ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

Girls and guys: have you ever dated anyone from 4chan? How did it work out?

>Ask the Opposite Gender Anything
nice meme lmao
cant wait to get answers from all these girls (male)

>be dating girl for a few months
>our work schedules are almost exactly opposite and I'm going to school for masters
>still push things around or pick up doubles so I can see her thrice a week

>not enough time to see her
>my libido is lower than hers
>this makes her feel bad about herself

it seems almost every week now we have a semi fight about how she feels I don't care about our relationship because I don't make time for her.

it's physically impossible for me to do it more unless I quit my job—which I can't—or end my masters program—which is stupid.

I made the mistake of saying it seems she's not happy in our relationship and maybe we should end things but that just made her cry.

what do I do

>>18256163
Dated, no. Met and hung out with, yes. 2 completely different occasions, and both went well.
Wasn't anything sexual or even relationship-oriented, it was mostly for shits and giggles considering it didn't happen with the help of /soc/.

How can I get a bitch to suck my dick?

I can't get a woman to like me, because I don't like me. What should I do?

Girls,

I was at a restaurant and there were 3 girls and a guy. The guy seemed single. How likely is it that each one of the girls are competing for his dick?

Furthermore, he looked bored out of his mind the whole time. He was on his phone the whole time while the girls talk. Is this the kind of company you want in a guy? Is this kind of behaviour attractive?

I'm just bewildered by the whole thing. I don't get it. Can you help me understand?

>>18256204
I have been the male In this situation with like 3/4 girls that were just friends.

>>18256207
How did you get in this situation? How did you meet so many people?

>>18256166
I'd say hold off until after you're done with your masters program. If it's only been a few months, it may be best to move on, but if you don't want to break up and she's relatively understanding, just point out that you don't have time right now.

Girls, what do you think about porn video titles? (Asstraffic, Big Sausage Pizza, Make Him Cuckold, Big Tits Like it Big)
I'm asking about the titles/names themselves. Do you find them ridiculous, funny or what?

>>18256225
I literally had some of my friends ask me to go get food with them. How did I meet so many people? I don't know man just my social group. Haven't even fucked any of them.

>>18256236
Well, shit man. Just moved to a new area. Any tips how I can find a social group?

>>18256232
Funny to a point where I don't even understand how porn is considered an "industry." I can't even watch pornographic videos specifically because the titles absolutely ruin them.

Asked a girl out from one of my classes on the spur of the moment. Didn't have anything specific planned. When I asked her out she wanted a specific date, to which I could not give her. She said she didn't want to flake out on me and that she has a lot going on in the summer. I told her I understand and we said we would see each other later. I feel like I came off a little bit asshole-ish, which wasn't my intention.

She's a nerd and kinda introverted, but is always willing to talk with me.

Would it be weird for me to ask her out again with a specific date and time this next time?

>>18256236
>tfw no female-centered social circle
Girls can be so much more pleasant to be around

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why isn't it generally acknowledged that men are held to a much higher beauty standard and that its over for a large percentage of men

>>18256240
I dunno man. Ive lived in my city since I was born, 20 now. I went to school with a lot of them, etc. try work? Or school? It's funny cause I'm in the same boat as you in a way. I need some new friends, I feel like I have few people I really get along with.

theres a lady in a motel room a couple rooms over that has her door wide open while hes reading her ipad in her bathrobe is clear view. is she trying to get dicked down

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>>18256255
Because 1 man, evolutionarily speaking, has the ability to breed with MANY women, when women are oriented to raise however many kids they have over a significantly longer period of time. If 1 guy is highly desirable based on appearance, his DNA can theoretically go further. That being said, we now have societal standards where we stay with a single spouse for as long as possible, so MANY men are now expected to be that 1 alpha male who would be carrying on his genetic material otherwise.
It seems like one of those things humans just do now that we don't really think of (holding men to a higher standard due to civilized social norms, theoretically going against "efficient" biological function).

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If you had the chance to lose your virginity to someone you didn't even know, would you do it?

Girls and guys

Is it OK if someone doesn't want to take a risk by trying sex/dating?

>>18256287

I did that, and it wasn't worth it. I still regret it 6 years later.

If it matters, I'm a guy

>>18256250
Wouldn't be all that weird. I see two possibilities: one, she was interested but nervous so she would rather make the commitment at the moment so she's less likely to chicken out, or two, she would've flaked anyway and is just making excuses to try and save some face. Either way, just come back with a specific time, and see how she reacts. Watch out with introverts, though, they can be crazy in ways subtle enough that you don't think anything of it until it becomes a serious problem. I speak from experience.

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OK, /adv/. I have a non-existent sex drive now due to taking medications, but still want to please my GF. How do I lick 'em pussy? Guides?

>>18256275
I'm in a weird situation I guess. 23 and just graduated, moved to a new place to have a job where I work from home. Really gotta go out of my way to make a single friend it seems. A social group? I don't see that happening for at least a few years, if ever. Do it at school man. Fuck grades, you have time to finish your school.

>>18256155
>There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever

I have to disagree. Having complete appreciation of existing is permanent, irreversible, and a condition in which dependence on appreciation of any kind from any other cannot exist.

>>18256322
>permanent
lol

Women:

So this chick keeps starring at me. She's a friend of my acquaintances. The thing is that she does this every time we are in the same vicinity. Oddly, we lock eyes sometimes until one of us looks away (lel). So the other night I waved at her, and she looked away, then caught her starring once again later that night. Friends caught it too.

My question is, what the hell is her problem?

>>18256326
well yeah... you can't unsee what you have seen...or did i just misspell it or something?

>>18256328
you male or female?

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>>18256322
>having complete appreciation of existing is permanent and irreversible
I speak from experience when I say this is incorrect

>>18256331
If you're as smart as you were trying to come off as then you know that's not what's wrong about you using that word

>>18256333
Male

>>18256328
She might like something about your appearance, or is anticipating speaking to you and just hasn't done it.

>t. made myself look retarded by doing this to a guy in one of my classes
I don't think he ever noticed or even cared since I mostly saw the back of his head, but now I keep running into him on campus and I can't help but feel awkward.
Jesus fucking Christ he was attractive, though.

>>18256328
Who knows, have you tried talking to her? Communicating with speech is a part of being human.

Girls

Assume you met a 28 year old guy who looked decent, was successful in his life, and overall was a nice person. Would you opinion or thoughts of him change if you found out he's never had a girlfriend before?

>>18256185
maybe lose the attitude?

>>18256308
don't dive in to fast...tease her whole body for a long time.. inch in ridiculously slow...pace yourself is the bottom line...from that you can get her shaking uncontrollably, sqweening your head about to pop between her theighs while arching her back and lifting her ass way up in the air....however if you want her to have the most massive, she's never going to leave kinda orgasm you gotta take your ring and middle finger and get them to work in in cum here motion on the outer wall of her yaknow. that's the G spot and that's the bad mama-jamma....now if you can manage you gently hold her clit between your teeth while you flick it most rapidly with the very tip of your tung while doing that with your fingers you are going to need a new bed. and you're probably gunna be stiff by then too ;) good luck

>>18256338
wants the D...I'm sure she want's the D

>>18256334
or else my wording is ambiguous...but i've only been experiencing this lack of obsession a bit over 4 years. so i guess i can't speak for "forever" I just cant imagine ever being discouraged by anyone's opinion ever again. I mean we're all human. I see no reason for shame, nor room for it to return...so long as we don't do that for which we ought to feel shame...but i don't see room for that to happen either...don't get me wrong...i'm not zen nor a saint. I just believe doing my best is fine, and so I do. I do care what people feel...i just don't take it personally anymore...can you elaborate what you mean. i feel we must be on slightly different topics

>>18256299
Thank you. I get the impression she's not like other girls, whether that be good or bad I do not know yet.

>>18256407
Give it a try. You'll definitely learn something, even if things don't work out, and if they do, well you'll be happier than most of the rest of us on here.

>>18256407
Is she Nia Jax?

Girls -
Have any of you ever had a crush on one of your male friends while in a relationship?
Would you ever act on it? How did it turn out?

I'm almost positive my girlfriend likes this guy from her classes - she's in three clubs with him, is taking two classes with him, and they study together all the time. I've met him a few times.

I'm positive she wouldn't cheat on me, but she's kind of giggly around him in a way that reminds me of when we started dating. We've been together for four years.

I'd appreciate your personal experiences and more general input about what you think I should do in my situation.

>>18256389
Life will always have ups and downs. I've been in places where I thought I couldn't be happier and that my whole life is a gift wrapped with a bow and everything and nothing could ever bring me down, and places where I've been so lonely and dismal that I've wished I wasn't even born at all. I'm kind of on the tail end of one of the latter times at the moment. No feeling is permanent or immutable, for every human thought is fluid in nature.

Not exactly for the opposite gender but heh... this isn't exactly followed anyway right?

Guise, how do I get less insecure when going for a second round?

I don't have any problems at all with the first round, and that's kinda my problem: I feel like I practiced edging so much that I've cheated myself out of the subsequent rounds...

