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>>18340776
So why do woman.....oh fuck it.

>>18340786
we would like to "fuck it" but we're too shy...

>texting girl from dating site
>mention sex casually (not in a perverted way at all)
>she says "you must really like sex hahaha"
>I reply with an angel smiley and asking "and you don't?"
>she says "I've never had sex"
>MFW
I hope she is serious, because otherwise it would be some hardcore trolling.

Guys,

How long did it take for you to tell your SO you love them?

I'm talking to this guy, we get on the topic of what we are into sexually initiated by him. He tells me he thinks I'm into getting slapped, thrown, choked, getting talked down to, etc. I ask him why he thinks that and he tells me because of my weight. This is after he's aware that I've recently lost 30 pounds, acknowledged that I'm probably insecure, said I had a pretty face, and that I have a very similar body to his last ex gf and after I asked if it was a bad thing he said "not really". So I feel like this guy thinks I'm a fat piece of shit but I just don't get why what I would be into would be affected by my weight, someone enlighten me.

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My girlfriend regularly and playfully instigates me into forcing her down to the floor or bed just to give her a kiss on the cheek as she's pinned down laughing and always says how strong I am to be able to be able to do that. Does this mean she wants me to play rape her?

>>18340814
fatter and more unattractive porn actresses have to resort to more violent/kinky means to acquire viewers. Blonde skinny bitches with 11/10 faces and bodies can get away with vanilla/softcore porn and people still cream themselves.

>>18340802

Aww a virgin.
Time to deflower her, anon.
You know what to do

>>18340814
He may be using the knowledge of the weight loss to try to, for a lack of a better phrase, break you down. Make you feel less than you are, so you'll be "easier". If that makes sense.

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>>18340831
Thanks I figured it was probably something like that
>>18340856
This type of shit always happens to me
Last week I talked to a guy for about an hour about his grandpa's Alzheimer's until he tried to hook up with me. I guess I'm an easy target lol

>>18340806
>SO

We're abbreviating significant other now?
I didn't get the memo.
Or are the newer generations becoming more and more lazy?
Or is 4fuckingchan becoming dumber. Not knowing how to spell. Too lazy to grab a lexicon. Lord knows this place could use a strongly substantial lesson in grammar.

>>18340831
Not just porn actresses. Chubby chicks tend to make up for what they might lack in attractiveness by cranking up the sex appeal and, at least the ones I've met, tend to be more sexually wild.

>>18340888

I hear you, man, but this makes you sound really old lol. Plz stop n get with the times. Kek

What's the best way to break up with my girlfriend who has problems with self-harming and depression?

Girls or Guys doesn't matter~
Talked with a girl for roughly 2 months and really hit it off. I'm 20 and she's 25 if that makes any difference, I don't know. I could tell that she was kind of into me since we talk everyday and hang out multiple times a week for movies, dinner, etc. Two weeks ago I found out that her boyfriend (that I didn't know existed till then) was cheating on her and she came out of it really messed up. I had no idea how to console her other than talking to her more and trying to hang out a lot, which she never rejected. Kind of in the heat of the moment and emotions, I confessed that I liked her a couple days ago and she said she was happy that I felt that way.There was a silence for a while after that and I said I would wait. She said she understood what I meant by that and I didn't think I needed to clarify to her that what I meant was that I would wait for her feelings to settle down before I try for a serious relationship with her.
But, the thing is, I don't know when she will recover or if I am really anything meaningful to her. I have seen no difference in her behavior towards me, through text or in person after the fact. She's the first girl in a long time (3 years of not so great relationships) that I've felt so happy with and felt so accepted by. Is it selfish of me to pursue her further or should I just wait for her to come to agreement with her past?
>so I got the advice from a thread yesterday that I should wait for her to settle, but was it even right of me to confess to her? I know I can't take it back and I know I won't get an answer for it soon, it just bothers me a lot at the moment.

I don't know what to feel.
What should I do?
Is it also plausible that she is simply hanging out with me to not think about her ex or to fill a void?
Is that even good for my prospects of dating her? Will it lead to an unhealthy relationship for us?
Could I just be insecure?

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>>18340888
Nigger people have been abbreviating significant other to SO for at least a decade now. Stop pretending slang and abbreviations are a new thing.

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>>18340806
>telling your SO you love them

>>18340806
15d17h46m31s. If you have spent more than 100h with him and he hasn't said it within 30 days of the 100th hour, he will not love you. Ever. Dump him at your discretion.

Seriously why do you think there must be a time by which anyone is supposed to say that?????

@ guys and girls

This is really random but I would like to know if somebody else does this...

Do any of you when you got to sleep, make up scenarios/fantasies in your head about falling in love with someone? Or someone falling in love with you?

And everything is really perfect, and you are fantasising about this kind of like watching a movie or something?

Im interested is guys do lame stuff like this too... Or if they just think about sex before they fall asleep lol

>>18341060
yeah i do that lol

>>18341074
can you tell me what sort of stuff you think about?

Have a friend who i used to date a few months ago. Lost interest romantically, but i enjoy conversing with this person as friend. Thing is this person is inviting me to go out to eat and they stated they have no interest either. Should i just go? It seems like they have some kind of interest by telling me that the silly things that i say are cute, and a turn on, but this person says that because they say those things, does not mean they are interested.

>>18341092
He's kind of an idiot.

>>18341092
>turn on
>does not mean they are interested
Fuck that shit, that makes 0 sense

>>18341078
I mostly think about romantic relationships with girls other than my gf

>>18340826
Maybe? I'd definitely take it as a sign that you should slowly increase how physically dominant you are during sex. Start with what you're doing now, hold her down/force her into positions and eventually work your way up to throwing her around and being really rough. At that point if she seems like she still wants more, make absolutely certain you ask if she has a rape fantasy. Don't fuck around with that shit unless you 100% trust her not to ruin your life, and even then be super cautious. Ramping up the foreplay to include sexting during the day will really help you out on the off chance that she changes her mind about how she feels later.

Good luck.

>>18341096
>>18341099
yep. when i said that it would be awkward because this person may still have interest, i got called pretentious. Maybe i should stop talking to this person altogether.

I had a revelation and I wanna know what you guys think:
Being a female slut is akin to being a male serial rapist in a place without laws or morals

Basically the same thing, practically speaking.

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>>18340888
What's dumb is spending time typing long-winded shit down for the sake of technical perfection when there are relatively well-known shorter alternatives. You're really strange for thinking that wanting to type like some office wagecuck 24/7 is automatically smarter.

>>18341135
That's stupid. And female slut is redundant because only females can be sluts.

>>18341135

I don't get it? Are you saying men cannot consent? Like the 2nd wave feminist "all sex is rape" but for men this time?

>>18341145
It's as easy for a woman to be a slut as it is for a man to rape a woman.

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>>18341151
>It's as easy for a woman to be a slut as it is for a man to rape a woman.
Even if we work with this line of logic, a slutty woman consents while rape tends to be the opposite. The relative ease of both tasks is irrelevant.

>>18341151
Also it goes deeper than this, you're basically fully giving in to your desires with either. They're both the purest way for the respective gender to completely submit to their sexuality. 90% of men are stronger than 100% of women and most women can get miles of dick in just a week.

>>18341158
OP said "without laws or morals." Consent doesn't matter with their original statement.

That said, the original statement is still retarded because "so what?"

>>18340949
Fuck her hard

>>18341060
I used to think about stuff like that, but I don't anymore.

>>18341060
I think of sex all rhe time. Even in my dreams

>>18341078
Think how i kiss her body, her lips, her pussy

>>18341060
I don't but my dreams tend to go that place a lot more than my daydreams. Have had girls say very loveydovey atuff to me in a lot of my dreams, I think my cynicism keeps me from drifting into fantasies like that while awake.but while sleeping all of my bullshit filters go off and I guess I express what I really want.

>>18341164
>so what?
Good point I just thought it was an interesting way to think of it, wasn't making any statements.

>>18341135
>>18341151
Are you trying to say it's "easy" for men to rape women physically or morally? Cause either way it's not true.

And what's even your point? If you hate men and think they're all rapists monsters you can just go ahead and say it, it's hardly a new or rare viewpoint these days.

>>18341191
Obviously not morally, hence the addendum, either socially or genetically humans developed empathy and realize rape is wrong. I meant physically, where it very much is easy for most men to rape most women. Hell, the species wouldn't be around if this were untrue, our ancestors raped like crazy and most animals, including other primates, rape to reproduce.

I just realized that rape for men is the sexual and physical equivalent of what being a slut is for women. Thought that was interesting.

>>18341220
Having to catch and overpower someone (even if they are weaker than you) is obviously not as easy as sitting around and just saying yes to people who approach you. What a stupid "revelation".

>>18341242
But it is the closest equivalent, for reasons already stated.

>crush mentions old movie
>fully capable of torrenting it himself
>half assed excuses about not being able to
>torrent it myself instead
>he insists watching it together
>insists sooner than later
>4 hour commute altogether for him
>watches movie
>good movie
>he make zero moves
>no response to my flirting
>suggest future hangouts before leaving

Explain yourselves, guys

>>18341356
Either he's a virgin or..probably a virgin and he doesn't understand girls
how old is he?

