My boyfriend is awful in bed. Actually fucking awful. He has

Tell him, not us.

>>18360932
I tried to bring up how I like to be touched especially during foreplay but he still doesn't get it. He gets tired after a minute of oral or 30 seconds of fingering.

I came here to answer you but than I thought to myself "what did I do to improve" and it was always my will the be a beast in sex, nothing other.

He needs to want it otherwise it will be always shit.

>>18360927
Communicate. If he loves you otherwise, he will listen, and pay attention. How old are you two?

>>18360927
Sorry OP but some guys just ain't got rhythm and talking to most men, especially boys, won't work because of their ego. They believe since they have a dick they are in tune and a stud. I promise there are guys out there that make you gush with a look.

>>18360937
he doesn't get tired he's just selfish and lazy. No concept of wanting to give pleasure and you cannot teach that.

>>18360942
>He needs to want it otherwise it will be always shit.
you are right anon and you cannot teach that

>>18360937
Try again but be more direct this time.

>>18360946
We're in our mid 20s, have been together for 7 years.

I tried but I don't know what to tell him at this point.
I tried mentioning how I like being fingered (which is basically the only thing I know, since he is the only partner I've ever had and I don't know how I like being fucked or eaten out - I just know that whatever he's doing is not working) but he still stops after, what, 30-60 seconds and doesn't go back to it even if I ask him?
He doesn't put any effort into getting me in the mood, doesn't even kiss me or make out with me, doesn't even try. I don't know.
He's not a super sexual person and I tried to be understanding most of the time, but today I'm a bit pissy.

>>18360942
*to be

fuck I'm sleepy

>>18360964
If he's so bad at this how do you even get wet?

Stop getting wet, make him try, make him work for it and than he will improve.

>>18360952
I am sure that there are other guys who are amazing in bed, but I am very in love with him and he is an exceptional boyfriend.

>>18360962
Yes, but what do I tell him?
I don't know WHAT he should do, and I don't want to be "Hey, figure something out because whatever you are doing isn't working" because that'd be emasculating.

you give yourself too easily
i always made it my goal to atleast give some pleasure not just recieving it

he is not interested because he doesnt need to

>>18360927
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9VM1UA0pCMQ

>>18360964
>together for 7 years
damn, if it were me there wouldn't be an 8th

>>18360971
I am horny all the time, I get wet just sucking his dick or being near him.

>>18360964
You know what's wrong. You mentioned it in the OP. No rythm, no sensuality, no stamina.

>He doesn't put any effort into getting me in the mood, doesn't even kiss me or make out with me, doesn't even try. I don't know.
This is the problem. He doesn't care about your joy, only his. Try to be more seductive. If that doesn't work, tell him that he's selfish. Do you have a much higher sex drive than he does?

>>18360979
Most women don't have a sex drive like that so you might be making it too easy for him so he just focuses on his own needs, but like I said before a guy needs to want to give pleasure.

I'm a guy who didn't even cum during my first time, I was so stressed and focused on being "good". Being great in bed turns me on, so maybe that's why I care so much and your bf dosn't.

>>18360979
OK, buy you a toy and work on yourself while sucking his dick. Works

I also masturbate during intercourse and matters not if the guy is any good or not, I get off.

But, if I make the unfortunate decision to hook up with a guy like yours there is not a repeat.

>>18360983
>No rhythm, no sensuality, no stamina.
I did tell him those things but no improvement. When I am on top I enjoy myself a lot (I decide the angle and the rhythm) but he comes too fast and I don't have time to cum.

> Do you have a much higher sex drive than he does?
Yes, but I never initiate because he said it makes him feel pressured.
Still, he knows that if he has a boner I'll basically jump on it.

>>18360993
I mean, I want him to make me come. I am great at making myself come already.

>>18361003
Its not going to happen. There was an anon that mentioned the guy has to want to please and your guy doesn't. He has to be curious about you and your body and want to find the buttons to push. Your guy is using you for a warm hole.

>>18361016
>Your guy is using you for a warm hole.
This is just not true, really.

The word NO has to become a standard part of your vocabulary during sex.

If whatever he's currently doing isn't working for you, stop him.

