What am I doing wrong?

Looks good on paper, OP.

why not ask your circle of friends to intoduce you to some fellas, expand your group of friends, get out a bit more to activities, clubs etc, and try and meet some people that are not permanently glued to sleazy dating apps looking for a quick shag.

sports, hobbies, book club, volunteering etc etc. widen your horizons a bit.

just my two cents.

good luck!

>>18291035
You are 20lb over weight. My ex was your height, and 120lb. This is true for everyone, this is the defacto advice on fit and r9k, lose the weight. Losing the weight will basically open the door to more guys for you to pick from, including more higher quality guys who have the personality qualities you care about and the intellect you want.

Tell us more about your relationship? That's 9 years of your formative years spent with a significant someone. We're basically missing half of who you are.

>>18291035
The way you talk about yourself comes off as high strung.

>>18291071
Nah, just someone about to have a breakdrown from over analyzing themselves. Also I'm getting a "lots of porn binging" vibe.

>>18291060

OP works out, so she probably has muscle to explain the weight. Being skinny and being fit are two different things, so a 20lb variation in weigh doesn't necessarily mean the problem here is her looks. BMI rarely tells the whole story. Just pointing out.

>>18291035
You're trying to meet people the wrong way, but honestly I don't know the right way for you. If I knew I might bother doing it myself.

Perhaps find and join a local book or debate club, that should set a first bar to intellect - see whether those networks might yield a partner.

But, if intellectual stimulation is high on your list you may have to broaden your standards for physical attraction. Also, age bracket in all probability.

>>18291056
I tried to meet people through my friends but they're not really similar to me so dates are awkward because they expect someone like my friends (extroverted, bubbly party girls) and I am a bookish nerd who goes on 4chan.
I might take some new activities like volunteering, tho. I wanted to start in October.

>>18291060
I don't think I am overweight? Last time they measured my body fat was a year ago but it was around 23%, which is pretty healthy for a girl.
I work out and eat very healthy, I don't even know how I'd lose 20 lbs unless I starved myself while laying in bed.

>>18291071
I realised after I posted. English is not my first language and I often have trouble conveying the right tone. I'm sorry.

>>18291083
>Perhaps find and join a local book or debate club
That's a really good idea, thank you.

I don't think I have excessive standards when it comes to looks, I find most guys at least somewhat attractive. As long as he's somewhat in shape, not deformed and well kept, I don't care.
Probably yeah, I'll have to broaden the age bracket.

>>18291063
I'll reply to you in a new post because it will take me ages to write. Heh.

>>18291115
best of luck, anonette!

OP I know what you're saying about the lack of connection in online dating, but keep in mind that people tend to be awkward and can't quite open up on the first dates; at least that's the case with me. My friends would say I'm a person of diverse interests and definitely can be I 'intellectually stimulating', but I'm not sure how much of it shows when I'm stressed and tense.

I did have a very interesting date with a girl from tinder who was a real erudite, sadly she was overweight and I didn't feel physical attraction to her.

>>18291115

Are you in the UK?

>>18291073
I watched porn for the first time last June and I really don't like most of it.
But I do overanalyse myself.

>>18291063
We met when I was 14 and he was 16. We did some extracurricular activities together.
He was a very smart guy. I really loved talking to him and never felt bored, we were extremely intellectually compatible - shared interests, could debate about politics or the news for hours. He had a very fine taste for art and literature, which was nice as well.
We travelled a lot, basically spent whole summers with a backpack across Europe. We were pretty broke but we enjoyed ourselves and worked our ass off all year to go. It really fuelled our relationship.
We were highly competitive, used to work out together all the time, pushed each other in our career.
Emotionally we had some issues because I'm not really great at expressing my feelings and he's a terrible listener, plus he was a bit hot headed. Over time it improved, but we still had stupid arguments. We always took a lot of care of each other, tho. He was a very loving and romantic guy.
He was definitely my best friend other than my boyfriend. Family loved him, friends loved him too.
We moved in together when I was 18, lived together for nearly 5 years. We were each other's first and only.

He got a job in another country, but we tried long distance. After 3 months he got drunk one night and cheated on me.
He told me immediately and begged for forgiveness but I couldn't trust him anymore, especially in a long distance, and we broke up after 3 weeks of drama.

