ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

How do you effectively act distant to someone after a day of fuck up and embarrassment?

We are really close but I want to be left alone and have nothing to do with that person anymore.

I just don't want it to be obvious because that person will really notice the change in my attitude.

>single father to 4 year old daughter
>mother passed away shortly after birth, shock caused by c-section infection
>own a house, fully paid off
>work from home making $60,000~ a year. Very casual work: I have a lot of free time

Why am I so hesitant to date again? I'm confident and have my life sorted out, I just want companionship. Is it wrong to be on great terms with my late wife's family? What if I still visit her grave? Do women care if they'll be constantly reminded that I still love someone else?

Girls -

I have a female friend. Says she isn't interested in anything me right now. Texts me ALL the time when she's with the guy she is interested in. Why?

I get that I'm friendzoned, and I don't care, but why fuck with me when you are with the guy you really want?

>>18342990
I am really sorry that it happened to you.

If you make me feel like I'll always be second to your dead wife and you are just using me for companionship, then yes - I am obviously going to mind.
I think it is natural to still miss your wife, and I wouldn't mind if you visited her grave or got along with your wife's family, I wouldn't mind that. But I'd want to feel like I am the first and most important woman in your life.

>>18342990
I imagine dating a widower takes a really mature person. I think it's great you're still on good terms with your late wife's family, and visiting her grave could be a healthy growing experience for your daughter. So it's just a matter of finding a mature enough woman to date, I think.

>>18342916
This is obnoxious and strange. I'm not a white woman so I have a different perspective on this obviously - but it looks like some cuckold porn shit
>>18342998
Lieks you as a friend. She likes your company but doesnt wanna fuck you. Simple.

Why do women need to be fucked by multiple men before they can settle?

>>18343003
>op has a daughter
>But I'd want to feel like I am the first and most important woman in your life

not gonna happen desu

How do I be good at sex

>>18343028
I thought of that after posting, but yeah.
Of course I don't mind that he puts the daughter first. Just, ya know. Not feeling second to his late wife.

>>18343026
Why do men [by women]?

>>18343026
Honestly, I had just one partner and it never bothered me.
I know a lot of guys who cheated on their girlfriends or broke up with them to fuck around, tho.

>>18342998
It sounds like she does not know what she wants period. Saying you aren't interested in anything
>right now
in itself is a dick move. People aren't going to linger around. If it doesn't work out now but it does in the future, great, but you can't plan that shit. And planting a seed for someone to hold on to an idea that something romantic might start later on is frankly disrespectful.

>>18343030
Don't expect sex to be like porn or try to reenact porn in the bedroom. Approach every new partner as the authority on what they personally enjoy, how they want to be touched and pleasured - don't forget about things you learned, just don't expect them to be gospel for your next lover as these things are individual. Same goes for the vibe, way to initiate etc - you have a different sex life with each partner, that you build together. Be as confident as you can in the bedroom: if a woman is attracted to you she will think you are sexy, act like it. Don't act dismissive or embarrassed about your body, let her touch you all over, dare to say and do what crosses your mind and not what you think is most normal. And dare to show enjoyment: make noise or even just sigh if you can't get yourself to grunt or moan. Be open about what you like and how you want to be touched and pleasured. Don't look at PiV as the holy grail and everything else as clutter, try to enjoy every part of it, from the tension building to foreplay to penetration to cuddling afterwards. It's not a big deal if you don't make her climax (the biggest factor for that is how she's wired and whether she can relax, not your skills) but don't act like sex is naturally over once you came. Even just asking if she still wants something, or holding and encouraging her while she touches herself, makes a world of difference from rolling over and falling asleep.

I think these are the most important ones. There's plenty of guides for cunnilingus online. The real small details boil down to whether you are (naturally) sensual and are hard to explain.

For guys and girls

There's a girl in my class that I want to ask out, I'd prefer to ask her out in person, but we're going to have about two weeks in-between classes where we won't see each other.

So do I jump the gun and message her asking her out and make use of our extra free time, or do I wait until I can ask her face to face?

>>18342916
Agree with the other poster that it sounds like a sexual fantasy. Or a troll, but my money is on race porn. I am quite sure that no self respecting black man wants a woman to be with him as a token black guy so she can give society the finger. That's dehumanizing and just ridiculous.

Why do women cheat? I love you girls but why cheat?

>>18342932
>fuck up and embarrassment
Is it really worth shutting down the entire friendship (assuming) for? Are you sure it's as big a deal to them as it is to you?

>>18343100
Maybe. I don't know yet, I just don't want to be opened up by someone again. It's my defense mechanism.

>>18343095
Why do men cheat? There is no one reason. If anything I feel that it is more socially acceptable for men to say that they couldn't control their sexual urges (while they also got a lot out of it emotionally) and for women to say that they felt neglected by their partner (even if lust was also a big motive for them).

There are many reasons and most of them aren't particularly good "reasons" either. They have to do with character flaws (craving attention, being restless, feeling suffocated quickly), or with issues within the relationship/their attitude in the relationship that require a lot of work while they instead opt for an external "fix". (Eg cheating because you want to feel attractive and are in a dead bedroom situation.)

>>18343095
I need big black cock to fill up my tight pussy and ass. I need semen inside of me.

>>18343109
Is there any particular reason why you can't tell them you need some space to process things? If you are close to this person then they will be able to tell that something is off, especially if you want to be able to distance yourself quickly and not play the long con with gradual fading.

>>18343114
>craving attention, being restless, feeling suffocated quickly
Fucking meme gender.

>>18343121
What? If you are implying that men never suffer from these, you are dead wrong, you just don't have to personally deal with it if you're straight.

>>18343126
I literally never felt like that. It unironically always boiled down to muh dick.

>>18343084
Depends on how much you interacted so far. If she is really just a girl you think is cute from afar I would wait. If you already are established acquaintances, eg it's not weird for you to sit down next to her or strike up spontaneous conversation, ask her now. If I were you I'd ask her to hang out first, eg ask her what she's going to do in her spare time, if she returns the question mention a nice place you enjoy frequenting and ask if she'd like to tag along for a night. If all goes well, tell her that you really enjoy spending time with you and whether she'd like to go on a date with you at the end.
But that's personal preference, I guess. I am also from a place where rigidly asking someone out on a date is not as common as it seems to be in the US.

Guys,

I have a bit of a happy trail. Shaving, waxing and so on has resulted in razor bumps and small ingrown hairs around my belly button. I'm incredibly self-conscious about this and worried men will be repulsed by this and won't want to have sex with me or find me attractive. How much of a deal breaker would this be in bed?

>>18343126
What?

>>18343132
That doesn't mean much really. Literally half of mankind is male. That's a whole bunch of different individuals. I have absolutely known a guy in my social circle who cheated because he constantly wanted attention and preferably from new/different people.

>>18343136
Maybe I misunderstood the post. I thought the implication was that the quoted examples are exclusively female faults.

>>18343138
Sounds like a feminine boy.

Boys and girls
How did you meet your current or previous partner and how did you develop into a romantic relationship?

>>18343141
They are.

>>18343141
Some guys are probably like that.

>>18343145
Depends on how you look at it. He's (or was back then, at least) very into social media, bragging, attention etc. Also hugely into sports, gaming and lifting and has the stereotypical dudebro attitude towards women. It's not either 100% this or 100% that, by far most people consist of a bunch of contradictions.

>>18343138
He sounds like trap.

>>18343150
I have some bad news for you.

>>18343138
>>18343156
Sounds like a girl.

Girls, why don't you like cumcakes?

>>18343135
Do you have tits? Are you fat? How is your facial aesthetics? Can your ass block a guys path? Do you smell nice.

>>18343026
I didn't. My ex and I were each other's firsts and he cheated on me because he wanted to fuck other women. There was a post about a guy who wanted to do the same. I've never seen a woman with that attitude, but I've seen multiple men do it.

>>18343147
A, 2007 - dated 2 months, just kissed - through common friends, at a party
B, 2008 - dated 6 months, just kissed - online [cheater]
C, 2008 - 2014 - my first everything - online
D, 2015 - dated 3 months, just kissed - at school [cheater]
E, 2015 - now - at a party. Cute story, too.

So I have been tutoring this young girl for 6 months, and have been dating her older sister for one month. Now my newly acquired gf is asking me to stop tutoring her little sister because she has "filthy" evidence that her little sister is attracted to me sexually ( I really don't want to ask what she saw or has). She said if I care about her feeling I wouldn't do it. I was a bit surprised at her request, so I didn't answer and quickly changed the topic.
Now I'm considering how to deal with this, is what she asking normal? I mean sure, I would stop if that's what she wants, but wouldn't that hurt the younger sister's study? In the past six months, I really don't see any sign of strange behaviors, the girl has been a little angel in comparison to kids her age, she is hard working and docile, do everything I told, extra practice problems and all that.