It's not like I have a long refractory period, some months ago I did it like twice in 30min, but I'm so self conscious about my erection on the second round that I rarelly manage it. I end up having my erection come with the wind because I keep thinking "is it hard enough already?"

I went full autism mode earlier today trying to talk to this cute girl who Ive spoken to before. I was planning on asking her out, but honestly Im not so sure now.

I walked up and asked her how she was, how her weekend went, and then I straight up blanked out on what to say. She was on her phone at first and kind of was surprised I came up and talked to her. Anywau, after that I just defaulted to a dumb question about getting an exam back, was mostly me asking yes or no questions. After answering one, it just kind of went quiet and she spoke up sort of restating what she just said, but it felt so awkward and forced, I just said thanks for the info and sorry about that, I was tired.

After that, I still want to ask her out by properly talking to her next class and asking to get coffee after class., hopefully with no awkwardness. Girls, if you were the girl in this situation, what would your reaction be? Like, "what a creep, hes asking me out now?" Or "Oh, hes nervous"?

need to end a painful toxic relationship. how do you do it?

>>18256163
>>18256292
>>18256455
weird, i could've swore this was "ask the opposite gender" not "be an indecisive cunt"

>>18256432
i agree...but it's a paradoxical thing. I've never been more down than I am right now. I'm not saying I'm happy. I'm miserable... I'm just talking about taking things personally or not. realizing how i feel has everything to do with me and only me

How would I go about approaching a very outgoing coworker that I "think" might be interested in me? She always singles me out to greet, comes to my office to "hang", waits for me after work is done to chat on the train, etcetera. Or am I completely mistaking good manners with interest?

Matched with this girl, sent like 5 messages back/fourth and then said that she should give me her number and she did. Sent a few text messages back and fourth. Combining both chats, she has reiterated 3 times with an exact date that she won't be back in town until then without me asking her. How do I keep her interested for 2.5 weeks? Not really expecting much but still.

>>18256796
Keep contact, it's what most other Tindr people wouldn't do.

Q for geeky insecure girls - what kind of date would you like to be invited to, that is at the same comfortable, socially and otherwise, makes you feel appreciated, and generally good time. Normie answers like movies or coffee need not apply.

>>18256853
Going to the arcade

>>18256163
I dated a girl from here for like a month. Nice girl, civil breakup, hung out with her once after we broke up, still text.

>>18256287
Vile

>>18256856
Oh boy I'm not sure there are any around. Thanks.

>>18256357
Yes, a bit.
I would wonder
>Is there some majorly wrong thing about him that I cannot see, but all other girls before me saw?
>Does he understand the dynamics of relationship?

>>18256428
>Have any of you ever had a crush on one of your male friends while in a relationship?
Yes, twice.
>Would you ever act on it? How did it turn out?
I didn't act on it. As soon as I realised I had a crush, I spent more time with my boyfriend, less time with the guy, till it went away.
Usually it happens to me while I'm hitting a "low" in my relationship and someone outside makes me happier than my boyfriend does.

>>18256796
I'm in the same position as you, except it's me who's gonna be out of town. Wouldn't have been swiping if I'd known I would have this sudden success kek.

My plan was just to try to maintain steady, but not clingy, contact until it gets to a few days before me getting back, then set up something concrete.

>>18256853
My ex took me to a comic store, and then to a gorgeous book shop that has a cafe inside.

Agree on the arcade thing.

>>18256853
>Normie answers like movies or coffee need not apply.
What's wrong with something like coffee?

>>18256163
My boyfriend and I serendipitously both go on 4chan. We've been together 5 years, so it's going fine.

>>18256292
>Is it OK if someone doesn't want to take a risk by trying sex/dating?
Like okay for who? You're not dating so no one will hold it against you, societally most people don't give a fuck. If it's about whether you're okay with it, only you can answer.

>>18256357
>Assume you met a 28 year old guy who looked decent, was successful in his life, and overall was a nice person. Would you opinion or thoughts of him change if you found out he's never had a girlfriend before?
I would wonder what was wrong with him, but if I liked him I'd give him a shot. I'd be wary though.

>>18256853
>Q for geeky insecure girls - what kind of date would you like to be invited to, that is at the same comfortable, socially and otherwise, makes you feel appreciated, and generally good time. Normie answers like movies or coffee need not apply.
I'm geeky and insecure, but I love coffee. Otherwise, the museum was a great first date I went on once, and book shops/arcades are pretty neat.

To females, if you were to have sex with a 24 year old guy that happens to be a virgin, would you prefer if he told you so beforehand or would it dissuade you and raise flags?

I'm a guy looking for some advice about getting revenge on my ex girlfriend since me and my ex girlfriend broke up about 6 months ago or 7 I've been going to the gym every day of the week since then I have Governor job have a six pack relatively muscle tone body my ex girlfriend contacted me yesterday she didn't cheat on me which is why I want the revenge she was being very flirty and openly said that she wanted to get back with me I want to know how best to get revenge on her

>>18256989
>getting revenge on my ex girlfriend
Moving on and forgetting about her is the best revenge.

>>18256984
I'd probably have an inkling beforehand anyway.

>>18256989
That whole post was one sentence. How in the world are people this illiterate?

>>18256984
>To females, if you were to have sex with a 24 year old guy that happens to be a virgin, would you prefer if he told you so beforehand or would it dissuade you and raise flags?
I'd probably guess anyway, and I'd prefer you were honest.

Girls,
When i was in school i was in one class with this girl, that now seems like a 10/10 for me. We almost never talked, and it was 6 years ago since we finished that school. How creepy/awkward would it be to text her now? Also how to start such a conversation? (Im not ugly btw, so thats not a problem here)

I'm in a weird situation and don't really know what to do. My girlfriend really likes to tease me, and I love it, but sometimes she takes it a bit too far and I often end up confusing whether or not she's actually playing with me or if she's really being an asshole/doesn't care that much about our relationship, and this has been causing a lot of stress lately. I know I need to have a conversation with her about it, and I'm planning on doing that next time we hang out, but I don't want her to completely stop, I just want her to understand that sometimes the things she does are fairly hurtful, especially because I suffer from OCD and as a result I'll often fixate on them and kind of drive myself crazy trying to figure out if it's legitimate or her trolling me as usual.

I guess my question is: when it comes to teasing, where is the line usually drawn? She often does stuff like refuse to hold my hand in public because I want to, and she never kisses me back unless we're in private, but when I ask about this she claims it's because she knows it gets to me and she likes that. She also likes to start sexual stuff and then right as I'm getting into it, stop and make fun of me for being frustrated. The other day I blew up at her when she made a new Facebook and kept talking about adding people but refused to add me for over two hours and I finally just lost my shit. This may just be me being autistic as hell, but I feel like most of her trolling is mean-spirited and it makes me feel terrible about myself.

All that being said, I love her to death and she's basically my dream girl. This is the only issue we have. But I don't want to take away from her way of having fun with the relationship, if that makes sense. So, in the position of being someone who loves teasing their boyfriend, what would you want them to do in this kind of situation? Would you want them to tell you to stop, or would you use that as an invitation to be even worse? Am I dating a sociopath?

So I've been hanging out with this chick for the couple of weeks. Usually we meet after school hours and we work our way to her place to get a cup of coffee and chat. Anyways since we originally met on Tinder we both know what we are after so she texted me 2 days ago that she wants to fuck. We only had one kiss before this and now she keeps sending me all kinds of signals and texts that she wants me now, but my problem is that she is really into bdsm and I only have very little experience of being dominant on bed.

How do I lose the fright that I might let her hopes down. Do I watch porn beforehand or what? cuz I dont want to mess this up and I really like this girl.

I have a candaulism fetish (look it up) and I want to try it out with my GF. Obviously talking is the best way but is there some possibility to ease her into the topic.
So she becomes comfortable with the idea or I can build up the topic and not just throw her into the cold water.

>>18257056
>candaulism
how is this any different from cuckolding?

>>18257056
I wouldn't be comfortable with that fetish tbqh, and I've done a lot of stuff that I wasn't into as a test for my partner. The idea of being "shown off" or having intimate images of me spread to other people is something I'm deeply uncomfortable with.

You can try to talk to her, but most girls don't want something that risky (in terms of pictures being spread everywhere) to happen to them.

>>18257009
What would be a good moment to break it out to her? I'm a bit anxious and timid especially about intimate stuff.

>>18257067
If she's kind, she won't care. Like, as you're 'warming up' to do the deed, just say "this is my first time". I wouldn't care. But then again, I'm very tolerant of sexual things, and a lot of girls would take issue. It might be safer to just do it and then say 'sorry, that was my first time' afterwards.

Girls, what's the most off putting trait in a potential partner to you?

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As a skinny guy, how can I profile myself in such a way that I'm perceived as more masculine without being a douche? I feel this would really increase my Attractiveness. My looks are 6/10. Pic slightly related.

>>18257111
>Girls, what's the most off putting trait in a potential partner to you?
Being overly emotional/dramatic.

How can I be more comfortable with texting my crush?
And would it be acceptable to invite her out with friends for my 21st?

(we are decent friends as it stands. But she doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now.)

>>18257111
Being aggressively masculine. I hate that in men.