>>18341380
23

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what's the best way to find guys who like being rough with you in bed? it would be awesome if he actually enjoys it, and doesn't just do it because 'girls love that shit'.
i'm female, and mostly into shy nerds

>>18341386
hm its pretty likely for the #2 option. But if you have a crush on him and feel like that could lead to something for y'all, why not take the initiative if he shows no advance? He obviously feels something for you, but just does not know what to do to get further along. Hold his hand through it and I can almost grantee he will be happy.
>inb4 unlikely situation he's actually gay and wants a girl-friend

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Girls:
At what point in the relationship, if any, should I tell somebody that I'm autistic? I think it's pretty obvious just from the way I walk and speak, but I guess not everybody figures it out. I hate the whole "I'M AN ASPIE, DID I MENTION I HAVE AUTISM, IT'S MY IDENTITY LOL" thing people do, and I know it'd be self-sabotaging, cringey, and a turn-off to just lay that shit out right off the bat, but I also think it's a nice and succinct way to explain my issues with sound and being touched, and I feel like it's dishonest of me to hide something like that.

On a related note, how do I go about the whole, "Hey, I'm really hypersensitive and the more delicate kinds of touching feel horrible to me" thing without just coming across like a freak or a pussy?

>>18340826
Not a girl, but probably. You could just ask if she likes rape play or being dominated. I like doing that exact thing: Forcing a girl down, pinning her, pressing just enough of your crotch into her to imply that you could rape her, and then giving her a little peck on the nose/cheek/forehead and letting her go.

It's good stuff and I honestly think it's wholesome and adorable. I'd just ask.

>>18341060
You want to know what's fucked-up? I imagine all the awful fights we'd have, down to the exact words.

>>18341356
Maybe he wasn't in it for the sex and genuinely wanted to watch the movie with you. Personally, it actually really bothers me when people use movies as a vehicle for sex or cuddling, at least to the exclusion of actually watching the movie. Especially when the movie's actually good and she winds up asking "Wait, who is that?" or "What just happened? I missed it."

I dunno. You could try grabbing his crotch. That always works on me when I'm being dense.

>>18341404
Dominate through submission and see what he does. I think. I dunno.

Girls
So the girl that I have a fat crush on told me she thinks I have a hot voice when I speak in Mandarin. Never heard a compliment like that before, is it a quirk of hers or kind of normal?
>She's a FOB
>I'm an ABC that can only hold very simple conversations in Mandarin

>>18341405
I legit thought the gay thing for a while lol. How much hand holding is too much though? The problem wasn't just him not making any advances but he didn't seem to respond to any of mine either (moves I've tried before on other guys before that's always worked.)

>>18341404
You can either

>fuck random dudes until you find one that dominates you in the exact way you want - not too rough and not too soft - though sheer luck
or
>you can communicate with your partner about what you like and what he likes like a normal person

if being dominated in bed without communicating your desires is the most important thing to you, the first option will work well. of course, you'll have to compromise on looks and personality because most men wont fall into the "goldilocks zone"

>>18341416
i think you probably shouldn't say the word 'autism', just tell them about the specific issues you have.

>>18341416
I wasn't expecting to get laid but I fully thought he'd at least do something after the movie but we just chatted for a few hours.

>You could try grabbing his crotch. That always works on me when I'm being dense.

Lol, I'll keep that in mind.

>>18341356
Some guys want to 'take it slow,' some guys are oblivious. This is hard for girls but taking the initiative can be very important for these people. It can truly make or break a relationship and girls who can take the initiative will have a lot more options with guys than girls who wait it out. Try saying "Anon, why dont we have some fun?" or "How about you kiss me?"

>>18341442
Like I said to the other anon I'm not looking for a quick bang (but this is has been going on for almost a year now) and I already tried making advances (that I know is not subtle bs flirting that require mind reading because it's worked before). The only thing left is to say it directly or just fully climb on him. Also I can't imagine myself saying either of those two lines since the context is so vanilla rn I'll just come off as autistic/creepy.

>>18341421
Femanon but I've had exes (non yellow fever ones) tell me I sound really cute speaking Mandarin.

>>18341060
Sometimes I'll think about how it might be nice to have someone to sleep with and hold and be held back and love them and be loved back, but then I remember love isn't real and even the illusion of love is beyond my reach.

>>18341428
Thanks for the answer
What's the best way to mention this to a date? Is there any way to communicate this without seeming like a huge slut? I have no problem telling a partner about it, but it would be nice to find out before that.

Or can I dress or act in a certain way to be more attractive the guys I want? People told me I appear to be vanilla af on the outside..

is wanting a "real relationship" or wanting "something real" code for 'im tired of being pumped and dumped'

i see it a lot on okcupid and it really got my almonds activated

>>18341421
what the fuck do these even mean? what the fuck is abc/fob shorthand for?

>>18341450
If you like him ask him out on a date, make it clear that it's a date, and make an actual move such as kissing him. Sure it'd be nice if he would do those things but as guys we are often subject to women's apparent disgust over misunderstandings in 'does she like me' situations and if he has received that sort of response one too many times he's probably totally shit scared that it'll happen again.

>>18341404
Every dude enjoys it, you just need to make him comfortable doing it and assure it is OK to choke you or something.

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How fucked am I if my date finds my porn folder with mixed cartoon girls and furry tits?

>>18341450
>it's worked before
Simply because it worked on one guy does not mean it will work on another guy. Some guys are more patient or more oblivious than others. This is the equivalent to saying "this pickup line worked on Sarah, why didnt it work on Melissa?"

>I can't imagine myself saying either of those two lines since the context is so vanilla
I understand. Like I said, this can be hard for girls but it can make or break relationships. If you are really interested in this guy you may have to leave your comfort zone to get the goods so decide if the relationship is worth it to you.

>>18341456
Chokers. Not the bondage kind but the 90s tattoo ones or velvet ones. Just screams I like it rough/kinky but not too hardcore.

>>18341460
That depends. Is your date as filthy as you are?

This weekend I went out with one of my female friends. One thing led to another and we made out. She eventualy slept at my place but we haven't had sex. My head has been in shambles ever since. I really don't know what to do next...

>>18341468
Probably formulate an actual question.

>>18341467
Haven't found a date yet, trying to plan ahead.

>>18341468
Ask if she enjoyed it and want to go further.

>>18341475
I think she is regreting it.

>>18341456
Fetlife or other fetish groups work well if it is extremely important to you. If you go with the "find a guy I like personality wise and make it work in bed" route, you're a little more flexible. Another anon said " you just need to make him comfortable doing it and assure it is OK to choke you or something" which is pretty accurate. For example, maybe you two are making out and you say "I love it when you tongue my throat" (or whatever you like). If that's too late, consider the fact that early dates are meant to find compatibility issues. At the first date, you could literally say "I like it when guys take charge" and gauge his reaction. He might say "oh no I treat ladies with respect" and tip his fedora or he might say something that makes you happy. You never know.

>>18341458
Alright this seems like the only viable thing left to do bc I'm tired of this game lol.

>>18341461
It's worked on literally every guy I've dated thus far cover a wide range of densities but I suppose he could be way more oblivious than the average dense person. Oh trust me, I left my comfort zone ages ago. I'm more frustrated than anything. It's not fun having to do all the work.
>Inb4 now you know what guys have to go through

>>18341457
hm abc=american born chinese
fob=fresh off boat, meaning shes from China

>>18341481
>Inb4 now you know what guys have to go through
;^)

>>18341426
Specifics on moves though, some males are dense asf

>>18341452
Were they Chinese?
Also I feel like its more normal that a guy says that than a girl. But I'm not complaining, if she is somewhat into me then I'm happy.

>>18341433
Okay, but if I'm really serious with a girl, there has to be a point where it comes up, right? Like, if I was considering marrying/having kids with somebody, wouldn't it be a little bit fucked-up of me not to warn them that their kids are probably going to come out like me?

>>18341457
Presumably, "American-Born-Chinese" or "Fresh-Off-Boat." The second one I'm pretty sure of.

>>18341475
Then just don't leave fucking furry porn accessible on your phone.

Or date a furry girl.

>>18341457
>is wanting a "real relationship" or wanting "something real" code for 'im tired of being pumped and dumped'

Not necessarily. It just means you don't want a ton of guys messaging you asking if you want sum fuk.
I am engaged, met my fiance on the internet, was very clear I wanted a serious relationship. Was a virgin when I met him and going to be virgin when we get married. There are so so many guys on the internet and maybe 20-50% are not interested in anything meaningful.

>>18341485
Well there's the regular playful hitting and things along the lines of that. But one that I find always works is I'd wear a dress (I rarely wear them or skirts) and over the knee socks then I'd sit perpendicular to them with my feet touching their leg. And NORMALLY the guy would rest his hand or arm on leg/feet bc their arms are relaxed then I'd esclate by stretching my leg over his lap. Except this guy just sat their with his arms and hands positioned uncomfortably in his lap.

