Why do people say sex is overrated especially in response to

Sex isn't overrated. It's good as literal fuck. It's the best rush you can have with your own body.

Sex is overthought by virgins. People think too hard about it, and end up forgetting to enjoy themselves fully. Those are the ones who say sex is overrated.

>>18340911
I see you posted a Squidbillies gif. I will assume you know something about Squidbillies and remind you that success is a journey, not a destination. Tape three, dammit!

Sex is a big deal if you see it as an end. Same with love, romance, dating. You'll get there and not know what to do next.

>>18340911
Sex is really good if it's done with someone you genuinely feel a bond with and are very sexually attracted to them. It's even better if you have the same fetishes. The sex that's over rated is casual vanilla sex, it feels very mechanical.

>>18340911
Because it's a normal reaction you get after doing something society puts on such a high place, you assume it's gonna be the best thing you can imagine and your expectations are too high. Also because it's an easy way to try to make someone who didn't do it feel better about themselves.
>oh shit i didnt get to see that movie and its not in theatres anymore!
>oh well dont worry about it bro its not thaaaaat great

>>18340911
Good sex totally isn't underrated. At all lol.
But when people say that shit to virgins, I feel it means something different. When you are a virgin, you feel unmanly, unwanted, unvalidated, like a failure, etc... And honestly it's natural to feel that way, especially in our society that puts such value on bagging bitches. But in reality, having sex isn't going to fix those feelings. It might relieve some of that anxiety, but it aint all cool shit and smooth sailing after you lose your virginity. So idk I think the point is that anyone who has had sex knows it's dope, but being a virgin isn't really that big a deal. Getting laid doesn't really make you any better at the end of the day, it's just a slight confidence-boost and pleasure.

>>18341006
>It's the best rush you can have with your own body
I can tell you haven't fucked with drugs too much because that's total bullshit. Honestly the most rewarding part of sex is mental/emotional for me, yeah pussy feels dope and orgasms are awesome but honestly if you think about it in terms of pure pleasure there are many things that surpass it.

Different options but I'd wager that most commonly it's either of those: they have only had mediocre/bad sex themselves, and/or do not personally like sex that much (there's people who don't care for music or food, obviously there's people who don't care for sex) and don't realize what a grand thing it can be to the right person under the right circumstances.

Or, I think most commonly, they do not mean to say "sex isn't great". They mean "sex isn't as big a deal [in terms of your masculinity, your self worth etc] as it seems culturally". Eg many men on here see their virginity as proof that they are undesirable to women - but they barely interact with women, let alone ask them out, and fail to see that they cannot deduce how women feel about them from not having had sexual relations because they have had few social relations in general.
There's also the idea that people who have sex generally have a grand life. Yeah a one night stand can be thrilling, satisfying, a huge ego boost. But the next morning you still wake up as yourself and if you got nothing going on in life, you don't suddenly roll from one adventure into another because you're sexually active.

>>18342120
I took it that "with your own body" means -without- substances... I mean, technically sex isn't exactly limited to just your body.

Having said that I did ecstacy and coke several times (no desire to try meth or heroin for obvious reasons but still) and it couldn't hold a candle to good sex, for me at least. It mostly really made me want to have good sex.

>>18342146
Oh I misunderstood I guess.
Yo heroin is really fucking blissful. Better than sex. If you've ever gotten high on oxycodone, it feel pretty much exactly the same. Snort that shit be on cloud 9 mentally and physically.

>>18342158
>Yo heroin is really fucking blissful.
That's what I hear, and what scares me away from it! I was willing to try coke because I had a gut feeling that it wasn't really the drug for me, but heroin, opium, oxy... too scared I'll like it way too much. Particularly some stories of people who have been clean for a decade and still occasionally get a pull towards experiencing it again - better to be safe than sorry for me. But props if you managed to dabble and not get lost in that.

>>18340911
Because people over-value sex that havent had it much. Its what they talk about, its what they think about, its what they plan their night around. This is common practise amongst people that are sexually frustrated ( new to sex, havent had it in awhile).

For those of us in relationships sex is almost taken for granted. We barely have to work for it anymore. It becomes part of a routine like masturbating. Therefore it is over-rated. This is also why couples have to 'spice things up'. When things become routine, they become mundane. Even good sex can be boring like masturbation.