Pull away.

Make him try or no sex, at all. It's like training a puppy. You have to be consistent.

No, this isn't easy. But it's the only thing that works.

>>18361021
yes it is, he won't even kiss you, you are just a warm hole for 30 seconds at a time

>>18360937
He needs to man the fuck up , or... See if he'll buy a "magic wand" and learn to use that. That way you'll cum your brains out and then he can fuck you afterwards so even if he's back at fucking you'll be feeling so good it'll actually feel good.. that's what I do, except I fuck my girl a while too

>>18361057
He does kiss me? He won't make out with me or take time to seduce me when we're about to fuck, but he's not a bad boyfriend in any way and I am happy with him.
Sex is bad, but it is not the end of the world for me.

>>18361054
He isn't all that sexual, so probably "no sex" would be more annoying for me than for him.
Sometimes I feel like he fucks me just to do me a favour.

>>18361074
>He isn't all that sexual, so probably "no sex" would be more annoying for me than for him.
My sincere prediction is that this will not get better for you.

Sorry, OP.

>>18361078
Heh. I'd rather be with him and have mediocre sex than being with anyone else.
I just feel bad about myself because I feel like I'm not even worth trying. I know it probably isn't about me, but still.

>>18361071
I don't want that tho. I don't want toys. I want him to make me come.

>>18361074
>I am happy with him
When you one day finally have real sex with a man you'll kick yourself

>>18361085
I don't plan on fucking anyone else ever, honestly.

>>18361084
>I don't want that tho. I don't want toys. I want him to make me come.
>>18361090
>I don't plan on fucking anyone else ever, honestly.
Oh boy. OP, you are so young. You literally have no idea what kind of life you're resigning yourself to. But good luck, sweetheart.

>>18361093
I have orgasms. It's not like I never had an orgasm in my whole life.
But the point is improving his skills in bed, if I want to fuck myself with a vibrator I can do it on my own.

Sex is not evertyhing op, the question is how important it is for you.

>>18361099
Not so important I'd break up over it.
I am not unhappy in my relationship, but I still would like to have a better sex life because it's... really mediocre and not fun.

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Tell him that will have to sexual satisfaction if he doesn't satisfy you better. Shame him for endangering your relationship. Call him a fag for not being man enough to please you.

>>18361097
>the point is improving his skills in bed
Yes. We get that. And what we're telling you is that none of the factors here point to this ever happening.

He doesn't care about satisfying you sexually for its own sake, for his ego, or so he can get sex.

Other than literally threatening to end the relationship over it, you have no leverage with which to motivate him to improve. So this is how it's going to stay unless you pull that trump card. Be prepared for that outcome.

FYI, and you may not care, but this is not normal or healthy in a sexual relationship.

I'm just going to state that for the record.

Oh god terrible advice ITT. OP doesn't even have a point of reference for what good sex is, they have an embellished, inflated view of what it should be like especially for someone's first time. And their bf isn't your typical chad type so they aren't going to go outside of their comfort zone for fear of turning OP off even more by wanting to try any weird fetishes they might have. Sometimes it takes years for people to come out of their shell AFTER they've begun the relationship. If they never do it's probably because of poor communication.

>>18361105
7 years OP and this is where you are, lets say you are somehow able to get a 100% improvement it means in another 7 years he'll be a one minute man. What a waste of a perfectly good pussy. Oh well.

>>18360937
>He gets tired
lmao
tell him to go for a run every 2nd morning and do some pushups daily

>>18361129
they have been together 7 years anon and mid 20's. This won't get better.

>>18361111
I get it. I'd even be fine staying like this, I just want to know if there's something I can do and I haven't thought of.
Just what to tell him. I can't honestly offer constructive advice on how to fuck.

>>18361129
Everybody giving decent advice here has had first-time sex. Most of us - well, me at least - have a reference point similar to OP's. Long-term relationship, first-time sex for both, lackluster start.

None of the advice is terrible. It's standard. Communicate, use motivators to incentivize better performance. This isn't rocket science.

Not sure what your advice actually is, but a boyfriend who won't take direction and doesn't care about making his girlfriend orgasm is a shit partner, virgin beforehand or not.

