When do preferences become fetishes? Is it racist to strongly

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>>18318550
What does this pic make you feel?

>>18318559
I dunno, seem like a cute couple

why you even worry about that? i am an asain but my gf is latina, and yea some stupid will say shit, but we're happy together
Isn't that the most important thing?

>>18318550

Nah, in my books it's all about the visual in preferences. It becomes racist, if you expect an asian girl to be a submissive housewife that bows at the door when you come home or your black gf to be a ghetto talking thug. Having a visual preference is fine, expecing your preference to fill a stereotype to be attractive is racist.

I'm white and I honestly wouldn't date a black girl, simply because I'm not attracted to them. That is racism.

Were I black and said the same about white girls, that would be preference.

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>>18318574
> if you expect an asian girl to be a submissive housewife that bows at the door when you come home
I expect all women to bow at the door when I come home

>>18318598

Well, that's just sexist and has little to do with preference in women, so you're golden. Just find any submissive chick and she'll do that gladly. But that probably counts as a fetish.

I know a low to middle-class (does that exist?) white girl who only prefers black guys.

She said they're more aggressive when it comes to getting girlfriends. I don't know if that's racist or not. She didn't say anything else.

>>18318624
that's the kind of girl that end up raising little jamal jr. as a single mother after her fifth black eye

>>18318633

Maybe, I was interested in her and then I found her account on a website where they ask you questions anonymously and that's when I saw that.

I just think it's retarded to narrow your potential partners on one race only. I know people have 'preferences', but I feel like when girls say things kike that, it's fine, but it's a problem for guys to do it.

>>18318624
>know a low to middle-class (does that exist?) white girl who only prefers black guys
where do you live that these people exist lol
the BBC meme is one of the things on 4chin that has never actually been observed irl

>>18318645
Yeah, desu I don't know which would be considered more racist:

This girl, choosing to be only with black guys

Or me, who'd probably fuck any chick who isn't black or sandnigger

>>18318550
I have never been into black girls but I would fug the girl in your pic so hard

>>18318550
I'm black and into white dudes and I'm not sure really. It's something I struggle with.

Bottom-line as long as the desire isn't coming from stereotypical assumptions, there's not much you can do about who you are attracted to. Just date who you like and try not to think about it.

>>18318550
I like Asian girls but am scared of having a kid with one because of hapa memes

>>18318550

>Is it racist to strongly prefer one race of girl/guy?

Depends on the reason now doesn't it?

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Hi, I shouldn't post this but I don't really have anything to lose so why not:

I feel guilty for liking girls who are white, because the vast majority of them don't want guys like me for a long term relationship.

Should I just stick to girls who have the same skin color and similar upbringing as me, just for a higher chance of having a succesful relationship ?

>>18319474
howdy,
Don't count on white girls if you are black. Since I won't count on black girls if I'm white.

Simple as that.

I won't put up with all the issues, problems, issues, differences in ethnicity, values system, relative pressure and fustration from such relationship.

I've done that. Is not worth the resources at all. You'll lose your hair on your head soon if you are willing to fight for something you shouldn't fight incthe first place.

Is like trying to make peace between a lettuce and a goat.
It won't work.

Dating is so much different than the family life. Soon you will dry swallow your saliva sensing the way this could lead in your life.

But...
Do whatever you want.

>>18318550
I have a fetish for latex and women farting.

Am I racist?

>>18318559

cute couple!

If she treats you right that's all that matters My bf is white and I am black. We acknowledge each others race and its never been an issue. If you like black girls then so what lol. It's your life, don't let what others think cloud whats right for you. I'll tell you this, people will look and stare but fuck them.

>>18319524
That may be true in some cases, but it depends on difference in culture more than race I think. I'm black, but my mom, aunt and uncle all married white people. There isn't such a large difference between the (tiny) black upper-middle class and the white upper-middle class in terms of values.

>>18319363

Wtf is a hapa meme? I'm currently fucking a while guy should I be concerned.

