How Do You Fall Out of Love?

you don't

>>18386809
Out of sight out of mind.

Cut all contact, eat ice cream and wait.

>>18386809
Let me guess, you are younger than 18 aren't ya?

>>18386809
time and space. Its always sufficient.

>knowledge is a mirror.
Spend time learning things -- you will learn more about yourself. Like yourself first before you like someone else.

>>18388624
OP here. Little impossible. He lives in the same apartment complex as my sibling and friends. And no one is moving out anytime soon.
>>18388652
I'm 22, he's 32.

>>18388624
Don't tell OP to eat ice cream. Getting fatter will not help her cause. OP, do what a man would be forced to do in this case. Work hard to better yourself - hit the gym, get educated, get financially fit, and overall be the type of woman your crush would want to be with. Only until you do that will you feel worthy of his love. Even if you did manage to sucker him into dating you as you are now, you'd always feel insecure believing he'd eventually leave you for someone better...unless you earn him.

>>18389483
I'm kinda already doing that. I'm working for two master degrees right now in school and have an interview tomorrow for a full time position. It's in retail but with no experience in that field and mostly college tutoring on my resume this is the best I can ask for at the moment. I know I'm capable of a lot and if I work hard I can only achieve and improve myself. I will do my best and eat ice cream when I earn it ^u^.

Part of this is because I feel encouraged by him to do just what you said, to become a better person. Still I feel like I shouldn't feel this way. Because even if I continue trying like I am he may not notice me due to age or because I'm not his type. I'm also worried this determination to become a better person is just for him and not at all for myself. I'm really confused and I think I'm better off falling out of love if I can.

>>18386809
>I swear he must be too naive to know he drives my heart crazy sometimes with the things he says.

What kinds of things does he say?

>>18389576
There's been a lot of times we've hung out at parties. He'll do stuff like hold my cheek in his palm and tell me I'm beautiful and amazing. I'll start getting butterflies in my stomach. Then he'll pinch my cheek and tell I'm adorable, like a kid sister, or remind me how young I am. It feels like an anvil just dropped on my head. He also has a habit of calling me love and lovie and he sends me heart emojis in texts. I've seen him talk this way to other girls he's friends with so I know he means this all platonically, but it still makes me heart flutter. I don't think he realizes that doing this all can be read, well, romantically.

>>18389556
>I'm also worried this determination to become a better person is just for him and not at all for myself.

Does it matter? If you become a better human being, you've gained nonetheless. You may not earn him, but likely you'll find someone just as good, if not better (and your age).

>>18389601
Wow, I wish it was this fucking easy to court a girl.

>>18389707

That's actually a good point. I really can't lose the progress I'm making through the method I've pursued. I think I'm just scared I will start to lose my drive as its connecting to my interactions with one guy. I don't want to stop moving forward even after I finish schooling and land a career in my field. If he eventually makes me feel hopeless or breaks my heart accidentally or not, I could lose my motivation. If I get over my romantic feelings instead I might be able to avoid that.

>>18389714

I think it only works because I admire him a lot. I really see view this guy as an incredible person, so when he flatters me or talks to me as he does I just trust the things he says and just fall more for him. If a guy who was only cute did this stuff it would be a little bit much.