>>18361154
I mean... honestly? To communicate about having better sex, he has to care enough to listen. It really isn't worth telling you specific phrases to tell him if we can't have a reasonable expectation that he'll even hear you.

The basics of good sex are patience and communication. He's lacking in both. Based on those factors, and assuming you're not exaggerating/imagining his recalcitrance, you need to threaten the relationship in order for change to be possible.

If those factors ever change, come back and let us know. Then we can help you.

In the meantime, watching really good porn - the kind that makes you tingle all over - and watching those moves in detail might help you get a better idea of what it is you actually want to communicate, should he ever be willing/able to listen.

>>18361129
He talked to me about his fetishes and I play along. I'm pretty open.

I tried to communicate but I honestly don't want to just tell him "I don't like what you are doing, figure it out" because it feels very destructive. Since he's the only person I had sex with I don't exactly know what I want.

I think I got pretty decent advice by the way. I don't know what you are talking about.

>>18361134
He's really out of shape, yeah.
I work out 3-4 times a week but he got lazy as hell.

>>18361166
I don't know if I am exaggerating or imagining it.
We had sex... 5 times last week? He never went down on me or fingered me. I made him come from oral twice. He went over one minute twice. I was on top most of the time 4 times.

>>18361185
How long have you guys actually been having sex?

>>18361223
About 7 years, 7 years and half? I don't know. Many years.

>>18361231
>Having sex
NORMIES REEEEEEEEEE

>>18361231
You're not exaggerating at all then, Jesus.

My guess is that he completely knows he's deficient at this, and just doesn't want to do anything about it. No guy is so clueless he doesn't know that making both partners orgasm is important. Ugh, I'm angry on your behalf here.

All you can do is tell him you'll leave him if this doesn't improve. I know, I know, you say you're totally happy otherwise and you don't want anyone else, blah blah blah, but you LITERALLY have no idea what you're missing. Life can be SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS OMG. Girl you have no idea.

>>18361247
>>>/r9k/ is that way.

>>18361129
t. women whos never been satisfied by his rich tiny cock bf and need to validate her shit choice

>>18361249
He's a good boyfriend. He's loving, caring, sweet and very considerate. He has been my best friend for years and he's so smart and fun to be with. I feel really bad even just thinking to break it off because we don't work well sexually.

I think he might be completely clueless.
He has never been the kind to be... into sex for the sake of sex itself? I don't know how to explain this. I feel like he fucks me because he thinks he is expected to.
It's like he doesn't need to fuck me. I need to fuck him, I get horny just being around him, I want to please him and I feel such a strong desire to. But he doesn't, or at least he doesn't show the same way I do.
I don't know if there's something wrong with me or it is just how he is.

I am a pretty girl, I have a nice body, I try to please him as much as I can, I keep myself clean.
I just feel really bad about myself.

>>18360998
He sounds like a bitch. Buy a strap-on and peg him, or sit on his face until you cum.

>>18361271
>He's loving, caring, sweet and very considerate
This makes no sense. If he was all those things he would put in some effort, even a little. Maybe he's gay

>>18361271
you gona cheat sooner or later, unless things change, either by leaving him or him suddenly taking an interest in female sexuality

>>18361273
I would :^)

>>18361281
He is all those things. He has always been a really amazing boyfriend. Just when it comes to sex... heh.

I don't think he's gay, he gets hard for me and definitely enjoys sex with me more than I do.

>>18361288
I don't think I would cheat on him.

>>18361281
The last sentence aside - OP, this is actually a really good point.

>He gets tired after a minute of oral or 30 seconds of fingering
>doesn't go back to it even if I ask him
>He doesn't put any effort into getting me in the mood, doesn't even kiss me or make out with me, doesn't even try
>I never initiate because he said it makes him feel pressured

Does this sound like
>He's loving, caring, sweet and very considerate
to you?

>>18361301
He might be very selfish when it comes to sex, I'm not denying that, but he has been amazing to me in every other way.
He did everything he could to make me happy in every way I can think of.
Really, beside the sex thing he has been a 10/10 boyfriend.

