Relationship feels

>>18275426
From this little glimpse what does this tell you? If feels as though I just want to ask, what should I do? Is it possible to find another person to have such an emotional bond with like I have with her? Is what we have special because it makes me cry thinking about losing it? Should I care what happens to her, and my reaction to caring so much - should that be a sign that I should stay? Will I ever be able to get over our relationship because its defined me the last 4 years? If I break up with her and never find that again would it have been worth it? What are the chances are that I'm being emotionally abused and am just attached to this through sex and emotions rather then the reality?

tl;dr been together for 4 years with girl who seems to be not right for me should I break up with her even though we are still very emotionally in love and will I ever find that again. There was more to this but I deleted by accident.

Holy shit I see no upsides to this. Even the sex an't be worth it because at least you can pay a hooker to get laid.

>>18275449
I see the irrationality of it but I can't see my life without her and I feel like there's something special there, we are like really good friends, it feels like something special is that just it a feeling built by emotional and chemical reactions? Oh and I really want to fuck other women, is that just my balls? I'm extremely confused on what to do.

>>18275426
self-bump need something, I'm desperate.

Either you break up or you give her chances to change and tell her you want your relationship to grow but it won't if she won't change.

>>18275514
I did this 2 years ago, she went to college then dropped out because of "anxiety" issues even though she functions fine.

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>>18275503
Alright OP I'll bite

It seems like she is holding you back. Furthermore, it seems the only reason you are with her is because you are scared that you wont find another relationship that has what you have currently. I'm almost certain that you will find something better if you leave her. Where does this road you're on now take you? She continues to be a deadbeat and keeps taking advantage of you. You marry her and your life still sucks.

It sucks that she has a shit home situation but her happiness isn't your responsibility. You can care for her but it shouldn't get in the way of your happiness and life. Also, defining yourself by a relationship is always a horrible idea. It will hurt and it will be scary when you break up with her. Part of your identity is attached to her because you made it that way. However, it will only get harder if you continue to be with her.

Think of it this way, what if you break up and you find an even better girl? You'd never know if you keep going on this track.

>>18275533
I have this assumption aswell but I am just so mortified at her life prospects, she is so alone and isolated I don't know what I can do, it seems that I'm her life but is it really? Is she just leeching off my emotions and defining herself off that as well? Also she is literally my first relationship ever I thought up until now that it was an extremely special coincidence that fate brought me to her and we had a lot in common, she is loyal and loving but is that enough? Is it a farce? I can't pinpoint my feelings.

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>>18275552
I don't think I'll keep responding because these types of posts always go around in circles but I'll tell you what I think you need to do.

She is your first relationship so you have no other experience. That means that you really have nothing to compare her to. That means that chances are you think things are a lot better than they are. I don't know if its a farce or not, probably not, hopefully not.

Just because her life sucks that means you can't leave her? Assume she likes you and all her emotions are genuine? What now? Are you going to marry this girl now because you can't break up. Sometime you have to prioritize yourself. I think it would be best if you got back into dating. Experience other women and focus on yourself. It is for the best desu.

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>>18275566
I am with you on this, but like you rightly pointed out, I'm terrified and don't know what it'll be like, I know you're right and I've come to the same conclusion but...I just don't know.

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>>18275570
Alright, have fun being with her for the rest of your life

>>18275576
I never said that, we've already talked about breaking up and it's in the works but I just wanted to get other peoples opinions, thanks for the advice anon.

Stay with the girl and save her. She probably doesn't have anywhere to go. She needs you man. But move out from your parents as soon as you can and make an independet life

>>18275468
OP break up with her. Structures like your relationship seem brilliant at first, but they soon become shackles.
A relationship is never meant to be one-sided and the reason you are attatched to her is because you are uncertain of the future. I say you first stabilize and improve your career and then find a woman who actually loves you and can depend on herself.