>>18319570
When it comes down to variables, I try to close the gap as much as possible. I won't burn another year of my life trying fill a gap that's too wide and practically impossible to fill.

Tried that. And fuck that.
Ain't worth it.

>>18319574
Apparently hapa sons, specifically with a white dad and Asian mother have hardcore identity issues.
There are lots of hapa communities online of them venting against the racial pairing.
Here's an example:

https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/

Weirdly enough they praise the opposite pairing. I think it's because the sons identify with the father, and feel like their mother wouldn't be attracted to them because they're Asian looking. When the father is Asian they seem to feel fine about it.

>>18319619
Yeah I've heard of this, basically Asian women kinda resent Asian men for whatever reason, hence why the mother is with a man of a different race, so when the son grows up, he feels he is resented by his mother for being Asian, but when it's an Asian father it's good vibes all around.

>>18319619

Hmm, that's weird but I guess good to know. I'd hope if I had a son with my white guy he won't have this complex. Biracial kids are really cute but I guess it makes sense they might have some kind of identity crisis.

>>18318559
Her boobs are weird

>>18319713
There are probably some steps you can take to minimize identity issues. Maybe by both being patriotic about being American or w/e you are and try to avoid discussing race.

>>18318550
>When do preferences become fetishes?
When you learn what "fetish" actually means.

>>18319745
You cannot avoid it.
The topic will be opened by their offspring, sooner or later.

>>18319762
It must apply to a lot of mixed race kids from pure race families. I know half Hispanic people who get hated by their own kind for being half something else and not "Spanish enough".

>>18319813
exactly !
It's the same in the animal habitat. If the raven is white, the mother raven will kill its own offsprings because they are not black, but white. And even if the raven reaches maturity, no other raven wants to mate because it will ruin the genes.

Imagine the kid thinking :
>I'm a degenerate result of a 2 broken vessels
>other kids with parents of the same race mocking me for being a bastard (even if I'm not)
>asks parents for this
>they ignore the subject
>other kids are right

>>18319619

It seems like this reddit thread is formed by a bunch of angry asian guys and white women? If you look hard enough you can find a list of articles that support any claim. How come this is not considered a racist thread against hapa/interracial pairing? It super generalizes reasons why asian women + white men date. That's pretty dumb to assume everyone dates for the same reasons but that's just my 2 cents lol

>>18319745
>>18319762

Yeah, ignoring race issues ain't gonna cut it.

>>18318574
This

>>18318588
Fuck off you idiot, that's not racism. Self victimizing whites are the most annoying retards up on the same level with SJWs.

>>18319762
I'm mixed and I never brought it up or cared about talking about "race" I never had any "identity crisis" because I don't base any part of my identity on race

>>18321095
Do you never go out in public? The first thing people try to do is define you by whatever race they think you are first, visually, without confirmation. You get judged for your skin faster than you do your genitals.

>>18321100
That's other people. I said I don't base my identity on race. There is no confusion or "crisis" on my part.

It becomes a racial fetish when the object of your desire is viewed as an identity-related object, rather than an aesthetic preference.

I for instance fetishize muslim girls and have set my penis on a crusade of muslim vaginas. I fetishize them for reasons I don't fully wish to understand.

You good OP.

Thin upper lipped white girls drive me insane and I'm black. Its just what my body reacts to.

>>18319762
>>18319813
>>18319913
Mixed kids aren't exactly lacking for role models. .

MLK, Lewis Hamilton, Thierry Henry, Tiger Woods, etc etc.

My dad, black, used to tell me and my brother we were elite humans, a cross of agreat sporting and musical race with a great thinking and feeling race. When I asked about not having historical figures beyond the former aforementioned, he said that was our privilege; we could make our race's history.

Granted my dad was a great father and I grew up in a multiracial city, I still think fears of any lasting identity issues are misplaced.