>>18257118
Don't fake being something you're not-it'll only backfire when they figure out it was fake. Many girls like skinny men.

>>18257111
Overly emotional, physically messy, etc.

Why does she tell me about guys she's kissed but doesn't want a relantionship with?

Is that like a synonym of 'yeah i'm a huge slut' without actually saying it?

>>18257145
Is this person your friend? If so, she's just treating you like a friend.

>>18257151
Not really, we see each other occasionally like 30 minutes per week.

>>18257111
Being dumb

>>18257111
Not reading.

How do I find non masculine men (who aren't gay)? I'm really not into the buff, arrogant, distant, entitled thing, but they seem to be the only men who ever hit on me. Why are other kinds of guys not interested or lacking totally in confidence?

>>18257127
Not around here they don't

>>18257192
Why don't you approach shy dudes yourself? It's really that easy.

>>18257195
I am also shy. Also, there aren't many around where I am, and one is my ex and the rest turned on me for breaking up with him (he was borderline emotionally abusive).

>>18257125
Idea?

>>18257197
Get more hobbies, volunteer, go to church, try online dating (text guys first). Meet new people and stay around guys more.
Eventually you'll find someone.

>>18256185
Stop being so autistic anon and go back to r9k

>>18257202
>Church
Ew. No way. But I'll try the other stuff, bar online dating. Last time I tried that I was swamped with boring, thirsty guys.

>>18257206
Yeah. Just contact the guys you think are okay yourself. Takes a bit more work, but usually works out better.

>>18257192

What do you mean by non-masculine? Give examples.

>>18257211
Like slim, not particularly masculine in face or attitudes etc, not arrogant and entitled and aggressive, more romantic and kind. I guess some examples would be the 80s goth guy look (a la Robert Smith).

>>18256204
Sounds to me like he was the boyfriend of one of them and got dragged along to her friends. Could be attached to the hip could be convenience (he's staying with her and they're having a date afterwards or something). That they didn't display affection doesn't mean much, they could've had a fight, be the kind of couple that doesn't do PDA in general, or she knows her friends will give her shit for being all lovey dovey while she opted to meet up with them for quality time with her friends.

Alternatively, he's a brother, but then it is more likely to me that others were irked and tried to get him to mingle at least somewhat.

If girls are competing over a guy they sure as hell don't all meet up to have girl talk. And generally the guy would rather have separate interactions with them as well, otherwise you get passive aggressive power displays.

And no, sitting there like a non-entity is not attractive.

>>18256232
They can be funny if they're actually clever. Most of the time just kind of ridiculous and I find it hard to imagine that any man would become more eager to watch a porn movie just because of something like that (as opposed to the picture).

so my gf and I have been arguing a lot in the past couple of days because my employer couldn't give me the vacation days I needed to go to Portugal with her. I offered her that we go in July, August or September, but she didn't want to go to Portugal after my trip with my friends to Italy, so she told me that she's buying a plane ticket and will be staying with us in Italy, that way I can have my vacation with my friends and also spend time together with her

I told her that it doesn't work like that, my friends wouldn't accept it and neither will I, so she went on a tirade about me not wanting her to be there because all I want to do is fuck whores and drink myself blind every night - this was yesterday, I didn't speak with her since then

now, a couple of minutes ago, she wrote me that she found cheap plane tickets to Portugal two weeks from now, a time range I can still take my holidays off from work
she asked me if I want to go - I said "sure", adding that I'm not exactly stoked about the trip after this much arguing and seeing how irrationally she reacted to having to postpone our vacation till July, but since it's really important to her, I'll go on the trip with her

>"I don't need it like that. Consider our relationship finished, I'll pack your things up tonight and you can come grab them whenever you want"
was her response.

did I fuck up? should I apologize and tell her my nerves got the better of me, or should I just let her sulk?

My boyfriend said yesterday, "I can't stand you anon" (in our language where I can't stand you is like I hate you).

Has anyone here come back from that? Do you just forget about ti?

>>18257221
Yes, you fucked up. Don't do anything. Let the relationship end.

>>18257222
Dude, relationship is fucked.

>>18256255
Because while women don't find men strikingly attractive often just based on their looks, they also care less about looks than men. A confident attitude, relaxed body language, a masculine voice, humor etc don't just make a man more attractive as a partner to a woman, it literally makes him sexier. (This goes for some men the other way around, but from what I gather not as often and not to the same extent.) Aka men have much more opportunities to compensate the overall attractiveness.

Also, that picture is just false. There can be a lot wrong with the female body that is hard to change. Manshoulders, boyhips, complete lack of waist etc aren't things you can fix. Not to mention that I think many inexperienced guys don't realize just how much the girls they see naked online are pre-selected on being hot. In real life it's less a matter of big or small tits, for example, and more nipple to boob ratio and perkiness. You don't see women with deflated small tits or nipples that cover half the breast in porn often, but they aren't an extreme rarity in real life.

>>18257222
Was he serious? Were you arguing?

It might be something dumb - maybe he was just stressed over the argument and didn't mean it, maybe he was joking.
If he said it and meant it, then, better leave the relationship.

>>18257224
please help me understand where I went wrong

>>18256984
Yeah I'd want to know. I would understand if he didn't tell me but I would be really bummed out to have missed the chance to take the lead more and really ensure his first time was mind blowing.
Also as the other poster said, I'll likely guess anyway.

I saw you ask when to break the news as well. I would do it after it has become clear that you are going to have sex, but before you have it. So after steamy making out with grinding or oral sex. If it's a one night stand, I wouldn't bother. It is a message with an intimate aspect and seriousness that doesn't really have a place in a fleeting encounter with a stranger. Ideally it would be possible but in practice many girls would no doubt get weirded out by you dropping that right before you get started.

When you do tell them, be light-hearted about them. If she asks you, tell her she actually gets to be your first. Ask her if she's ready to ruin you for all women ever. Be a bit tongue in cheek.
Being a virgin in itself might be a turn off to some women - people like different things and sadly there's a one-sided ideal of a man knowing exactly what to do and what he wants sexually.
But being a virgin and obviously being insecure or down about that is much much worse. It invites them to take pity on you and that is never remotely sexy.

>>18256255
Because it isn't true.
In your picture, girls have a list of basic qualities they need to have to be fuckable while guys have a list of qualities they need to have to be a 10/10.

I dated guys who had some of the "death sentence" traits and they were pretty successful with girls and never had huge issues.

>>18257228
We were arguing, he said it with a very serious tone, I've been a bit difficult the last 3-4 days.

>>18257111
Condescension.

>>18256474

Just tell them it is over to their face and get the fuck out and break all contact forever. Done.

>>18257234
Then don't mind it too much and stop stressing about it.
Everyone sometimes is unbearable. You probably were unbearable, and he was stressed and frustrated at you.
It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or care about you.

>>18257118
>traditionally masculine hobbies (hunting/shooting, martial arts, any hobby that involves a lot of craft - bonus points if also physically straining), stuff like being politically active or in a coaching/teaching position is also nice
>make sure your posture is top notch and your body language is relaxed, don't make yourself smaller with hunched shoulders or never sitting with your legs apart
>men talk differently than women, pay attention to this: avoid making statements sound like questions, don't instantly stop talking if another guy tries to cut you off, be confident about your opinions (which is not the same as close-minded or convinced that you're always right), dare to take up social space by telling stories and/or making jokes
>be friendly with girls but not desperate to please, don't laugh at stuff you don't find funny, don't only make jokes you are 1000% sure won't be taken the wrong way, dare to take a little risk if you feel it's fine, dare to tease her and get her riled up a little

>>18257234
Different people have different limits. I have a much looser tongue than most people, maybe because of my background. If someone says that I hurt their feelings I try to pull it back however. I'd suggest you do the same with him.

>>18257247
Same.
The worst part is when I realize I said something insensitive when it's too late.

I unintentionally made fat jokes towards my uber driver over and over because I thought Lent was a fasting week and Sunday meant it's pigout day. This is just one example.

>>18257244
Thanks anon, Im gonna keep this in mind!

>>18257253
This is still just being clueless/thick, it causes awkward situations but that's life.

Saying intentionally hurtful things in the heat of the moment because you're angry is different. Lots of truthful and (more) negative things also come out when you're angry, so it can be really difficult to persuade someone you love that the thing you said that blindsided them has little to nothing to do with how you actually view them. Cat's out of the bag at that point.

>>18257261
No problem at all! Wanted to expand on the last part a bit still, I often feel like guys make the mistake of thinking that girls like it if you're nice to them (true), so being nice in every instance ever is the best you can get. This is false because kindness only really mean something if you have it in you to be assertive and firm. If you are at surface level supernice to girls but you wouldn't ever tell a girl off, it's more being spineless than just being nice. Besides, people respect people who respect themselves. If you do girls endless favors with nothing in return (to name an extreme example), you are showing her that you are kind of desperate and don't value yourself enough for that (being a servant boy) to be below your dignity. And you bet she will realize that you aren't doing her all those favors because you're such a great, generous person, but because you want something from her, and you would never do it for a fat girl. The conclusion is twofold: you are desperate to impress her and you don't value yourself. So she will only lose respect for you in turn.