>>18341490
One was Chinese and the other Korean.

>>18341457
>is wanting a "real relationship" or wanting "something real" code for 'im tired of being pumped and dumped'
No, lots of guys on online dating sites assume that girls there are easy and just wan sum fuk. Girls say that to filter those guys out.

>>18341481
>Inb4 now you know what guys have to go through

Fucking glad someone said it.

>>18341492
im a fellow autist and honestly there is no good way to out and say it


>>18341495
thats a good point

i'm interested in companionship but also wan sum fuk. is the best way to say i'm interested in more than just getting balls deep to just out and say it?

>>18341498
Fuck me sideways. Playful hitting and its ilk are so barely flirting I wouldn't blame him for not making a move based on that sort of evidence. Shit that kind of stuff is par for the course in every platonic friendship I've had with a girl ever.

>>18341498
Wait, that's kind of hot and I'm sure a majority of guys would instantly know you were into them or wanted more than a movie.
The small chance that he is gay is growing
Better hope he is just a REALLY socially awkward straight guy.
What made you fall for him?

>>18341519
Did you not read the sentences after...

>>18341524
I did, and that's all fine and dandy, I just want you to know that light flirting doesn't really count as giving off signals that you want a guy to read into.

>>18341533
Do you straight up need girls to tell you that they like you or want to fuck in order for you to actually do something? I just don't get your logic right now.

>>18341498
I would maybe take the hint after you stretched your leg over my lap, but nothing before that looks especially flirty to me. And if I did start to see it as such I would convince myself otherwise because girls do that shit all the time when they're not interested in the guy and get creeped out if you read too much into that kind of stuff.

But maybe I'm just especially dense.

>>18341524
>>18341498
You touched his leg with your foot I mean come on I do that with my (platonic) girl friends all the time and your master plan was to lay your legs across his lap? Girl I have a platonic friend who sits on my lap for entire movies when the couch is too crowded. Stop complaining and make an actual move lmao. Yea this guy is oblivious but so are you.

>>18341523
Ya that move has never failed me before lmao. I thought he was gay for a while too bc he wasn't responding to anything I was doing and I've dated my fair share of dense/shy guys. But then he mentioned how even the Fb ads were making fun of him for not having a girlfriend among other things so I'm guessing he's not gay? Or maybe he's way deep in that closet idk.

I fell for him at first bc it was really fun listening to him talk about his field of work (engineering) but he also turned out to be really thoughtful. Like I'd have guests over and he'd help me serve the food or clean up afterwards. Just small gestures like that I guess totally won me over.

>>18341466
Good idea, I'll get one, they look pretty cool anyway. Thanks!

>>18341479
Fetlife is full of older people (+30), in my area at least. Thanks a lot for the other advice, I'll try that.

>>18341459
My ex was more submissive, and definitely didn't enjoy it, but it's good to know that it's not as uncommon as i thought, thank you.
What if you ask a guy what porn he watches, and he says "normal stuff", do you think he'd still be open to for example choking me?

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Girls : left is 10.5", right is 4". Which one would you fuck ?

>>18341547
probably the 4" one, would prefer a dick that's somewhere in the middle though

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Guys, I know being fat is supposed to be a deal breaker but I have to wonder...how much fat is too much fat?

The thing is, I've seen a few chubby girls with conventionally hot men around campus and it bums me out. Makes me feel as if I'm just unattractive, and losing more weight won't fix anything.

I got a few decent bodily features, like perky D-cups and long legs, but I'm still around 30 pounds overweight...(160 pounds at 5"6). I've lost 30 pounds so far from where I've been since elementary school.

I've noticed that guys seem extra...warm to me since my slight weight loss, like wishing me a good day and giving me a genuine smile, remembering my name weeks after I met them (despite me 100% forgetting them), or helping me out, but still no guy has made moves on me. No flirting. It's kind of depressing.

>>18341542
Reel him in if you're into him.
You probably have to take the lead on this guy otherwise I am pretty sure nothing will happen for a long time.
If you think you guys are close enough, just tell him your feelings and honestly he'll probably come out with his too.

>>18341547
Neither

>>18341547
4", definitely.

>>18341540
It's the combination of the clothing and behaviour. We've been friends long enough and literally all my friends know I rarely touch even my closest my female friends and I almost never touch my male friends. The difference between my normal behavior and during the movie was pretty jarring.

>>18341541
Same as what I wrote above. Also that doesn't apply to the people I know at all. No one I know would think a girl sitting on a guy's lap as platonic minus family members maybe.

>>18341543
>if you ask a guy what porn he watches
instant brain aneurysm for me I'd have to lie about what I watch (hypnosis and mind control) so you should avoid asking this question and yeah I'd be down with choking a girl it sounds hot tbqh. Even so, I'd wait until you at least fucked a few times before bringing choking up.

>>18341557
Alright, I'll do it anon. Thanks.

>>18341556
160 lb at 5"6' sounds pretty reasonable. It could be that you have an ugly face, but I think the guys may not be asking you out because it's really awkward to do with a girl you're not at least an acquaintance with.

>>18340776
how fucked am i for having a 4" penis

>>18341572
According to
>>18341555
and
>>18341560
not very.

>>18341556
Gonna give you the same advice I'm giving footsie here and that's to put yourself out of the comfort zone and try hitting on guys. I know its hard for girls but it can really make a huge difference.

>>18341556
at the end of the day you should feel satisfied with how you look. strive for what you want

also, do you have kik

>>18341556
I lost weight, then I gained it back. I get more male attention now than I used to, despite being the same weight. The main difference is that I'm a lot more friendly, open and confident now than I was before I lost weight.

>>18341547
4", but preferably somewhere in the middle.

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>>18341584
You might be right. I've been bummed out (haven't felt any happiness in years), and I usually look it. Heck, I remember when I smiled for the first and last time at a random cute 9/10 boy he actually tried talking to me and getting my number.

When the topic of boys came up in my dorm I brought the story up and they literally all assumed I was lying out of my teeth. I think the little bit of my confidence I had was destroyed because of them...

>>18341600
This reminds me of when I got a my first girlfriend. I just got back from banging and was feeling really confident, more than I'd felt in a while. I went to my friend's house and some girl I never met was there. I remember smiling at her as I passed with a bounce in my step, not really paying much attention but the next day my friend tells me this random girl is now interested in me.

>>18341600
You know how girls like guys who are confident?

Yeah well, works the other way around too. You don't need to be the bubbly happy type, but not being mopey will go a long way.

>>18341567
that actually makes a lot of sense

>>18341572
unless you want one night stands with tinder girls, not very

>>18341600
smiling really helps a lot, any guy would prefer a girl they can make happy over one they can't make happy. for some it doesn't matter if you're less attractive.

>>18341600
Hey! Congrats on the weight loss. I went from 210 to 130 lbs (5'6" as well) and I know how hard it is. Keep going.

Your friends have been assholes, honestly. A lot of guys don't care about weight as much as you think, and with the right attitude you can definitely score a pretty hot dude.

I met my boyfriend when I was 180 lbs. He is 6'3", athletic, and has an amazing face. He just dated models before me. We've been together for 5 years and we are very happy together.
I asked him what he liked about me many times (mostly in insecure, "always a fat girl inside", neurotic moments) and he said that the first thing he liked about me was how friendly, positive and kind I was . He liked my sense of humour and my wit. He said that it was refreshing to be with someone who was interested in him as a person. He said that he liked how we connected intellectually, and that even if I wasn't the hottest girl he ever met I was the only girl who ever kept his attention.

It's easy to think that no one will like us because we aren't a 10/10 physically, because it hardly is something in our control. But probably if you try to be more outgoing, friendly and kind, and just really show who you are as a person, a lot of people will be attracted to you.

Keep going with the weight loss and use the confidence you gain from being prettier and prettier every day to be more friendly, nicer and more attractive.

>>18341600
Looking good is only half the story. No one wants to date a Debbie Downer. Even that's not who you are when someone gets to know you, first impressions matter.

To girls.

How do I not hate you. How do I not see most of you as disgusting boring whores. I want to have sex with a decent girl but they're either ugly as shit or so abhorrent mentally and emotionally that they the equivalent of sewer water.

Why don't any of you like cool shit, or talk like normal human beings. You act so high and mighty and give nothing but expect everything. I know this is the woman way as the man by nature gives and the woman recieves, but why would anyone give to such horrible creatures.

I never used to be this way but seeing the amount of sluts nowadays turns me off.

inb4 virgin. I've been with multiple girls.

>>18341634
Hate me or don't, I don't really care. I have people in my life who I care about and who care about me, why should your opinion matter to me?

>>18341634

~Open your heart~. Pretend to like people, and eventually you really will. Try to see people's beauty (inside and out) and you eventually will. (Unless by abhorrent emotionally, you are referring to emotional abuse and in that case walk away).

>Why don't any of you like cool shit, or talk like normal human beings.
What's cool shit? Also women are the majority so its you who doesn't talk normal.

You sound hurt. I'm sorry.

