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I don't know what to do with my life

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I want to go outside, go everywhere I want. But the only thing that stops me is Social Anxiety.

>No friends
>live in a ghosttown
>only old people here
>Society is a piece of shit
>Can't meet any cute girls

When I was 16, I had so many friends, I was pure confident, had a gf until I moved out of the city and now I live in a boring shithole were you only see old grumpy people.

After that I've lost my confidence and my charme, my ability to speak fluently. Now I can't even say a sentence without any stutter. I thought it's okay to stay a bit alone. I was never so wrong in my life. Its been 5 years and I'm still alone as fuck. I really try to engage to the people, I try to talk with some strangers in days were I'm in a good mood, but they're mostly not interested or they just look at you as if you were an alien. I'm not ugly, I'm hygienic, I dress pretty okay and I don't have any creep moments, I'm just a normal human. In moments like these, I just wanna go home and just shut everything down.

Now I'm always at home, mostly asking myself why I've fallen so deep. I tried to motivate myself with movies, workouts, cardio. But sometimes there are moments were I stare the wall for 5 seconds and I Immediately get sad for no reason. Sports and other shit helped me to make my sadness go away for a while, but my motivation vanishes every day and I don't know how to deal with that anymore.

I can't go outside anymore, because there is no point for me leaving my house. But I want to, I want to meet new people, but I don't know how I can do that alone. I've read so many books, watched so many videos, yet I'm still scared to interact and seeing their reactions.

Btw I don't do any drugs such as alc, cig, weed, ....

I've learned that being alone has no future. And I've learned that humans are shit and most of them have no empathy or mercifulness. The world is very cold.

I know it's not really helpful for me to post here, but it's better than nothing I guess.
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>>18382127
look up the "law of attraction"
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Life is very cruel. VERY.


This world isn't really the best place to enjoy stuff, although some things are enjoyable in it.


You can't eat as much food as you want, your stomach will eventually be full and the food will exit it through you the next morning as a pile shit.

You can't wear all the beautiful clothes, they will eventually wear out and get torn.

You can't be young and handsome forever, for that your body will slowly degrade and lose cells after a certain age.


However, the only thing that empowers a human to go through this shitty life is Survival.


Myself i am a Muslim, before i became a muslim i was quite a normal guy like you, a bit confident, used to go out often, enjoyed my nights out and whatnot..

With all that, everyday before going to bed i felt very empty and depressed. I felt like i have no real goal to devote myself to other than enjoying these minute things, i attached myself to them.


After i decided to follow a religion and give it my full devotion, i realised that this life isn't worth living without the true desire to put all your energy into one huge dream, doing whatever it takes you to achieve it.


This dream of mine consists of five words, I want to die happy.

I'll do whatever it takes to do so that the day i pass away i have a smile on my face. whether it is by being productive, innovative, creative, helpful to others, giving charity.. Fulfilling my purpose on earth as a human being and leaving nothing but positive impact behind me.


Find yourself something to indulge in and fully devote yourself into, social anxiety is shit, but not making the best of your life is shitter.
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>>18382199
i want to die happy to. but i don't need to join a religion to do that.
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>>18382149
I will take a look at it, thank you
>>18382199
That's good that you found something to keep yourself motivated. Religion has no space for me unfortunately. I just can't believe on it.
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So a couple things helped me get past what you're experiencing.

First, I took up photography. Not just running around with my phone taking pictures of random shit, but got a DSLR and read up on the optics and practiced with shit, trying to get good at it. After awhile of it, I was going out into the city and taking pictures of people in the crowd. What really helps is going to an event where you're *expected* to take pictures of random people you don't know. Cosplay events is one. The one I went with was one of those fire dancing things.

The next thing I did was I started going to meetup groups. I tried a few simple ones and hit on this foodie group, where the organizer would plan a dining out event like twice a week. She kind of took me under her wing after my first event because I took awesome pics of the food and uploaded it to the meetup group. Eventually we went up to Napa Valley together with two others.

I was damn awkward, but I started to get past it. Eventually I could just go walk around town not needing to "do" anything.

Oh, another activity that kind of increased my tolerance for being around people and out of the house: I would go into the city and get on the subway and just ride it from end to end, people-watching and reading a book. It was like being there but being separate. It helped ease me into it a lot better.

You've got to walk before you can run, anon. And crawl before you can walk. Take simple steps towards acclimating yourself. Try to rack up successes without letting failures—which will happen—set you back.

After the summer when I did all this stuff, I started law school. My first night there, I went out to the bars with another law student I met at graduate dorm check-in. We met all our female classmates and flirted with them for hours. Totally foreign to me, but I gave it a shot and had a ton of fun.

You can do this too OP. Not one year before I started law school, I was routinely going weeks without setting foot outside.
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>>18382251
Thank you, your advice helped me a bit

Last bump before i go to bed
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>I can't go outside anymore, because there is no point for me leaving my house. But I want to, I want to meet new people, but I don't know how I can do that alone. I've read so many books, watched so many videos, yet I'm still scared to interact and seeing their reactions.

This is the same I go through, I don't have a reason to go out so I don't, and I'm also scared of people's reaction. I dunno if I'm hypersensitive or what but whenever I see a slight negative reaction on people's faces I feel like shit.

>>18382251
Sounds like solid advice.
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Bumping for interest

I am in a similar situation living in a city when only 200,000 or so white people under 40 live.
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H-help
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>>18383791
>only 200,000 or so white people under 40
Bitch I live in one of the most popular cities in my country, total population is less than 80,000. What you are describing is not even close to a fucking ghost town
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>>18384259
>>18383791

Well I live in a town were there are only 5k people...
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You can fix your anxiety.

Cognitive behavioral therapy. You don't even have to go a therapist. Plenty of books and plenty of educational videos on YouTube.

It's your choice. Choose to become a better person and do the WORK that becoming a better person demands.

If you sit around and do nothing about it, you deserve what you get. If you are proactive, you will reap the rewards of your efforts eventually.

So stop being a schmuck. Fix yourself. You're a human being with so much potential.
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>>18384275
Yeah, but how should I be proactive? What can I do alone?
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I'm so hopeless
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>>18383479

you shouldnt be looking for the negative reactions. You have programmed yourself to look for all the negative.

Start rewarding yourself for even the smallest victory, like going out 'n shit. you know what? The reward is going out. stop punishing yourself.

Oh, and stop jerking off to porn, make porn with women
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