For clarification this is the only girlfriend I've ever had or am likely to have, I'm schizophrenic and generally kinda stupid and annoying to be around so I'd not be shocked if she did cheat on me or leave me but here's the rundown:
>spends extended periods of time with a guy she used to go to school with
>confirmed to me once in passing a year or so ago that this guy once had a crush on her
>avoidant of me
>won't have serious talks about the state of our relationship
>doesn't show any sexual desire in me at all anymore but i'm fairly sure she's talked about her sex life and stuff to this guy
>comes home really late
She's an expat and he just happened to move here so she talks in her native language to this guy on the phone all the time so even if I wanted to be a total psycho and check her texts for proof, which I don't, I couldn't
I feel like I'm totally in the wrong and paranoid for even typing this
Pop a Viagra and fuck the shit out of her. Maker her nut on your dick then Make her lick it off. She secretly wants to be a slut so treat her accordingly
>>18303499
desu this doesnt solve the question of finding out without being an actual stalker about it, however if other girls can attest to this kind of solution it sounds fun enough to me kek
>>18303487
in my professional opinion, she is most certainly cheating
sorry about your luck, anon
>>18303487
Address the situation and state "if you won't talk about it im going to have to assume you're done" if she responds you get your answer and work it out or move the fuck on
>>18303487
She's probably cheating. And I don't think you can fix it. When a relationship is going well then a lot of those issues just aren't ... an issue... But take it from me, the more u try to fix is the worst I'll get... and under no circumstances should you marry this girl to fix it... again it makes it worse
>>18303556
I have tried, and considering I'm supposed to be the irrational one she just won't ever have a serious talk with me
I don't want to have to leave her but if it continues this way I will
>>18303487
Sounds fishy enough to assume she's cheating rather than being faithful. At least in my personal opinion.
Like the other anon said, demand you talk about it, state your worries, and if she refuses to talk say you are going to have to leave even though you don't want to. Lack of communication on one's feelings literally destroys relationships, and it sounds like your foundations are cracked already.
>>18303563
My ex pulled the same trick on me making me believe I was the irrational jealous boyfriend and when they fucked eventually she wrote me a message that it happened.
You have this gut feeling and it's getting too much and fucks you up. That's not how a relationship is supposed to feel like. I don't say this in order to tell you you're just paranoid, I say this because that's what I'd tell to my old self. To listen to that damn gut feeling and start to emotionally detach from this girl as fast as possible and then fuck right off. From what it sounds like she's already emotionally detached and doesn't give a shit about how you feel. I know she's your first and I know you love her but you are being played.
>>18303854
I'm going to confront her when she gets home, not looking forward to it as I can't stand conflict, sets off a whole bunch of my symptoms because of my Schizophrenia but I'm at the end of my rope
Sucks that it happened to you too, man
>>18303871
Please update us op
>>18303487
Update needed
Update: confronted her and she still refused to talk so I gave her an ultimatum saying I'll leave if she won't try to work out where we stand and she said leave then
I'm pretty down but at the same time I don't want to be stuck in a bitter atmosphere like that so I'm kinda relieved
>>18303487
>minimal sex, if any
>minimal physical contact like cuddling, kissing
>making fun, teasing you about your sex skill/physical appearance.
>>18304092
did you leave her?
OP here again, I went to sleep it off as it was late in Europe, I told her to pack her stuff and be gone by the end of the week once she has arrangements since the flat is in my name and I pay rent
>>18305246
You well, in my opinion, man. At least you don't have to live in an environment where you won't feel happy.
If I could turn the clock for 7 years, I wish I did the same as you atm.
>>18305246
Proud of you, dude. I've had bitches cheat on me like that too, and I couldn't do what you just did. You probably feel down right now, but you have self-respect. Things will get a lot better without this whore.