How Do I Pretend I'm Not a Virgin During Sex?

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I read articles by women about what they like in bed, how many men fail to bring women to orgasm because they only think of PIV as sex and neglect the clitoris, etc etc. Being aware of this stuff helps, but nobody has ever learned to ride a bike by reading books about it.

The girl I took out the other day was very candid and started talking about porn and sex and how many men can't make women cum (I didn't even raise the subject, she did... I don't remember how we got there...). I held my part of the conversation without mentioning that I've never done sex things before, and at no point did she seem to suspect that I am inexperienced. However, if I ever do go to bed with her... how do I keep her from realizing it?

>>18256305
> I just don't really buy it. I would look less attractive to my partner once they figured out my lack of experience, as their perception of my social worth would diminish. And they might be more hesitant to have sex with me, because they'd think I'd imprint on them because they were my first and become clingy or something.

I'm a dude.

Lost my virginity at 24.

Told her before. Told her I'm inexperienced (literally zero experience), but let's just have fun, and if there's anything she wants, I'm game.
Told her again the second time we slept together

She said she was cool with it before, and even mention some part her was wondering if I was saying that shit to game her.

This was a one night stand by the way (or I guess two night stand).

Literally just met her for a drink, slept with her the same night.

At that point I gave no fucks about being a virgin, so neither did she.

What turns people off is when you're a spazz.

First hand experience talking.

>>18256324

Oh, I should add. What I did is what most guys don't seem to do.

I took my time to romance her, I took my time with fore play, I was attentive.

Fuck dude, you don't know how many girls I've heard say they'd never been on a real date before.

Sex ain't just the sex, even if it's purely sex.

>>18256324
That's pretty rad. That girl seems pretty chill. I hope most are like that and she isn't just exceptional.

I'd say I'm pretty good in the not-being-a-spazz department. People always tell me I'm really calm and pleasant. I'm definitely neurotic and overthink everything, but I never bring that negative energy to other people, I guess. I don't like to externalize my insecurities.

>>18256347
Yeah, I also read that foreplay is essential. I kinda imagine my first time... since women don't have a refractory period and can cum many times, I'd get her off first, but not right away. I'd tease her by kissing up her inner thigh, getting closer, and then... pull away from there. Kiss her between the breasts, down her torso all the way down to the mons, and then... nope, not yet.

Pretty much make her go crazy with anticipation while talking all sexy before I actually went down on her.

Also, the thing about not going on dates... yeah, it seems like these days, people don't go on "date" dates, they kinda just start seeing somebody they know from their lives (work, school), but don't do the whole traditional process of it. I dunno, I don't have much of a social circle, so I pretty much only do cold approaches, so that means date dates.

Say one didn't mention being a virgin before sex... but mentioned later in the relationship that that had actually been their first time.

How would most people react?

>Of course I know what I'm doing' I've totally put my wiener in a girl's ovary before. You shoulda seen the size of that thing.

I just wouldn't say anything and do what you have to do. If she asks, then confess, because then its just obvious.

>>18256373
>Pretty much make her go crazy with anticipation while talking all sexy before I actually went down on her.

I'm a girl, this is the best. You'll do great

>>18256305
Anon, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. It means that you haven't cheated on your future wife.
Trust me, she'll love it when she finds out she's taking all of your first times.

>>18257180
Yeah, it's best not to lie if asked, I think.

>>18257181
Thanks!

For cunnilingus, should I used a dental dam? On the one hand, I hear that almost everybody has herpes (even without sex due to sharing cups or something) and I'm pretty sure I don't yet (never had a cold sore), and it'd be cool if I could keep it that way, but on the other hand... I dunno, something seems really clinical and unsexy about dams. Are they worth it?

I've never seen a drugstore carry them, but I could probably just cut a condom.

>>18256305

Just read up a little on foreplay because most women are more sensitive with some clit/nip stimulation. The biggest complaint most women have is that they weren't warmed up enough before penetration.
I've slept with 3 virgins. You really can't tell the difference unless you say something because virgins tend to try harder out of fear of failure.
It's all in your head. The worst you can do is doubt yourself.

>>18257803
Legit nurse here. Vaginal herpes is a different type than the oral one. You won't get cold sores from carpet munching.

>>18258108

Cool. Thanks!

>>18256305
>>18256324
24yo khv here.

Where do I go to pick up or meet girls? (Any age is fine).

I picked up two strangers in the street I didn't get their numbers.
So how do you do it? How do you talk to them and where did you meet them?

>>18256306
Just be confident and pretend you've done it before.

Chicks litetally don't know the difference

>>18258108
No but he can give her a sore if he has one! Wtf

Wtf OP? The whole point of being intimate with someone is feeling comfortable being honest with them. Being able to share your fears and interests is one of the greatest things about getting close to someone.

You're obviously insecure about being a virgin, so why not tell them? It will be a burden off your shoulders. You should lay off the shitty articles and focus on real life. Are you really expecting to fuck a girl and not feel okay telling her you're afraid of the dark and stuff like that? Are you gonna get a girlfriend and constantly be nervous about the silly secrets you're keeping from her?

>>18258296
>Where do I go to pick up or meet girls? (Any age is fine).

OP here. I'm a university student, so that's where I meet them. Like, on our campus food court, in certain study areas (so long as they aren't quiet study areas and they don't look too busy), sometimes just in the hallway, etc.

I'm yet to get a number from anybody off-campus. I dunno, I feel like people are more comfortable being approached by a fellow student than some dude they no nothing about at the bus stop or something. I never pick people up at bars or clubs because that's not my scene.

If you're not a student, maybe try bookstores and coffee shops? Record stores? Even the mall.

I just kinda start a casual conversation, usually asking them about their majors or maybe making an observation or complimenting something they're wearing. After a bit of small talk, I say something like "I've got to get going, but I'd love to talk to you later. Maybe we could exchange numbers and grab a drink some time?"

>>18258383
It's not like I intend to live a double life through the entirety of a relationship. We would learn things about each other as the relationship went on. If I ended up being with the first person I slept with for the long term, it'd probably eventually come up that she was my first.

I just have reservations about leading with that at such an early stage.