>>18361271
Look, sooner or later you have to realize - as do we all - that all the positive qualities in the world, even love, do not mean you should stay in relationship with this person.

I can't tell you how in love with my first boyfriend I was. Oh God, I was head over heels. That POS relationship lasted 10 YEARS. And it was shit! In exactly the ways you described. It was NOT worth it.

Just because someone is an amazing person doesn't mean you two are into each other or compatible in the ways that will make your relationship last a lifetime.

Be honest - I know you say this now, but be really, REALLY honest with yourself...

Imagine you spend the next 40 years - that's twice as long as you've been ALIVE, plus the 20 you've already had - living like this.

You never have good sex. Not ONCE.

Seriously? Will you be happy on your death bed, thinking, "At least I loved the guy I had shitty sex with for 60 years"?

Really??

>>18361300
>I would :^)
He really sounds like a bitch. Does he have some serious problems in life, or just simply takes you for granted so much and thinks he can handle you that he doesn't even care what you tell him? Is he like this in other aspects of your relationship as well?

The strap-on is maybe and exeggaration, but really try sitting on his face, if you like being on top.

>>18361308
But my relationship isn't shit.
We rarely argue, we have a lot of fun together (share interests and hobbies, same sense of humour), he takes care of me, he goes out of his way to make me happy, he brings out the best in me. He is an amazing boyfriend.
It's not just because I love him, but we rarely have any issue at all. Sex is seriously the only thing that doesn't work between us.
I could find another guy tomorrow if I wanted, but he wouldn't be as good as him.

>>18361315
He is a bit stressed for work but nothing serious or major. Our relationship is pretty chill as well, we don't have any major issue.
He's not like this in any other aspect of our relationship, it is really out of his character.

I don't want to force him to do something, if he isn't enjoying himself I don't see the point.

Why don't do simply let him lay down and get on top of him instead? Then you will have your pleasure in control

>>18361328
>if he isn't enjoying himself I don't see the point.
If it's not his shared interest to have you orgasm at least time to time, there is some problem in your relationship. Sit down, and talk to him about it.

>>18361330
>Why don't do simply let him lay down and get on top of him instead? Then you will have your pleasure in control
I do. Then he comes after a minute, goes soft, and I don't come.

>>18361328
Sounds like a beta bending over backwards to please you, but can't perform in bed.

>>18361347
It's reciprocal.
I go out of my way to make him happy, he does as well. I wouldn't want it any different.

>>18360927
oral

>>18361356
But you aren't satisfied. You do business with him like his friend, but he can't satisfy you and make you really happy.

>>18361328
>>18361356
You say this
>I go out of my way to make him happy, he does as well.

But you also say this about sex:
>if he isn't enjoying himself I don't see the point.
That's exactly the problem. He doesn't feel this way about you.

If you honestly think this doesn't apply to any areas besides sex, I have to say at this point that you are likely fooling yourself. People don't normally do personality 180s the minute they get into the bedroom.

Why can't you openly talk about it with him? He has been your boyfriend for years. This level of trust and mutual understanding must be given if your relationship is good.

>>18361328
>Sex is seriously the only thing that doesn't work between us.
Unless you're asexual, everything you just described describes a really good friendship. If the sex isn't working, the major thing that differentiates a relationship from a friendship is missing.

>>18361328
Then keep the relationship but find you a hook up to handle the orgasm part. I have sex with women in relationships and its made clear from the start they don't want to lose their partner. Point is there are men that you could turn to that do not want a relationship with you and will keep their mouth shut. The women I have sex with are able to compartmentalize as it seems you are. They don't see it as something that detracts from their relationship and clearly some love their partner. They are just unfulfilled sexually.

>>18361362
I cannot think of one area outside sex where it applies.

>>18361361
>>18361364
This is not friendship. We have tons of physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, we take care of each other in every way, we love each other.
I am not like that with my friends. I don't cuddle up against them and talk to them about my feelings.

>>18361365
I would never cheat on him. I give myself good orgasms alone.

>>18361363
I have talked to him, but
>I can't tell him exactly what I want him to do
>He doesn't manage to do the things I suggested him to do (last longer, keep a decent rhythm, pay attention to the angles, etc)

>>18361385
>He doesn't manage to do the things I suggested him to do
This is your problem. Talk to him again, until he actually pays attention.

