But, I'm sorry, I can have a healthy and pleasant sex life with my girlfriend, while sparing her some of the things she doesn't want to be a part of. That exists in multiple ways. For example, we had a thread on here today where a girl was disgusted by her guy wanting her to call him "daddy." If I was into that, but maybe just a little bit, I wouldn't have to ruin my relationship with my girlfriend by jerking off to a video where a girl says it.

To a more extreme example, I have two fetishes I don't ever want to implement in the bedroom - one being BDSM, and the other being attracted to dolls. Now, there's not a lot of porn related to dolls, but with BDSM, there is some porn, and I don't exactly want to tie my girlfriend up and smack her around with a whip.

Relationships involve some kind of compromise. I can't expect to eternally satisfy a woman, she can't expect to do the same with me. A functional relationship should acknowledge those flaws, because the perfect partner does not exist.

>>18389141
would you prefer a guy watches porn or fucks tons of random girls, because i assure you if guys didn't have porn and considering how easy it us to find and fuck sluts, there'd be a lot more guys doing that than just watch porn.

But no your feelings and emotions aren't uncommon, but the hole needs to be filled some how.

>>18389141

boys are fucking gross. True story

>>18392665
You are a little pussy. It's not women's fault men have fragile egos nor is it our responsibility to protect that ego to our detriment (I know you mommie did but I not your mommie) and I see no problem fighting fire with fire.

If you read my earlier post I shed that guy long ago so I'm not scared of losing anything.

>>18393765
>says the one with a bleeding axe wound

>>18389141
You're not the only girl who thinks that porn is disgusting. I like watching it myself but how often do you have sex? If he still fucks you then what does it matter that he watches porn? Do you watch porn OP?

Girls are just useless vaginas, so insecure that a recording gets to their mind

>>18394557
True story

>>18389603
Tbh I'd be offended if my boyfriend would still jack off to porn while he's spent the day with me. If he still feels the need to jack off to other women after having fucked three times in a day with me, while I constantly try to suck his dick as if I'm perpetually starved of his semen. Because at that point it's not done to just get something over with, but rather a desire to look at other women.