>>18341634
I think that if we have an extremely bad experience with a very large group of people, it more often says something about us than it says something about them.
You probably are looking for women in the wrong places, or you have unreasonable standards for women, or you just are jaded and tend to exaggerate women's bad traits to fit your narrative.

>>18341641

You can say this about any advice thread. Why does anyone care about anyone's issues?

>>18341634
tell me your story sweety who hurt you

>>18341646
That anon doesn't want help. He wants to brag about how much he hates women and insult women in the process, because this is 4chan and that's a thing here.

>>18341634
You probably just attract girls who are as shitty as you are. Become a cooler person yourself if it bothers you so much.

>>18341650

I guess so but maybe its just because I've been on 4chan for 10+ years and used to be a /r9k/ regular but I just see a poor troubled soul crying for help.

Misogyny doesn't even hurt me anymore. But I like to try to pick their brain a bit and see how they are feeling if htey let me.

>>18340802
Ask her on date and dont use /adv/ for humble brag ever again.

>>18340806
It is girls job to say you love us first, and we may never tell it to you, because that would paint us as weak creatures and you would left us. Instead of words, look at actions we do for you. Ask yourself, if your bf would do all these things only to get into your panties or because he probably cant live without you anymore.
>actions are more powerful than words

>>18340814
That guy is probably very dumb to ever bring weigth as topic with a girl. Ask him, not us. Imho he is just bad at cactful conversation. You know, like a tree or rock.

>>18340826
Ask her, not us. But a lot of girls love being dominated in bed.

>>18340949
Tell her parents first about her self harm and that you are afraid of her actions. Then break up with her over text. Tell her she is too good for you.

>>18341013
>selfish
Love is selfish by definition. Stop thinking nonsence and date the bitch. Ask her on date and keep trying to get into her panties. Be wary of her ex. She may want to return to him.

>>18341092
Just go and dont forget to buy condoms.

>>18341135
You have to define what is slut before. And no, it is not the same really.

>>18341356
Insecure virgin beta. If you want sex, buy condoms and grab him by penis, drag him towards bed and be assertive. He will enjoy.

>>18341404
Fet life. On 2nd date ask them about theor fetishes. Using mojo upgrade site.

>>18341416
You dont. And next time dont mixp up question and answers. We need to keep it clean here autismo boy!

>>18341421
Ask her on date, use your sexy voice and buy condoms.

>>18341460
They may be into it. Maybe grow up and realize that downloading porn is outdated? Learn how to encrypt files?

>>18341468
Buy condoms and ask her on date again. Yes it is that easy.

>>18341547
I bet you never hitted girls cervix, did you?

>>18341556
>>>/fit/ read sticky, count calories and lose 1kg per week. In few months you will be dodging guys. Dont be fat!

>>18341659
based mass replier
breddy good advices too

>>18341664
Dont forget i am living from (You)s.

:-)

>>18341642
>>18341647
I used to like girls but I just see them as used up now.

The only thing that happened was my ex and I had some personal troubles and went through a rough patch. She wrote me a long letter telling me how much she loved me and wanted to marry me, and that we were going to make it through this. I was relieved. Two weeks later of being ghosted, she broke up with me. I was heart broken and not long after she got a new boyfriend.

If you're looking for some crazy shit you won't find it. I just want to tell women straight up that I want to use them for a while and then leave. I don't want to play the game but I know I will have to. I am not ready for love yet. I wish I could sfford a whore because then I could be straight forward and know that they are used up instead of being disappointed later

>>18341634
If it makes you feel any better, I have been at your stage.
>came out of multiple back to back relationships that fucked me over while leaving the girl nothing but release and freedom
Fast forward to present day, I met a girl that is by no means perfect but from what I have learned over the years of disappointment and sadness, she doesn't need to be perfect for me to love her. I have realized that there is no perfect match who shares all your interests, believes in everything you believe in, accepts every part of you, the list goes on.
What you should come to understand is that you get what you put into a relationship
There is no need to be toxic when the world is already plenty fucked up, just open your heart and you'll meet a girl that will change your entire view of women.
Good luck in the world anon

At what point in a relationship should talk about being Bi-Polar? I have been stable for years, and I only had trouble when I was first diagnosed. I have had a few acquaintances I was becoming friends with cut contact from me the second I told them, so I'm afraid that when I tell a girl I like she will cut me off.

Should I keep it on the dl for a while and tell them after they know me really well? Or should I just say it the first time it comes up in a conversation like it's no big deal?

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>>18341060
Yes. A little too often. It would just be nice to have someone next to me, but I always go back to thinking how hard it would be for me to sleep next to another person.
>had a ridiculously vivid dream
>best description is essentially apocalypse-tier events and family fighting in great detail
>woke up horribly anxious with no sleep
>thought of an idealized version of someone I knew
>how great would it be if we were dating, and I could hug him when I'm nervous about shit
>mfw this was an hour ago

>>18341060
Yes but I imagine both the good and the bad of how it would be. Who knows why though.

>>18341634
Most people are boring and annoying. Stop having multiple sex partners. That's why you're mentally ill

>>18341728
Honestly, if girl tells me she is bipolar, that ussualy means she will take some pills killing her libido, once she get stress, she will turn crazy from day to day and basically i will percieve her as damaged girl. So this will suck, but i guess never? Also it means our potentional children will be crazy. So really, from somebody dating you for a while, this is truth bomb on same level as being trans or infertile.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3637882/

But from your partners perspective it is like being cheated on if you never tell them and later they find out.

Tough luck girl. If you are honest person, you will tell them sooner than later even if you risk dieing alone.

Sorry :-(

>>18341778
I'm a dude, but thanks for the honesty. I just turned 22 and I was diagnosed at 17 so I'm not worried about dying alone. I think I just need to become an A+ person so people will weigh it out and take the risk on me. It will probably take a few tries to get down breaking it to people.

To femanons. Why are women more likely to cheat? Been cheated on 3 times...

Just found out 2 weeks ago that a girl I'd been dating for 1 year 8 months cheated on me with her co worker. We lived together for 6 months and I was sitting in bed with her, she kept her phone on vibrate and it was on a wooden nightstand next to my bed, texts from her "friend" that he misses her and what not. The vibration from the texts on the table woke me up and i was pissed but decided to save the evidence and play for a bit. We knew eachother for years before we started dating, she knew i had been cheated on before...
Im a pretty introverted guy, i like serious relationships, NO BS! I confronted her about me not wanting her to talk him at first to she what she said "you have nothing to worry about, i love you and don't want to ruin it, why are you worried"
Showed her the evidence and she immediately started denying everything, then she saw that i was emotional about it and was pissed, she started crying claiming that she was "sorry" and she knew i didn't like that type of shit at all, i punched a my bathroom mirror and sliced my hand (like a dumbass) and she had the nerve to tell me im crazy but tried to tend to my wound. I made her pack her shit to get out that night. Since then she has been spaming my ohone with calls, i blocked her original # and she started calling me from her and my friends phones.
How should i deal with this? I truly loved her (7-10 looks, great smile, same intrests and music taste, great sex, etc) everytime she calls i want to break down and talk with her but out of experience i learned once a cheater always a cheater.

>>18341558
must really be a bummer if the guy you really like turns out being a 4incher

>>18341803
Again? You've asked this for weeks.

>>18341809
No i haven't?

how often can you have anal? Would there be any problems with doing it every day?

>>18341811
Yes. The muscles will become fatigued and permanently damaged which will lead to incontinence over time.

>>18341803

Do you have any actual proof that she cheated though? I have a friend who has told me that they miss me before, but I can categorically state that there is nothing between us and we are friends.

>>18341803
>Been cheated on 3 times
in this case *you* are likely to be cheated on. It has little to do with women in general

>>18341803
Damn dude accept her apology. She cares about you and I think the whole pack you shit without any consideration thing is dumb. If you loved her give her a chance to explain herself at least. People don't cheat for no reason, maybe you were distant and if you are closer she won't want to cheat in the future. I know people that have gotten through cheating and had happy families after.

>>18341814
I didn't put everything in detail as i was being lazy but their where alot more texts, she also admitted to it and wouldn't stop crying about it. I've stayed out of contact for a full week but the calls get worst and worst it seems. Can't even answer random numbers anymore.

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For the grills, if you were in the local park having a picnic with a few of your friends and anon came over to you to ask for your number, how dead would you feel inside at that moment?

>>18341813
but how often is fine?

>>18341818
Thats from highschool till now, first was a slut, i should have seen it coming.
Second was in college and she was drunk as fuck i guess, still no excuse
Now this and idk why she would. I treated her great, worked long hours but always made time for her, i wasn't bad in bed, etc.

>>18341819
>>18341803
Yeah, anon! It's probably your fault! You OWE it to her to give her another chance!

>>18341819
Not really, i work 8-5 5 days a week. She works 8-4 so there isn't much more then a hour between us. And weekends we always did shit she wanted even if i hated it (mostly shopping)

>>18341824
Every few days but once a week is probably best. The muscles will need time to heal.

