How to help

>>18263603
You can't make that sort of post without more detail. You lead them on for a year? Woman do that shit all the time, it ain't nothin special.

why did you lead them on?

>>18263603
Just stop, leave them alone. They've probably had enough of your bullshit and want nothing more to do with you. There's no way they'll know if anything you say to them is sincere, so it'll only torment them more.

>>18263617
>>18263619

I guess a more detailed explanation of the whole situation is this:
>Jan 2016, met a guy, Richard. Started a fwb arrangement with them
>April 2016, met the guy who this post is about, Justin. Slept with him and told him I don't want a relationship
>July 2016, feel like Justin is getting too close, tell him that there is no future here. Didn't mention anything about Richard.
>Throughout 2016, I'm seeing both. Richard purely sexually, Justin and I going on dates. I was told by friends that I shouldn't mention anything about the other unless explicitly asked.
>February 2017, realise I'm developing feelings for Justin, the dating was still continuing. Richard was still in the picture.
> March 2017, Richard confesses feelings and I break it off
>Now Tell Justin that I had been seeing Richard the whole time. He's adamant that we had a conversation about us being exclusive and that I had said we were. I have no recollection of this. I know I was purposely avoidant when he asked me what I was doing on nights I spent with Richard. So I know to that extent I was omitting the truth to flat out lying.

I don't know if that helps clarify the situation.

>>18263622
I thought this would be the case. Which is why I have not reached out to him. He has said that he's been wanting to kill himself over the situation, which is why I want to do anything to help give him closure, because a good person like him does not deserve to die

>>18263647
>>18263653
I suppose if he's been contacting you it's probably alright to send it. Hopefully it doesn't end in him necking himself!

>>18263675
I was hoping for some more opinions, but time matters at the moment, so I'll see what happens. I hope nothing bad.

>>18263718
You picked a bad time, the Americans are asleep so /adv/ is dead.

>>18263603
Your version is far too egotistical. By taking blame you're taking credit for imagined power over him, and by deciding unilaterally what's best for him you may be denying him closure.

Limit yourself to "I feel really bad about the way I treated you, and if talking about it will help, let's meet."

If you make contact, let HIM set the agenda. Follow his lead, just making sure you get in an apology and that (if this is what you want) you make it clear that starting up the relationship is not in the cards.

And then pay it forward. Make up for the bad karma of hurting him by doing good things in the future.

>>18263726
Ah... If only I hadn't spent all day in bed. Thanks for replying

>>18263729
This is good. We met last night, around 10 hours ago, after he messaged me asking to, to see if he hated me or loved me. I tried to apologise, it didn't seem to really help. I told him that pursuing a relationship given how much I've hurt him would be foolhardy.
We spoke a lot about the pain he was feeling, and how he was so ready to commit suicide, that his only fear was that his method might not kill him. So that's why I wanted to be the one reaching out this time.