>>18291146
L O N D O N

>>18291147
Lol, you gave up that because he slept with another girl? Really?

He goes from having a constant supply of pussy to being dry for 3 months and you "can't trust" him? Are you for real? I'm sorry I actually came in here trying to be nice but you give up that and you still complain you're single. lol.

You won't find someone you're looking for because there is no someone you're looking for. Even with a very mature person that had similar amounts of experience being a couple, it would take you at least 2 years to get back to the level of "sync"-ness that you had with your old boyfriend. Simply put, who you want takes time and you can't get him because he would need building up from another woman and most women who build that kind of person you're looking for up fight tooth and nail to keep him. Except you of course, you gave yours up for free to some random bitches. Good job!

>>18291136
Thank you, anon :)

>>18291137
I didn't really even go on many dates with guys I met online. As bitchy as it will sound, most people bored me through text already. The fucking emojis, all the pick up lines/standard questions and the shitty grammar.
I went out with guys I met in real life or who were friends of friends but I had issues finding someone I click with.

>>18291146
Nope, continental Europe.

>>18291158
>shitty grammar
>german detected

>>18291156
Just to add to this, maybe you thought you'd get to live out youth as a cock carousel riding slut? I mean I'd completely understand if you did, that is one thing that pops up after 24, the realization that you should have had waaaaay more sex with waaaay more people but boy did it backfire for you.

Oh man, I almost feel sad for you but then I also feel bad for your bf because for 9 years he builds "you" up and you throw it out for this little shit. 9 years. Fuck, you make mine look small. I'm actually done for the day, I have entirely been satisfied of 4chinz drama. My autism has been quelled. I am free to move on. Thank you dumb Anon, may you never realize what you did. Byeeee

>>18291115

Ignore the anon telling you to lose weight - you sound very healthy and if you workout that much, chances are you will have a decent build and muscle. Although it's quite normal to be 120lbs at 5ft7, you could probably be up to 150lbs and carry the weight well (not look fat).

In regards to your issues - it might be worth noting your interests and trying to meet people who share them, who move in the same circles so to speak. You sound almost exactly like me and it took me a long time to meet somebody who I genuinely enjoy being with.

Never drop your standards though.

>>18291156
We saw each other on weekends. We were an hour and half of plane apart, and bless ryanair tickets are cheap.
He didn't really have to wait for months to get his dick sucked.
And, no - I can't trust someone who cannot spend 5 days alone without cheating on me. I tried, but I felt sick in the stomach every time he went out.

>>18291156

He cheated on her and she chose to end the relationship.

Would you stay with a girl if she fucked another guy when she was away from you? You know what that makes you, right?

>>18291164
Weak bait
>>18291035
Hang out around universities, museums and libraries. Join book clubs or painting classes.

>>18291170
Thank you, you're very kind.
I'm glad you're happy with someone you love, gives me some hope.

>>18291178
>Hang out around universities
I still go to uni (med student) but I feel uncomfortable dating people in my class because it'd be awkward to work together if things didn't work out.

> Join book clubs or painting classes.
I'll look if there's a book club. I have no talent for painting tho.

>>18291187
Date someone in litterature, engineering or anything else then!

>>18291200
I'll try. I just don't know how to meet them.
I might go to some more university-related things, so maybe I'll meet someone.

>>18291187

No problem - it's definitely worth the wait in my opinion. We sound very similar from how you've described yourself - I'm a bit odd but super open and genuine when you get to know me and when I click with someone.

You sound amazing though, med student, keeping fit, down to earth and interesting. I'm sure you'll meet someone soon :)

>>18291227
Hey man, maybe she met you already, haha xD

>>18291227
The joys of being a chronically insomniac person. I have really time to do everything since I sleep barely 5 hours per night.

Thank you. You're probably one of the nicest people who ever replied to me on here!

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>>18291156

>>18291158
>Continental Europe
I bet you're from Poland
>OP exposed
t. Pole

>>18291035
Nothing is wrong with you and understand you are impatient but don't be. Sounds like you have it together and finding a guy that has it together are few but they are out there. Just relax and it will happen.

>>18292048
>>18291161

Nope and nope.

My last date was half pole, raised in Germany tho so it's somewhat creepy.