So i have this issue ive been dating the love of my life for

Im going to tell you something that sounds counterproductive but trust me. Unless she's really not the love of your life she'll be ok.

Tell her what you're doing. Im not shitting you. Tell her. RIght now. Go do it. This lying and sneeking around is just to get your rocks off.

Discussing these issues shouldn't be taboo. We are all human and we all have urges. Jesus christ its been 5 years. Of course your mind wants to experience something new. Its our nature.

But being OPEN about that nature can be pretty freeing.

My girlfriend and I are pretty open about this. I've confided in her about a crush I had at work and it sucked the power out of it. Made me realize it was silly and I could move on after that. I was no long this magical momment only in my mind.

Get it out on the table or it's going to eat you up.

Will she understand? Hell if I know but you can't keep lying to the girl. She probably doesn't deserve that.

I get the same thing. Its from not enough intimacy, talking to a therapist could help but just try to inject more intimacy from you and your fiancee so you dont feel you need to go elsewhere for it. And stop talking to these girls inmediately, it is cheating.

>>18384133
I happen to agree with you anon on all points.

When people stray, even if it becomes physical, the most damaging part to the innocent party is the dishonesty and betrayal.

>>18384144
I know it!

I'd much rather my SO come to me with these thoughts than come to me having already caved into those feelings.

It can actually make you closer. Can make you realize this person isn't going to lie to you no matter what. If she can't handle this truth then try to get some therapy.

It may be worth it. She might think its her fault. But it's not. It comes down to how we are and what makes us tick. Food, Sex, and Water. Powerful shit.

Also. SHE IS GOING TO BE HURT BY THIS! No doubt about it. But man you gotta tell her!

Seriously. Tell her.

Not joking here, buddy.

Let that chick know what's up.

Keep her in the know.

Give her some rope.

Lay it out.

Let her pick up what you throw down.