Saviour Complex?

Cont Pt 2

It gets me wondering if there's a pattern to this kind of thing, like it's some sort of complex or extensive validation mechanism?

I tend to have a few rules about things like this; I don't try and change people that have landed themselves in shit with gambling, drugs, drinking etc. I think that's well beyond my means. I still try to ensure I have enough, or have the prospect of having enough (like if it means I can't buy something this week and it has to wait 2 weeks, I'm kind of ok with that).

I feel like there are lots of people that have situations that they can't really change, and I dunno, I guess I don't want them to go through that alone? I want them to have some happiness, to feel like someone somewhere really cares that they're ok.

If nothing else, it's worrying that I have some sort of instinct to seek out vulnerable people, I don't wanna become part of the problem.

B-Bump

What is the question tho

>>18294401
Do you think that my behaviour is weird or unhealthy by wanting to help these people? Like am I just collecting people in bad situations, or do you think it's ok, or what?

>head frozen in time
>that one night before and morning after
>night before: staying late in the office unpaid (for months) desperate to finish this one guy's legal petition
>morning after: court rejected the petition for non-payment of fees
>"Are you sure? I swiped the debit card myself in person at the clerk's window. The client deposited the money for the fees into that business account just hours prior."
>Turned out the bitch who stole everything stole that too
>Family man who desperately needed bankruptcy protection couldn't get it

Don't try to save everyone; you'll just get a closer look at how evil the world can really be.
Not much else to share besides that.

>>18294543
No it's pretty normal to care about people around you but it's unhealthy to not know your limits and overcommitting to everyone

>>18294554
Damn Anon, I'm sorry to hear that. I guess that's what I'm a little afraid of, but I feel like as long as these people aren't fucking themselves up heavily, they deserve some happiness.

>>18293905
>demonstrates normal human empathy and compassion
>does something about it

That is far from a complex... Why would you even think that, you just give a fuck.


Anyway my general advice is you cant help them. They need professional medical care and their own realisations. The best you can do is encourage them to see a doctor. Let them know help exists.

But nagging people and giving information straight up does literally nothing to help. All you can do is be a friend. Exist in their lives and act normally and be there for them, dont judge, dont offer unsolicited advice, and if they ask your opinion give it.

But dont tell them how to be better. If they ask tell them to figure it out themselves, and if they complain about their own short comings problems or issues, say "professional help exists. Maybe you should look into it."

Source:

Me. I have a pretty decent psychology education. Im not a doctor or an expert but i know a lot more than most people. And i know how to help people like this and still i say to them "go see a doctor." or "you already know what the right answer is. You have to do it yourself."

>>18294757
Yeah I don't really want to be forcing them to change their lives, I just want to be there and encourage them to live with some normality. You know I want them to not feel afraid of going outside, or having friends, I want them to laugh a little.