>>18341826
>Now this and idk why she would. I treated her great, worked long hours but always made time for her, i wasn't bad in bed, etc.

that's the very best reason. You are the provider, someone else is the gene donor. Read up on human mating strategies.

>>18341728
I think you're better off telling people right away, before you start dating. I know a bunch of people who don't care, have something similar themselves, or are actually kinda into this.

>>18341823
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i asked this girl for a date and she said yes but won't commit to a time

should i straight up ask if she's just not interested (in me or in the date)

the writing on the wall may be there but i'd rather hear it straight from the horse's mouth so when i ghost her i won't have any regrets. i don't like thinking about the 'what-ifs' or if maybe i misread the situation as i often do due to my aspergers.

>>18341854
Yeah just ask straight up. You could say " if you're still interested in that date let me know a date and time you're free" puts the ball in her court.

>>18340776
Why do vaginas feel all lumpy on the inside?

>>18341772
I haven't had many, and I've only had sex with girls that I was in love with (2).

So anyone that could give me some advice would be helpful.

So I met this girl a few weeks ago through some mutual friends and thought she was really cute. After that I started seeing her around campus a lot more, (I mentioned that I was in the library all the time because of finals) and started to get to know each other. This last weekend we went to a party together and spent the whole time talking to each other; we started talking about pretty personal stuff like past relationships and stuff. So it turns out shes borderline and just got out of a long term abusive relationship; to be honest this actually made me relate to her even more because I'm bipolar, and just got out of a codependent relationship. In general things were going really well, it was obvious that we were attracted to each other and could relate to each other; we almost kissed there at the party, but one of our mutual friends (that likes her) was drunk and started getting upset so we decided to hang out a another time..

Since that night I've been playing the most hellish game of phone tag / emotional manipulation. Like I try to text her and she'll wait a whole day before texting me back, obviously waiting on her response makes me so anxious and sad; and when she responds I feel such a crazy feeling of relief (Isn't that what phone tag is all about, conditioning emotions?). Whats worse though is that I feel that shes also posting things directed towards me; like an article about how guys should go out of there way when the girl obviously likes her (as I implied before, it seems she may have went out of her way to hang out with me during finals). I had been driving myself crazy thinking about what I did, and began thinking I did something to upset her; so I messaged her saying I wanted to see her because I had to ask her something (This was the only message she responded to immediately), she said I had nothing to apologize for.. Cont..

>>18341875
Because of STDs.

How do I get girls to ask me out? So far out of the three girls I've been with only 2 girls have asked me out, and I've had to ask out the other one myself. I've realized I prefer having women ask me out, and it's a great feeling when the person comes to you. How to I capitalize on this and make myself appear more available to them?

>>18341832
I mean emotionally distant like let them know you hate shopping and do something you both enjoy. Anyway I obviously don't have all the info to know whose fault it is. But by your comments it seems like you should do some mushrooms and think about it.

Girls who use tinder, do you ever ask guys out or do you wait for them to ask?

>>18341878
you know it's better not to, but i know you are going to do it anyway

>>18341880
make yourself more physically appealing

dress nice and lift

>>18341878 cont..

Then when I said I wanted to see her again - no response.. What makes this worse she posted something on facebook about apologies; which pretty much convinced me that her posts are directed towards me... as I said before I am dipolar and I get really anxious and over analytical about things to the point of near delusion at times, so I might just be paranoid..

The point is I really like her a lot, and I know she probably going through a lot; and that this doesn't necessarily reflect how she feels about me. But its incredibly frustrating, and upsetting for me. The inner frat boy teenager in me is saying: the best thing to do with a girl like this is ignore her for a few weeks, cuz shes just craving attention... But I know that would be wrong, and I am interested in getting to know her. I'm not just looking for sex. sex is easy to get; someone you can relate to isn't.. I just don't know what to do about this, Its making me insane.. any thoughts?

>>18341890

There's something strangely appealing about getting caught up in a storm; especially, if you're self destructive such as myself.

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Bit of a rant but genuine question: Is a guy bothering a girl supposed to be a sign of liking her?

Dude I met maybe a week ago hasn't left a certain room at school, allegedly working on a """research""" project. Every time I go in there to work, he literally puts a chair down and tries to have a discussion with me about shit he obviously doesn't understand, and doesn't want to understand. Asks me questions all to tell me about himself. It just comes across as me being talked down to. He's also thrown shit at me as if that's funny. He has a girlfriend, has said he liked me, but seems to just befriend any and all women in sight.

I'm going to outright tell him to fuck off and leave me alone, since this shit has genuinely caused a distraction, but what the fuck?

Girl will cuddle with me on the couch. Turns down my escalation. Turns her head when going to kiss her. Just using me for attention?

Is it wrong to whisper in a male friend's ear (in a non sexual way) if I have a boyfriend? Today during my morning literature recitation, I wanted to make a joke during lecture so I turned and whispered it into my friend's ear. I'm just now realizing that could be interpreted as something sexual for some men. Is it wrong?

>>18341823
I'd feel a bit flustered I guess but I don't give my number to strangers

>>18341803
I don't know, why did my ex boyfriend cheat on me? It's a shitty person thing, not a woman thing.

>>18341961
An autist might read into it but otherwise whispering is just whispering, especially when in the context of being in a room where you are being presented to.

>>18341952
Yup.

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How do I get a literally perfect gf like this?

>>18341803
You know, some guys would love to be in your position. Be grateful.

>>18341978
For once I agree with you.

>>18340826
I would definitely ask about it or bring it up
Be a bit more aggressive in sex, manhandle her, assuming you know shes already very into doing you at the time

Would not play rape her without talking about it first, kek

Girls and also dudes

There are people out there who just aren't not meant for sex and love right? As in, it's just a part of life they aren't meant to experience for whatever reason?

I think that's my case. I'm 29, i have my life together. I am in good shape, love my career, I have friends around the world. But, sex and dating just never became a thing for me. My confused childhood probably plays a role in that, but even after all of these years, nothing. ive heard dozens of times "just live your life and a girl will enter it with you". Which, so far that seems to be bullshit. Granted, I'm not typically around single girls in daily life anyways, but I'm not about to start chasing. Oh well, I'm honestly not complaining, since I don't really know the difference at this point anyways.i just think the concept behind it is wrong, the whole "just live your life and things will work out"

>>18341242
Women that completely submit to their sexuality are sluts
Men that completely submit to their sexuality are rapists

This is because a woman can nearly always find a partner, and a man can nearly always rape a woman due to the strength difference

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>>18341990
>I have friends around the world
There is your problem.

>>18341998

Why is that a problem?

I travel a lot, so I have friends all over the world

guys, what do you like in a blowjob? I know it differs between people but I want to get a bit of an idea before I do it

>>18341547
Would not want either, if I had to I'd go for the 4" one
I'm 4'11, short as fuck. My own fingers can bottom out, I can take 6" at most.

Would prefer larger than 4" though.

>>18342001
Slight ball action with your hands and light scratching along pubes. Too much focus on just sucking can be boring.

>>18341876
Just have clear values. If you only want serious, interesting girls, then only date serious, interesting girls. I too find it disgusting to see how many sluts there are nowadays, not knowing their market value will soon hit rock bottom and they'll have to settle for something way below their current standards. But there are still girls with good values that will answer to your interests. Just be patient and have a clear mindset of what kind of girl you want.

Guys: How do you know if you are "sexually" attracted to a particular girl?
There's only one girl I've ever met that can give me a boner and that I can picture myself having sex with (not counting weird fetish porn). This is worrying me because I imagine it means I wouldn't be able to have sex with anyone else?

>>18342012

>How do you know if you are "sexually" attracted to a particular girl?

The easiest way to tell is to fap to a picture of them. If you're still really interested in her afterward, than you genuinely like her. If after you cum, you think "fuck, why did I do that. What am I doing". Then you don't really like her, and your hormones just have you confused.

There is only 1 girl in my life that I have still liked even after fapping. So that proves I really liked her

I'm trying to flirt with this girl but I can't tell if she'd prefer that I leave her alone. Whenever I approach her she smiles for a second, then almost makes no eye contact for the rest of the conversation. She talks to me but idk, if I feel like she isn't interested, is it safe to assume she isn't?

>>18342001
I'm not a guy but the most important thing is enthusiasm. So try to look like you're really enjoying sucking that dick. Other tips: look at him while you're doing it, make it very wet, try not to touch it with your teeth, and swallow of course.

Guy here. You know when a random guy talks to a random girl in the ear while they are dancing or whatever in a nightclub? And then after a while they are kissing?
Well, what exactly does the guy say? What do they talk about? What are the magical words that make the girl kiss the guy after a few seconds or minutes?
I honestly have no clue. I've asked some high school """friends""" back in the day but they refused to tell me. I'm just wondering this out of curiosity, I don't go to nightclubs.

>>18341961
no

>>18341990
>beliving in destiny
destiny is passe for over two thousand years, man, nobody is meant for anything

>>18342001
the girl said the right, thing, look him in the eyes. try to take as much as possible, but also take it out of your mouth sometimes and just lick everything around - all of dick, balls, possibly inner thighs. Anus, if he likes it. don't be too fast, it's not helpful and tiresome.
and for everything that's holy - don't touch it with teeth.