>>18343164
You think of it whatever you want, you have your whole life to figure out that men don't share one universal personality. Though it is striking to me that someone would have such a black and white attitude on the board where men being sentimental, wallowing in self-pity, taking the path of least resistance, and more positively showing sensitivity and kindness are common as shit.

>>18343135
I have a bit of a happy trail and it never bothered any men. Usually men are much hairier anyways.

>>18343175
cheater means cheated on you or cheating on someone else with you?

>>18343176
It completely depends on what she found. If she read her sister's diary and found explicit sexual fantasies starring you then no, it's not surprising that she's uncomfortable with you spending prolonged time one on one with her. Having said that, it is also very possible that she is just irrationally insecure or jealous and afraid you will grow to like her sister, and comes up with an excuse to not own up to her issues concerning this.

Either way, when it comes to tutoring her sister, I'm assuming you're being paid? If so, am I wrong in thinking it would not be that big a deal to replace you with an excuse (lack of time)?

That's not to say you should necessarily agree, though. But after only a single month of dating, I would consider it carefully.

So I just figured out that squirt is pee. I had a girl peeing in my bed and on my face and hands. I'm so disgusted right now. Idk if I'm gonna call back or respond on face. How do you guys deal with this shit? I'm gagging, typing this.

>>18343175
Can you give some stories? I'm trying to get examples so i have an idea of how to get a gf

>>18343187
B cheated on me. D cheated on his now-wife with me (I wasn't aware of her existence).

>>18343193
What went down? Were you okay with her squirting on you? If so, squirt and pee isn't 100% the same stuff. No doubt it contains urine and I know the study, but you only need a working nose and pair of eyes to see that it's not exactly the same stuff. Ffs squirting smells like rosewater.

Either way, if it's just the mental idea that she peed on you and you were fine with her squirting, I would try to relax about it. If you were not cool with her fluids on you to begin with that's just uncomfortable and I would make up an excuse to not see her again if you don't want to. Don't be mean about it unless she did something you told her not to, though.

>>18343193
You're taking this much nicer than I did. I began to shout because it was so nasty. It completely changed the way I look at her too.

>>18343208
>squirting smells like rosewater
I'm done with this board.

>>18343193
>he isn't into watersports

The plebs ITT

>>18343193
Is this true?! I have been able to make a girl squirt just once and some of it got in my mouth....

>>18343147
He became part of my group of people that all hung out together at my high school during lunch. A mutual friend was having a birthday party close to Halloween. I wasn't going to go because I wasn't super close to the people there, but he convinced me to go. I got to the party a while before him, so I sat and watched everybody else dance like the autistic fuck I am. He got there, saw me sitting alone, sat with me and talked to me. He eventually convinced me to join the dancing. That's the night I always think of as the start of us talking romantically, even though I was in a very anti-relationship phase when we met.

>>18343191
>Having said that, it is also very possible that she is just irrationally insecure or jealous and afraid you will grow to like her sister, and comes up with an excuse to not own up to her issues concerning this

I hope this isn't the case, I really like this girl, she took care of me when I was sick few months ago. I like her sister, too. They look very similar to each other. But I'm only attracted to the older sister of course, it's more of a personality thing.

Yes I'm paid. I'm a grad student, so I have research funds and allowance from my uni, too. Teaching is just what I did out of a whim, and the fact that my boss (my professor) told me I should improve on my exposition skill. But it's really no big deal on my part to just quit tutoring this girl. I'd probably spend time reading a book or jerking off.

>>18343194
Sure. I'm pretty high on ambien so forgive me if they don't make sense.

A is a friend of my cousin's boyfriend. Met at a NYE party. He wanted to be with me just because his friend told him I had nice tits. Nothing to take inspiration from.
B and I started talking on a forum. We kept talking daily till we started visiting. We spent the whole summer together. It was adorable.
He came back home and cheated on me with a girl who lived closer to them.

C and I met online, on the same forum where I met B. We started chatting a lot, he was really well-read and he was very smart and pleasant to be around. We visited a bunch, and then he moved here as soon as he turned 18. We lived together for a few years. Broke up because of kids.

D was my only "the one" feeling. He smiled at me in a hallway and I felt my internal organs melting. Huge nerd. Fun to be around. I made the first move and went talking to him. Our first date was supposed to be an arcade but we ended up sitting outside and talking the whole night.
Best 3 months of my life. Then he got back home to visit his family and I found out he was engaged. Thanks to an email from him fiancé.

E, current boyfriend. Met him at a party. He was smoking outside, on the balcony, sitting on the floor and I didn't see him. I basically tripped on him. Since I was on the floor already, I sat next to him and we shared a beer. Talked about blowjobs, robots and space shuttles. He asked me out. Here we are.

>>18343147
I met him at uni and knew him for a few years before we started dating. We knew each other and were friendly/acquaintances due to classes we shared.Eventually we ended up in a club together and started spending more time together. I realized he was a cool guy and that I enjoyed spending time with him. We would go out for lunch or coffee as friends. Eventually he asked me out on a date and that's pretty much it. I adore him and can't believe we didn't get together sooner.

>>18343193
That is really not cool.

>>18343243
>I really like this girl, she took care of me when I was sick few months ago. I like her sister, too.
To be fair, reading this it would not surprise me if the sister feels threatened because you have gotten to know and bond with her younger sister before she came into the picture. Perhaps she feels like as long as you keep interacting with the younger girl as the relationship develops, she will always be "ahead" of her and have more history with you.

I would talk to her about this in person. Unless she's a stone cold sociopath (which is a whole issue in itself) it should be easy enough to tell from her body language and face whether she is lying if you press her a bit. It isn't weird to have additional questions if she springs on you out of nowhere that the younger girl supposedly has sexual thoughts about you. Even if it's just talking about how you're supposed to handle not tutoring the girl anymore, what excuse to use and so on.

If she gets very flustered, evades your questions, can't give clear answers, keeps saying stuff like "just trust me" without providing more insight... That's the time to carefully ask her if she might be afraid YOU feel anything for the girl.

It's going to be awkward and might well blow up but honestly, it's only been a month, if she cannot communicate about this you better find out now that she doesn't have what it takes to be in a mature relationship.

>>18343193
I mean squirting and peeing is different, but that's fucked up that she was actually peeing everywhere and claiming she was squirting

How do I get my FWB to try anal

She loves it when I finger her ass when I'm fucking her but she won't let me put my dick in

>>18343282
If with fingering her ass you mean stimulating the outside, you could try going inside or using a butt plug (with flared base) and hope that after feeling anal insertion she wants more.

If she already knows anal insertion then there's not really unexplored territory left and she just doesn't want to, save it for another partner.

>>18343282
Dicks can tear your pooper and make it bleed. You have to specifically relax your butthole and keep it relaxed the entire time, like you're pooping. And no matter how many enemas you do, a lube and shit mixture will come out, and it won't smell good. But that last part isn't my personal experience

>>18343271
ugh, I'm really not good at this whole thing.
I don't want my relationship to fail either.
But ok, I will ask her more about this. Uncomfortable conversations ahead.
I really doubt she's making up stuffs about her sister though, that's weird. It's her sister, and they get along quite well from what I've seen, too.

>>18343133
Thanks for your take on it. We're in the same program together, but, I've never had much more than small talk with her. My only concern is blowing my chance by seeming like I'm scarred to ask her face to face.

>>18343304
>But that last part isn't my personal experience
so your gf's poop smells good? interesting.

>>18343314
Oh no lol, I just meant that I've only tried anal once, no lube was involved, and the guy could only fit the tip in, so I didn't get far enough into anal to experience pooping out a mixture of lube and shit

>>18343310
Honestly the way I see it a lot of the time guys use this reasoning in hindsight to make it seem like they have more control over the outcome of the situation than they do. If you tell yourself if only you would've not texted her, she would've accepted, you can believe that you can actively avoid this from happening next time.

I don't doubt that there are situations in which a girl is quite on the fence about someone and it being a text is the factor that pushes her towards a lack of enthusiasm. But no girl into someone is going "oh fuck, my crush asked me by TEXT, turns out he's a loser". She's going to be pumped to get interest from a guy who has her interest, all other details being irrelevant.

Having said that I still stand by what I said, that if you didn't have a lot of interaction (small talk can cover a lot of things - did you make her laugh? did you talk about things that interest you as opposed to course material?) you give yourself a better shot by waiting until after you got the chance to show off your personality and the kind of dynamic you can have with her more. No problem, good luck!

