I found my roommates phone with the camera pointed out hidden in my room after a shower. We've been roommates and best friends for 7 years.
Immediately confronted him about it and thought someone put him up to it. He owned up and said he hoped I'd find it and it was intended as a "call for help" to force him to talk to me about him questioning his sexuality.
Claims it wasn't even recording. If that was the case, what a dumb way to do it.
He's been straight his whole life and said one of his gay friends made a move on him. Made him question everything for the last 4 months and his head has been in a tailspin.
Needed someone to talk to, and that person was me. Claims no interest in me.... Just needed a catalyst to make him talk about it with me and not chicken out at the last second.
I can't maybe help feel violated. Advice?
Homosexuality is a disease, the bible can be the cure. Don't let him infect you op
>>18362850
He's a disgusting scumbag and you caught him out.
Don't fall for the lies he fed you. Cut ties and have nothing to do with him. Warn your mutual friends, and tell him that if he talks to you again, you'll neck him. I'd consider going to the police, even.
that situation creeps me the fuck out, he could rape you any day, why are you asking this instead of moving the fuck out of there immediately?
It's hard to know what's going on in the mind of someone. On the one hand, he didn't lie about putting it there but on the other, the story doesn't make much sense. What makes more sense is that he is either gay or bi and is at least curious about seeing you naked. The reality is, it is an invasion of privacy. I would have a serious discussion with him. This type of shit is wrong.
fuck his ass
>>18362850
once you get a room mate, theres a hidden line on the lease that says "you agree the room mate has the right to make your life miserable"
>>18362850
It was a gross overstep of your privacy, but given the scenario, it's a good indication that his thoughts are going off the rails. Not that this was a good way to start his conversation, but it was the way that made the most sense to him at the time. Which is itself quite troubling about his mental state, gay or otherwise. I don't feel that it has any bearing on his sexual interest in you, rather that the distress he is feeling about his sexuality is making him act irrationally.
Realistically, he should be talking to a psychological therapist if he is experiencing this much distress (emphasis on distress) about whether or not he is gay, but, with accuracy please, how did the conversation with him go?
>>18362850
I am calling bullshit. He got cought red handed recording you naked. He made up some BS about being gay and needing to tell you about it. He knows your suspicious of him now and he isn't sane or normal....that's not how sane people "start a convo". Leave your apartment now. Go stay with friends or family. Your safety and possibly life is at risk. Leave now. Do not go back without a lot of people with you, preferably the police. Remove your things and do not worry about trivial things like the lease....these will work themselves out in time. Get out-now. I say this a rape survivor and a mother of 4. Get out.
well, how close are you to him, friendship wise?
or does he have nobody else to talk to?
Do you want to help him?
If yes, just talk to him, be accepting instead of dismissing, don't be a moral fag and first of all, be a good listener.
My best bro is gay, knew him since kindergarden, but he didnt tell anyone until he was 22, he first had to test the waters, after he moved out from home.
Also i think it's reasonable for you to get the chance to make sure, there is no video of you naked on his phone. Just for establishing trust.
>>18362850
Your friend has a mental disorder called homosexuality. You should be patient and understanding, just as you would if anyone had a mental disorder. But also look over your shoulder, as his behavior is perverted and cannot be trusted. Chances are this is not the first time he has recorded you and, despite what he claims, he clearly does have sexual attraction toward you.
You let him give you a bj, didn't you op?