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how to accept that you're an ugly girl

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I've approved how I look a lot. And yet, here I am, and I feel worse than ever. I have a serious complex and sometimes I starve myself on the path to losing the last 20 pounds even if I know it probably won't fix anything.

Though I've gotten undeniably positive, even admiring attention on my good days, I can't help assuming that any head-to-toe looks or prolonged gazes at my face are like...that of a biologist dissecting apart a particularly strange specimen. Like they see me as something less than human and hideous and they can't tear their eyes away.

That guy that likes me? He must be desperate. That hotter guy that wants to fuck my brains out? He must only like my boobs and/or my long legs and fucks everything he sees. I usually make rationalizations like that. I'm going to be forever alone and I know it...but what I am worried about is being like an eyesore whose existence is bothersome. All I wanna do is hide. Or die.
And I swear, I have dreams. I have hobbies. But here I am, letting my body image issues get in the way. How do I cope? How do I accept myself?
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>>18371688
By approved I really mean improved. Sleep deprivation, sorry.
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You might not have intended this, but your whole post sounds like a subtle brag about your "boobs and long legs". It might soothe you to know that women have an advantage in the sexual economy.

Even women who are /actually/ ugly and fat like me (not smug yet squirrely little shits like you) have a chance.
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Go get fucked it will give you confidence
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>>18371701
'Comon anon. All....well, most women have boobs, how's it humble bragging to say so? The leg thing's more arguable, but I figure that may be what attracts that one guy to me over all the other girls around. That, and the obvious low self-esteem and him possibly thinking I'm an easy fuck.

I already know that we all have a chance--but, I don't plan to ever get with anyone or find love. I just wanna know how to stop being bothered by shallow shit like this and assuming the worst 24/7.
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Fuck you, as an ugly, balding, awkward male I am absolute bottom barrel. I am 30 years old, a virgin, and I have never had someone be in love with me or even like me. I have a well paying job, house, car, and I can't get someone to go out for coffee with me. If you are a female with nice legs and boobs, you are set. Guarantee 75% of men would love to have you.
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>>18371688
Stop focusing on looks dumbass.
Grow a personality and stop being so shallow. If looks is the only thing that matters to you, it'll be the only thing that matters to everyone else.

go have fun and live your life. Make friends (ones you aren't trying to fuck) and then maybe you'll meet someone who you find an actual connection with so you won't have to guess on why he likes you.
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I feel thoroughly roasted already but that's ok because this is all pretty good advice.

I hate how this happens to me:
>be thinking of sweet things
>finally notice someone looking at me, probably judging me for my face
>my sweet thoughts go up in smoke
>mood goes to hell

Before I was preoccupied with what I could get from the world; now? I'm almost obsessed with the impression I leave. It's so stupid.

If anyone thinks I look bizarre or like a hag, any regular person with a sense of humor should be able to play it off...it's just so hard to think positive when I'm out in public. I'm so self-conscious, but all I wanna do is free my mind.

Do you guys have any advice on how I can douse my mind in humor and happiness? Other than with drugs?
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I was going to sympathize as a fellow ugly girl but you seem to be doing quite well. So uh, you're probably prettier than you think.
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Hey, didn't you post in my thread which was practically this topic? I recognized the photo.

There ain't gonna be better advice than what was in that thread and the dudes here are all really bitter that they don't get laid (well, a lot of them) so don't take them too personally.

You need therapy, if you're going through eating disordered paths, and you need to accept that YOU aren't going to like how you look (at least right now). But respect others opinions - if that dude thinks you're hot, don't disrespect his taste by saying he's desperate. If an old woman thinks you're a pretty young lady, don't disrespect her opinion, either. But, really, you need to stop disrespecting yourself. Even if you're not pretty - get over it. Apparently you have some good characteristics and you can't win them all. You're good enough as is.
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>>18371688

This is what triggers so many guys. The female victim complex. Not only does she actually have guys interested in her, but it's because they're only desperate and she's a hideous beast!(The reality is she isn't attracted to them but, hey, playing mental victim is a lot better looking than admitting you're shallow). While she's also a victim, she recognizes that she's really hot! She's ok with being alone...but the thought of being so ugly people are disgusted drives her mad!

Lemme guess OP, you dye your hair bright colors and like youtube streamers?
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>>18371840
This is what I was talking about, btw. This guy is real mad about the fact he doesn't get laid enoughor by girls he likes enough. He is just here to spew vitriol. Don't let the bastards get you down.