>>18343309
I agree that it would be weird but people can absolutely be weird, especially when they feel distressed. Either way, if it's completely legit it is also good to just have a talk about how to handle the situation discreetly.

>>18342990
>>work from home making $60,000~ a year. Very casual work: I have a lot of free time
What do you do for a living exactly?

>>18343120
I've had enough. I'm just the convenient friend anyway.

>>18343193
sir, I must congratulate you on successfuly trolling /adv/
I also wanted to utter how grieving an experience it is to know people here are so absurdly moronic to fall for your 4/10 attempt

>>18343330
Thanks man, it really helps to hear it put that way.

>>18343135
if he likes you then i dont think it would be a big deal cause that happens to most guys when they shave anyway.

>>18343395
>sir, I must congratulate you on successfuly trolling /adv/

It's not exactly difficult considering /adv/ is filled with people who want to spend time reading and dealing with other people's absurd problems.

What the hell exactly is innie vs outie labia? If the inner lips are short and mostly but not fully covered, is that an innie or an outie? What the fuck is a puffy vagina?

>>18343431
>what the fuck is google images?

>>18343437
It's gross. I don't want to see it.

>>18343441
Fucking audible kek!

>>18343390
What did they do wrong?

>>18343193
How the fuck did you not know that squirt is like 90% pee?

>>18343461
I'd love to see a citation for this

>>18343459
Very sweet and kind at first until I'm close to that person then now treats me differently unless that person has a favor or something. I'm a door mat. I think I'll become the villain again in this chapter but it might be the last.

Still don't know how to approach this, if I'm going to be frank or not. I'm usually the former.

>>18343479
I'm sorta being treated the same, it hurts. I'm in love with my friend though.

>>18343479
>>18343487

But I think I'm being unreasonable though, that person explained why we can't spend time together.

This might be too juvenile though because it's just about a game (Some moba). I asked if we can play ranked together and of course the answer was negative, it's also a way for us to talk together. Then that person suddenly plays quick match with other friends, of course I felt that I was being pushed away.

It's something's stupid.

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>>18343193
STOP RUINING WOMEN FOR ME

>>18343431
Innie means that the inner labia are so small that they are enveloped by the outer labia and not instantly visible. Picture a "clam" shell pussy, or think of Homer Simpson's mouth.

An outie means that the inner labia protrudfe, so you have two sets of lips that are visible.

In real life it's more complicated than these two terms. You have women who are in between, or have an innie normally that turns into an outie when they become turned on and the region gets more blood. Having an outie can mean that a little bit of the inner lips is visible, or that there's an inch or two down there. There's a lot of variation.

>puffy vagina
Typically they mean plump outer lips. Some women have outer labia that aren't very defined. If they are also an innie, in the most extreme case, this means having sort of a literal slit.

>>18343563
>answers a bait question than the legitimate ones

>>18343553
One of the hardest pills to swallow is that women are more dirty and unhygienic than men. I figured this out while sharing an apartment with three other women for 2 years.

It's sometimes nicer to be unaware....

>>18343568
Why choose when you can answer them all...

Do girls like being cummed inside of?

>>18343599
Most do, psychologically. A minority of them don't, typically because they get pregnancy scares which make them relax less and enjoy it less.

Physically speaking you don't feel it. The vagina is around the same temperature and already a moist environment so there is no real contrast to sense.

>>18343599
I like it, but I'd like it more if the cum just magically disappeared afterwards. Mentally it's super hot, but the reality is that I now have to deal with cum oozing out of my vagina at random moments (trying to wipe it out doesn't get it all, it hides in the many folds), and I will be terrified of being pregnant until my next period.

>>18343641
Pretty much this, what you said about the cum oozing out is the big thing really.

My girlfriend loves it, but sometimes we opt for the non creampie because let's face it, random "accidents" where cum finds its way out an hour later while we're out or she's at work isn't fun for her.

>>18343467
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jsm.12799/abstract

>>18343652
That only proves that there is urine in squirting fluids, not that it's the same thing. I don't know if you've ever experienced someone squirting near you but it's completely clear and does not smell like piss at all.

>>18343657
This. Urine in squirting doesn't mean it's pee, just like urine in precum doesn't mean it's pee.

>>18343657

>Conclusions

>The present data based on ultrasonographic bladder monitoring and biochemical analyses indicate that squirting is essentially the involuntary emission of urine during sexual activity, although a marginal contribution of prostatic secretions to the emitted fluid often exists.

It's ok. You pee for whatever reason during sex.

>>18343665
Look, I actually would be willing to try watersports with a partner and I never squirted in front of anyone so far. In that regard it makes no difference to me. But I have squirted by myself for years, including when I was so poorly hydrated that my pee would be bright golden yellow and strong smelling every single time without fault. Yet my squirting was clear without any exceptions. And smelled of virtually nothing, and nothing like urine.

I mean it's cool that they found seven women and once again, I am completely willing to believe (which seems reasonable) that there's urine in squirting, but I'm not going to believe this over my own senses. Which I'm sure you can imagine if you picture seeing something that directly contradicts your own experiences with your own body.

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>>18343671
>fuck science

>>18343676
using a trump gif while supporting science. how ironic

>>18343676
How would you react if you saw stats saying something completely conflicting your own "empirical evidence" from living your life? Would you just go "huh, interesting, these seven respondents mean that apparently my findings about myself must be false and my senses can't be trusted"?

>>18343683
Jesus Christ, it's supposed to be you. How did you not get that?

>>18343685
Yeah, they probably got like 7 outliers.

Long story short, my girlfriend has expressed interest in wanting to see what it's like to be with a girl sexually, because she thinks she'd enjoy it.

This revelation came about during foreplay, along with one that she'd like to see me with another girl, and also join in herself of course, because she loves seeing me get off. We've talked about it several times now, and while originally I've always said the idea of a threesome is a logistical nightmare in reality, not to mention one that can have bad effects on your relationship, but time has passed and I've warmed to the idea.

The thought of trying adding another girl in to our sex life to see how it goes is a hot idea, exploring the different dynamics there are sounds great.

We have a fantastic relationship that's very strong, and I don't think an experience like this would be able to do us harm. If it went badly, I think we'd easily be strong enough to get through it.

What's the best way to approach this, do you think?

>>18343676
>>18343685
Also found you http://thoughtcatalog.com/raine-leigh/2015/02/squirting-is-not-the-same-thing-as-peeing-nsfw/

Actually mentions the study and various other sources.

>>18343704
A blog? Are your serious right now.

Hillary btfo

Girls, why don't you like cumcakes?

>>18343706
What does it matter that it's a blog if scientific sources are included?

>>18343712
Because the actual studies says the opposite of her personal opinion....

>>18343714
If you follow the links then, no, they don't.

If you are this lazy:
http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/female-ejaculate-%E2%80%94-where-does-it-come

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19766406

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17634056

>>18343717
I read all and none of them were about squirting.

>>18343731
Nigger how do you not know that female ejaculation is squirting?

>>18343731
Female ejaculation IS squirting...

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>>18343735
>>18343737
>research community distinguish between female ejaculation and what is colloquially known as squirting or gushing.[2] These terms are used by the public interchangeably, which often leads to confusion. In these research publications, it is suggested that "real" female ejaculation is the release of a very scanty, thick, and whitish fluid from the female prostate,[2][46] while the "squirting" or "gushing" (shown frequently in pornography) is a different phenomenon; the expulsion of clear and abundant fluid, which has been shown to be a diluted fluid from the urinary bladder.

Women are fucking clueless about their own bodies, man.

>>18343742
ok, CALLING ALL FEMANONS (and possibly experienced anons):
have you ever experienced *both* of said fenomena?
If so, is there a different feeling that acompanies the expulsion? do both lead to orgasm? can you describe the difference between those orgasms (and possibly a dry one as well)?

>>18343742
They are not as strictly separated, also within research, as that text suggests. If you look at the first link the description clearly refers to squirting.

>Because the fluid in question is expelled from the urethra upon orgasm, many researchers, women, and their partners believed that the phenomena of female ejaculation was really just a loss of bladder control.
>Female ejaculate is not pee. It's generally clear or somewhat milky and nearly odorless.

Also you can talk shit about women and their understanding of female sexuality but it is simply a lot more complicated than it is for men. There is still (scientific) controversy about what kind of orgasms do or do not exist for women. Or about these fluids.