>>18342162
Yeah, started with percs then just some fine dope, did it about 14-16 times over last summer and early fall, was going a little too ham with it during the summer so I chilled on it, then hard times in the fall I went back a little, but my girl was worried so I stopped and prolly won't touch it again any time soon.
If you like coke, you'll probably love crack. It's just like coke but it actually feels dope. Coke is overrated and expensive imo. Smoke a rock and you are full of so much energy you are totally calm, everything feels dope asf. The rush is way rawer. And it's not like people say in terms of addiction. It's literally just cocaine that's chemically altered to be smokeable.

People talk about sex like it's the most pleasurable thing ever but I literally feel nothing from sex

When I was a virgin I would fantasise about sex and yearn for it. When I finally got to have it I felt nothing. It's been 4 years now and I still haven't enjoyed sex, and I've lost hope in ever enjoying it, and all of my sexual discoveries I've made by myself masturbating, not with another person (I'm female btw)

I'm sure people who have full body blissful orgasms sex is not overrated, but for people like me it is

>>18342180
my gf was the same way towards sex. she had been with only two guys prior to me and stated that it wasn't very fulfilling. then we start fucking and her libido shoots up.

you need to be able to communicate to guys what you enjoy and how you like to be touched. some girls are still stuck at the self-exploring stage where they don't even know what feels good for them. women in their late teens/early twenties that have never masturbated to completion. you have learned what you like and how you like it. find a guy that's willing to take your instruction and also explore avenues that you wouldn't be able to yourself.

my gf had never been able to get off through penetrative sex before me. she just figured she was one of those girls that wasn't able to. finding the right partner that you're attracted to and emotionally invested into goes without saying.

Have sex as you will, obtain as you will. The choice isn't anything but neutral.

>>18342191
Yeah when a guy does it it never feels as good as when I do it to myself, and anyway my orgasms are really weak even when I do the things that work for me, so I don't even get that much pleasure out of it

Believe me I've explored almost every avenue you can with partner sex, never enjoyed any of it

And my vagina is numb, I don't feel anything from penetration at all, even if you hit my so called 'g spot'

I'm sooooo jealous of women who have good orgasms, I'm stuck with my shitty weak ones

>>18340911
The problem is exactly that, overvaluing it. Most people who never had it past the age of 15 have a very warped perception of it, fueled by TV, movies and porn. Sex isn't meant to be a rite of passage, isn't always great or a cure for depression, isn't something that should be a taboo or feel like a roadblock. It's a reproduction mechanism that can feel rewarding under different conditions for different people so they feel encouraged to do it more.

Explaining that to people who place it on a pedestal because they think it's the one thing in between them and happiness is difficult because the people explaining may not be prepared to teach and more often than not the listener doesn't want to learn.

>>18342191
>my gf had never been able to get off through penetrative sex before me
I feel like most females need oral sex to fully get off. My last girl was this way, she really enjoyed vaginal sex for the pleasure and the mental/emotional aspect, but having an orgasm was completely dependent on me going down on her.

>>18342269
>she really enjoyed vaginal sex for the pleasure and the mental/emotional aspect,

What if you get no pleasure at all from vaginal sex?

>>18342275
Then you are in a really shitty boat, try to make sex more about affirmation of your desirability and about intimacy. For me at least, a huge part of sexual attraction is mental/emotional. It's about being wanted, about the fact that you can feel them enjoying your body, about the fact that it's just you two and you wouldn't want to be anywhere else. Idk maybe that can be unhealthy when taken to the max, but just keep that in mind, sex is a game of attraction, desire and vulnerability. Bask in that rather than focusing on the physical shortcomings of what sex is for you.
Does oral sex get you off? I know you said you have mild orgasms at best (iktf, I feel male orgasms are kinda mild too, at least for me, only lasting a second and not really living up to the buildup), but have people gotten you there with their mouth and hands? If so, have a man start you up orally and/or with his fingers, then fuck to get him off, then have him go down until you are satisfied. You will begin to tie having good sex to getting some satisfaction before and after, this will make sex more attractive to you.