I wanted to ask this girl out yesterday, but the conversation got awkward like right after I said hi. It wasnt terrible, just kind of awkward cause I couldnt follow up my yes/no questions. I just said I was tired to her and apologized after some awkward silence and walked away.

Girls, if you were the girl in this situation and the same guy came up to you next class and actually held a good conversation, would that prvious awkward encounter sour you on him and make you say no if he asked ypu out?

Hoping I didnt fuck it up...

>>18257297
No, that's nothing. I'm awkward myself often enough. I would just recommend that you let some more time pass (doesn't have to much, just talk to her once-twice in between) so this isn't as much of a fresh impression anymore.

>>18256853
I once went on coffee date, that ended up with us going to a pet store. One of the best dates I went on to be honest. He's really into fish, and has a home aquarium, so he was "teaching" me about the different species of fish.

>>18256200
Pls respond

>>18257125
Ideas? Please?

>>18256474
Crack them across the temple with a glass bottle

>>18257338
Find ways to see yourself in a new light. Get experiences you otherwise don't have. Make friends and if you already have friends, go out of your way to meet new people, preferably people different from the type of company you usually keep.
Being in new situations is a realization that you can change, that different folks bring out different sides of you, it'll help you to not see yourself as static and hopeless.

Also, if there are concrete reasons you have for not liking yourself, take steps towards tackling those. You might not change overnight but it'll help you respect yourself just taking agency and relying on personal discipline to make an effort.

In general setting out to reach goals and achieving them, even if they're relatively insignificant, betters your mood.

>>18257340
What is the issue now? Do you feel too self-conscious about what you write?
Sure, you can ask her to come. Just try not to convince yourself that it was weird if she says no. It's not weird.

>>18257118
Do manly stuff and be sure of yourself, while not acting like a show off/try hard

I made a date for this week a week with someone, then I met someone new during that time that I had an amazing date with and we made plans for another date the same day as my other date (but at different times). Should I still go on the first or cancel and focus the second date with the other person that I really like? I haven't met the date I planned with yet.

>>18257345
>What is the issue now? Do you feel too self-conscious about what you write?

Just being too awkward with her. I just want to be able to work past that. I am afraid to seem clingy with her. despite the fact that she responds and we text like close friends

And I guess I can ask her to go. Probably would be better if theres atleast another girl there.

>>18257125
>How can I be more comfortable with texting my crush?
Have low stakes conversations. Think about the scarier, more dangerous stuff you've done in your life
>And would it be acceptable to invite her out with friends for my 21st?
Yes

>>18257303
Yeah, but the semester is ending next week, only see her 2 more times. Worst situation would be I wait too long and have to text her.

>>18257357
I don't know, if you ask me texting also just isn't the ideal medium for these situations. Everything sounds so impactful when you consider it for yourself, or silly when seeing it black on wite. If you are able to text her when you want her to meet up etc, and you interact naturally in real life, I wouldn't worry too much about this aspect.
And yeah not to feed into your worries but it doesn't sound to me like you're clingy as much as unable to see her as a friend for now. Which is only natural, but realize that the closer you get to her the more it'll hurt when something happens to the bond. These "being friends but not sincerely platonic" dynamics are extremely fragile and tend to not live long. Enjoy it while it lasts.

Unless your friends are the kind of dicks who'll make her uncomfortable being a girl by herself, it doesn't matter much whether there's another girl or not. But you can invite another one, particularly if they have something in common and you think her and your male friends won't.

>>18257361
Fair enough, then just do it next time. Worst case scenario is her saying no, that's better than having to wonder whether or not she would've said yes.

>>18257359
True. I am mostly just afraid I'll seem clingy. Despite that we talk without issues most times I text

And true

>>18257364
I know it's not the best. It's that we don't see each other in person much anymore. And we are kinda awkward when we do.

I guess I'm not too clingy, just more so getting needlessly worried with her? Because I don't wanna fuck it up with her. And I guess it probably won't last with us like this

Also, I guess it wont be a big problem. Most of the guys are friendly. And not too hard to get along with.

>>18257373
Yeah, just gotta hope I dont fuck up again, wasnt sure if the fuck up meant much.

Thanks anon

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Is oral sex normal in a relationship or is it only a thing in my western adult short movies?

>>18257414
It's absolutely normal in the sense that it doesn't fall in the category of kinky or something. But that doesn't mean it's not "normal" (= common) for couples to not do it, or to either do fellatio or cunnilingus and not both.
This is still disregarding couples who do oral sex but only for a very short time as foreplay, never for its own sake or to completion.

Would it be annoying or a good way to make things more comfortable for a short guy to make a joke or two about their height? Honestly I have low confidence because of it so it's easier to just get that issue out of the way when talking with girls.

>>18257442
Don't do it. Really uncomfortable because virtually always it's apparent that the "self-depricating" joke is actually real insecurity. Just don't acknowledge it whatsoever.

How can I know if I'm a handsome man? I've been told I'm such by a fair number of people besides my mom and get eyeballed from time to time, but I'm not sure I completely believe it

I sing in a band at bars - I'm reasonably attractive, not an adonis but my face is symmetrical and people tend to complement my eyes

My problem: I'm shy af and don't know how to turn a complement into a conversation.

>hot girl: Hey you've got a great voice
>me: thanks
>hot girl: ....
>me: ....

wat do

>>18257475
>Thank you! Do you know how to sing?

How do I tell to a hot grill, "you're so hot that you burn my sausage"?

I asked a girl out on a date. It went great and before the end of it she asked me out for a second date in two days with the specifics.

Since I have the specifics, how and when do I go about confirming it? Tomorrow? The day of? Do I text anything else in between? We've done the standard "Had a great time..." texts already.

Or should I wait to see if she reaches out to me first to confirm?

Women, is it impossible now for you as a general sex to stop being whores? Is it just too good a life to be able to fuck without attachment? Is it impossible to go back to the good old days where you had a role in the family and virtues?

I was fooling around with a female friend and playfully asked that since there are wonderbras for tits, if there was the same thing but for butts
She laughed and told me "but mine is legit though, wanna touch?"
I beta'd out like fuck and mumbled something like u-uh n-no

Did I fuck up?

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Girls

I feel very intimidated by you. Not of you as a person, but anything that could even remotely involve attraction. I'm 25 and I've just had so many issues and changes in my life since I was in my early teens that I never experienced the dating world. I just pulled myself together and really got set on a solid life track this past year. But just knowing that any girl I meet will have extensive experience with guys is intimidating. It's intimidating because most girls will assume that I have had girlfriends before...

It would be like if you've never played baseball before, but you're going to play in the Major Leagues with experienced players. That's how I feel when it comes to sex and dating at 25.. and to explain it further, I had 2 tryouts 5 years ago which were bad experiences for me and make me feel lots of guilt (referring to 2 tinder hook ups).

>>18257499
Both genders are having no strings attached sex. It's hard to find a man willing to commit as well.

Even Nice Guys™ don't actually want to have a relationship but just want to not be lonely. They don't care about *you*, they don't want *you*, they just want a girl.

>>18257504
The only thing you can do is try.
You will probably fuck up a few times, but you'll learn.

Nothing scary will happen, there won't be any long term devastating consequences if your first relationship goes bad.
Just be honest, open and willing to learn.

>>18257517

It's just really hard... I've literally told myself for years and years "I don't want a girlfriend, I don't deserve one". Even when my friends have tried to tell me to talk to girls I've told them "I don't want a girlfriend, what's the point so many times it's like a deep set belief now. I'm going to the beach next week and one of my friends wants me to talk to girls. Part of me wants to.. ive really changed my appearance and for the first time in my life, I feel "attractive" somewhat. But.. something deep inside me keeps saying "don't do it". It's very conflicting. And I feel so confused.

I feel like if I DO hook up with a girl or her a girlfriend. That I'm doing something wrong, and I will have lied to myself, my friends, and not kept my word..

>>18257530
Why do you feel like you don't deserve a girlfriend?

>>18256163
Long distance thing in 2008, fucked up my life. Real compatible. Sometimes wish it never happened, but it was my strongest love so far.

Dumped me. Old news now, no feeling.

>>18257533

I literally just can't not imagine a girl wanting to be lewd with me, hold hands, ext.. I don't know how to explain to friends and family that I got a girlfriend after saying thousands of times "I'm not going to get a girlfriend". It would make me feel like a total uncredible bitch

There was a girl I liked a few months ago, and she was showing interest toward me. But the thought of her looking at me and having any interest in me really bothered me a lot, so I told her we should just be friends instead.

>>18257499
Men, can you stop generalizing women? And why don't you put men to the same standards? If women are having so much casual sex, who do you think they're having it with, other women?

Women, serious question:

On a scale of 1-10 how murderous would you feel if you found out your bf cheated on you with your sister? Think I really ducked up this time if this sees the light of day

>>18257232
>dated
>past tense

I see what you did there. :^]

It's like every time I come here. "I dated a short guy before", "I dated a bald guy before", "I dated a such and such before".