Ok I'm leaving this thread now goodbye
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Your face can look like total dog shit but if you get /fit/ you still have a chance with 50% of reasonably dateable men.
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>>18371688
Stop dating guys and try the lesbian masterrace, we appreciate women for what they are and are not douches like men, come on, I'm sure you're a qt.
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Your post is hard for me to understand. You start off saying you sometimes starve yourself, but your main complaints are about how people look at your face. Are you trying to starve yourself so your body can make up for your face?

Anyways, we all have to make peace with our faces (or go for plastic surgery), and if you can't and it constantly occupies your mind you will be miserable. So I guess my primary advice would be to make peace with the traits you have and take people's compliments/sexual attention at face value. If someone's into you, it's because they find you attractive in some way, and that's a good thing.
It may take a while to get comfortable with thinking like this, so I'll throw in a secondary suggestion. Faces can be worked with. I don't know what yours' specific problem is (or if there is one), but odds are you can do something about it. There's a million makeup tutorials on youtube for all kinds of faces, eyebrows can be threaded, acne can be treated, and specific hairstyles can be chosen to frame the face nicely and accentuate the good features. It would be effort, but if the guys on Ru Paul's Drag Race can look like bombshells, you certainly can at least get to the point where you're not an eyesore. All of this can raise your self esteem, but you really do need to take my first bit of advice and try not to be preoccupied with looks. People are usually just living their own lives, and unconcerned with other people's faces.
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Lose those last 20 pounds.

Look at your face again.
Is it still shit?
If it is, then l2makeup. Statistics shows that 99.875% of people are ugly without makeup.

Look at your face again after applying makeup correctly.
Is it still shit?
If it is, save up money and get plastic surgery. Remember, plastic makes perfect.

Look at your face again.
Is it still shit?
If it is, sacrifice 1000 humans to the Great Old Ones and pray that they give you a complete genetic overhaul, hopefully with some extra tentacles.
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>>18372230
Ia Shub-Niggurath! The Goat with a Thousand Young!
Ygnaiih,...ygnaiih,....thflth'ngha.....Yog-Sothoth!
Y'bthnk.... h'ehye-n'grkdl'lb.
'Ph'nglui mglw'nafh Cthulhu R'lyeh wgah'nagl fhtagn'!
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>>18372248
Yog-Sothoth knows the gate. Yog-Sothoth is the gate. Yog-Sothoth is the key and guardian of the gate. Past, present, future, all are one in Yog-Sothoth. He knows where the Old Ones broke through of old, and where They shall break through again. He knows where They have trod earth's fields, and where They still tread them, and why no one can behold Them as They tread.
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>>18372267
Holy fuck I sprouted a new appendage!!!!

HERE I COME JAPAN!!!! real life tentical porn!
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>>18372204
Sorry about the misunderstanding. My weight is still something that I like to blame. I'm more concerned about my face (it's the thing people relate to the most, after all), but sticking out could also be because of my chubbiness...I don't know. At least it's easier to fix that then anything else.

Nice advice by the way.

>>18372197
You kidding? Either ways, I kind of believe you...the only person who actually tried romancing me sweetly was a qt Asian girl back in high school. It was such a nice change of pace...really made me feel wanted. I can tell I'm a little too fucked for a relationship as I am now and probably will always be but I get the feeling I'd be more comfy with a girl over a guy.

>>18372230
>>18372248
>>18372267
>Lovecraft
M-my love...

If only I was a great one. Or had tentacles to fuck people up. Maybe then I wouldn't care about the opinions of others.
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>>18371688
Holy shit stop sniffing your own butt.

Also stop consuming media and establishment propaganda you are a woman and a prime target to sell you shit you are constantly bombarded with imagery and messages to make you feel certain ways to buy their shit and if making you feel worthless or unattractive to get you to buy clothes and make up and consider surgery then so be it.
Your on this board so you should already be open to the concept of manipulation and observing the effects of social engineering and how they affect a persons mental state and relationships.
Sort yourself out start with cleaning your room.
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>>18371688
post pics
I will tell you how to accept your look
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If this is a thread about faces I'll post a question. My face (22yo white male) is seemingly always a little flushed. Not really a self esteem killer, but whats up with thay and is it fixable?
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>>18372398
OP here again.

You sure it isn't something like rosacea?
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>>18372402
...which seems to be something that's fixable.
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>>18372402
Just looked that up and definitely no, it's nowhere near that bad. Just a slight pinkish glow.
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>>18371688
I assume you are not even 20 but take it from an old fag...

Spend the next 5-8 years staying away from guys unless you need to get laid. Don't get preggers. And lastly, learn what it means to be valued for more than your looks. Staying attractive is as simple as staying healthy. Healthy=Attractive.