>>18318550
>>18318574
I've always thought of it like this:

>visual preference/pure physical attraction
I like light skin, dark hair and eyes. Or Dark everything, or light everything, etc. No reason, I just like the "color combo" the same I like some interior/exterior color combos on cars more than others.

>racism (4chan classic style)
Fucking shitskins need to go back to their own country, Hitler did nothing wrong, we must preserve the superior white race at all costs. Race-mixing is exclusively for degenerates and women with daddy issues. Everyone needs to stick to their "own race".

I disagree that racial fetishism is necessarily racist. Because racism is belief that one race will be inherently inferior or superior to another. Fetishism is just lusting after stereotypes, and that typically means stereotypes that are positive (to you).

>>18321095
I had a small crisis when I realized how much it impacted my life. People always see me as black. I'll tell them that's not really what I am and they go "what?? of course you are!!" Refusal to acknowledge all the other parts of me is what's annoying.

>>18321208
I guess I'm racially ambiguous enough that I never cared about anything like that. I've been called, black, hispanic, native american, whatever. People come up and speak spanish to me sometimes just assuming I can because of how I look.

I don't see why that's something to go into crisis mode about. I don't see why I should care about the assumptions of literal strangers. If they are the type to negatively judge someone based on their looks, skin color, race, etc they are not someone's whose opinions I should care about in the first place. And the fact that they're misinformed and just making assumptions is more amusing than anything.

But I should say this has pretty much never really happened to me in my life in a negative way. I'm sure maybe I have been discriminated against in some ways but once you get past like, 5th grade, people have enough sense to not get in your face and bully you. It's a non-issue.

>People always see me as black. I'll tell them that's not really what I am and they go "what?? of course you are!!" Refusal to acknowledge

Also sounds like YOU are the one refusing to acknowledge the black part of you.
>That's not really what I am
Yeah, it kind of is.

>>18321236
>I don't see why I should care about the assumptions of literal strangers
I don't like it when people assume shit about me, hence I don't do it about others

>it sounds like YOU are the one refusing
>yeah, it is
Not really refusing, I'm just sick of people only seeing that part of me. Of course this one drop rule exists so everyone who isn't white is black by default. It's ignorance, and people would rather stay ignorant than acknowledge the truth. I don't want people calling me black because that's not all of me and that only tells part of my story. I do have ancestors in Jamaica, as well as Germany and the Czech Republic, and of course America.

Keep in mind I'm not asking to be called white either. I'm asking to be called what I really am, which is mixed race. You need to realize that when you call somebody black or white, you're actually establishing a racial identity for them in your own mind. You're saying that you see them as part of strictly one race, ethnic background and heritage. And I don't want to accept that, personally.

>>18321236
>Also sounds like YOU are the one refusing to acknowledge the black part of you.
A lot of mulattoes like myself grow up mainly around whites, so it's a bit jarring for them to hear that people all see them strictly as black even. I even find the term "light skin" annoying, because it's still an identifier as a "branch of black". It does not account for the ethnic diversity present in mixed race people, and acknowledges only one part of them. You may not care about that, or think it's a problem, and that's cool I guess. Just keep in mind what some people have to deal with as a side effect of being seen as "black".

Also realize that entire groups of people tend to dismiss or accept you based on race alone. That can be frustrating because it's like a rejection. inb4 you say you just don't care, it doesn't matter. Well that's great and all but being told that the parents of the girl you're seeing won't accept you because you're "black" when it's not who you are IS annoying and frustrating. Being told that an entire community of white or black people does not see you as "one of them" and won't let you date or marry within their circle is also annoying.

We don't live in a time where race-mixing is accepted by everyone, so a lot of people will just happily throw you into whatever camp is convenient for their own bias and call it a day. This is the root of the entire "one drop rule"; whatever isn't strictly white is black. That's not something people do because they're just misinformed, it's something people do out of racism/prejudice. That's what makes other biracial upset.

>>18321330
Seems like the reasons you have issues is that you put too much stock and emotional investment into people who don't/won't accept you than those who do.