>>18343742
Also here's more sources; http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/healthy-living/sexual-health/a2295/female-ejaculation/

Including about the study with seven women:
>Subsequently in 2015, New Scientist published an analysis of these results. The seven Frenchwomen believed that they were experiencing true ejaculation — not urination. But the fluid that five of them produced was actually urine.

>However, the other two women produced a fluid which contained a natural chemical called prostate-specific antigen (PSA). This indicates that it probably came from structures called Skene's glands – which are rather like the female equivalent of the male's prostate.

>>18343767
I'm not talking shit about women, I'm stating facts. You can, on occasion, pee during sexual intercourse. It is really disguting, though.

>But the fluid that five of them produced was actually urine.

>>18343751
Sorry man, I'd like to help out but I can't say I recognize the description of thick white fluid being expelled.

Having said that, on top of what I already mentioned about the properties of the squirting fluid, I just realized (it's actually a long time ago for me as it's such a fucking hassle to deal with and clean up) another important difference: if I have a dry orgasm, I can keep going, I'll just have a slight decline in arousal before it builds again. If I squirt, I'm done for, all sexual desire gone. This is similar to what I hear about men learning to have multiple orgasms by learning to have dry ones.

>>18343777
Sex is messy. If you do anal stuff a lot there will be shit sooner or later. There are traces of urine in precum and semen. Hell, I've had a partner convinced he peed in my mouth a little during intense edging in a blowjob even though that should not be likely with an erection I guess.

If you don't want a woman to squirt/potentially pee, I've got good news for you, most women rarely or never do so. And other than that, it would just be yet another way in which bodily fluids get all over the place during sex.

why do women pee during sex

>>18343135
I don't remember ever seeing this on a girl, so I'd need a picture.

>>18343574
STOP!

>>18343751
Never had the "true ejaculation", but I have squirted. It's hard for me to believe squirting is just urine because of a long story that I'll try to shorten. I can only cum by flexing a muscle and holding it while being stimulated to orgasm, and it's the same muscle used to stop the flow of urine. When I squirted, I was clamping down on that muscle like I normally do, so I'm not sure how I'd still manage to pee while holding that muscle. Didn't have an orgasm though. I've never had an orgasm when I squirted

>>18343791
This is hardly your problem. During an average fuck a woman won't have an orgasm let alone squirt.

>>18343782
In spite of believing the female ejaculate to differ from urine, I can't shake the similarity of things you describe and men pissing.
If I am hard, but have to pee, after I urinate my arousal is gone. I can recreate it with more or less time and effort, sooner (tens of seconds) or later.
I am not sure about the desire part, for I was in such situation months ago last time.

Girls, if you're not objects, why do you happily gift your holes to superheroes?

>>18343807
Isn't it different for men because you cannot (easily) pee with a boner and actually have to get a bit softer to get a steady flow? As a woman, peeing itself has zero impact on my sexual desire.

And the thing is that if I squirt, that's it. If I just have a dry orgasm I'll catch my breath and feel disinterested for a moment, then feel the pull building again. I can easily go three-four times in a row, eleven being my personal record.
If I squirt it will take a day or so before I even like the idea of sexual stuff again. Which is honestly part of the reason I actively started avoiding it from happening but that's beside the point.

>>18343801
how about losing your arousal the way the other femanon>>18343782 does?

Also, from what I know (and I don't know much at all, but it still comes from some actual research (can't cite it, I've read it years ago), the ejaculate, whatever it actually is, seems to come out of some different tract, with openings situated around urethra. So maybe it is possible you were peeing after all)

Girls, what would you think of a guy who is super clingy and then suddenly started acting cold towards you?

>>18343822
I didn't lose my arousal at all when I squirted, but I never really lose my arousal when I cum. Four seconds of relief and then it's back stronger than before.

The guy pushed on my G spot the right way and it just gushed out, again and again. I never got the feeling that I needed to pee, which is what people about to experience a G spot orgasm often describe. I wasn't pushing and I didn't have my bladder relaxed, I was actually flexing the muscle that holds everything in. It also didn't smell or look like urine, so it's just confusing being told that it's pee when it doesn't seem to match the description

>>18343819
>have to get a bit softer to get a steady flow
that's not always true. On ocasions (often in the morning) this happens, walls and possibly ceilings (that's not an exaggeration) are in danger of being soaked. It's rare though, and the erection will likely be lost by the end of pissing

>If I squirt it will take a day or so before I even like the idea of sexual stuff again
now that's surprisingly long. Is there a difference in feelings between those orgasms? And how big is this difference?

Also, have you ever had to stop masturbating/ having sex to pee? how long did it take you to start feeling arousal again?

so is it true that you girls have cooties?

>>18343844
Yes, but thankfully they're all contained in our cooters

Why am I such a piece of shit when it comes to studying? I just wanna esacape this cycle.

>>18343847
post pics of cooter

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How do I get a gf like this who doesn't pee during sex?

>>18343832
Pee comes in many forms.

>>18343850
>ask the opposite gender anything

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>>18343853
Mine's an outie

>>18343857
Well idk how to tell the boyfriend that he likes to drink one type of pee but not the other lol

>>18343826
I'd think we are having problems in the relationship or you are hiding something. Why did you do that anon?

>>18343856
why would she pee during sex wtf

>>18343841
Huh, the more you know.

For me having dry orgasms is honestly better. When I have a regular orgasm I can "lean in" during the orgasm itself, thinking of something extra arousing will give me another push even as it's going on, or stimulating myself still.
With squirting it feels more like my body goes in autopilot. Like a reaction is triggered I can't stop anymore. It is absolutely a pleasant feeling (of release and a sudden satisfaction) but more like scratching a deep itch to me than pure pleasure compared to a dry one. Although to be fair I think I might experience it differently with a lover who encouraged me to let go, as I was always squirting by myself and the thought "have to clean this all up in a moment" typically did cross my mind during.

Also did not know about edging yet when I squirted frequently so that is probably also a factor My most shallow dry orgasms are absolutely much less fun than squirting. I am comparing best experience to best experience here.

It has happened and did not impact my arousal whatsoever (taking a break to pee). It was also always due to "normal" build up, not suddenly needing to pee out of the blue. I will sometimes masturbate on a full bladder to have added tension (lying on my stomach, pressing down with my arm, it adds a sort of urgency) and never had any issue with feeling like I was going to lose control. Also, pressing down on it is the only way for this to do anything. If I have a full bladder but am lying on my back or whatever it just makes no difference at all - for me, girls masturbating with a full bladder is fairly common in general, and I've heard girls who enjoy the sensation itself, but I'm not one of them.
I have also stopped before squirting (very literally as well, being on the brink of orgasm but not wanting to deal with the squirting hassle last minute) and if so I did not have to pee ("instead" of squirting or something).

>>18343871
He fell for the "females can't squirt" meme.

I know girls are tired of this but If you liked me and wanted to date me, would this be perfectly acceptable and not be a reason to cheat on me? Also without me saying anything how big do you think it is?
To spare the guys here ill post a link (NSFW)

http://imgur.com/a/YeqRW

Im good with almost everything in life (looks,money,kindness) but I hate it how I cant do it for girls as good as other guys, it always gets to me.

>>18343874
Why are women so complicated in every aspect of everything? In mathematics, physics, engineering, anything that matters, you're supposed to be able to do it simple.

wtf is god/nature thinking

>>18343865
The former. I'm only doing it so that I won't get hurt more than I'm hurting now.

It goes both ways, I know but I can't feel the care from the other person so I think it is one-sided.

>>18343890
How bad is? Sounds like you two either need some time or should break up.

>>18343885
There is always a beta test before the real deal is released.

>>18343874
it amuses me, that with so much time effort and attention devoted to sex, we know so little about it.

Anyways, many thanks for your account. Could you tell me your age and the age you had your first orgasm?

>>18343896
>>18343888
Meant for you.

>>18343782
>Sorry man, I'd like to help out but I can't say I recognize the description of thick white fluid being expelled
???
You can squirt, but you've never produced that pussy yogurt? I'm a man and I've seen the yogurt many times, but never the squirt.

>>18343859
Well that's what it says man

>>18343895
I think I'm the problem and I'm willing to take blame for every problem that ever happened. I think I should just slowly go away. I'm angry, I'm sad and I'm confused.

>>18343901
There's a difference between vaginal lubrication that's thick and creamy vs what the article calls true ejaculation.

>>18343888
>wtf is god/nature thinking
Honestly I have thought this to myself a lot but more in regards to how little some women get out of penetration. Makes no fucking sense.