>>18361380
>I would never cheat on him
The women I'm with don't really see what they are doing as cheating. They are not emotionally attached to me at all. I'm confident they still have a sexual relationship with their SO and some love them deeply. You love him, desire him, but remain unfulfilled sexually. Two separate things. You can have both.

>>18361365
I have no words for this. Just very Awful human beings.

>>18361393
The women you sleep with are whores.
I'll break up if it ever becomes unbearable, but I would never have sex with another guy or go behind his back. I respect him. I can't believe someone would do something like that to a person they claim to love.
I don't want both. I love him and respect him. It's really out of question.

>>18361390
I'll try. But yeah, I'm a bit exhausted.

>>18361401
Not sure they are awful human beings, at least they don't seem so. No one knows what they do, they always go home, there are no crushes or clandestine string of flirty text. I get a call or text to see if I'm free and when they want to stop they stop. I know one that will do this every 3 months like clockwork and I never hear from her otherwise, very well put together woman with kids and husband.

Talk to him but make sure that you make it clear that it's something that really bothers you. Don't just hint it.

>>18361404
>I respect him

Really?

"My boyfriend is awful in bed. Actually fucking awful.
He has no stamina - he fucks me mindlessly and doesn't have any rhythm. He doesn't pay attention to the angle and just fucking hits my cervix. He comes way too fast. He sucks at foreplay. He is goofy and not sensual at all.
He never managed to give me an orgasm, even if I can make myself come in 45 seconds and without any effort"

>>18361421
It's not like I can get advice on how to fix my sex life without saying why it is bad.
I don't talk about it with anyone who knows him. I don't have many other options.

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>>18361273
This OP, be more forward and get kinky.

>>18361438
He isn't into it. I tried being more forward but he feels pressured. I tried bringing up my kinks or things I'd like to try but he rarely is down for them.

I am pretty open sexually and try to get along with his kinks, if he mentioned anything that didn't include animals, shit and kids I'd basically be down for it.
And even when we do kinky stuff, lasts 45 seconds, so really...

>>18361443
You mean having kids or fucking kids?

>>18361433
If he was a caring and unselfish as you describe out of the bedroom he would have listened to your suggestions and, as other anons state, would have taken it upon himself to improve. He is not sensitive to you and you are not asking for anything unreasonable. I would tell you to help him if your relationship was in year one or two but this is 7 years. Plenty of clues he prefers to ignore. Why?

>>18361448
Both actually?
I kinda have impregnation fantasies, but wouldn't want to have kids for a while.

>>18361443
>he feels pressured
That's normal. That's why you need to go step by step. Always pushing his limits a little further and further. Never too much. Sell your sexuality to him in a way he accepts it.

>And even when we do kinky stuff, lasts 45 seconds, so really...
That's why you need to take control. Edge him. Drag out his orgasm as much as you can. Suck his dick up after he came, and as other anon said, sit on his face... eventually

>>18361456
You're 26, if you want multiple kids don't wait for the first for too long.

>>18361443
So, suggest a threesome with another guy to do the dick work and cuddle your bf during. You don't have to even look at the other guy.

>>18361472
I don't want another dick in me.

>>18361468
I'm not 26, and I don't want multiple kids.

>>18361461
OP is not the one with a problem, the bf is and if he doesn't think anything is wrong he'll bore with any training regiment.

>>18361475
Then use one dick, and have him watch.

>>18361475
>I don't want another dick in me
even if it can last an hour or more if necessary and opportunity for you to orgasm multiple times. Lot of men have complete control over when they cum.

>>18361443
Okay, listen. I've been one of the people encouraging you to consider ending/threatening to end the relationship, but I will give you ONE piece of advice that might actually help you before calling it quits on this thread.

It will require your boyfriend's help, though, so keep that in mind. You can't do this completely on your own.

The ONLY thing that works to stop premature ejaculation is for your boyfriend to edge HIMSELF. Not during jerkoff sessions - during sex. He has to stop before he cums.

Dead serious, this is the only thing that works. But it does work.