Yes, people are racist. What are you going to do about it? Cry. Get on with your life.

>>18321351
>just stop caring what others think of you
Nice meme. Too bad it's not as simple as that. Too bad you find out too late that your "friends" are closet racists among other things.

>get on with your life and stop caring about racist people
>even though it has the potential to fundamentally impact the way in which you live your life
Another nice meme. You forgot to tell me to be myself, though.

>>18321368
It's not a meme.

Worrying and fretting over things you can't change is fucking retarded.
I didn't say not to care, I said you need to make the CHOICE to define yourself and not rely on racist fucking strangers to do it for you. It doesn't have a "fundamental impact" unless you want it to. Basically you're saying you don't have control over your own life.

But I'll humor you:
what are YOU, practically, going to DO about racist people in your life?

whine about them on 4chan and Twitter?
internalize their bullshit and make you miserable, emotionally crippled and one of those people who blames everyone else for their problems?

that's fine for you but this has nothing really do to with being mixed race. lots of people have this cancerous mentality. i'm not sure what went wrong in your life but the fact that you're maladjusted to reality doesn't fundamentally stem from being mixed race.

because i'm mixed race and I think you're full of shit

>>18318550
people are not a fetish. an activity like bondage is a fetish. porn fucks up our perception of sex.

>>18321385
You seem confused about a couple of things, so let's clear them up:

1.) I do not spend every minute of every hour of every day agonizing over racial identify.
2.) Racial identity is the topic of the fucking thread, which is why I shared my opinion on it here. I realize you think being 2cool2care is the answer to everything, but simply discussing a subject and having an opinion on it other than "haha who cares lol" is not "whining", you idiot.

>I didn't say not to care
Yes you did, you keep repeating the same bullshit about not investing, not caring, and "just living your life".

>what are YOU, practically, going to do about racist people
Another dank meme. Seriously. If a freak tornado drops out of the sky and rips up your home, destroying all your possessions and killing your dog, you might as well just not care because you can't control it right? Fucking idiot.

>you're full of shit
In what way exactly?

>>18321385
>It doesn't have a fundamental impact
Yeah it really does, there's plenty of studies on racial biases in dating alone which proves that darker males have a harder time on average. inb4 you come up with some anecdote about a celebrity etc., I said "on average", meaning all other things equal, a white male has an easier time.

That's not getting into potential racial bias held by police forces or other civilians which affect how they see you from the very moment they meet you. You don't even have to be overtly racist to have these kinds of prejudices. Simply ignoring it and pretending you don't care is not the solution for everyone, m8.

Fetishes are more specifically reffering to sex. So if you get off on black chicks way more or almost exclusively then id say its a fetish. If you are just attracted to them physically but its not necesarily a sex thing thwn its a preference.

>>18321432
You can be aware of these things without letting it negatively influence your own self identity. Should the fact that I might be discriminated against make me feel bad about MYSELF? Should I feel like a failure because racist shitbags will never accept me?

>>18321414
The one who is confused is you. You really think not having to feel sad and down on yourself and rethink your entire self identity because racist retards won't ever like you or acknowledge that your great great grandmother was white is a meme. You're both sad and retarded.

>>18321414
Also when racism comes down from the sky and destroys my house and kills my dog I'll let you know. But I'll tell you right now, even if that happens no amount of hurt feelers and self loathing would have prevented it. Retard.

>>18319745
This is what white people really think solves the race problem, just not talking about it. Really dude no offense, but there has been research about this, that in white households people dont talk about this stuff and in black households or any household other than white they do.

>>18322449
Maybe white people aren't the problem then

I'm into middle eastern guys.

Maybe it is racist, but we did ISIS roleplay which was hilarious and hot, lol.

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>tfw you have a hapa "preference"
>tfw you find out about hapa memes

>>18321432

I'm a white girl and I h8 blacks so you're certainly on to something mate