Anyway, this is nothing. English is not my first language so sadly I cannot link the article I'm thinking of but there is also lots of controversy surrounding what types of orgasm women can or cannot have. Eg vaginal orgasms are often thought to be just another kind of clitoral orgasms (with the clit extending inside the body - this is definitely true - and being stimulated from the penetration) but that does not explain why women who are paralyzed from the waist down can have no clitoral orgasms but can have vaginal orgasms (yes that's a thing).
Also g-spot orgasms are highly controversial and then there's the question whether or not there's such a thing as cervical orgasms - many voices say there is but it's virtually impossible to test because how in the world would one design a toy that stimulates the cervix exclusively?

All this, and then women can have mental orgasms (hands free, just thinking your way there) much more easily than men as well: http://www.medicaldaily.com/pulse/thinking-yourself-orgasm-how-create-erogenous-zones-your-body-only-power-your-mind-347172 (proof with brain scan that it's the real thing)

Plus http://stylecaster.com/orgasm-just-from-thinking/

Oh yeah, and some women at least claim to be able to have an orgasm from nipple stimulation. So there's that as well.

>>18343901
tell me more

>>18343904
Why shut her out when you could try talking to her and working through this problem together?

>>18343901
Basically what the post replying to you said. At least I am not sure - I mean I've seen thick white stuff but it was usually semen or discharge/"lube" to my knowledge. Let me just say I never felt anything being expelled in combination with a thick white fluid oozing.

>>18343899
Oops, sorry.

Anyone want to squirt on my face?

>>18343909
Wow you sound like her.
I don't think she's being sincere OR I'm having my trust issues again. This has happened before but nothing changed. Or at least I just accepted how it is since the first time we had this problem, I can tell that she took it as bad as me.

The pain of going away will be less than the pain that I might suffer going through this. I think...

Very selfish, I know.

>>18343856
Would would actually go down on/10

>>18343897
Absolutely, see >>18343907

I honestly think most people never really discover their full potential. I have never had the patience and constraint to go all the way to an orgasm mentally but I know from "edging edging" (working your way up to physical edging) that I can absolutely physically stimulate myself just by thinking. Also if you are familiar with the "Jackpot" audio track from I think Isabella Valentine, it was a hit some years ago and gave many guys orgasms simply by listening to it. (Hypnosis.)

No problem. Right now I just turned twenty four. I was seventeen when I started masturbating, eighteen when I had my first orgasm.

>>18343923
Dude teach me your ways

>>18343923
totally going to check out that track

And since we're starting talking cervix and you seem very knowledgeable:

a girl I know claimed she gets penetrated *inside* the cervix by her man.
To prove that she explained, she
1)simply feels it
2)couldn't contain his dick while she was pregnant and "the opening of cervix was closed"

It's completely against my knowledge, but then again she... well, she should probably know

What do you think of it?

>>18343928
I'll do my best. Obviously you want to be really in the mood to masturbate before trying this, preferably having abstained for some time compared to what you're used to.

Then once you're pent up and in the mood, make yourself comfortable within privacy. When you are masturbating (especially during edging) it's all about the interplay between satisfaction and deprivation. It is exactly the same thing but mentally.
Start with things (images, words, memories) that you find sexy, but are very mild. For example, really vividly picture the line down a girl's spine, the dimples above her ass. Or the way a woman walks with her hips swaying. You want to wet your own appetite.
When you do this, you relish in the thought for a moment, then go away from it. Don't think of anything else, just actively go "don't think of it don't think of it don't think of it" then let go and jump back into it.

Essentially you keep repeating that but you increase the intensity of the imagery, bit by bit. Go slower than you'd ideally like. The more intense it gets the faster you dart between allowing yourself to relish in the thoughts and putting yourself on hold. When you are really getting desperate, every time you delve into the arousing thought you clench the muscles in your crotch region. Think of it like an ebb and flow where in synch with releasing and retrieving the fantasy, every time you picture it again your energy goes to your groin and your muscles tighten.

If you do this right it will absolutely work. Apparently it is easier for women (? maybe because they are more used to using the mental aspect actively to have an orgasm to begin with, I don't know) but for me once you get the hang of it it's very intuitive. Once you get all the signs of arousal your body responds to those in turn. Like how you can delay an orgasm by breathing very slowly and deeply, or heighten your own excitement during sex by acting aroused (making noise, quickening your breath manually).

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>>18343934
Okay this is not something I ever experienced but my first thought is - apparently (also never personally experienced this) there is a "pocket" at the end of the vagina that a penis can slip into. I've only ever heard it described as a pocket but I'm pretty sure what it refers to is a bit of space between the vaginal wall and the cervix. It apparently feels great for both the man and the woman to hit this spot (or at least it can feel great for the woman, given how many women find cervix hitting very painful I don't think this is universal but I've only ever seen it described positively) but the man and woman need to be a very specific fit for this to work out. It's not a matter of having a big enough dick or whatever but needing to have the right kind of angle, not too much girth etc to go there.

It sounds to me like what she experiences as inside her cervix is in this pocket, and the womb swelling made it impossible to still enter there.
So yeah based on what I know that would be the only explanation I can see.

Yeah check it out, she has stuff you have to buy but this one used to be free at least. Just do yourself a favor and don't look up a picture, she has a great seductive voice but isn't cute to look at.

>>18343957
jesus christ bitches are crazy for taking dick

god bless you

>>18343957
>needing to have the right kind of angle, not too much girth etc to go there.
Kind of unclear, I meant that the tilt of the penis itself and the combination of the shape of her vagina etc need to fit perfectly for this to be an option. Not that he needs a special angle for penetration, it's just about the right physical combination of parts.

>>18343856
Why don't more girls squat?

>>18343957

it makes a great load of sense, I guess you're right here.
But just to keep the scientific rigour - would it be even thinkable that some women indeed can fit something as big as a dick through their cervices?

Also, could I dream about reaching that pocket with my fingers? or could you maybe advice the right toy which could accomplish that for me?

>>18343959
Thank God I was born with a penis.

>>18343917
It's hard to help you when you're not specific about what the problem is. Is she cheating? Sounds like it.

I am mildly autistic and 24 years old. I went on a date for the first time in my life last night.
I went to her house and she made nachos and we ate them.
Afterwards we walked to a nearby ice cream parlour and had waffles and ice cream. It was the first time I've ever had waffles.
Then we just sat and talked about stuff for another hour. Overall it was about 2 and a half hours of talking. The longest conversation I've ever had in my life.
At the end of the date she gave me the leftover nachos in a tupperware container and gave me a kiss on the cheek.

I don't know if this was a good or bad experience since I have nothing to compare it to. I think it was good but because I'm mildly autistic I have no idea if it was actually good or not.
But my real question to girls is when should I return her tupperware container?

>>18343991
No, she's just less attentive of me. I guess she got tired of my bullshit, like this one right now. I think she's lying some of the time as well but definitely not cheating.

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>>18343957
>mfw the cervix looks tighter

>>18343994
Why did she make you nachos?

>>18343995
Alright, then yes it doesn't sound like you're happy and should leave.

>>18343999
cause she loves him greatly, you silly

>>18343998
I'm 7.5'' would I make it?

>>18343984
In theory I guess if a couple was really so inclined they could find a way, but "officially" it is only during childbirth/miscarriage/late stages of pregnancy or with a specific gynaecological instrument that it opens or can be opened. I also have to say I shudder at the idea and find it hard to imagine it would even be pleasurable for a woman to have a dick in there. I do know that for some women hitting the cervix can feel great, but that's literally bumping it while it's closed. And still most women find that ranging from a bothersome ache to doubling over and feeling like they need to vomit. I strongly doubt it really has great potential to be a sexual playfield.

I don't think it would be possible with your fingers. I also doubt it would feel that great, I think it is the feeling of being very filled (it is obviously a tight spot) that is pleasant more than that there's lots of nerve endings - that would not make sense as by far most couples can't reach it anyway.
Don't worry about it either, there are lots and lots of ways to stimulate your partner and ultimately how strong the sexual attraction/chemistry, the trust/relaxation and feelings of affection and love are forms the entire context in which these things are experienced to begin with. That's light years more important for assured mutual enjoyment than whether or not x or y specifically makes an appearance.

>>18344001
I'll talk to her first before so it wouldn't be the bad guy.

>>18343999
We had them for dinner.

>>18343994
Why didn't you kiss her?

>>18343994
it sounds like the date went very well actually. when did it happen? i would return the tupperware after a week so you can give her some space. i dont know how she is but some girls think its annoying when a guy contacts them too quickly after the first date. set up another date and return it then. you dont have to mention the tupperware just bring it on your next date.

why are autistic guys so cute? this is adorable.

