Getting bf into anal

find another one

He knows that your asshole is dirty as fuck. Leave him alone and don't ever suggest dirty shit like that again slut

Tell him pussy is faggots.

>>18296469


put a dildo in and imagine

>>18296475
Nope. This isn't a deal breaker, just an annoyance.

>>18296489
It's no better or worse than any other healthy person who partakes in good hygiene. Seeing that most people are fine with that, this thread exists.

>>18296494
Heheh.

>>18296495
Mastrubation is great, but I was hoping for some actually rewarding sex. It's awkward if you have to pretend it's not a chore. I'm awful at lying.

>>18296469
Try to clean up even if he hasn't shown interest. Maybe his mental image of "cleaning up" isn't all that clean, and seeing it actually take effect will change his mind? Not sure how he'll see it though

>>18296512
He's kind of obsessive about that sort of thing. He wouldn't eat leftovers until I moved in because he's terrified of food spoiling in the fridge. Stuff like that.

First bit of reasonable advice, though, so I'll try it.

just wait until he falls asleep and gets a boner, then mount him. he's a white male and it's the current year, literally no one will believe him if he cries rape.

>>18296469
You can combine brutal honesty with coercion.
>Buddy, you are great boyfriend, but the sex is currently a chore for me. So either you stop being so dense, man up and finally try something new with me in bed (like anal) or you will be looking for new girl to fuck in no time.

Sounds good enough to you?

>>18296694
Sociopath.

OP YOU'RE A BAD PERSON

>>18296694
This

Seriously I can't understand what keeps a person in a relationship with someone who doesn't make them cum...

>>18296694
>>18297290
I won't leave, but I will just straight-up say it, if it will do any good. Sex isn't really the cause or root of this relationship.

It's more that I find the situation of being required to lie, badly, to not hurt his feelings, is something I hate. I generally never do that for people because the tradeoff is rarely worth it. I would like to replace this situation for one where a lie would, enjoyably, not be needed.

As-is, I've told him that PIV doesn't do a lot for me, but this just makes an unenjoyable thing take longer because my lack of enjoyment makes him less into it. Thus the awkward lying that really shouldn't work as well as it has.

>>18297132
For what? Not liking an experience that feels like nothing? In the beginning, for a few months, it hurt a lot. I have a high pain tolerance according to anyone I've made give me a back rub, but I don't get anything out of straight-up pain. Now, it doesn't feeling like anything at all. Like sticking some fingers in your cheek, but proportionately larger and it's your crotch. It's not bad anymore, but it's also not good?

>>18298051
do neither of you know where your clit is?

>>18298155
Do you? We're talking PIV, dumbass

>>18298165
Oh hun. It sounds like you really don't know how to have good sex. Sex is not, or shouldn't be, Insert dick, thrust repeatedly, the end. There's so much more to it than that. Do you have enough foreplay to get you ready? Does he masturbate you while he's in you? Does he know what turns you on?

>>18298165
And? Did you get FGM'ed as kid?

>>18298180
This ffs...

>>18298039
Great way how to do relationship. Piling lies on lies. Way to go op. You dont really want him as a bf, do you?

Also
>hurt his feelings
Do you know what is great on relationships? That even if your partner hurts your ego/feelings, they still stay there for you, give you emotional support and help you rebuild it in order for you to become bettet version of yourself.

Stop being scared of his feelings. He needs kick in his ass to realize how bad at sex he is so you can TEACH him how to do it right.
>what if he never recovers from it
Then he is fucking crybaby not worthy of your time at all.

Stop prolonging inevitable and start doing something to fix your / his life.

Good luck op, you gonna need it.

>>18298180
Penis. In. Vagina. That is what OP is talking about sweety, the part where her man puts his dick in her. That's what this whole thread is about--she wants to enjoy the penetrative part more.

Need to work on that reading comp, buddy boy

>>18298039
>Sex isn't really the cause or root of this relationship

None should be, but if you don't fullfill your urges, you'll either turn into a bitter woman, or at least think of cheating him...

Seriously, if you're not enjoying it, either improve your game (masturbate while he dicks you or ask him to do it), or force him to improve his

>>18298199

Not him, but jesus, you DO know you can stimulate a clitoris while penetrating, right???

Sex-ed should include practical tests and retain in your grade if you fail, jesus...

>>18298199
I feel sorry for anyone you've ever had sex with. You act like a woman should just lie there while a man moves his dick back and forth inside her. PIV can and should feel good, but ONLY if both partners know how to do it properly, and it sounds like OP doesn't.

>>18298155
>>18298180
Yes, we both know about clits. I make good use of this knowledge, but have no interest in getting him to do an inevitability poor job of it. He has many life skills, but fine motor control isn't one of them. I've learned from experience to not let him handle any blade larger than a paring knife in the kitchen. It's that bad. He's clever, but dex is his dump stat.