That's the perfect bj. Do half of it and you're upper-intermediate already

>>18342041

I disagree

>>18342012
yes, you wouldn't
the plus side is it'll make you faithful, which is valued

>>18342012
Not a guy so take that into consideration if you want, but I just wanted to add a perspective. For women it is entirely common to not feel active sexual attraction to men (or only rare exceptions, like men they are already actively crushing on, or men who are just honest to god strikingly handsome) until the point where they can tell sex might happen and it becomes a plausible reality.

I am pretty sure this line of thinking is less common but not unheard of among men. I have discussed this with a friend of mine once and he literally told me "don't picture it beforehand, if I picture sleeping with a girl beforehand I also get turned off and just want to jerk off instead, but when you do run with it it's fun". Obviously talking about one night stands he had and not girls he liked emotionally as well.

For me it's rare to feel that active pull towards someone, and I usually know I feel sexually attracted to someone when their physical presence does not bother me or put me off. Eg they can sit very close and I don't get the urge to move a bit. Or if they eat noisiliy the sounds don't irritate me. A certain tolerance/receptiveness to their physical stuff.

Don't worry about not getting a boner just thinking about someone. If sex happens you have A LOT more to get turned on from than just their concept.

>>18342045
then you have some serious problems

>>18342052

Why do you say that?

>>18342053
well, destiny generates fucktons of problems.
Firstly on its own - you are destined to have some bad shit happening in your life (unless you happen to be insanely lucky).
Then it generates the metaproblem, that you'll never be able to cope with what's coming for you, because you can't change the destiny. No matter how cool/good/skilled/intelligent you are, something is meant to happen, so it'll happen, period.

and if you're the one who asked the original question you are all the more fucked, because even if there's no destiny, you already believe in it and will act accordingly, never trying to change your situation

Would it be better to ask my friend on a date via text or bring it up in person next time we hang out?

>>18342060

>if you're the one who asked the original question you are all the more fucked, because even if there's no destiny, you already believe in it and will act accordingly, never trying to change your situation

So, the saying "live your life to enjoyment and things will work out" is fake then?

I have a girl in one of my classes I'm interested in, would an appropriate way to get to know her better be to ask her to study and grab some dinner? Is there any way I can smoothly imply my intentions or should I be direct?

>>18342033
There are no magical words. Plenty of women who do stuff like go clubbing are on edge. They put effort into looking hot, they are tipsy and feel sexy, there's a sexually charged atmosphere in these places that's particularly noticeable if you're a cute woman who can just choose to fuck someone if you are so inclined.

So it's not so much about which guy speaks the right combination of words. It's about the combination of a guy who looks right (cute enough to not be off putting, normal enough to not seem a serial killer), is able to talk to them in a relaxed/natural way, dares to show he finds her attractive without either second guessing himself or going too far and just seeming sleazy or thirsty.

The guys who are best with women are those who manage to make hooking up with them seem very normal, very possible, very casual. If the man obviously thinks it's a huge deal if she goes home with him that makes her feel like it's a much bigger deal as well. Like when a girl you think is okay but nothing special asked you out. If she just went "hey, I think you're cool, want to grab drinks some time?" you might say yes because why the heck not? But if she made a huge deal out of asking you, you would probably feel like you are getting into an emotional web by saying yes, and it looks daunting and no longer fun, so you say thanks but no thanks.

>>18342062
In person, definitely. Why would text be a better option, don't you get to see your friend in person soon?
In person is better because: you get to see their reaction, you can see their body language, you can more easily do damage control if your friend misunderstands you or if you get rejected, you have more room to fix or change the idea while you are saying it.

>>18342063
of course it is. It will work for some, it won't for many others.

if you really need a one and only slogan to follow in your life, i'd advice "set clear goals and pursue them actively"

>>18342064
You can be direct, but a big downside is that you will only succeed if she likes you enough from her impressions so far to say yes. There's a big chance she never gave you much thought if you barely interact.

Ask her something study-related, just a plausible question. Spin that into small talk. If you have some chemistry, you manage to make her laugh, she keeps the conversation going/smiles a lot etc, sit down next to her at the first opportunity. Then you use that to talk to her more. Once she knows you not just from your looks but has an idea of the kind of person you are (funny? smart? serious about his studies? friendly? easy going and easy to talk to?), you can ask her out. Be direct about it then.

This obviously takes more time and investment (though you get practice as well), but the upside is that you can show off yourself much more before she needs to evaluate whether she likes you.

>>18342064
Don't mention dinner that will make it awkward.Asking to study would work,start at school then later at her place

>>18342068

>of course it is. It will work for some, it won't for many others

That's exactly my point though..

>"set clear goals and pursue them actively"

Oh I know this one. I've done this with everything else.

Girls:

Why is it so easy for you to just trash your feelings for someone (assuming you had any in the first place)

I was with a girl for three years I assumed she was happy we would talk everyday and do all of our hobbies together l then right around my birthday she broke up with me out of the blue and said she was never happy
Like what the fuck how do I prevent getting played like this

>>18342073
>Oh I know this one. I've done this with everything else.
and why is it so hard to realise it will work with girls as well?
Just do it. Find one, start thinking about loving/fucking her, do things to achieve it.
Maybe it'll click, maybe you'll need to find another one and repeat.
Unless you are delusional as to the things you have already achieved, you'll be fine

>>18342081

Because I don't believe it works that way. I'm not about to start chasing after girls and get used or nothing in return. People tell me "life happens, and things will just happen".

>>18342076
there are clear logical fallacies in those few word you wrote.
Try being more clever, maybe you won't scare away another grill

>>18342087
ok, so live alone

>>18342076
>reading this as a girl who took three years to get over her ex
Hey man, fuck you.

But in all seriousness, some people are much better at this than others. And "better" is relative, because if you honestly have no issue at all with flicking a switch and leaving that shows some serious emotional underdevelopment and/or detachment that will cause issues in your life, albeit different ones.

In the case you describe, at the very least she is freaking terrible at communicating. And rest assured, her saying she was never happy... That's not an accurate description for the entire relationship. It is one way of looking at it (eg because it was not the kind of dynamic she actually wanted etc) that was her dominant mindset when breaking up and her reason to "explain" it. What happens a lot with people who cannot express themselves easily is that things that make them insecure, frustrated etc build while they decide for themselves that it's not a big deal, it's not worth fighting over and so on. Then suddenly they snap, have a whole "I deserve to have the kind of relationship I want" type of thing, look back on the relationship only noticing the things that bothered them and they never did anything against and leave.

Basically, find a girl who knows how to use her words and tell you when something bothers her. Where you can check what your expectations and experiences in the relationship are. And don't assume she is happy, ask.

>>18342081

Also, the logic behind just seeing a girl and thinking "I want to love that girl, I'm going to make that happen" makes absolutely no sense.

>>18342090

That's what I'm doing

>>18342093
look, if you are asexual, then that's your problem. Go see a sexuologist

>>18342076
>>18342091
Also wanted to add an example because I see this mentioned a lot, that girls who just got out of a relationship are instantly dating someone else and seeming all happy and in love.

Rebounding is one of the easiest way to drown out feelings of grief. (And a very bad coping mechanism, but still.) Girls typically simply have the option of jumping into another relationship. I guess the male equivalent is trying to sleep with random women as soon as possible. It is an extreme way to try to reclaim your self respect, belief that you can love and be loved. It usually does not work.

Whenever guys say "my ex is already over it because she's posting tons of pictures happy with her new lover"... I think, people who really are happily in love don't feel the need to gloat about it, especially if they just got out of a serious relationship. They just want their ex to see it exactly because they are not over it, are still hurting, and want their ex to think they aren't.

>>18342105

I'm a heterosexual male

If i ask the opposite gender something does that mean you're both a girl and a man?

>>18342109
These threads existed before the new meme genders were forced

Girls, what porn do you watch?

>inb4 everyone's different
I'd like to know some examples

>>18342181
Lately, all things anal.

Some lesbian stuff. Threesomes (with bi guys). Normal, boring, lovey sex.

>>18342189
oh, nice.

btw how did you got into anal? did it start at some certain point or were you open for it from the beggining of your sexual life?

>>18341659
>Just go and dont forget to buy condoms.
no thanks. not interested sexually.

>>18342196
I've never done it in real life, my boyfriend doesn't want to try it.

I hated the idea of anal as a teen, then I just obsessed over it a couple of years ago, mostly because I got older and naughtier. Not just anal sex but in general anal play too - fingering, rimming, etc.

>>18342201
>I got older
no thanks lol

>>18342106
People a shit, and there are plenty of women who did not move on so easily. But it has happened to me, plenty. In fact, most girls I've been with or wanted to be with me have done this desu.