>>18344013
>why are autistic guys so cute? this is adorable.
Because autistic guys lack a huge variety of social skills.This can sometimes be seen as cute the same way a baby not understanding social cues can be cute.

>>18343193
That's kinda hot

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>>18344013
>why are autistic guys so cute? this is adorable.
It comes at a trade-off.

>>18344006
I'm not worried at all, but knowing each and every possible way of sexually stimulating my partner (and me for that matter) sound very appealing to me. After all, this pocket thing seems to be some kind of a joker card, with unusually high gains in terms of orgasm strength. Have you ever searched for it in yourself?

Also, hell I'd give up half of my teeth to have a partner like you. It's an immense pleasure just to know you exist.

>>18344001
I* wouldn't. Autocorrect.

>>18344006
There're some reports of couples who've achieved it, and some porn videos floating around. If there's a will there's a way, especially when it comes to human sexuality. It seems the trick is that the woman has to have given birth first... and in general, the more children the female has the easier it is to achieve.

>>18344025
are you able to link to it?
Also, how would they prove it?

>>18343991
>>18343959
They're designed for it

What is it with people constantly heaping lavish praise onto women for doing things their bodies are naturally evolved to do.

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>>18344020
>tfw no autistic bf to learn about his obsessive hobbies with

>>18344013
I know what you mean, I have a friend or two who have zero experience with dating and would behave similarly. I'm also on the spectrum, charming enough to accidentally get laid once a year or so, and thinking way too much, which led to figuring that we're basically just animals following our instincts and that sexual partners can pretty much be manipulated just as easily as cats and dogs. Not exactly a perspective that leads to happiness, but I'm trying to learn to look past it and be positive, probably gonna read about fucking Buddhism or something.

So yeah, autism can be cute innocence, or a whole other can of worms.

>>18344013
I'm not OP.
But what if I've been messaging her daily, wouldn't it be weird not to message (or reply to one that she'll probably send) after the date?

>>18343856
Now, if I could just slide my dick right in there.

>>18344023
In my experience orgasm strength has more to do with the experience as a whole than with hitting any magical button. Stuff like taking a lot of time to work towards it, feeling particularly sexy and relaxed... it's a package experience with everything influencing each other, not as simple as finding the right spot or anything. Maybe a quick and crude example but if I just touch my butthole out of nowhere, I feel nothing. If I am in the midst of masturbating frantically and go there, it's another layer of pleasure and this desperate desire to get more. Ultimately you experience everything with your brain, it doesn't exist within a vacuum. I can give myself orgasms that so far no one else has managed to give me. It's hard to beat two hours of edging on a lazy day, my head filled with literally nothing but what I find hot and what pleases me, knowing exactly how and where to touch. If I last long enough I can have a mind blowing orgasm that lasts up to a minute (which is a lot longer than it sounds if you're in orgasmic bliss).
But that does not compare to the kind of bliss I feel lying in the arms of a man I love. It is a complete experience, it makes me horny as fuck but more importantly it nourishes my soul. Yes the orgasm will be much shorter and in comparison more shallow but the entire experience is incomparable. And the orgasm is the cherry on top of that, not a thing to judge in its own right.

I have never searched for it. I can't reach it with my fingers, I know that much, and I have never been a real fan of dildos. I like the messiness of masturbating with your own hands and enjoy that penetration remains exclusive to being with a man. And I guess that would be the only way for me to really go looking for it, other than it happening naturally with a partner.

That made me smile, I hope you find someone you can explore everything with. We are out there. Incognito, but still.

time for a break/to move on or salvage this?

tl;dr had a little fight with a girl im dating, haven't talked in a while until last night, she tells me that she was sorry for the late response and isn't upset with me, needed some time to reevaluate things in her life and needed some space. Also told me that she was appreciative of me being so genuine with her, etc. Tried setting up something to talk in person but haven't heard back since.

I guess its hard to figure out without actually physically talking to each other but is it likely she wants a break, stay friends, or move onto something else?

>>18344025
I believe you, I looked it up out of curiosity and found that apparently nipple stimulation can induce cervical dilution? Nature works in mysterious ways.

And yeah given that the womb never really shrinks back to its original size after carrying a child either, it seems logical to me that the cervical opening would be more relaxed with having more children. Still it is difficult for me to envision a pleasant experience from being penetrated there.

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>>18344060
She is baiting for your attention you incel cuck retard. Ignore her for like a week.

>>18344039
Have you tried /soc/?

>>18344069
>apparently nipple stimulation can induce cervical dilution
not this strange once you realise that the same hormone (oxytocine) has a lot to do with both of them

how to get my bf to establish a face routine?

my bf has horrible horrible acne as of recent and it grosses me out. i asked him about it nicely, and he said that he doesn't have a face routine/even wash his face in the shower.

how do i get him to establish a good skincare routine? he always brushes if off if i make comments about it

>>18344093
get a new bf

>>18344048
yeah, just keep your regular texting paterns, otherwise you could send the wrong message.

i only said that to the autistic anon in case they didnt have much interaction prior to the date. he could come off as clingy in those cases.

>>18344093
Most guys don't have a "skincare routine" like girls, but not even washing your face in the shower is gross.

>>18344082
I guess it makes sense in that way, yes. But I'm no biologist and oxytocine makes me think of breastfeeding and cuddling more than cervical dilation.

Endearing side fact: apparently women who choose to adopt a child can actually experience spontaneous lactation and ability to breastfeed simply from the feelings of love and anticipation while awaiting their child. Which is another hint that the nature/nurture or in this case (mental) free will vs biology isn't as rigid as it seems.

>>18344077
wrong

he needs to give her attention and show he cares

>>18344081
Lol I would never trust someone on 4chan. Everyone on /soc/ seems desperate for sex too

>>18344131
Well 4chan has probably the highest concentration of "normal" autistic guys.

>>18344093
How did you two start dating?

>>18344093
If it's too bad your bf will need medication.

Also, try to let him know that the acne is currently being a deal breaker for you. If he doesn't change his habits he most likely doesn't care about your relationship.

>>18344039
pls be in oakland

Guys (And girls maybe), how do i cope with being bald at 19?

Been losing a lot of hair lately, will start to buzz it and finally will shave my head, i'm scared of how much impact this is going to have in my dating life, I feel way too young to be bald, luckily i don't have a baby face but still it feels weird and i feel girls will hate it

>>18344125
that's a very interesting thing about adoption, indeed.

>nature/nurture
it's simple, when you realise the broad frame of the problem:
>you have genes
>those are instructions your body have, upon which it'll grow
>a great many of them goes unused just because they prepare you for situations which never happen in the end
>those instructions interact with information that comes to the cells
>information, about anything, from strong physical blows to the exact amount of sugar gained from eating a certain meal
>basing on what's possible, specific instructions are read and followed by in the form of protein creation

in the end, the genes make you act in a certain way toward your surroundings and every single piece of information coming from the outside is followed by gene expression

nature vs nurture simply makes no sense at all, they are like two sides of a coin - there are no coins with but one side

>>18344149
well, my father goes bald since he was 30 at most. He's 50 now and has fucked more girls than one could believe. I guess you can pass it as your haircut style just as well

Girls/guys

I had a one night stand with this girl (I've known her for a year now). I thought she was really open minded when it came to sex.

Turns out she was a virgin and now she is acting really clingy. I already told her to stop seeing me but she keeps bothering me, what do I do?

>>18344154
>the genes make you act in a certain way toward your surroundings
Very true, but apparently it works the other way around as well, that experiences you go through can alter your brain chemistry etc.

Really fascinating to see a binary model that has been relevant for a long time suddenly become more nuanced in this way.

>>18344164
>the only way to get rid of your waifu is to murder her in a horrible fashion

>>18344149
As long as you shave your head and don't try to cling on to scraps you shouldn't notice any kind of significant decline in your dating life. Things may go even better because some girls like the shaved look.

>>18344165
>it works the other way around as well
yeah, that was my point exactly. I should have made it clearer.
those experiences change you simply because of the novel gene expression they stimulate

>>18344170
>>18344158

I already made the decision that i'm not clinging into shitty toupes because i think they look pathetic, I'm also not taking any drugs because they have awful sides

My problem is that i cringe at the idea of saying "I'm 19" and having a bald head, i can stand a buzzcut because I think it looks badass but my whole life i've always been perceived 2 or 3 years older than what I really am and i guess I'm afraid that number will go up to 7 years or something

I know this is kind of a dumb question because there's absolutely nothing i can do about it but it still bothers me a lot

>>18344173
Aw man, reading about this stuff really makes me wish I had the background knowledge to understand and appreciate this stuff beyond its conceptual. I really like the thought of a constant interplay between being changed by what you perceive of the world around you and having your perception of the world changed from within.

