shitstorm

>>18254774
>She's said on numerous occasions that she would hurt herself if we broke up

Ok, this is abuse. 100%, no kidding, this is common abusive relationship material.
You are absolutely not responsible for anything she does to herself if you leave the relationship. It is, in all probability, a fucking lie put in place to manipulate you, but eve if it isn't, you are not responsible for any self-harm she inflicts upon herself. You are unable to cause it, and you are unable to stop it. The decision rests entirely with her. Staying in a toxic relationship because you're trying to pacify her is a bad idea for everyone involved. Get out now.

Just be clear, be honest, and get right to the point. "I don't want to be in this relationship anymore. It isn't making me happy because X, Y and Z."

Then, just fucking leave. Don't go back to try and make sure she's ok; you will be the worst person in the world to give her emotional support. She'll have to get it from someone else.

>>18254794
thanks man

>>18254774

Basically me also but 9 year old relationship. She basically threatens suicide anytime we have an argument and she starts "losing" (no valid arguments left, she only talks about how she feels, starts throwing punches, etc.).

we've kind of agreed to break up but we can't just separate and need to wait until she moves back to her country.

oh yeah she also pulled a knife on me once and literally threatened to kill me and then played the victim.

Just did it. She ran out of her house crying and I drove away. It's over

>>18254894
that sounds terrible

>>18254976
you have done well, my son
now, go forth and fuck new, non-crazy women. do not look back