>before

In other words, yeah, it doesn't matter, but the guy was totally not worth fighting for physically once I got over his shit emotionally.

>>18257442
No, don't. Those kind of jokes scream that you're insecure about it. Don't mention anything about height, that's how you make it comfortable. I'm 14 cm taller than my ex, who's the shortest guy I know. Own it and you'll be fine.

>>18257542

not the guy you replied to. But generally curious, what would you think of a 23 year old guy who's had sex with 7+ women? also, what would you think of a 23 year old who's only been with 1.

>>18257542
Men have always been that way. In fact men are only driven to be a certain way that gets them the most tail. It's women who changed thanks to feminists taking up the whore culture. Now men have adapted to being the way that gets them the most women: being a casual fuck.

Learn to history, woman

>>18257511
Oh bullshit. Be me, sit around for years trying, nothing comes, longest fucking dryspell. Finally develop ACTUAL feeling for someone, she doesn't even remotely bother answering me, even out of respect to tell me maybe she has someone.

The older I get the more unrealistic the possibility of love becomes, and the more abundant escapism becomes. I have almost ENTIRELY abandoned my age group. And really only because I'm forced to talk to coworkers.

It disgusts me, and I disgust myself. I just want ONE good thing to work already.

>>18257549
I'm a 23 year old who's only been with 1 man. So of course I don't find anything wrong with the second example. I'm not big on casual sex but I understand why people do it and won't judge them for it. If you mean my opinion as a potential partner, I wouldn't mind as long as he makes it clear he will commit.

>>18257554
I admit history is my worst subject, but weren't like, the romans having casual sex all the time? Also, aren't men the biggest consumers of sex workers? And most rapists are male too. Nothing about that screams family values to me. I have no idea how feminism is supposed to be contributing to the desire of men for casual sex, though I do disagree with the current trends. I'm not the best at debating these kind of things since I'm not big on social issues, but what you're saying really reeks of bullshit.

>>18257547
My ex (5'6", skinnyfat) broke up with me because I wanted kids and he didn't.
I don't see how it is my fault or it has anything to do with his looks.
I would have stayed with him.

Current boyfriend has a weak jawline but I still think he's handsome. He was extremely skinny when we started dating and I thought he was super cute.

Not as a big deal as you think it is.

>>18257566

I'm curious, why would it not bother you if a guy has had sex with A LOT of girls? I mean, you've only been with one guy. So wouldn't it be bothersome if a potential boyfriend has been with like 10 or more girls?

I'm 27 and only been with 1 girl, but the fact that most girls my age have already been through 8+ guys is really bothersome

>>18257567
It's not the reality of things, but the impression it gives...

I don't blame you for wanting kids, I do too. But it seems to me we're all so fucking imperfect in so many ways, physically, spiritually, emotionally, even our pasts, and so few of us are actually happy.. truly happy.

>>18257580
Not her, but I'm 24 and had just one partner.
It doesn't bother me a lot, but I would prefer a guy with a lower partner count.

>>18257585

Ok. But let's say I start dating a girl who has had sex with 20 guys. she might like that I've only had 1 shit experience in the past. But, she's still going to reminisce of her past experiences with other guys.

She's not just going to completely forget the sexual experiences she's had with the 20 other men. So, that's is just really bothersome knowing she's going to think about them even while we are dating. And all I know is her. I'm not saying I wish I have been with more girls, it just seems like I'm not worth shit by comparison

>>18257546
Fellow penis here. How did you manage that, Chad?
How about their mom? Is she hot too?

>>18257581
We all are imperfect, but again: I don't think that it is such a big deal.
I'm not perfect, my boyfriend isn't perfect, but we find content and peace in each other and our relationship makes us better people and gives us happiness.
I accepted that I will never be 100% happy with every aspect of my life, but I enjoy working on it and perfecting myself.

>>18257600
What are you even talking about? Why would she think about them?
It's not a competition. You do you, if you work well together there's nothing to worry about.

I'm facing a conundrum of being a male and having stupid morals. Like other dudes, I want sex. And when it comes to sex, I feel like I have two modes: Either it's mostly physical with very little emotional involvement (mode 1), or it's a lot more emotional (I'm in love, have a crush etc. mode 2). I've been going to quite many dates trough tinder and I just haven't met a girl to whom I'm emotionally attracted.

The problem of course comes from the difference of male / female psychology, where women tend to require some sort of emotional involvement for sex. So I could "play the game", and try to "cheat" them to have sex with me by feigning emotions and interest and aren't there. But I dont't want to do that. The other option is to bluntly state that I really don't feel that interested in you as a person but sex would be nice. And most girls really don't go for that.

I'm sure you can see how this leaves me pretty much sexless. Now I realize this makes me sound self important asshole, but I am in great shape and I have great body. So I made another profile in tinder, just showing off my gains and stating in the bio that I'm only interested in sex. Did that yesterday, one like so far from a girl I accidentally liked, not really my type physically. So from this I gather evidence for my previous statement that for girsl sex really is a lot ´more about emotion than good body. Now I'm just wondering what to do to fill my own sexual needs without having to play my way into someones bed?

>>18256357
>can't get the job without experience
>can't get experience without the job

>>18257602
She had been interested in me since we were first introduced, I could tell. Wanting to talk to me and make conversation. So short story short my gf went out of town for work for a week, in which her sister edged closer and closer until she ended up sucking me off in the car then again in her room.

I'm not going to lie, feel like killing myself over the guilt but feel like I can get off to that memory for the next decade.

>>18257608

Because those memories with those guys won't just go away.. just like anything else in life..

>>18257621
Yes, but how does it matter?
Why would she think about the sex she had with them while she's dating you? why would sex with them be better than sex with you? what would any of this change?

You can't forget an ex but you don't sit around and think of them intensively unless you're not over them.

>>18257635


It just makes me seem less valued

>>18257605
I accept people physically as they are.. I'm more concerned with the spiritual/emotional aspect of humanity.

All these debates we have on the opposite sex threads are very telling of how shallow we can be, how much we arouse insecurity in one another without even lifting a finger.

Forgiving someone and accepting them is one of the most beautiful things you can do. And yet I feel empty near people in my age group, I seriously feel dead around people 25-35 or so.. I distance myself. Don't even go to shows anymore, extremely rare exception once a year.

I don't want to settle for mediocrity. I want EXACTLY what I want, or nothing.

I don't care if she's been around, I forgive her, I accept her. And yet these things are so wholly natural to society today, that my acceptance of it feels like it SHOULD be a norm.. all a while we clearly clash with accepting ourselves truly, fully. Again and again.

We crave empathy, and when we don't get it we get bitter and frustrated that others don't accept us for who we are, what we've been. It's so fucking stupid and shallow how we hate ourselves and hurt ourselves. And yet it's so empty the way we live... it seriously makes me wanna sacrifice myself for humanities peace of mind...

I wanna scream in her soul. I wanna feel love again. I don't wanna pretend I'm happy for anyones sake. And I don't wanna pretend self improvement at my age isn't just a disingenuous facade to try and appeal to a majority, when the reality is I'm truly attracted to one ideal mate at a time..

>>18257647
But it's your insecurity. There's no rational reason to think so.

So I've been using plenty of fish for the last four days and have managed to get replies back from a dozen females. Many of them just end up not replying or saying anything afterwards. I managed to also get on of their numbers but she hasn't replied to my a texts. Did I fuck up or what?

>>18257651

Well to me it seems if she's been with 20 guys, that sex isn't a big deal to her. But for me, I've only had sex once, and it was an awful experience. So if me and my girlfriend have sex. To me it would be a HUGE deal. Because i'd be having sex with someone who I like for the first time, so it would have so much value to me. Although to her, I'm just guy 21. Nothing new to her other than I probably will suck by comparison to other nights she's had

Should I just get a hooker to get my virginity done with? I'm pretty sure girls can fucking feel it which is beyond pathetic at 25 years old and it's a huge burden on my mind.

>>18257689
Yes

Let the hooker know you're a virgin. Hire an escort and text her first asking for pricing and saying that, asking if that is an issue, and if she's ok with teaching you a few tricks. If she isn't nice about it, look for another. Their job is to make you feel good, and this starts even before reaching the bed.

>>18257689

Don't.


I lost mine to some random girl off Facebook when I was 20. It was an awful experience and I really regret it. I only did it because I felt so pressured to lose my vCard. Looking back it was not worth it

>>18257689
Get an escort or a high class prostitute, not just some girl off the street. It'll cost you five times as much, but it's worth it, I promise.

>>18257499
Why are so many other men so cynical about women? They're pretty nice most of the time

>>18257680
>implying sex has a value that degrades every time you do it

I had intercourse over a thousand times with my current partner, by your bullshit standard none of us should value sex since we can't remember every single time we did it

That's a virgin mentality that stops you from enjoying sex. I was like that too, thank god I moved on.

>>18257680
How would you know? You're just making assumption out of your insecurity.
My boyfriend had a casual sex before we met, I lost my virginity to him. We love each other sex is a meaningful experience for him as it is for me. The intimacy and the bond we have makes sex meaningful.
I never felt like I was just "girl 21". He never treated me like I was girl 21. It was a huge deal to him, he had watery eyes when we finished.
Even if something isn't new or if you aren't experiencing it for the first time, it can still be valuable.