>>18344177
You know girls tend to like older guys, right? You're ahead of the game.

>>18344023
Just wanted to say I'm heading to bed, it's pretty late where I live. Have a good day, anon.

>>18344185
sleep tight;)

>>18344179
well, if you can understand the scientifical language (which basically means, if you have finished highschool without problems and try hard enough), I can just link you to the book I took most of my knowledge from

>>18344180
I'm not sure man, girls like older men, not young men who look old

How do I be more genuine/natural during sex? Also, kind of contradictory, how do I not be a dead fish during sex?

>>18344205
people like everything
Ever checked some extensive fetish lists?
be otherwise cool and you won't miss your opportunities

>>18344164
Send her to me. I want a clingy girl.

>>18344177
>tfw I'm 29 and have 3' long hair

>>18344213
alright i'll try not to lose my head over it, thanks for answering

>>18344214
Let's switch

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>>18344144
i-im not in oakland im so sorry

>>18344211
don't be a dead fish

i literally left once because of it, literally put my clothes on and went out the door

>>18344164
>gets virgin
>something 80% of guys want
>doesnt want her
Closet fag detected.

>>18344227
what was her reaction?

>>18344227
How do I not be a dead fish? Idk whether to put on a show or act natural

>>18344234
open your mouth and say something

>>18344234
just touch him. Ask him, what does he like. Do more of what he likes over of what he doesn't/doesn't care

>>18344237
What should I say?

>>18344238
How do I find a balance between doing stuff he'll like and avoiding putting on a show?

Girls-

I'm a young guy that's trying to get out to find that one special girl in particular to me. With almost everyone I can't be even remotely romantically attached unless I feel something special about them. I have zero self confidence and even less self esteem because of lost of emotional baggage I need to leave behind. Yet with every other girl, I can come across as confident and even cocky. But when I meet someone that I feel something about (which is very rare) I crawl back into that shell out of fear of fucking up. I'm terrified that I'll do something to ruin something that I only get a shot at every few years. When I meet someone like that, I don't just fall in love, I fall hard and fast and panic from it.

I've been told to try and go out with someone less than what I can fall in love with, but it's just not possible for me to feel anything for them. Everything for me is built on being able to build a lasting companionship with someone, but I feel for them it's all be too sudden and a turn off.

>>18344247
whatever's on your mind

>>18344251
Yeah idk if that's such a good idea

>>18344256
why?

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>>18344247
>What should I say?
''Ohh Tyrone''

>>18344259
What if I'm not thinking about the sex? What if I'm fantasizing about degenerate shit? Dirty talk, or talk that's supposed to turn him on, doesn't come naturally to me

>>18344262
Fuck she is good looking

>>18344262
Shieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet

>>18344262
Holy shit who is that?!

>>18344247
>balance
by practicing a lot

And after all - maybe I'm anachronic, but I believe that the first lover of any person oughts to pay for their virginity by teaching them all the basics

>>18343026
Sometimes they're worried they might be missing out on something. If you satisfy your woman in bed you won't have to worry about it.

>>18344262
Sauce?

>>18344268
not everyone is a fan of dirty talking. I, for once, hate it. And if he's good enough you won't be able to utter a comprehensible sentence anyway

>>18344262
Stonehard.

>>18344268
>if I'm fantasizing about degenerate shit
say so
>What if I'm not thinking about the sex
what else would you be thinking about

>>18344273
>first lover of any person oughts to pay for their virginity by teaching them all the basics

That'd be cool, unless the person taking the virginity was bad at sex or into very specific fetishes

How do I practice achieving the balance?

>>18344248
sounds like you need to handle your emotional baggage before trying and you will feel better about yourself. its hard to connect with others when you're insecure

>>18344269
>>18344271
>>18344272
>>18344276
>>18344280

why is that, that posting basically any female in this place gathers so much attention?

>>18344262
It's fucking depressing that something this beautiful would do porn....

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>>18344262

>>18344279
>And if he's good enough you won't be able to utter a comprehensible sentence anyway
But doesn't that defeat the purpose of the advice for me to say something?

>>18344282
>what else would you be thinking about
If I look hot to him, if I'm acting correctly, if he's having a good time, if I could make it better

>say so
He doesn't like bestiality

>>18344234
Make this >>18344262 face

>>18344284
<facepalms> by fucking. By fucking a lot.
also, that's what the pillow talk is for. Just straightforward ask him what was good/bad/how to improve

And keep in mind people are very different and what works for one, may turn of another

What's the chances she's just hanging out to be nice?

>>18344288
That chick is good looking man. Too good looking for porn imo.

>>18344288
>basically any female

The girl has to be insanely attractive, like the one above

>>18344295
Say this

>Do I look hot to you?
>Are you having a good time?
>Can I make this better for you?
That's 10x better than dead fish mode already.

>>18344299
Possible but unlikely. Depends on the temperament of the girl and it's too hard to tell without knowing what she's like.

>>18344298
I've already fucked a lot. He has no suggestions for improvements, apart from mentioning that he would rather me act genuine than try to put on a show just because he'll think it's hot. But idk how to tell him that if I don't put on a show I'm just going to lie there motionlessly and noiselessly, even when I cum

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>>18344306
>Are you having a good time?

>>18344310
Trust me I've fucked dead fishes before and any sign of life is a step in the right direction.

>>18344234
Wake up your inner whore. All girls have filthy whores inside of them.

>>18344262
Name pls. That looks somewhat like my 10/10 prostitute. I still think mine is better, though.

>>18344301
>>18344305
but. she's. fugly.
just like the one from the previous thread.

I hang out at /b/ a lot of the time. I visit /s/ from time to time. And finally I google for porn for no less than an hour a day. Maybe I have a strange taste or something, but I have really seen litterally thousands of better looking girls

>>18344318
I like being submissive because I don't have to come up with ideas of what to do and it's easier figuring out how I should probably act. Idk how to wake up my inner whore though

>>18344319
>just like the one from the previous thread
That chick in the other thread was floating around goddess-tier territory.

>>18344230
Nigga, the issue is not that she was a virgin. Is the fact that she is really clingy to the point that she already established herself as if we were in a long term relationship.

She does some things that I do appreciate like making me lunch for work or doing my homework.

But on the other hand she is really suffocating and I can only stand her for a couple of hours per day at most.

>>18344288
>t. Jelly femanon.
>>18344319
Or you just have shit taste.

>>18344324
Don't you watch porn?

>>18344329
>Don't you watch porn?
Normal porn annoys me. I like gay porn and bestiality. I quit watching altogether because of the second one

>>18344325
well, maybe a goddes of Meh

>>18344324
Sex is a time for people to connect and share an experience. To that end, you need to express yourself. Show your submission to your bf in any way you can think of

>>18344335
Any suggestions for how to do that? I'm not very creative in the bedroom

>>18344285
Sounds good in theory, but I'm dealing with fifteen years of severe abandonment issues which might also explain why I latch onto someone that I think might actually not leave. My last (first functioning) relationship was emotionally abusive and defied logic in a lot of ways. Not to mention the laundry list of mental issues including assburgers, ADHD, and depressive bipolar disorder. I can function normally around people that don't know me, but I'm scared at the same time to let someone close. It's basically a clusterfuck of problems that I either can't or don't know how to solve on my own. I just want someone who can love me for who I am, but it's hard even imagine when I hate everything thing I am.

>>18344333
You're fucking meh

>>18344339
Are you that blonde girl with green eyes?

>>18344339
the most basic idea is to start expressing yourself via words. that was my first suggestion and it is a very simple thing to start. that's a good starting point for many people. another option is with body language. you could - for example - pose submissively, kiss his body / chest, lick his penis, rub your hands on his body, thrust into him, present yourself to him, anything you can think of

>>18344319
>I hang out at /b/ a lot of the time

>>18344328
But she was a virgin. Men would die to be in your position.

Dumbass. Don't sleep with a virgin if you don't want the clingyness. It comes with all of them. Stop thinking with your dick. You ruined her chances at being a good wife someday and now you want to kick her to the curb because you want space. Christ you're fucked.

>>18344354
Those sound like good ideas. If I practice those behaviors enough, will they come naturally to me? Or will I always have to fake it to some degree?

>>18343375

Sorry for responding so late. I do car detailing out of my garage, have been for 8 years. I'm a registered LLC as a sole proprietor.

>>18344364
I take you not replying to me as a yes.