It's either the ol', "let's not tell him I moved on", or the ol" "let's tell him I had someone else all along", or the ol' "let's rub it in his face just to spite him". Women don't even understand men, if they understood the damage they do with their child mentality bullshit, they would never in their life leave the house. Women have made me an ugly person inside. But I've managed to forgive, after years, months, etc.. Because frankly, anybody stupid enough to hurt you like that can't possibly be emotionally mature enough.

>>18342207
Lol, I'm 23 not 58.

>>18342209
And to add, I'm not perfect either in my own ways... so what are you gonna do.

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This is bullshit

>>18342210
23 is alright
the ideal age for anal is 18 though

>>18342214
No, that's actually the truth. Sometimes the truth is so obvious though, that it's like some implied meme.

https://youtu.be/62SChdcnkQk

>>18342214
Desperation almost always backfires on us.

What exactly is a """nightclub"'" and where do I find one? If I google maps 'nightclub' the only results that come up are bars with music. Are those nightclubs?

>>18342214
It's really not. I met my fiancee on 4chan by shitposting at a time I was done with relationships, just chilling and trying not to think about how suicidal I felt.

>>18342223
>>18342228
>>18342232

For some people though, they have to force themselves into situations to meet girls.

I'm not searching for a girlfriend at all. I have my life together and take good care of myself. But no girl is just going to randomly show up. In order to do that, I'd have to go out of my way to put myself on a position to even make that a possibility

>>18342091
>>18342106
Is there any way to point out this bullshit with her or is it already too late, like she's dug herself a hole to big for even her to
get out?

>>18342243
Sometimes you'll go to an event knowing ppl will be there. But you may not know you'll go home feeling crazy about somebody there. She may be a coworker at your job who wasn't there from the beginning, just happened to show up after weeks, months, years of you being there. Yes, you have to make an effort to attract someone. But the point of that image is more to do with moving on desperately seeking love, versus waiting patiently till you ACTUALLY feel something.

>>18341803

>she knew i had been cheated on before...

all women are like that because they are children who are driven by emotions and they will cheat on you. also you are an idiot for not learning the first time not to date women.

>>18342282
who hurt you darling tell me your story

Am I worrying unnecessarily?

I asked a girl Im sorta friends with about a different messaging service to use. She asked that I suggest one, so I did. But she didn't respond after. Granted it was like 8PM and shes an EMT who may have been on call then.

Still like 16 hrs passed so far. Is it safe to double text on something she asked about? (Assuming she doesnt reply by tomorrow morning?)

>>18342312
why do you want her to use a different messaging service pretty strange imo
my friend asked me to switch to some literal who messaging service and i just laughed at him why would I do that I'm already on like 20 different ones already

>>18342321
Eh, we were using iMessage, but I ditched iOS, and I just don't like SMS texts at all for reasons. So, I just figured I ask.

>>18342220
the ideal age for you to kys is now

>>18342297
It's interesting to see that when guys pour their heart and soul into a relationship and gets hurt at the end, women just makes fun of them. The same women who wants them to open up.

>>18342326
hangouts then? i used to use that one but they dropped sms support for some reason. between people that use facebook messenger, hangouts, slack, email, snapchat stories, kik, battle.net messenger, steam its all too much and not that different so I just use sms whenever I can
she might feel the same way but not want to hurt your feelings I wouldnt look into it not responding for a while is totally normal in most relationships

>>18342334
babe sweetheart you need to heal so tell me what happened and we can get started

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>>18342340
Oh, I'm not him.

>>18342348
answer the question

>>18342337
I suggested telegram (Its my go to really. Also has a desktop client. So thats nice) but mentioned I'm good for any app really. So, atleast that gives her the option.

And thats possible, but still, I just worry alot with her if I said something wrong.

>>18342260

But again, that really really depends on the situation. I feel like that suggestion is tailored to college people who are frequently around the opposite sex

>>18342353
i mean why should she use it though?
>because its really convenient for me
well using sms is really convenient for her so youre at an impasse...
there are lots of desktop sms clients that dont require your friends to make a lifestyle change to chat with you

>>18341803
>>18341832
>And weekends we always did shit she wanted even if i hated it (mostly shopping)

Anon, girls like when you show yourself and if you are receiving more call from her is because you are being more emotional lately.
My advice: get her back, tell the truth about your feelings, try to open your heart more to her, you probably are not likely to do thanks to the previous cheats but no girl(or guy) want to share their passion with someone too shy, just be a little shy.

>>18342382
Eh, the App is mobile or desktop, uses the preexisting number, so all she would do is download the app, and set up an account. Anyone whose number you already have will be imported automatically. So its not a big change really. Takes all of 60 seconds.

And again, I mentioned that I'll be good with any service if she wants to suggest one

>>18341356
>4 hours commute just to watch a shitty movie with a girl
LOL
The autism is strong in this one.

>>18341404
>shy nerds that are rough in bed
Does not compute.

>>18341547
Either I don't know how to measure my dick or that is not really 4".

>>18341556
Your ideal weight is around 125. I have the same height, but I'm a guy (and weight a little more).

>>18342352
I caught her cheating with another guy in my own apartment. I didn't even rage. I just stood there. Dead. Completely baffled. How could she do that to me? After all I've done for her. I just fell down in the sofa chair, not taking my eyes off them. They both freak out ofc as all of this happen. He just fucking leaves half dressed. I could honestly care less about him. It's her. How could she.

She begins to stutter, cry, etc..... I don't say a word. She begins to freak out even more, starts touching me, trying to make eye contact (I was just staring straight into the blue of the living room), tries to lay her arm around mine and shit, while shouting ''say something!!''.

I sit up after like 2 min of this and just left. Slept over at a friend's apartment. I return to my apartment the next day and we have the whole break up thing. I literally just said ''we can't continue''. She rambled for another 1 hour and then began to pack her stuff and eventually left. She was sobbing and crying the whole time, as women always do when they do stupid shit.

She is the only woman that I have ever opened up to.

>>18341459
complete bullshit. I'm a guy and I always cringe when I'm asked to hit a girl in the face or choke her. Even spanking is completely obsolete for me

>>18341961
YOU'VE LITERALLY RAPED HIS EAR! STOP OPPRESSING MEN!

>>18341978
>those big soft tits

>>18342001
I like it slow. Search for Avy Scott's videos.

>>18342012
My penis tells me. My penis is attracted to many girls.

>>18342297
my mother who cheated on my father who has the heart of gold. all her fault I don't trust women. women are emotional thinkers and this makes them vulnerable to cheating. also you don't have to get hurt to figure that out.

>>18342435
>crying the whole time, as women always do when they do stupid shit.
It's so fucking manipulative.

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For my fellow guys,

How to behave against a girl made you her backup?

Femanons may participate if they wish so.

>>18342490
if that's not ok with you, tell her to fuck off or no sex (or whatever benefits she gets). No other option, really, since it's proven you're not the best option she's interested in achieving

>>18342507
(I meant no sex unless she commits solely to you)

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>>18342490
>being a backup

How to ask my GF if she wants me to eat her ass? If I ask her in that way she will just think I'm a freak.

>>18342535
You do not want to eat your gfs ass. Seriously, from one guy to another.

>>18342535
Do you play with each other's asses at all? Anal or whatever.

>>18342546
Nope never

>>18342535
if you're positive she'll actually think that, it's obvious she would turn you down anyway

>>18342562
Maybe try to ask her if she'd like to have her ass played with, then when you are at it ask her if you could eat her ass out.
My boyfriend did it like this and I didn't find it weird.

>>18342333
t. average 4chin retarded loser
boo hoo no one will miss you.

>>18342576
I did ask if she wanted me to put a finger in it and she said 'some other time'. Haven't asked since.

>>18342605
Ask her while cuddling after sex if she'd like to experiment with anal because you've been curious about it.
You don't just put a finger in the ass out of nowhere.

>>18342623
but that's the sexiest part about it

>>18342629
I mean, depends on the taste.
I don't like shit so whenever my boyfriend puts something in my ass I make sure he won't find any surprise.
Unless we agreed on it beforehand...

Guys,

Is sex still enjoyable with a condom on?

>>18342686
Yes.
Do you want to see a pic of a condom used by me?

>>18342686
hardly, but it's passable if I can count on some oral/anal without it as well.

also, the condoms rip/fall out so often I'm really stressed if I have to use one

>>18342686
Yes. Is physics still enjoyable without computation? yes.

>>18342709
>Is physics still enjoyable without computation?
what

>>18342703
>anal without it as well
Enjoy your AIDS.
>also, the condoms rip/fall out so often
>t. Idiot who doesn't buy properly fitting condoms.

>>18342717
well, like you prevent it to produce a "result" :))
"conceptual" physics is often fancied by mathematicians, more freedom, more progress, and sometimes, nonsensical.

>>18342726
>Enjoy your AIDS.
you bet I will

>>18342696
How does it compare to having sex without a condom though? I can't imagine sex is really worth it when you can't really feel anything.

