The girl I used to be in love with is now in an relationship

You don't know the situation. You were in love with her, it's more likely that you're convinced her new boyfriend is an asshole out of spite than him making her do this.

>>18290540
Like I said, it's not just me that she's cut out of her life. If it were I could understand. The general consensus is that this guy is a lying, manipulative asshole.

The last message she sent me reads as follows:
"Its kinda new and different to say the least. Being wrapped around someone's finger while slowly losing control is different for me. All I can say is I am not acting like myself at all. You're not the only one that is noticing. I am talking less and less to my room mates and family. But we can't really talk anymore like we used to. It's inappropriate for me to talk to anyone else while I am dating this guy. Take care of yourself, namaste friend".

Again, if it were just me I'd understand, but we all know that isolating someone is step 1) of an abusive relationship.

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing". This plays over in my head and it's been rotting away at me for the best part of a year.

>>18290535
>The girl I used to be in love with

"Used to be" She is literally none of your business now. Drop your "white knight" fantasy of saving her.

>>18290600
this

>The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing
That's a bullshit slogan that can't be applied in real life. I don't see you doing anything about those starving children in Africa either. Or about the millions of cases of domestic violence out there. And I'm sure there were many cases of injustice you witnessed in your life, but you didn't care about them or didn't even notice them, because you weren't emotionally invested in any of them. You only care about this one particular case because you still have feelings for her and deep down you want to have her back. It's not because you're some avatar of good morals and defender of the oppressed, it's because of your selfish desires and you lie yourself with this morality issue.

She didn't even ask for your help, but you presumed she wants it anyway. Assuming that you know better than her whether that relationship is good for her is pretty disrespectful, actually. Maybe she is in an abusive relationship maybe she's not, but it's none of your business. Yes, trying to do something about it will make you look like a giant sperglord.

>tfw no qt sub gf to abuse and isolate until you are the center of her world

It's not your place to do anything. I feel for you anon, a girl I used to date is in a similar situation now and as much as it sucks, you need to live your life and not get involved in her problems, no matter how much you want to.

Ultimately if she is in an abusive relationship, she's the only one who can decide to get herself out of it. If she can't pull herself away from him with the resources already available to her, nothing is going to change with your presence in the situation.