>>18344364
my first suggestion was to say anything that comes to your head. that's the basic idea - your expressions of submission should feel natural. when you feel particularly submissive, do a particularly submissive thing to express it. (if you feel particularly frisky or excited, do a different thing to express that - maybe act like a cat and wrestle him onto the bed). eventually the expressions will become second nature to you and you will learn to love and appreciate the communication you have with your partner.

>>18344262
nigga who dis

>>18344369
Man I just want advice

>>18344374
How can such a qt as yourself be into animal porn. It blows my mind.

>>18344339
Just watch some porn and imitate how the women act.

>>18344365
Sounds like you have a good gig going on there.

Sorry about your wife. I don't think it's wrong for you to be close with your wife's family, and it's very natural for you to mourn her. I hope you find a girl that feels the same way.

>>18344342
Wow I'm dealing with the same thing except the ADHD and bipolar disorder. It's fucking hard. Doing some research I found that I'm dealing with Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome after an abusive relationship and I really cannot deal with it on my own. I'm trying to start therapy and gather up the courage to open up. I know you just want that genuine love, because I want it too, but it just does not seem logical for us right now. I'm too unstable, full of regret, and paranoid about a relationship going wrong or being cheated on. Therapy is really our only option to getting better. Have you tried that?

>>18344371
I'm just not sure how to get comfortable expressing things. I'd rather not say what I'm fantasizing about when I'm getting fucked because that would hurt his feelings that I wasn't thinking about the sex in the moment. Idk how to stay in the moment and just accept that it's okay for it to feel good. I'm all concerned with making sure he's having a good time, but then his biggest turn on is that I'm having a genuinely good time, so I'm at a loss

>>18344377
Short answer is I'm a degenerate autist

>>18344262
On one side muh dick.

On the other, why the fuck is an angel like that doing porn?

>>18344379
The women so much noise and very obviously fake their orgasms. The boyfriend already knows I'm not like that, so I can't just suddenly change. He'll know something's up

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Hi girls. One of my dormmates is really confusing me.

She normally jokes a lot, but never about our own relationship. I still can't help *assuming* she's joking because it'd be kind of crazy if she's really telling the truth...maybe it's just my trust and body image and various other issues.

She does seem to be kind of bicurious judging from her having a crush on some girls. And also tells me she loves me a lot. Left a little heart on my door "I love you, anon, why won't you love me back?" I assumed it was a joke.

So today this conversation happened...
>ANON, I can't believe you've done this to me...
>wut?
>I've fallen for you. Why do you have to be into guys...
>hah, good thing you're kidding...no way you're into me...well, anyway, why haven't you lesbian'd it up with someone else (yeah I'm dumb deal with it)
>well, one of my friends fell for me. She was cute enough but she was too clingy and had a ton of baggage (etc.)
>(cue me being surprised that she actually answered honestly)

I'm *assuming* she's kidding. But I still would like some input on this just in case. She isn't into me, right?

>>18344350
Jesus Christ I think I know who you're talking about......

Oh my God

>>18344387
You're definitly autistic, we established that in the other thread. I just can't wrap my head around the fact that such a qt is into that shit. It doesn't make sense.

>>18344387
start slowly. I suggested saying whatever comes to your mind, including "Do I look hot to you?" and "Are you having a good time?" That is 10x better than dead fish mode already. Think about it. You're turned on if he's having a good from you and he's turned if you're having a good time, so when he moans out "yes" to answer you, you'll both know you're making the other one happy and you'll both love it. Small steps can slowly become greater expressions of submission and love. If you practice, within the month I guarantee your sex will be fucking amazing.

>>18344344
that's some new level of whiteknighting

>>18344374
Hold up. Is that really you? >>18344350

The one who wanted advice on being sexy?

>>18344384
I've tried it for other things, but it just doesn't do it for me. Most therapists are just not genuine enough or are straight idiots. The only time I felt like a normal human though was when I with my ex. Turned out in the end that she was in love with her ex the entire time we were together and eventually got back together with him. I did everything I could for her and saved her life multiple times. But hey, she was sorry, that makes it okay right?

>>18344395
Too autistic for friends, animals were my only companions long enough to make the social awkwardness worse, mom got me scared and shameful of sex, animals were non-judgmental creatures

>>18344392
redpill me anon, what's so omg about it?

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>>18344407
Don't look at the thread pls

>>18344389
Water it down then. You don't have to copy them exactly but learning to moan or move a bit can hardly hurt.

I pity your poor boyfriend. Does he have to hold your hand and give you such exact instructions every time you have a problem?

>>18344350
>>18344392
The autistic girl who trolled the thread? I remember that.
She looked cute, but not sexy. :^)

>>18344407
Not him, but this qt wanted advice on going from qt to sexy some time ago. Turns out that she is a degenerate. It's fucking unbelievable if true.

>>18344414
>Turns out that she is a degenerate
the one ITT already claimed to be a degenerate. I don't understand what's so wrong with it

>>18344410
can't find it
PROVIDE ME WITH LINK NAO

>>18344414
Pls don't be her. I actually remember.

This thread really opened up my eyes on women. Pee, dogs fucking women, female hygine, etc. No one tells you this shit in school.

>>18344431
hygiene*

>>18344436
hyena*

>>18344414
Kekek, I posted that pic on /fit/ and it recieved like 12 replies, all saying qt.

>>18344406
Are you really that chick with blonde hair and green eyes? Pls respond

>>18344441
In my defense I've only fucked people

>>18344445
>>18344441
>>18344440
I demand answers
what are you guys talking about?

thread completely derailed
well done retards

>>18344448
Nothing. Move along.

>>18344445
How can you be so qt, so autistic, have a faggot bf AND be into that shit.

I doesn't add up. You're breaking some laws of the universe here.

>>18344456
Fucking this!

>>18344456
It could be worse. Some lucky animal could be her hubby and fucking her.

>>18344414
Shit, I remember.....

Ok, enough /adv/ for a couple of days.

>>18344456
Yeah, how the fuck is that possible?

>>18344462
You and me both

>>18344405
Shit dude are you me? My ex did the same thing. I was pretty much an emotional tampon to boost her ego for three years, and I meant nothing to her.

>Chad rejects her
>we start dating
>im a rebound and had no idea
>breaks up with me because im "too jealous"
>she goes back to him
>he rejects her again
>asks me out again
>I take her back
>realize months later what she's really up to
>dump her

I felt normal with her too, but now I'm too fucked and paranoid and I cannot trust people. I think I'll just stay alone. It's for the best. I don't even have a fucking sex drive anymore. I'm not sure if that's my depression causing it. I fucking hate this, I just wish people would be honest upfront before getting serious with people.

I'm debating to go to therapy because I've heard stories like yours but I don't know what else to do. I feel permanently fucked.

> some girl fucks dogs
>/adv/ goes apeshit

really?

>>18344414
You're trying to tell me that she is into beastiality? Hell fucking naw. I don't believe that for a second.

>>18344470
>some girl fucks dogs
How the fuck is this normal in any shape or form. What the fuck people.

>>18344479
it's not normal as in typical
but nobody gets hurt, so I can't see anything really wrong with it

>>18344482
Yeah the dog loves it and consented, it's not like shes raping dogs or anything

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>>18342905
This may seem a little crude, but a sex question from a guy.

I know people always say the size doesn't matter, it's how you use it and I fully understand that, but to /some/ extent, size does matter, but it's not everything.
I'm about 6" long and 5.5" around, is that any good/how would someone react?
I've only been with 1 person and that ship sailed and I pretty much remember nothing from that.
And for being about 5'9", would a woman be expecting more or less in terms of that above? Because I know for taller guys, they generally expect more, but me, not being tall, have no idea.

Tbh, I'm mostly posting out of curiosity. I know there's much more but that's for a different time, these are just things I've wondered about.

>>18344484
Male animals can consent with their dicks.
I don't agree with the other guy, though. I fap to it, but I'd never date a girl who does it.

>>18344484
dunno, the few bestiality videos I've glanced at depicted dogs very eager to fuck the girls, not forced in any way to do so

if she's miraculously managing to actually rape the dog that's another story of course

>>18344495
never said I would date her. (though I wouldn't stop considering her a possible partner because of bestiality alone)

>>18344490
some wont mind and some will

i think its a good size. i have a small vag so anything too big would hurt me.

>>18344503
btw is the vag size directly linked to the body size, or is there more variance included?

>>18344506
i dont know, maybe? im really skinny and short so theres that

Girls
what do you think of plucked brows on guys?
good, bad, dont care?

>>18345235
Sounds stupid tbqh, maybe I'd need to see it?

Also there is another thread open btw.

Is it OK to ask a girl to help me choose clothes?

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should i ask this girl why she keeps flaking on me before i cut contact