How do I convince my boyfriend to be more selfish in bed? He

>>18384380
Is he trying to hard to fuck you like porn or does he spend too much time on you?

>>18384399
The latter. It's like he's following a checklist.

>>18384496

Why is this bad? Is it because it doesn't feel good? If thats the case you need to just guide him to what does. If you truly want him to just be selfish and finish as quick as possible it doesn't sound like you enjoy sex with him very much.

Tell him to be more selfish. Or just say.

Hey. Lemme take the reigns tonight. ;)

BOOM!!!

Or tie him up.

>>18384496
oh boy, you got a sensitive one whos mother took his balls at an early age. When he starts gently touching, kissing or licking just grab his dick and start sucking or if hes already hard aggressively put his dick in and fuck hard and don't stop despite his protest. You can try this but he'll probably just lay there and if there is a next time he'll go straight back to slow poke.

>>18384380
You tell him to hurry up because your tired. My wife's line. Or have him jack off and right before he nuts catch it in your mouth that way no sex

>>18384540
But every time anon? I get what OP is saying sometimes I want to be fucked not made love to.

>>18384596

Then guide them to do so, sex is a flow its kind of hard for one person to be passionate and gentle while the other is trying to aggressively hump and thrust their way to a finish.

Communication is all that matters, doesn't even have to be verbal, its pretty obvious when a girl wants it hard or gentle by their actions, stop being a dead fish and your man should get the picture.

>guy puts the girls pleasure before his
>this is STILL a problem

Sex has to be the most complicated thing in the world
Good thing I'll never have to worry about that... hehe...;~;

>>18384540
It's difficult to explain. He's tense, like he's "performing" rather than just enjoying himself.

I just want him to let his hair down for once.

>>18384380
tie him down (really well), then do what you want to him

>>18385540
Tell him to loosen up then.

stop being passive. he will feel more comfortable if you tell him how you feel

sounds like you want to be pounded, tell him you want to be pounded, tell him you want him to do whatever he wants to you.

if he can't take it from there then I guess send his ass here to ask what that means like the 5 other morons I've talked to in the last two weeks.

>>18384380

You tell him/ talk to him?

(Gosh, this is basically the response to 90% of the threads in this retarded subboard. -_- ).

>>18385540
>I just want him to let his hair down for once.
Then TELL HIM exactly that.

Bottle of wine, scented candles, bath together, massage oils, soothing music...

you take over, slowly, and just have him relax. the thing is get him to switch his brain off long enough to go from relaxed comfy love to releasing the pent-up tension in one good hard fuck all in one natural movement.

enjoy yourselves/

>>18384380
hey Im like your guy, I want to make sure my girl is having a good time. in fact I always set super high standards for anything, etc, kind of prone to doing what I think people expect me to do (which is sometimes totally off point).

I guess you should tell him sometime that he doesn't always have to explicitly please you all the time.
in fact, I personally find it super hot when a girl just wants to get fucked hard during sex, disregarding her own needs.

Maybe if you tell him and just let him do his thing (ie dont try to please you) for a while he'll start to get used to the idea it is okay to just fuck you and not be a 'perfect' lover.

he sounds a bit insecure, so he needs to know he's not doing something wrong. maybe you can tell him that if you ever want something, or if he ever does something you don't like, that you'll tell him. that way he doesn't have to worry about fucking up/having sex 'correctly'.