>>18298194
It's less that I tried honesty in the beginning, and more that I bluntly told him that sex was awful because I don't really have much of a filter at all. He made PIV a necessary relationship condition, so I ended up just becoming conditioned to wanting sex to be over as soon as possible because pain. It was a raw deal, and I thoroughly resented it, but as time went on he took less time and it felt less bad. Now that it's an entirely neutral state, and "throwing things off" doesn't translate to fifteen extra minutes of "jesus fuck why", I have commented on my continued disinterest. This just leads to him half-assedly attempting to punch my nerveless vagina with his dick in different ways that actually feel kind of bad again? I tell him to cut it out, he can't go back to the prior status quo because any and all mood on his end has been thoroughly murdered, and then life is pointlessly awkward for everyone.

A lot of times in life, anon, pointing out that a problem exists doesn't fix anything. It just adds social steps that make life harder. People feel obligated to pretend to be worried, and then you have to let their ineffectiveness spiral ever downwards or pretend that they solved the problem. Both ways of ending the interaction (that is still your fault for creating in the first place) are soul-crushingly awkward and pointless. A lot of the time, all you can do is arrange circumstances around people to make their predictable actions less awful.

>>18298297
Which leads up to my actual point!

If he did the exact same thing he always does, but in my ass, I'd actually like it!

Therefore, the creation of this thread.

Some good advice has been dispensed, but most of you seem obsessed with non-fixes.

>>18298267
I'm sure it would feel good on someone with a differently wired vagina. I've played around with it a lot during mastrubation, but have come to the solid conclusion that it feels nothing. Now, if I am going about pleasing myself, I just ignore it. Unfortunately, it is the only thing my boyfriend is interested in.

>>18298297
Is there something stopping you from touching your own clit?

Also, make him eat your ass. That'll get him used to your butthole. Also, post pictures of it so we can see what he's going to have to work with.

>>18298310
>I haven't had anal with him
>but I know it'll feel better
You come to this conclusion how? Have you have anal before? Has piv with previous boyfriends also been as unpleasant as you're making it out?

>nerveless vagina
this really seems like a bait thread

>>18298297
Lol ok.

Few tips?
Tried different positions? Cowgirl, doggy style etc?
Tried to rub your clit while he humps you?
Tried to roleplay? Call him daddy?
Foreplay? Hugging kissing whispering nonsence?
Use your imagination?

Whatever you do, please dont pretend you enjoy piv if it is not the case. There are other forms of sex.

Be assertive. Demand obedience. Order him around, take no excuses. Who knows, maybe you will be into dom/sub play.

Still i am not sure how do you know anal will be better than piv.

>>18298297
Shit your bf sounds AWFUL in bed, and you too complexed with your vagina wiring... no wonder you're having a bad time

>>18298323
Because while mastrubating I play with my clit and ass. Obviously.

Wish it was bait. I was using hyperbole, but the truth isn't that far off. It hurt a lot, and now it feels like nothing really.

>>18298325
Thanks for the thoughtful response. I'll try some things off the list.

As I said, I mastrubate. It's not that hard to put two and two together.

>>18298343
Yep. Some column A, some column B. It's a mess.

>>18298322
Mostly the positions we usually do. I don't know what to do with a full minute of eye contact, never mind 45 minutes, so that ends up with positions that usually make touching my clit difficult. Also, me mastrubating would probably throw the rhythm off and make things take longer. That was my reasoning earlier on, and I just got used to it, I suppose. I'll see what I can do now.

>>18298376
>thanks for the thoughtful responce
It always amazes me how pointing basic knowledge sometimes works.

Op, look at some amateur porno to get idea how to sex properly. Notice how they ussually hug each other, staring into each other eyes, kissing themselves while one humps very slowly the other, using their hands to grope various parts of their bodies while moaning quietly to not wake up kids. Sex with loving partner is like 50% about the emotions and being close to each other, pleasuring your partner, enjoying it. Even in missionarry position you as a female has role to play.

Some girls have to learn how to let go and enjoy it. Some needs to learn proper technique their partner.

Dont lose hope and improve youraelf and him. Have fun!

>>18296469
Have you asked him to play with your ass while fooling around?

>>18298386
Don't stare him down the entire time? It is okay to close your eyes or look elsewhere. And do you not change position the entire time? Unless it's a quicky, that seems.... odd to me.

I'm also not sure what positions you're talking about that would restrict access to your own vagina, unless he is literally laying on top of you.

my gf is getting tired of vaginal sex but detests the idea of buttstuff. wanna take her place?

>>18296611

lol oh no that's terrible. don't listen to this troll, anon.

>>18299386

>Getting tired of vag sex
>Won't do buttstuff

You probably are doing it wrong. Like, as in, not eating her out or lubing or making it good for her. Sad.

>>18298297

This makes me really sad to read. Fix this, anon. You can't live so terribly ugh you owe it to yourself. ORGASM!!! I WILL ORGASM EXTRA HARD FOR YOU AND ALL THE WOMEN OUT THERE NEXT TIME I FUCK WHICH WILL BE IN A FEW HOURS.

>>18298392

>amateur porno=sex properly

lol wut. Do you need to get your head (or ass) checked? tf is wrong with you