hey /adv/ I really like chubby girls/bbw and they like me back,

>>18300430
Why do you feel embarrassed about it?

>>18300434
Has something to do with me and society I think

>>18300440
Do you think people will perceive you as "less" because you are dating a fat girl?
Does it matter that much?

>>18300445
To the public and my acquaintances, not really.

But I'd feel uncomfortable showing her off on FB or to my family

>>18300452

Not the same Anon, but that's because you are focusing on a fetish. Because your only parameter right now is: "She has to be fat", then it's all you think people will see of her.

Try actually connecting with someone. If you care about them, whatever Facebook thinks will be irrelevant.

>>18300452
Why? Does your family care that much about how hot is the girl you are dating?
What's the difference between fb and "the public"?

>>18300452
Sounds like it's a fetish a not an acceptance. You don't like the girl, you like the fat on the girl. Just like some guys like dicks on their chicks but wouldn't share this with their family and friends.

Maybe find someone you like for who they are and don't factor their body into the equation. Should they be chubby/ fat, it wouldn't matter at that point because you like them, not their body...

Unless your family, friends, and co-workers start making comments about the health and size of your partner. Then it gets pretty hard. A girl being thin is expected like a guy having a job.

>>18300457
You're on to something, anon. Never dated a fat girl long term so maybe I gotta sort that shit out and see her like any other girl I'd want to date.

>>18300458
Maybe I just care too much about "muh image" around people who see me regularly. No one's ever outright judged me for who I'm attracted to except some nasty ex of mine.

>>18300457
>>18300464
Disagree with this stuff. Just because you narrow your dating pool down to "fat women" doesn't mean you don't give a shit about their personality. Most people have narrowed their dating pool down to "no fat women" or even "slender/fit women" and no one would say that you apparently don't care about who they are if you have criteria in order to be attracted to someone.

As a chubby chaser this drives me up the wall as well. It's like as soon as I tell people I'm into heavier folks as well, they point random chubby people out to me and seem to expect me to pass out from excitement. No. If it's that big a group then someone technically being a part of that doesn't matter much.

I guess I do agree if it's the extreme stuff and OP would only be looking for women >200lbs or whatever. But just liking fat people doesn't mean relationships are nothing but a sexual fetish.

>>18300467
I can understand what you feel, but it's really just an insecurity of yours that you have to get over.
Connect personally, learn to love and value the girl as a person and judge how happy that relationship makes you.

I am a fairly attractive girl but my boyfriend is not as attractive as me. I got some really nasty comments and felt very uncomfortable for a while, when we started dating.
Ultimately I thought about it and I understand that he makes me happy as no one else ever did before and what other people think is not as important as what I personally feel.
It has to come for you. No one valuable would judge you for dating someone they don't like physically. If a fat girl makes you happy and you feel attracted to them, then don't care about it.

>>18300491
>But just liking fat people doesn't mean relationships are nothing but a sexual fetish.

Of course not. We were talking about him, not every single person thathas the fetish. I get defending your lifestyle, but you are jumping the gun here.

I was thins one >>18300457, and I was only talking about him.

>>18300510
>your lifestyle
Kek.

But seriously, I didn't mean to sound hostile, I just grabbed the chance to add my post because this is a sentiment I run into all the time and I can completely understand the train of reasoning if it's not a turn on you're familiar with yourself.

Having said that I mean, I don't really see any signs that OP doesn't care about anything else other than only talking about the actual issue.
In an ideal world no one would ever feel ashamed to show off someone they think is grand, but in practice people are often insecure, young, petty, shallow, arrogant, whatever and DO care about what others think. Whether that's being afraid that they will think OP doesn't like fat women and just can't do any better, or that they realize that actually yeah, he is very much into them.
You always tend to overthink those things when you are personally involved, and feel like people can infer more than they can. Regardless of (IDEALLY, of course) falling for someone as a person, the fact that this hypothetical girlfriend would be fat has to do with part of OP that is private, graphic, unsettling to many people etc. That takes a moment to get used to in a family context.

>>18300521

>You're on to something, anon. Never dated a fat girl long term so maybe I gotta sort that shit out and see her like any other girl I'd want to date.

He seems to think our assesment is fair.

Again, I get that you are defensive, but you are on 4chan. Most of us have another tab open with porn that would make our mothers blush.

OP is fine with what we had to say, and we are not passing judgement on you. Chill.

>>18300528
OP here
I do agree that a fetish is at least present in the situation. But I see a beautiful person on the inside, which is why I'm hesitant to go forward if I'm not gonna be at my best like I would with any other girl.

I'm sure it wouldn't hurt to go on a few dates with her and see if I can overcome this nasty feeling over time.

>>18300491
Yes, it does. You just said you if you narrow it now, you're specifically focusing on their body instead of personality just because you can filter them by personality. It's the bullshit easy route for loser guys to take because it comes with the assumption that fat girls are going to be better people/ put out easier because they aren't skinny, which isn't true at all.

Maybe it wouldn't drive you up the wall if you didn't call yourself a chubby chaser and try to defend it at the same time. If you like it, you like it. No need to constantly try to defend something you have confidence in unless you're actually insecure about where that confidence stems from. All it is, is a fetish. The guys who only go for fit women aren't called anything because that's the sane way to be.

>I'm the normal kind of crazy, respect it!

No.

Let me make this clear: if you make an effort to constantly make a separation between women in general and, say, fat/ black women, yet swear you're "into them" and it's not a fetish; try searching up porn of these things without using the specific key words you are to make them seem like another species/ flavour of human.

It's like people don't hear what they're inferring themselves when they speak.

>>18300430
Can't you just go for a reasonably chubby girl? Is it that hard?

>>18300430
I was dating a fat girl for a long time. If youre uncomfortable with it now, it's only going to get worse.

>>18300430
get fat yourself. Then nobody will think it's a fetish anymore. they will just think it's cute.