When he starts getting too excited, he has to either forcibly stop himself, and/or (usually and) give you a predetermined signal (tap on the shoulder works) that alerts you to stop moving entirely.

Then both of you wait until the urge to cum passes.

Repeat until you cum.

It will almost certainly fail the first several times. He'll probably only be able to go 2-3 rounds at most before he misses the window and cums. But over time, with practice and patience, his endurance WILL extend.

Again. He HAS to be 100% on board for this to work. But if he gives it an honest shot, it CAN work for him and you, OP.

>>18361493
Yes. It doesn't matter.
I don't want sex with someone who isn't the man I love. I'd rather have no sex at all than have amazing sex with someone who isn't him. I'll break up if I feel the need to fuck someone else.

>>18361461
It's very hard to be sensual with him, it takes two people to do it properly and it's hard when he's not receptive.
But I might try, thanks.

>>18361505
thank fucking god the last time I came in 45 seconds I was 16 and with my first gf.

>>18361505
That's actually pretty good. Thanks.

I'll talk to him about it next time we're together in person.

>it's an "OP comes for advice, but comes up with excuse after excuse to no break it off" episode.

Can't believe a thread died for this. Let me tell you something. The only reason he's dealing with your ass is because you're an easy (and sometimes free) hole. He has you by a whistle by the way you're defending him and the reason he's so "kind and caring and sweet" is so that you don't gain enough sense to ditch his ass. If this was a month, I'd understand, but this is 7 years, nearly a decade of fucking the same person. At that time that he didn't learn a damn thing about pleasing you he simply doesn't give a shit, and he never will because you're blindly in love.
I say dump his ass, but you'll simply ignore this and come up with yet another excuse so I don't know why I wasted my time typing this up.

>>18361525
Very welcome. Hope it works, OP. Keep us updated

>>18361485
Dude, stop with the cuckold fantasy.

>>18361595
>The only reason he's dealing with your ass is because you're an easy (and sometimes free) hole. He has you by a whistle by the way you're defending him and the reason he's so "kind and caring and sweet" is so that you don't gain enough sense to ditch his ass.
You may be right. But even if this is true, I doubt OP's boyfriend is consciously aware of it. Kind of a sad situation all around, honestly.

>If this was a month, I'd understand, but this is 7 years, nearly a decade of fucking the same person.
She literally doesn't know any better. At all. She's like those fundamentalist Christian chicks who only ever fuck one person, or those women in Africa who've been circumcised and literally think they experience sex like an uncut woman does.

>he didn't learn a damn thing about pleasing you he simply doesn't give a shit, and he never will because you're blindly in love.
Well, yeah. But the rule of /adv/ is that we approach the OP where they're at. And this chick IS blindly in love.

Have a heart, dude. I get why you're frustrated. But IF >>18361505 does, by some crazy turn of the screw (ha, I made a pun), actually work - hell, OP and her boyfriend could hypothetically end up happy and married with 2.5 kids and a picket fence.

I mean, logic dictates that you're probably right. But come on, not every story has to have a depressing af ending. Maybe she'll come back with a happy update. Have a little hope, Anon.

>>18361413
>no flirty text

Oh well how foolish of me to think that these women are awful! They didn't send you a flirty text so it makes it completely justified for them to sleep with another men obviously!

I hope you one day find the most perfect girl that you trust with your life and marry her and get kids and then find out she was sleeping with another men behind your back.

>Oh no honey i completely understand. I mean it wasn't even cheating since you didn't even send him a winky face emoji xD No strings attached you know hahaha

>>18361622
>then find out she was sleeping with another men behind your back
What I have learned is men don't want to know. Even when its right in front of their face they will ignore or beg for her to stay but the fools don't realize the women were not going anywhere in the first place. More importantly for you guys is women rarely get caught when they have something they do not want to lose.

>>18360972
I worked at it with my wife, being persistent and listening to advice of [people who know helps. She had her first orgasm with me in our third year of marriage, now she gets there more often than not.