>>18341978
Jesus fuck she is hot

>>18342737
it compares like licking a lollipop without the wrap versus with the wrap still on.

on the other hand, you are making her happy, which you should like to do, since she's your SO

>>18341978
And who is this? pls respond

>>18342753
>anon finding a new waifu n a thread designed to help people find actual partners

>>18341634
Nobody actually likes women anon. It all just depends on how much you like the sensation of their body on your penis. Some people like it enough to put up with and even forget about all the other bullshit that it costs, and others don't. And with the way society is currently changing, more and more men are becoming the latter.

>>18342753
my little sister.

>>18342623
Oh I did actually ask her once but she thought analsex sounded disgusting.

My female cousin is:
>Asian
>virgin
>short
>slightly chubby (or chubby-looking average)
>tsundere
>26 yo
Does anyone want her?

>>18341978
wouldberry/10

>>18342771
most girls irl say that.
You need to make her horny and drunk

>>18342629
Work up to that. When you're trying to introduce someone to anal, you have to be gentle. I'm trying to get my boyfriend to realize that if he would just slow the fuck down and stop asking to shove it in my ass when we don't even have lube, we would actually get somewhere with that.

>>18342772
yeah I kinda need a maid to take care of my grandma. How much is good?

>>18342772
I'll give you 2 scraps maybe 1 reclaimed

>>18342772
is free shipping included?

>>18341978
That might be the greatest set of tits I have ever seen.

>>18342782
She isn't even 5' tall, she'd be useless for that.

>>18342792
Isn't her virginity worth more than that? Like, mirrion dorra?

>>18342796
Nope.

>>18342799
>might

Girls, this is why it is important to have big tits:
>>18341978

Start saving for your implants.

>>18342772
A girl who is a virgin at 26 is kind of a red flag. There is likely to be something wrong with her.

>>18342799
If you would ever see them without her top on, they'd be on the saggy side.

>>18342775
What's a good way to make her super horny?

Got any tips?

>>18342802
>Nope.
I am not interest anymore

>>18342809
disregard the idiot, little tits are based. anything that doesn't fit one hand is too much

>>18341356
>>18341426
>>18341498
>>18341564
For an awkward guy with no prior experience it's possible that he realizes you're trying to flirt with him, wants to flirt back, but is just too afraid that he'll do something wrong and mess the whole thing up and lose her forever.
>I wanna say something but what if it sounds too corny, or too douchey and she laughs at me / is disgusted by me and leaves
>What if I try to kiss her but I'm bad at it and she laughs/disgusted
>Even if we make it to sex what if I cum in 2 seconds and she laughs/disgusted
At least for the first time you may need to as blunt and direct as possible. Just climb on and kiss or mount him yourself. Even if he isn't very good at any of it getting the first time out of the way and letting him know you aren't judging him can open things up to letting him learn and start improving without fear that 1 failure could end it all.

>>18342810
Is being "tsundere" something wrong?

>>18341978
What I wouldn't do to suck on those.

>>18342507
>>18342526
Of course i will drop the romantic endeavor, i was asking about how to behave against her face since we are in the same friend group and school thus will be seing each other oftenly.

>>18342818
disregard the idiot, big tits are based. anything that is smaller than your head is too little

>>18342825
Not necessarily. But there are other possible things that you simply haven't mentioned. Is she religious (saving for marriage), not attractive, has mental issues... why has she not been able to have sex with a guy at that age?

>>18342832
She is just shy.

>>18341978
>>18341983
>>18342458
>>18342745
>>18342753
>>18342774
>>18342799
>>18342807
>>18342809
>>18342826
ITT: group conformity

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asch_conformity_experiments

>>18342818
>little tits are based
I think I have read everything now.

>>18342835
>cope

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>>18340776
I'm a guy who really has no interest in getting married. I mean NONE. But that's doesn't necessarily mean I don't want to be in any relationships. Are there any women like this?

>>18342835
ITP: confirmation bias

>>18342834
Create an account for her on dating sites and/or tinder. She'll have much better luck there than on 4chan.

>>18342835
lol it's ok, I think you're hot, too :)
but definitely not the same as that girl.

>>18342853
I'm a guy, moron

>>18342818
>little tits are based
>I'm a girl btw

>>18342737
>>18342746
>tfw gf is so tight I come in minutes even with a condom
It's a blessing and a curse desu

>>18342815
Sounds like you got more work to do before trying to convince her to try new things, otherwise you're going to hurt her and this is going to backfire on you.

Maybe work with her and figure out what she likes before getting her to set that all aside so you can finally do anal with her? But I guess the advice along the lines of what you're looking for is tease her ass and reaffirm her that it's beautiful to work up her confidence with the idea.

My gf has a spanking fetish. Anyone have any fun ideas that play on it? I don't have much passion for it, but it's naughty and I love seeing her turned on and excited.

Side note out of curiosity: what's the appeal of it?

>>18342857
>tfw when he comes in but minutes and you are left almost unfucked

>>18341823
If you see femanon with bunch of friends around, even chad himself will have trouble invading the group. Maybe try to pick up easier battles if you have to ask here.

>>18341854
Be persistent and try setting up dates. After she flakes for like 5 times, move on. Girls interested in you will always make time for you.

>>18341878
Stop overthinking and use patience and dating force. Keep hanging with her, show some support for her and once you get bored of constant rejection, find new girl.

>>18341880
>>18341889
You are male. It is YOUR responsibility to ask girls. Equality my ass. You have to do it. Period. The girls asking boys out are outliners. They maximally give you some invisible signal that they want you to ask them.

>>18341945
No idea. He maybe be crazy or very socially clueless on how to talk to strangers.

>>18341952
Dont let her dodge. Cuddle the crap out of her. Grope her boobs, hips, ass, kiss her neck, be all smiles and look into her eyes without interruptions. Tell her she is sexy and buy condoms. Keep the game on.

>>18341961
I would think you want the D after such deed.

>>18341978
Ask girls like her on dates?

>>18341990
>not meant for sex
No, you are just obnoxious ir simply your priorities are different from hitting up on girls.
>not about to start chasing
Then go die alone. Your choice.
>things will work out
That is true only for people who are actively trying to improve their lives. Not stagnating in place waiting for happiness to come on its own.

>>18342001
Most nerves are in top of penis - head and the foreskin if not cut. Suck as much as you can, wrap your lips around head and brush your tongue around head and under foreskin if possible.
Learn how to edge him.

>>18342012
You look at girl and boom. You want her. Boner is also good indicator.

>>18342025
She may be insecure or shy. Ask her on date and see for yourself.

>>18342033
You say her anything from newest memes to how sexy she is. If she is drunken enough, it will work.

>>18342866
That's the curse part

>>18342847
nobody in the whole thread said anything contrary to the posters I cited. Where's the bias?

>>18342864
Giving or receiving? Try the usual teacher/schoolgirl pair where you're punishing her for doing something bad.

>>18341978
I want to fuck her so bad it drives me crazy reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

>>18342870
>too much spare time
>too starved for attention
go to /b/, please

>>18342876
She likes both, but giving is more because she likes my butt rather than a fetish. she definitely fetishizes receiving, especially over my lap

>>18342855
what I said still applies, retard :)

>>18342875
Your post is a confirmation bias about implying everyone is getting influenced by the group.
>what are preferences

>>18342883
eww
that's the most disgusting thing I've seen on 4chan this month

>>18342887
don't tell me so many guys are so much attracted to a person, whose apperance is easily comparable to thousands posted every day on the other boards, two clicks away from here

Also, I'm not claiming *everyone* cited was influenced of course

>>18342895
>easily comparable

>>18342895
That chick is all-around hot. Face, form, tits, hair, everything.

>>18342062
Doesnt really matter. If she likes you, she wont mind either way. In person you have chance to show how confident you are.

>>18342064
Yes. Use whatever excusion to hang out with her. Buy condoms.

>>18342076
Dont assume all girls are as crazy as your ex. Try new girl.

>>18342095
You wouldnt be here if you were happy and content with your life situation. Stop lieing to yourself.

>>18342181
They are horny bitches who pretend how pure they are
https://www.pornhub.com/insights/womens-favorite-searches-worldwide

>>18342199
Sure, be teen and pregnant. Also aids is cool meme.

>>18342214
It is kind of truth. When you are emotionally hurt, finding new gf will only bring you new source of pain. You have to stop hurting first.

>>18342231
Yes. Places people go to get drunk silly, dance like retards to load music and find somebody to suck at toilet or bring him home. Buy condoms and dont carry things you must not lose.

>>18342312
Stop overthinking and ask her on date.

>>18342435
Dont lose hope anon. One day you will find honest enough girl or some which can cheat without you ever finding out.

>>18342490
Tell her you find new girl on tinder. See her reaction, have pity sex and break up with her after.

>>18342535
http://mojoupgrade.com/

>>18342686
It is like -60% fun, +100% responsibility, 95% chance to resist additional statuses like pregnancy and aids.

>>18342772
How short? I woud date her :-)
Send pic.

>>18342809
Daily reminder that flat is justice. Dont fall for huge boobs meme.

>>18342864
Pet play. She is dog, you train her, slal her ass when she disobeys and dick her otherwise.

>>18342880
Please dont take my fun away. I am not you. And /b is cesspool.