>>18257702

I think losing my virginity messed me up. Because I used to not think about how many guys a girl has been with. But since I lost my virginity it drives me up a wall..

Worst part is the fact that I'm expected to be experienced.

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>>18257700
How does one go about finding high class ones? Im not very wealthy nor have any idea what the price is usually around.

>>18257724

Just don't do it

>>18257717
It's pretty normal to think like that and be insecure. Luckily I lost it with a gf, although I failed with a hooker before, but I understand where you're coming from.

Just... don't. Even if she had 50 guys, she will remember you if it was different in anyway (like doing her in a bathroom stall), or merely because you were a new guy.

I mean, I guarantee I can't count how many times I did missionary with my gf, but I definitly remember when I fucker her on the bathroom floor, or in the shower hiden from our family, or the time she soaked the lavatory with squirt...

>>18257731

>Just... don't. Even if she had 50 guys, she will remember you if it was different in anyway (like doing her in a bathroom stall), or merely because you were a new guy.

But you just said she'll remember all of the different experiences she had with the 50 guys as well...

>>18257732
kek

this guy's right

>>18257732
Yeah... so? Do you expect people to get their memories wiped? Or that only you should imprint unforgettable memories?

>I have little or no sexual experience

please accept me

>I have had over 20-30-40-50 partners

please trust me, please accept me, please forgive me

>I was molested as a child, I have insecurity issues, I'm kinda clingy

please accept me, please don't hate me

>I'm not satisfied with the way I look

please accept me

>will they judge me for this?

I don't wanna be looked at with indifference, I wanna be accepted by the opposite sex.. please accept me

EMPATHY NOW!
EMPATHY NOW!
EMPATHY NOW!

Girls.
Please give me your thoughts and how I should handle this problem.

Basically a girl fooled me into thinking she likes me only to make fun of me with her friends.
I fall for it sadly.

What do I do now?
Do ignore her when she comes to say hi ? Do I distance myself from her?

Please keep in mind that she is really a bad and immature girl so she might keep doing stuff to hurt me.

>>18257773

Please accept me..

>>18257782

What did she do? How old are you?

I need to ask her out, but I still keep procrastinating, never see her alone. One time I did, but got somewhat carried away in conversation and forgot to ask.
What do?

>>18257649
Right... what advice was this guy looking for?

Or did you mistake /adv/ for your personal journal again?

>>18257787
I am 24.
>>>/r9k/36543534

I know it sounds really immature, but keep in mind that I'm really not experienced, and that's probably why I was an easy target.

>>18257728
Why? it just sounds like a good idea, my first time will be guaranteed to be good and the girl can even give me some tips or experience

>>18257827
You can ignore her, sure. Ignoring someone hurts. Or you can ask her why she does what she does, to truly understand her, and maybe then she'll stop for a moment and truly ask herself why she does what it is she does.

Guys:
Your girlfriend is at a very low point in her life. She asks if you're okay with her starting a blog where she shares risqué photos of herself because hearing nice things about herself gets her through the day. How do you react?

>>18257837
If I ask her, I will just expose myself and she will keep doing something or talk shit about me to whoever she can.

I find it sad, but it's annoying.

If I ignore her I basically tell her " what you did hurt me", so I expose myself too but if it can make it clear I want her far away for me I'll do it.

Last option is just to keep pretending I'm a fool and do as if nothing happened, but I doubt she won't keep talking shit or try something.

What I need to know from femanon, is what happens when a guy ignores you?

>>18257857
>what happens when a guy ignores you?

That highly depends on if she is capable of self reflection at all. The way you described her, it is likely she will be mildly annoyed then forget about you completely the moment a new "toy" comes into her life.

If she did this on purpose then she already knows she hurt you, so I wouldn't factor that in at all. Just get her out of your life.

>>18257853
Cheat on her before she cheats on me. Then keep cheating throughout the entire relationship without her knowing.

The fear is getting cucked, but you can't get cucked if you're the one doing the cucking

>>18257853
punch her in the tits

How much validation do you need? If you have a self esteem, self image problem so deep that having a boyfriend doesn't fix it, hearing compliments from strangers won't do it either.

Go to a shrink, don't be an attention whore

>>18257825
Reading all this hits home kinda hard. I put down the phone, drove to the bank and even cried a little on the way there.

Life is absolutely, almost irreparably unforgiving. If we met each other halfway, most of these questions would disappear.

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God dammit how do I stop developing feelings for this girl in my study group?
I can see the first signs of that bs starting, and I want to put a stop to that. She hasn't even done anything than be polite towards me and laughed at some of my stupid jokes. I do not want to have feelings towards her, they are fucking distracting.
What should I do?

Why would a girl still talk to me despite all my awkwardness?

>>18256163
We didn't meet over 4chan, but both my wife and I have used it for a long time.

>>18257853
Absolutely not. That's just another form of cheating. If she's at a low point, that's for the boyfriend and/or friends and family to fix.
How much attention do you need???

>>18256200
Make yourself into someone you like.

>>18258156
She probably finds your awkwardness endearing.

>>18258193
Don't lie to the poor dude like that.
No woman finds awkwardness in a man endearing.

>>18256357
No that would more likely be a plus, as long as it wasn't because of some social/personal problems. Ideally he was just waiting for the right person, like me.

The age, however, is too old for me.

>>18256947
Coffee is gross and coffee shops are either crowded or full of hipsters or both

>>18257499
>Women, is it impossible now for you as a general sex to stop being whores?
Yeah. It's impossible for men to be misogynist pigs though-they've been that for thousands of years.
> Is it just too good a life to be able to fuck without attachment?
I don't even do that.
>Is it impossible to go back to the good old days where you had a role in the family and virtues?
I don't even have casual sex, and I still hate the idea of being a doormat housewife. Fuck off with your generalisations.

>>18257549
I would find it unappealing in the extreme. I've been with one man in my life and wouldn't want a man slut.

>>18257111
Dishonesty and deceitfulness hands down.

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>>18257499
M8, just accept the societal decline we are in. There is no reversing this unless we experience a totall collapse that requires people to return to traditional values that originally built the prosperity of our nations.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UxpVwBzFAkw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kOMkl3ApTK0

Good times create weak men, weak men create bad times, bad times create strong men, strong men create good times, and women, if given full freedom over their sexuality, will gladly partake in the formation of harems, and sabotage the foundation of our societies.

How do I get over spilling spaghetti?

>>18257212
>>18257192
I'm not even joking, but try leftist social activism spaces. Like clubs at universities or community organizations.

I don't know whether my post will be a strict question or more of a sentimental spill, but since I lack any sort of friend or generally a close person to communicate my emotional life, I still hope that someone will pick up on my thaughts.

For a better graft about myself, I am a 25 years old man, studying molecular biology as a master student at the verge of starting my thesis. I currently live alone in a 1 room flat in germany and never have been able to establish any meaningfull relation- or friendships.

As a young adult or rather teenager mylife was not troubled by financial crises, yet I can barely recall joyfull moments. Most of my school life was overshadowed by heavy bullying which only stopped a change of school. At this point I was already most gratefull when people left me alone or ignored me, since even this was an significant improvement of my situation compared to my previous years (almost a decade).

Still I get somewhat nostalgic about this period since most of my happy moments, even if few in number, occured at my beloved Nintendo 64. Playing video games on this machine were my only
source of enjoyment I can really recall, at least until I got an computer.
Even though if feel a sort of sympathetic nostalgy there is a heavy melancholic undertone.
How sad that my only source of joy was a piece of lifeless electronics.

And still I have very controversial thaughts, since all my other efforts to become sportish, a positive social centre and so on failed. What if I would have just invested the wasted time in the one activity I liked, like playing videa Would have this provided me with happiness or would I then still guess what would be had I invested my time in other activities like I ultimately have chosen to do
Now I am wondering, why I neither have a library of those N64 games I really like nor have become fit nor socially nor anything else.

Ty for reading...

>>18258193
maybe. shes made an effort to make it less awkward even

>>18258216
The girls awkward aswell so

>>18257867
If she does care about you, ignoring will hurt.

>>18258216
It depends. There are certain manifestations of awkwardness I find endearing!

>>18257499
I'm waiting, and my goal is to have my one life partner and to create a family with him. Going great so far so wish me luck.

>>18257921
Someone pls respond

>>18258252
See! She has an interest in you! Just be yourself, anon. That's the best piece of advice anyone can receive. As cliche as it is.

>>18258216
Every girl has something different that they find attractive. Who are you to generalize all girls?

>>18258265
Yea, definitely has some interest. Atleast as friends.

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>>18257713
>he had watery eyes when we finished.

A girl approached me today wanting to buy my hair. I thought she was not serious at first (it is common for people to ask me in a not serious way, like a compliment). We exchanged numbers. She gave me until Friday to accept or refuse the offer.

Wat do, friends? Although there is nothing suspicious, I live in the crime country, so I'll be careful. She said she will show the part of the city where she lives, she'll present her hairstylist to me.