All women are different, but some prefer a lighter touch, not squeezing and such, and most like being in control (they relax better that way). Cowgirl position helps, but with him not doing much and you controlling the action. Good luck and remember, even when you don't get there, if it was better than the previous time then work more at it and try things. He does need to want it, that is the most important thing.

Just remembered, some guys go too fast being afraid they will lose the erection. If he gets more confident he will perform better.

>>18360942
this. I realized yesterday that even telling people exactly what to do, some of the stuff I do you have to have the perfect touch and timing for and you have to understand the underlying anatomical reasons for it or you'll do it wrong. I learned everything I could as part of building yet another skill to make my life better and my future wife happier.

OP you gotta talk to him about it and get him to want to research ways to be more sensual.
>>18360937
he's just lazy
>not eating your woman out until she cums
seriously?

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>>18361670
>She had her first orgasm with me in our third year of marriage

get someone who isn't cut

>>18361711
He has a 7", thick uncut dick.

>>18361697
He got a bit lazy.
I don't know, probably the fact that he doesn't really have to try doesn't help.

>>18361670
Thanks anon, I'm really glad things worked out for you and your wife.

>>18361595
I asked for advice on how to improve my sex life.
I don't want to break up with him.

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>>18361711
what's that got to do with anything?

>>18361752
>he fucks me mindlessly and doesn't have any rhythm. He doesn't pay attention to the angle and just fucking hits my cervix. He comes way too fast. He sucks at foreplay. He is goofy and not sensual at all.
textbook-cutdick

>>18361722
>probably the fact that he doesn't really have to try doesn't help.
that doesn't mean a damn thing, in my last relationship, before she starting a whole bunch of bullshit thanks to her friends, I could have sex pretty much whenever. I still put in the effort. he doesn't want to. he's a lazy wasteful dick, he's got the opportunity to try and improve and has for 7 years and he's done nothing with it.

get thee to a couple's sex class or something.

>>18361084
That's sweet

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>>18361756
I have a cut dick and I've been giving all you retards sex advice for days now.

>>18361722
>I asked for advice on how to improve my sex life.
>I don't want to break up with him.
listen, you've been together for 7 fucking years. either he doesn't really care about you like you said he does or he has a low sex drive. if it's the latter it might be hormone problems, meds or something.

Man here I am eating out my girl for over 30 minutes at a time and this guy can get away with a minute. Hard to believe it took you 7 years to get serious about improving your sex life.

>>18360927
>>18360964
>>18360979
Jesus fuck this is the exact inverse of my relationship, I know your feels Femanon. Godspeed and good luck, hope everything works out.

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>help him

No meme solution.
It will reduce sensitivity significantly, increase size, girth, and get em a cock ring too while you're at it. Good luck. ED can be a side effect they say, but there are also guys who've used em for years so meh.

>>18360927
Tell him minus the self cumming part

>>18360927
In all honesty OP, go fuck some other guys.
I'm not kidding.

Then you can find out how much better your life could be and then leave that selfish prick

>>18360927
if its been a year and he still doesnt come through in bed then he just doesnt care enoguh to please you

>>18360927
you sound like a fucking cunt. maybe try communicating with eachother when it comes to sex and foreplay? dont be a cunt maybe? or be the cunt that you r and fucking leave him for a guy that can satisfy that pussy. just be the whore you were and are meant to be.

OP, good on you for sticking by your man. I support this wholeheartedly. And you acknowledge that sex isn't the be all and end all of a strong relationship. It certainly helps as a point of bonding, but there is so much more to being in a committed relationship than sex. Communication is key.

My advice is that you need to sit him down, very seriously. Let him know that you want to be with him, be out indefinitely or at least to see if you can improve things. Tell him you aren't feeling fulfilled in the bedroom. Tell him you NEED him to start trying hard to satisfy you, because you feel like you're giving more than you're getting and it's damaging your self esteem. Tell him you want to try lots of different things; try and make it exciting like a game, but and intimate sexy game. Give him rewards if he's performing well, coax him and tease him into being better. You probably need to be less available to him too, he's probably very comfortable in his position but if you break that comfort zone he'll need to change his shit up.

Maybe encourage him to exercise too. Just ease him in.

Godspeed, femanon. You sound like a 10/10 gf and I envy your bloke.