Break Up Advice Please

First of all, she doesn't owe you a friendship afterwards.

Secondly, what is your reasoning about not doing it in public?

>>18310084
I feel that she is worth friendship, definitely.

Regarding avoiding a public break up, I feel she may react super hugely emotionally after the break up, and I don't want that to be something she has to deal with, with strangers watching. I still hold a lot of value for her as a person, just not as a lover.

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There are things that she will do that are a turn-off to me, but they are not explicitly bad or harmful things, so I know it is unfair to ask her to change them.

>Constant interruption of conversation flow with non sequitur. Another friend is fond of saying in appropriate context "c'est la vie," French for "such is life," which my girlfriend will unfailingly respond to with "la vee" and a wry look on her face, among other things that detract from a conversation rather than add to it.

>Her laugh is startlingly piercing and hard to tolerate if she is sitting right next to me, especially if we are cuddled up and her mouth is right near to my ear. She will chuckle in a good way sometimes, but if she gets on a humorous tear, it just makes me want to do something else somewhere else.

>An age difference. I am 31 and she is 22. This is not necessarily a problem in any relationship, but in ours there is an obvious difference of life experience that I don't feel comfortable making her catch up with.

>She does not plan to do anything with her university degree. We are both college undergraduates. After this school, I want to go on to graduate school to become a speech therapist. She has explicitly said she is not interested in grad school. She wants to make a living from a web comic she has been writing but has not yet found an illustrator for and a YouTube channel that she has literally zero content on. I have encouraged her a few times to act on these interests and get them rolling, but she has not done anything about it.

>Uses a handkerchief to wipe her nose in public, saying her nose is runny when I have seen no indication that it is, that she will then fold up and put back in her pocket. I think this is a function of her anxiety. (who even uses a hanky anymore)

Again, it's not harmful stuff, but man is it a bunch of turn-offs.

it was five months. stop being such a faggot

I also worry that after the break up, she will thoroughly withdraw from doing stuff, not only from getting out of the house but also from taking care of herself. She already does a spotty job of eating and, at times, housekeeping, so I can only imagine how unmotivated she will be to keep up with self-care. I guess at this moment, not having a job and not taking summer school courses she would fail to show up at may work in her favor.

She does not have a history of self-harm and any suicidal thoughts were had only in high school, so I am not worried about her doing anything deadly, but still, I know she is not very good at pulling herself out of the dumps. Prior to breaking up, I am thinking about asking a couple of our mutual friends to try to keep up with her by text, as she is not the type to reach out to others in a rough situation. I really do hope I am underestimating her resilience to bounce back.

OP, stop.
You've been together for 5 months. I had a toothbrush for longer than that once.
You're breaking up for completely idiotic reasons. There is no perfect person who is 100% amazing for you and doesn't have ONE annoying detail about themselves.

Do it, avoid her after, don't expect any friendship. Stop treating her like she's a retarded baby who can't handle herself.

>>18312119
That is what I needed to read. Thanks.

OP you seem to care for her but at the same time dislike her. You are picking on her havit of using a handkerchief?? Unless she is forcibly stuffing it in your mouth, why would you care. Because you don't like her.
Break up with her knowing that you dont owe each other anything, esp friendship. Staying friends with exes is the worst meme. Never do it. Notjing good ever comes out of it. Break up, tell her your genuine reasons, tell her you wish her well. Make a clean break.