Can I also make her my gf? >tfw no gf

Is it weird that my boyfriend likes to watch me sleep? (I'm completely alright with it, personally.)

>>18258291
He must have REALLY got the succ

>>18258299
No it's cute

To femanons, do you appreciate your male friends as much as your female ones?

I'm trying to be less awkward around girls and for now I'd just be happy with having some female friends since relationships are still far away.

>>18258301
On the contrary, it was terrible succ. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=agC0etpznx4

>>18257221
i doubt you went wrong somewhere, you acted normally, idk why did she want to come along with you and your friends, that's just dumb. it's as if she doesn't trust you, and relationship without trust is shit, otherwise she'd let you go to Italy and then later on in july august or september go to portugal with you.

>>18256232
What do you think of them?

Do you really think girls are going to have this vastly different and mythical view of porn?

>>18256322
I have to somewhat agree
Tfw forever optimistic and generally happy unless something is specifically fucking it up, and quick to get over that

>>18256357
Slightly but it wouldn't affect whether I'd date him, assuming he's a fine guy on his own.
I would see him differently than a 28 year old who wasn't a virgin but it wouldn't matter to me.

>>18258256
Like I'm the shy, quiet kinda of awkward. Which is far from the worst kinda awkward

>>18258268
Yep. Everyone has their own tastes

>>18256428
Yes, but only over the internet. No irl friends at all.

>>18257511
can confirm the "they just want a girl", my last 3 relationships were pretty much me being miserable and lonely causing me to hook up with someone i don't like enough for a serious relationship. i just needed someone to be there for me

>>18257111
Being dumb, being too emotional, being a cunt towards animals/waiters/etc

>>18257118
Put on muscle

>>18257192
>being masculine is a bunch of bad traits combined with being buff

Your problem is not actually masculine men

What makes someone a good kisser?

>>18257499
Chill out my man, this phase will pass soon. You will see the good in the world again.

I myself am going to marry my first partner.

Think of it this way - there are surely others that share your opinions.

>>18257542
The standards are not meant to the be the same for men and women.
Though I do agree men also should be less promiscuous.

>>18256155
Older men - is it obvious when a younger girl has a crush on you/is attracted to you? How young would you date?

What are some telltale signs of women flirting?
I'm getting mixed signals from a girl I've started to like and I just kind of want to know if she's actually flirting with me or just being nice.

>>18258564
I've been told the general rule for dating younger people is:
(your age / 2 ) + 7

>>18258532
going with the flow really, can't study kissing, comes natural i guess. just try not to overdo anything and you should be perfect (for example biting too hard or too much tongue or smth) just focus on your partner

>>18258575
That doesn't answer my first or second question, unless you're saying you always follow that rule.

>>18258564
the law in my neck of the woods is 18
so 18

>>18258532
The most common complaints I hear from other girls about kissing are too wet, too much tongue, too rough.

>>18258299
>Is it weird that my boyfriend likes to watch me sleep?

Nah, it means ya'll are still in the lovely dovey phase.

>>18258241
>How do I get over spilling spaghetti?
Fail. Fail Hard. A dozen times. A hundred times. A thousand times. A million times. As many times as it takes until you stop giving a fuck and you realize this shit ain't that scary.

>>18257853
>How do you react?
In all honesty, this type of girl would not be my girlfriend in the first place. That's a level of insecurity that would have created issues long before, and something that I would have either noticed from the get go and would either not have been attracted to. If it developed while we were dating, there would have been signs and I would have tried to get her to go see someone.

This is a level of neediness and insecurity that won't be fixed by getting guys to leer at you, or flirt with you, or even fuck you.

And having friends who have this, including someone I adore and think of like a little sister, try to be there for, and wish all the best, this shit can be an absolute pain in the ass to deal with--and that's just as a friend.

>>18257192
>How do I find non masculine men (who aren't gay)?

My best friend once described me as the effeminately masculine guy she's ever met (take from that what you will, I think she meant it as a compliment lol). Why am I not hitting on you? Because I don't hit on girls. I talk to girls. We just happen to be at the same place at the same time (party, bar, cafe, random ass place), and bump in to each other and we have a conversation, we flirt, we vibe, and if I think you're cool, we move forward.

Or online. That's where I met my girlfriend, and a lot of my other friends have as well.

>>18258615
Answer my first question reeeeeeeeeeeee

>>18258564
>Older men - is it obvious when a younger girl has a crush on you/is attracted to you? How young would you date?

Yeah. It kind of is.

I'm 28, my bottom line is probably about 23/24. Anything younger than that and there tends to be a difference in life experience, and also... this issue that I mentioned in the post above ("This is a level of neediness and insecurity that won't be fixed by getting guys to leer at you, or flirt with you, or even fuck you") is a lot more likely.

I'm old enough where I'm grounded enough to be able to deal with issues as they come, but also old enough to know there are just some you have to age past and it's not really worth introducing all that extra drama in to my life if I can help it.

>>18258708
Thanks

How can I cheat on my girlfriend without getting caught?

>>18258660
>Fail. Fail Hard. A dozen times. A hundred times. A thousand times. A million times. As many times as it takes until you stop giving a fuck and you realize this shit ain't that scary.

I actually don't do that that often. I had relationships, talk normally to girls yadda yadda

But this week I spilled it hard doing the one thing I always advice others NOT to do... I 'fessed my feels to a fwb, and obviously got turned down. Predictable as fuck and I walked right into it...

>IF ANYONE IS LISTENING, NEVER, EVER 'FESS TO SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT DATING

>>18256460
Also curious about this question

Please, friends: >>18258297

>>18258424
Maybe not the porn, but the way they are referred to in porn titles. Do we guys care about being called sausage? No.

>>18258722
You break up with her first. Nobody will ever know that you cheated

>>18258889
That's not an option. I just need to fuck someone who isn't her, without her finding out. Girls who have been cheated on, it would be helpful if you could tell me how the guys who were cheating on you managed to get away with it and for how long.

>>18258722
Tinder

>>18258280
It's a step in the right direction at least! There's always room for a friendship to grow into something more.

Either gender can answer, but I'm more interested in hearing from women.

Is the reverse cowgirl position pleasurable?

The reason I ask is because I'm a virgin and I would have no way of knowing if it's actually practical. But it also happens to be my favorite position (based on years of watching porn), and I will probably want to try it out for one of my first times.

Describe to me what a beta orbiter is. I have times where I feel like I might be but I honestly have no real concrete definition or understanding to know

>>18258919
That is true. Seems like she might actually be interested in something more. but not much more, right now atleast

>>18258920
There is no reason why the woman should ever be on top. If you let your woman on top of you, you are not a man.

>>18258929
having the woman be on top feels fucking amazing you fucking faggot

>>18258934
t. Low test nu-male

>>18258927
If you're really interested in her, patience is a virtue. :)

>>18258925
A beta orbiter is one of those weird awkward guys who sticks too close to a girl he likes, and isn't very subtle about it.

>i-i'll c-carry your bags for you, s-Susie
>awww, I'm so sorry to heard that your boyfriend Chad is such a jerk to you; I would never ever try to hurt you
>h-hey, I liked your Facebook post. You are so beautiful and talented
Most often, they are friendzoned guys who can't take a hint.

Most other friendzoned guys stop talking to the object of their affections or turn into one of those redpilled MRA weirdos, but beta orbiters are the weirdos who will actually still talk to a girl after being friendzoned, and say awkward things to her

>>18258939
Yep. I know. It will become clear in time

I just sometimes worry that she is just being nice, and hopes that I clue in.

How can I learn to be more dominant in bed?

>>18258948
Choke her, slap her, put a finger in her ass while you hit it from behind, call her a whore, and pin her down. Literally all women enjoy this, but few will admit it to others.

>>18258943
The only way to really know is to ask. Communication is key in all sorts of relationships. All when you feel ready though.

>>18257689
No.

>>18258952
She knows I'm interested, and didnt seem to want to make it awkward and loose me as a friend.

I should really try to see where I actually stand with her

>>18258940
So if this doesn't get to opinionated if she came to you with a relationship problem and you agree with her slightly but still stick up for him would that be oribiter status or just plain conversation?

>>18258951
Do you purposely give terrible advice?

>>18258963
Name 1 (one) thing wrong with the advice I gave. I am an expert in sex, so I know what I'm doing.

Girls, I'm getting shit on about my height
>5 feet 5 inches
Can you please be honest about what I can expect from you? Guys are telling me usually you find reasons to fuck other guys when you're in a relationship with a guy like me. When in a group, how likely am I to be ignored? Things like this

>>18258968
Dude, I'm much taller than you, and every manlet I know is getting more pussy than me.

You have two options:
A. Date a girl who is much shorter than you
B. Make lots of money

That's what every manlet I know is doing. They're dating short women, or they're career men.

>>18258925

An orbiter is an individual who will continue to circle around a girl, in spite of the fact that he:

1.) Has expressed interest, and has CLEARLY been rejected. But then somehow convinces/deludes himself that some day he'll worm himself in to her good graces or one day some miracle will occur and she finds out he's been there all along.

