TLDR: Sort of feels like my best guy friend from college has

>>18375235
life happens, people drift apart

you'll have new best friends and you'll see this guy in a few years and reminisce
no big deal

>>18375235

Relationships change over time. He might just be doing his own thing, he might just want to be on his own.

Give him some space maybe, how long have you known him?

>>18375235
If you're a guy and this is how you talk to your guy friends, you may have convinced him you're gay and he's uncomfortable with that. The "duhhhh" and "Okayyy" remind me of high
school girls. Just an idea.

Or he's just going through some of the classic post-graduation "Holy shit I'm off the last training wheel and I need to plan the next 50 years of my life ASAP". If so then maybe check in every so often with offering to get beers or something.

The way he just wants to cut off the conversation before it begins also reminds me of how a friend of mine with bad anxiety would handle it, just the lack of understanding they're talking to another human being and just want robotic results of <End Conversation> without knowing how uncomfortable that makes a person feel.

>>18376229

I'm a girl haha, thought it was obvious.

>>18376248
>you're good dude
It really wasn't.

Also he's not interested in talking to you. He isn't even beating around the bush about this, he's straight up told you. Just leave him alone like he's asked.

>>18375235
It's a natural thing. A lot of friendships are built on proximity. A little kid plays with the kid next door because he's there. Later, most of your friends are in your class at school, and later your workmates.

Such friendships can sometimes survive separation. But often a separation will expose that there really wasn't much more than the proximity holding you together.

>>18376248
Calling him "best guy friend" made me think that, but him calling you "dude" made me unsure. I guess him calling you "dude" could be telling, if you really want to read into it.

Like the other response says, he was upfront about it. If he was comfortable just kind of writing you off and never checking in, then the one time you initiate things he straight up says "I don't want to talk right now", he's probably just more okay with losing you than you are of losing him. I'm sorry but it seems he doesn't seem to value the friendship as much as you.

I also am someone who honestly believes that guys and girls can very, very rarely just "be friends". Guys will almost always be looking for more and girls tend to be oblivious of this, and unless both parties see zero attractive features in one another (again possible, just rare) then the friendship won't be a long-lasting one. Maybe he was interested in your in college and since you never seemed interested in him back, he's just breaking it off instead of feeling though he's being toyed with (I realize that isn't your intention, but it is how it feels in the moment).

No matter what, it's not looking good. I'm sorry. Be comfortable with possibly that being it, maybe check in one more time down the road if you're inclined, but it seems like he's done.

Some of the other posts seem on the money, but just for an alternate take it is possible that it isn't personal and he just isn't in a place where he wants to reconnect or catch up with friends. Just a thought.

>>18375235
Guy here. How close are you guys, geographically speaking? Like another anon said proximity is important. I don't really keep in touch with my college friends, because its unlikely we will be able to hang out. That being said if they needed help, a place to crash at, or were passing through town I'd be down to catch up with them.

>>18376365

I'm on the east coast, he's in Oregon

>>18376377

I think you may have answered your own question there...