Every female on Earth has tits and a vagina which means supply is high and not as valuable as the rest of the world says/thinks it is.

My wife fucks me but she also cleans, cooks, gives me massages, keeps our home calendar, schedules appointments, and a long list of other routine home tasks. This makes her more valuable to me than a woman who only gives me access to sex.

Something to think about.
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>>18371840
There's a girl like that on Instagram actually. Keeps going on about how much the world hates her and how ugly she is. She looks pretty (and she knows it), has uploaded a picture of herself sitting in the bathtub with someone and people keep giving her compliments telling how beautiful she is. Yet she keeps going on about how shit she looks and how emo everything is.

Samantapixie, I believe she's called.
Not even sure why alternative girls do this, I bet they have many requests from guys.
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>>18372407
Huh, that doesn't necessarily seem like a biggie. A glow could be cute, maybe.

Lemme think...it could be caused by one of these:
>inflammation response to skin bacteria
>some horrific rare disease
>cold core temp, something related to circulation

Of course it's something that you'll have to ask your doctor about.

Some people just have a ruddy complexion but I dunno if this is the case for you.
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>>18371688
>That guy that likes me? He must be desperate.
begone thot.
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>>18371688
>That guy that likes me? He must be desperate. That hotter guy that wants to fuck my brains out? He must only like my boobs and/or my long legs and fucks everything he sees. I usually make rationalizations like that

lol what if you are actually butt ugly and this is all true? I mean it does happens irl and it makes the fact that you're here makes a lot more sense.
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>>18372437
Hmm...why are you saying this as if it's some sort of fabulous revelation? I already know it's likely true and so am looking at how I can overcome it.
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>>18372452
by falling in love with romanticists
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZTFGMKSW3z4

see these guys aren't mentioning anything about how their girl must not be ugly
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Beauty isn't everything, OP.
It's the only thing.
At least to you.
Probably.

Most ugly people can fix their face with makeup. Few people need plastic surgery.
Unless you have a genetic defect that makes you permanently ugly like not having skin, missing facial features, or an abnormal skull shape, you CAN be pretty if you give it enough effort. It IS possible, and the possibility of being satisfied with how you look increases as you increase your efforts.

If you can't accept how you look now, it will be really hard to accept it. Because you're just not that kind of person. It's not about how guys look at you, right? It's about how you look at yourself. It's about self-satisfaction. You have an image on your mind of how exactly you want to look. Or at least standards you need to pass before you're satisfied with how you look. And it bothers you that you do not currently look like that.

You probably don't look ugly to most people. To some people, you're even pretty enough to be attracted to.
But who cares about what other people think? If you think you're ugly, then you look ugly to you. You ARE ugly in your perception of yourself. Beauty is subjective, so of what value is the what other people see compared to your own perception? If you let others lower your standards, then you will never reach them.

A wise grasshopper once said: "Evolve and overcome." Be who you want to be. Never stop prettyizing.

*keyboard drop*
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>>18371815
I'm a guy that used to think I was ugly b/c I posted on /soc/ in the throes of my awkward phase & got 4-5/10s, so I assumed everyone looking at me in public was gawking at how ugly I was, and I fucking hated it. Alas, sophomore year of college I grew a jawline and suddenly I was getting way more looks, even smiles. I still assumed people were just being nice, but when I finally lost my v card to a girl who threw herself at me, she told me I was super attractive and it put me off. I still have self confidence issues but it's getting better. Truth is nobody is as ugly as they think they are. You are your biggest critic.
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>>18371751
>I don't plan to get with anyone or find love
So why do you give a fuck what others think? Is this bait?

You stop assuming crazy shit by minding your own business. Who are you to start going into people's imaginary lives and start assuming levels of desperate if you're not even trying to be with them? Is there a basis or end result for this thinking or do you produce it for no result? It sounds like complaining just to complain.
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>>18371688
pretty low quality bait desu
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>>18372325
It was a joke with a real intention, women are just so much better, you should try it out, even if you don't think you'd be able to be (in any way) with a woman, cause if you try it and you don't like it you know it's not for you, but if you try and you like it then you get a kind hearted qt gf! If you're going to try it tho don't say you're experimenting, just say you've always been interested in women but haven't had the chance to date one, or just don't say anything at all.
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>>18371688

Fukken everyone, this is some real shit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_OBxLmfJt0
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>>18373166
I hate when people secretly know they're attractive and then go around pretending they think they're ugly, just to fish compliments and get attention.
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