2.) Is too afraid to admit his feelings, but somehow hopes that by sticking around and lurking in the background, some miracle will occur where she notices him and realizes he's been there all along.

Like a moon orbits the earth, occasionally coming close--but never touching--occasionally being far--but never breaking away--he's destined to never be with her and to eternally yearn from afar.

Women, why can't you ever except fault?

Why do you bring up points that have nothing to do with the argument?

>>18258978
>anyone shorter than me
It's a rare sight. They usually date taller guys than me too. I make lots of money. I don't want to be a career man. Fuck. I want to hear something from a girl

>>18258968
I'm 5'7 and would date you given I'm attracted to everything else. When I started talking to my bf it never occurred to me how tall he is and I still don't really care. Just don't have a complex about it.

How do I talk a girl into getting a boob job?

I love fake tits

>>18258958
I've been in this type of situation before. There's no harm in asking for sure. But only you know how she will react. I really hope it works out in your favour!

>>18258992
Break up to her and find someone with fake tits. Done.

>>18258992
You'd have to talk to a girl with abnormally small tits.

Most average-sized women aren't interested in boobjobs.

>>18256155
>>18256155
idk how to start this post off so basic question

if a girl has interest in me; but she's struggling to get over her exboyfriend, has kissed me and even let me sleep in her bed, but then slowed the fuck down and then told me about how she can't get over her exboyfriend

admitted to me that she would but she can't get over him, then said something about ruining the friendship or whatever

i think it's a load of bollox and she's trying to not let me get hurt with rejection

but basically, do i bother or not? i already asked her out but i'm not sure if i should wait it out or give up now.

i know like noone can get in her head, but if you said this to a guy; what would you want him to do after that? since like it beats me just going into the dark without an idea of what the fuck to do; cause mainly like.. i want to stop texting her and thinking of her since she may be cool and all that but if she's just trying to be nice, i want to be audi 5000

(sorry for retard lingo, i'm retarded and irish, not much else about it)

>>18258929
To be fair, I did say that I'm a virgin. I'm hardly a man to begin with.

>>18258920
I'm a guy, but it is. But it depends a lot on the girl ability, since your dick bend towards the back of her pussy, so it isn't stimulating either the clit or gspot. The extra rubbing is nice, but if she goes toward the foot or shakes her butt in the wrong direction, it bends the dick down and it becomes uncomfortable.

I'd rate it a 6/10, did it very few times with my gf, there are other positions much more comfortable and pleasurable. This one is mostly for the cameras

>>18259002
She's not trying to reject you nicely, she really does have residual feels for her ex and needs to deal with them before she can move on to a new relationship.

>>18258920
I've never had sex but the physical act of kind of rubbing/rolling my hips against my chair is really hot and gets me into a hot mindset
I imagine it's sort of the same position

>>18259002
She probably wants you to stick around because you give her emotional support and cuddles without any obligation.

What I think you should do is move on. She sounds like bad news, even if she were to be your girlfriend.

>>18258929
If your masculinity is so easily threatened by having your gal do the work sometimes while you view her ass or tits then you're the faggot

>>18258998
girl I'm seeing already has nice size tits, but I like the feel of fake boobs

She already did surgery before to lose fat and when we talked about it she didn't seem to mind the idea much

>>18258996
I guess. I'll wait until after I try having her join some friends and I for my 21st next month. Then I'll try to see where I stand

>>18259009
>tfw I'd ever so slightly grind my clit against my chair seat in class

Anybody else do that or am I just a creep?

>>18259012
Who the fuck do you think you are? Don't reply to me ever again

>>18258951
Am woman

This WILL work but only if she's into you prior to this
And it can't be completely and totally out of the blue - the character change would freak me out.

Then again I am autistic so character changes in general just really fuck with me.

I know that if my boyfriend did this it would be pretty hot

HOWEVER

Slapping? Not unless it's my ass
Choking? Yea okay but not too hard, just a bit

>>18258968
I'm 4'11 and would date you
Problem is we'd have short sons with height complexes
Also while to me you are tall I would notice that you're comparatively short

This would not prevent me from loving you/dating you but does make you initially less attractive

>>18259007
the thing about that whenever i try think about it; is like.. why bother making that move when we could have legitimately moved at a turtle pace; does anyone actually just change the pace before dating or anything??
like 3 days fast, 2 weeks slow as shit?

>>18259010
emotional support and cuddles sounds like my role exactly atm

i'll probably do just that and just be audi 5000; or actually just be just a friend and that's it

nothing more or less

[spoiler]but she's fucking fit and i really do want to bang her doe since she's like fit but dorky[/spoiler]

>>18258983
*accept

Find the one gal that won't do that and stick with her, or find a gal that can take criticism and make her aware of what she's doing when she's doing it

I need to remind myself often to avoid doing that
It's a defensive reaction many people use

Is 1 month long enough to contact my ex after a short but fulfilling 4 month relationship?

Our breakup was amicable though unexpected. I've seen her look at my snapchat from time to time so I'm sure she has no ill will towards me. We broke up because she just "wasn't ready" for a relationship.

To be honest I still miss her badly, but I definitely won't try to restart anything unless she wanted to.

Thoughts?

>>18259026
>But does make you initially less attractive
Manlets BTFO. If you're under 6 feet tall, you really should just kill yourself.

>>18259026
Anon, you're probably going to have short kids no matter what.

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>>18259021
No I'd definitely do that
Especially in science class with that one teacher amirite
Or when it was really boring and no one was paying attention

>>18259022
Sure thing kid

New thread: >>18259033

>>18259039
That's true but if I dated a 6 ft guy they could be semi-normal yaknow? If I date a manlet then my kids will be turbo-manlets, kings of midgets

Im already doing that though

>>18259020
I think that's a good idea. It'll give you more time to get to know her better as well. Even though, I assume, you know her quite well.

>>18259044
>>18259026
How initially less attractive? In a group of guys with varying heights

>>18259040
>Or when it was really boring and no one was paying attention
This was definitely me. I'd do it almost exclusively in math class almost every day because it was so boring. I also only wore skirts so that actually helped hide it.

Also
>tfw you randomly get a rush of blood to your clit and you can feel it all warm and pulsing.

I wonder if that's kind of what boners are like.

>>18259045
Friends for like a year. And she's been open enough with me to tell me when she's being bothered by shit. And has been there when I needed comforting.

BUt yea, best to see how that goes

>>18259044
Finally, a woman just says it. No sugar coating, just truth. Manlets aren't desirable, and if you aren't a certain height you aren't capable of getting laid without being rich

>>18259044
>If I date a manlet then my kids will be turbo-manlets, kings of midgets

Didn't expect to laugh on this thread lmfao dear Christ that killed me.

>>18259054
After orgasm does it feel like your clit is twitching?

>>18259060
Nah, you're wrong. Yes, manlets are initially less attractive. However this doesn't mean women *won't* date short guys. It can happen. It's like any other physical flaw, it will make it harder for you but it isn't impossible and guys aren't just height.

I will acknowledge I am a lot more forgiving in terms of looks and height than most other women though.

>>18259068
I'm literally one inch above being classified a medical midget

>>18259055
That's all you can do, unfortunately.

>>18259091
I guess so.

I texted her earlier today, and no reply. Hoping its not her avoiding me. Doubt it. But still

>>18259026
>>18259044
Genetics isn't as cut-and-dry as you make it out to be.

My dad's side of the family is notorious for vision problems, and the men are mostly hairless. So far, I'm the only one in my family who doesn't wear glasses, and I grow facial & leg hair like a motherfucker.

>>18259099
She might just be busy. I wouldn't read too much into it.

>>18259082
>After orgasm does it feel like your clit is twitching?

Hmmm kind of actually yeah

>>18259106
I know. She is very busy. Too busy for her own good.

And it's happened before where I'll text her and she'll not reply at all

It's the 21st century.

Does the guy still have to pay for dinner? Or is that an outdated idea now?

>>18259139
Usually its who ever is the one to ask the other out

If a girl asked you out, usually they would be the one to pay. At very least, split it

>>18259117
In all sincerity, you seem like a very sweet guy. She would be lucky to have you!

>>18259154
Thanks. Truthfully, I would be lucky to have her. She's much sweeter than I am.

>>18256155
Girls

What does it mean when a girl seems to like me judging by the way she looks at me and everybody would bet their life on it. Yet when I confess, she declines and stops looking at me like before. What the fuck?!

>>18258564
me 31
I'd range anywhere between 25-35. Though realistically, 28-32 or so is probably best.

It really depends on the person within that age range, or even slightly younger, like 23-24.. It just depends on the level of life experience and that thing I look for in a person.

I found that thing in a girl I have a crush on, but, no response.

Girls: What's the longest you'd be willing to go without sex?

For context, I'm a 28-year old virgin and in no rush. I want to wait two more years just so I can be a wizard. After that, anything goes. What do you make of this situation?

>>18259163
Women want what they can't have, and the game of playing "hard to get" is their expertise.

By openly announcing your availability, you've basically made it too easy for her.

Do you think the Indiana Jones movies would be fun & exciting if the titular protagonist was just simply given the artifact and didn't have to evade booby traps or fight bad guys?