Why do so many young people struggle with self-confidence?

>>18339334
a)You're not asking for advice.

b)it's only a few, 4chan is overrepresented in the sad fucks group.

>>18339334
1) they're told they're going to be movie stars and when that doesn't happen for them they have a crisis of identity

2) social media in its current form isn't where it needs to be to enhance the experience of life. In all bar a few aspects, that is.

>>18339337
Though I wouldn't put it like that, I agree that nothing good will come from this discussion. We don't even know if it's true that young people suffer from it more than older people, apart from the obvious fact that if you've done something many times you're going to be a bit more confident about it than a total newbie.

>>18339334
Their world is much bigger and more interconnected than in the past.

>>18339334
Because we're bombarded from very early age with people that are better, more successful, more intelligence, more handsome and more everything than we will ever be, so we feel like we cannot compete.

What advice are you looking for?

>>18339334
then
>when i was your age i had a car a house a wife, kids college education and a job good/stable enough to afford them all and retire at 55

now
> no car, no house, no girlfriend, marriage is a fucking shitshoot, massive debt from school you were told you had to attend to succeed, no job despite working your ass off in college if you have a job it will likely be shit with no future or benefits. you'll work till you die.

Yes it is slightly exaggerated for effect.

>>18339334

its not a new trend, people always had issues with self confidence, we are just now more connected than ever, so we see what everyone else is doing and measure our lives up against the collective instead of the single. this makes us feel inadequate

Rise of single motherhood and the pussification of men.

self confidence has to be built through responsibility. if kids grow up like alot of them do now with little responsibility put on them to grow and achieve things then they will feel like they have done nothing, because they HAVE done nothing. its the duty of parents to teach their children useful skills and information that they can then go out into the world and use to their advantage. then they feel like real adults accomplishing things.

instead, this instinct that all humans have gets misdirected into doing things like video games, social media and other worthless crap that creates an illusion of getting something because of the reward centers in the brain being activated.

>>18339334

Because there perents don't teach them anything about life and brush off there failings as it was there choice

Several factors. First of all, don't let anyone tell you that this is a new phenomenon. The Oscar Wilde quote "Youth is wasted on the young" is one of many examples that in earlier times young people were also largely regarded as timid, self-conscious and filled with doubt. Part of this is simply a result from not having enough life experience to feel very confident in your likeability, your ability to deal with a wide variety of situations and responsibilities, your ability to move on and heal from hurt and disappointments and so on. The more situations you go through with you being the consistent factor, the easier it is to just rely on yourself, plus experience itself makes it easier.

But our current time also offers some tricky factors.
>less social structure: people crave belonging to something bigger than themselves, and our time period is quite socially isolated... not just talking about technology or anything like that, but factors like grandparents or other family members no longer playing having a natural place in the daily life, kids going to sports and hobby clubs rather than coming along to their parents' friends and getting social feedback and interaction from other (kinds of) adults, community/neighbors no longer playing an active part - the saying that it takes a village to raise a child isn't pulled out of thin air... also if you take dating for example, back in the day when there was less entertainment and it was harder to meet dates, it was much more normal for young boys and girls to do things together in groups, and have a not so daunting situation to evaluate each other in and discover potential chemistry

>>18339904
>we life in a time where you "can be anything you want to be", which also means that there's lots of pressure to make all kinds of choices and if you fuck it up along the way, it's all your fault because if you really want to you can make it; people have a hard time coping with all these options, the human brain is simply also not wired to be great at making complicated decisions with endless information at hand, and it gives a sense of peace and stability to know from the get go that there's only so many available choices to begin with, that life is already largely structured for you (and no, that isn't a disappointment if you don't know any better)
>more or less in the same realm but the world is much more daunting psychologically, eg a few decades ago something simple like being great with a yoyo could get you some street cred, whereas nowadays two minutes online will give you thousand hits with people doing it better - it makes life very big, also because the natural structure of time and place (you are very aware of what happens around you and applies to you potentially, not aware of what happens on the other side of the world) has fallen apart and someone in France is now more up to date on Trump than on what happens in their own city, which causes unrest... another factor is that while the world is a safer place than ever for an individual, we are constantly confronted with violence and danger through the media, and real dangers like climate change or nuclear weapons are too impactful and disastrous to grasp almost

No doubt more but these are from the top of my head. It is completely normal for a young person now to feel on the brink of the entire world, constantly be doused in negativity/hostility online, pressure to keep up with peers and make their "brand" into a success... very telling how people try to rate their potential as a life partner by listing pros and cons like they are a product, including their own rating, for example.