am I gay

>>18272068

maybe. maybe you're bi. maybe you're confused. maybe this is your 'exception'.

lets start with confusion. we are told taught that closeness between males is a childish thing, and after a certain age aren't allowed to have it. a lot of us as adults think we are close to our friends but we often have arbitrary walls up. it is our natural instinct to hug, squeeze, cuddle and kiss. You would kiss a male dog on the forehead and thats not weird, but if you kissed your male friend on the cheek, suddenly its gay. its okay to cuddle with ANY animal that you can keep as a pet, but wrap your arms around a guy for more than ten seconds and thats wrong.

why? no reason. its just one of the arbitrary rules society has created and with gays becoming more commonplace its actually gotten worse. yes, gays being out in the open has made male bonding worse. because back in the day when gays werent so commonplace there was nothing to suspect people of. if you felt affection for a man it wans't that weird. but now gays are everywhere. and as much as we say its okay, there is an agging feeling in our head that says its bad, case and point your fucking post, you might have caught feelings for someone but you're upset and think that its ruined you because of his genitalia.

so we accept others who are gay but the thought of being gay our selves is horrifying. so as a result we dont do anything that involves too much male to male contact, because what if it makes us gay? what if we like it? does that mean were gay? does that mean life is over?

so you meet someone new, and you want to get to know him more, he seems really cool. cool enough that the idea of hugging him seems exciting. he is someone you admire.

>>18272095

does that make you gay? maybe not. maybe society has told you that wnating anything more than just some one to hang out with casually instantly means you want to fuck him in the ass. but you don't. you want to gte to know him. you want to get closer to him. you maybe even want to hug him, hold him, and kiss him maybe.

but that doesn't mean you want to have sex wtih him. it just means you want a closer relationship with him and society and your mind is telling you that the only way that is allowed is if you're a homosexual, and its not.

there's growing trend of platonic male cuddlers in europe because women are becoming increasingly difficult to date, so its easier just to cuddle with a close male friend.

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>>18272096

so remember that just because you have a bit of a 'man crush' doesn't mean you're gay.

but it doesn't mean you're /not/ gay either. for a lot of homosexuals they kinda just repressed most of their urges for years and years. i mean if you grow up being told your straight, becuase thats what society and your parents all assumed, and then you learn that being gay is negative, even if people claim they're 'okay with it' then you are naturally going to assume you are straight. and those weird feelings you sometimes have for guys? thats just normal stuff that has nothing to do with being gay.

me myself, i watched gay porn 29 days out of the month, and then on the 30th day would say 'wow ive been watching a lot of gay porn lately, i should switch it up'. then id watch straight porn that night just to prove ot myself that i was straight.

i had some how rationalized in my teenage brain that everyone looks at gay porn 'once in a while' and it was just like masturbating it self: something people just didn't admit to doing so publicly.

so a lot of us have this repressed gayness and dont quite realize were gay and stlil manage to date girls for years an years because despite what straight guys claim about them having NO attraction to other men, gay guys can almost universally agree that they've had sex or attraction to women and it was just fine. it just wasn't 'right' in their gut and something felt off.

so finally oyu meet some guy, some guy that brings it out of you, some guy that makes you say 'wow, what if im gay?' and then you try it out and you like it, and then one day you look back and realize you were reallly fucking gay the entire time and you just didn't realize it until he forced you to acknowledge it.

>>18272095
>>18272096
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and finally the 'exception'.

maybe you never had any inkling at all towards guys. like nothing, you didn't compensate or anything theres just never been any attraction repressed or otherwise.

but this guy makes you curious. so you sleep wtih him., and you like it. but then things go south and you 'break up'. and then you ne
does that make you gay? maybe not. maybe society has told you that wnating anything more than just some one to hang out with casually instantly means you want to fuck him in the ass. but you don't. you want to gte to know him. you want to get closer to him. you maybe even want to hug him, hold him, and kiss him maybe.

but that doesn't mean you want to have sex wtih him. it just means you want a closer relationship with him and society and your mind is telling you that the only way that is allowed is if you're a homosexual, and its not.

there's growing trend of platonic male cuddlers in europe because women are becoming increasingly difficult to date, so its easier just to cuddle with a close male friend. never get that urge again, at least not for a very long time, and you continue dating women and you're fine and happy.

what was that? well he was your 'exception'. this happens more than others admit.

have you ever dated a girl that wasn't quite your type? like maybe she was even ugly, and not on par with the kind of girl you normally date, but something about her REALLY made you want her and you could never figure it out? it was just natural chemistry between two people, something that existed regardless of what they looked like.

if that could happen with you and someone of the opposite sex you'd normally find undesirable, why couldn't it happen with the same sex? sometimes the pheremones they give off are just the right kind, despite them being the gender you aren't used to. and you just are drawn to them. and maybe they're drawn to you.

but that leads us to the most important question. is HE gay?

>>18272068
I had the same situation back when i was in senior. I had this male friend who was very close to me. We hang out, eat together, and even watch a movie together. Sounds like a date but we both know that its not. But then I realize that I want to be with him everytime. I am always thinking of him and cant get him out of my head. I feel safe whenever were together. But then one day. He introduced me to his gf and it broke my heart so much. But at the same time I am very happy for him. I just accepted the fact that my obessesion for him doesnt work like what im expecting cause it obviously gayish to have a relarionship with him. I just get rid of my feelings for him and turned my attention for women. And it worked because i know in myself that I am straight. Its just weird that I experienced an affection for a guy. Just for him because it never happened with other guys.

>>18272068
Of course you're a fag. Embrace it.